Baby shower gift list??

[Rayych26]

I’m expecting our third baby at the end of March and planning a baby shower with my two best friends for the end of feb
After my son was born we didn’t think we would have anymore babies yet 6years later here I am expecting our third 🥰
We got rid of absolutely everything and are having to start all over again, my question is is it too rude to add a gift list within my baby shower invites? The reason I’m considering is because we live in a 3bed we don’t have a nursery so space is a little but limited for us and also there are things in the past which we brought with my other two and never even used, so I would hate for a family member or close friend to waste their money

So is a gift list rude Or sensible?

Have you or anyone you know done this?

Thankyou!!

If gifts aren't necessary, don't call it a shower!

Shower isn't a catch-all term for a party during late pregnancy, it's a specific 'shower of gifts' event to mark certain major life events, the transition to maternity being one of those.

It's on a par with having a Superbowl party but not turning the game on! If you're going to use the US traditions fine, but do stick epwithun recognisable distance of the tradition rather than just applying the name to something utteroymdifferent.

And if you're not bothered about gifts OP then definitely do not have a list, and I'd recommend calling it anything but a shower

In the uk, that’s what a baby shower is though. A get together before someone has a baby. Not necessarily a gift fest. The ones I’ve been at have mainly been eating cake followed by presents when the baby is born.

@Rayych26

Just to add, I know this is my third but it will be my first baby shower, the people I’m inviting are close family & friends - I wanted a baby shower for the memories and for a celebration of our rainbow baby The purpose for the gathering isn’t for the gifts, I don’t care wether people bring one or not as tbh were capable of buying everything we need for our new baby, we just didn’t want people to go out and buy things which we either already have or don’t need as that’s just a waste of the buyers time and money

I'm American so have grown up with baby showers (they're not considered tacky over here, though I skipped one for my own DS as they're not my thing) but generally your friend or sister throws it for you and they do the invites. We also don't generally have a list and presents aren't expected though most do bring them. I'm surprised you're organizing this yourself.

I did - and I'm so pleased I did.

I explained to everyone that there's a wish list if you want to know what we want/need but firstly you do not have to buy us anything, and secondly you don't have to get us stuff off the wish list, it's just for inspiration.

We received some really lovely things both off the list and not off the list, and a few people said how happy they were that there was a list as they generally didn't know what to get.

If you do a list make sure you add plenty of affordable things (under £10) and a few bigger items, but don't over do it 😊

My parents went through my wish list, and then went onto eBay and found cheaper versions of everything so we were absolutely spoilt.

@PurpleDaisies

In the uk, that’s what a baby shower is though. A get together before someone has a baby. Not necessarily a gift fest. The ones I’ve been at have mainly been eating cake followed by presents when the baby is born.

It really isn't

I know some people try to puff it off as such, but a shower is a specific 'shower with gifts' event.

I know some people try to puff it off as such, but a shower is a specific 'shower with gifts' event.

According to you.

According to the actual name of the event though. It’s for being ‘showered with gifts’, otherwise just have a ‘I’m pregnant’ party. (..in a pandemic…)

Who knew baby showers were so controversial. Learn something new everyday in this site.

I've been to plenty baby showers with a wish list. It's really not that contentious, people aren't forced to buy anything if they don't want to.

It's more about convening friends /family, having a great time and celebrating the forthcoming milestone.

Have your baby shower OP.

IMO its an awful idea.

@PurpleDaisies

I know some people try to puff it off as such, but a shower is a specific 'shower with gifts' event.

According to you.

I think you'll find what I have mentioned is the normal, traditional meaning, and the one that is fully understood in the country of origin. It's in the very name of the type of the event and its original and enduring purpose.

It's not my eccentric, individual or new/creative thought. It's a description of what a shower actually is.

Or are you trying to say I'm wrong, and also that there is no difference between a bridal shower and a bachelorette party as well?

*Or are you trying to say I'm wrong, and also that there is no difference between a bridal shower and a bachelorette party as well?
Those aren’t common in the uk. We have hen dos.

What I am saying is there’s a big difference between uk and us baby showers.

It's not becoming a norm, bec ause showers are for closest people only, and the host can co-ordinate. It's nothing remotely like a wedding where you might have scores of people and more expensive gifts.

'shower-type gift' entered the language to mean inexpensive and useful

(And perhaps I should have said above, we all know the difference between a bridal shower and a hen party. But wanted to make the point that even in US a shower is a distinct type of party, and the difference between it and other types of party honouring the same occasion is easily recognised because of the terminology)

I swear this bumping of ancient threads is going to drive me batshit

Baby's probably walking now!

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