Due September 2022

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Hello everyone!

I have just had my BFP this morning, and based on dates I am due on the 1st September! I’m only just late on my period so hopefully there will be a few more of us over the next few weeks. Last pregnancy my date was pushed back a few days and DS ended up being a full 12 days late after that so I’m not too wedded to the 1st September!

@surprised12 I could have wrote this myself! ... apart from the onions one.
I've got an early scan booked at 7 weeks 4 days and so I'm just trying to focus on getting to that point. I won't know anything until then so I'm trying to stay calm but then all of a sudden this voice in my head goes "what if they scan and there's nothing there!!"
I thought the 2WW was bad but these weeks following a BFP are torture 🙈🙈

[quote arianasky]@2mumlife I know what you mean, having had a loss myself I'm now overthinking every little thing and I'll never relax in pregnancy until I deliver the baby and it is sad as I'd love to fully enjoy the experience [/quote]
Read this and couldn't not reply. What I'm writing below is purely with my science hat on and putting to the side (for the best intentions) the emotional stress, anxiety and worry that a CP and MC brings as well as fertility struggles - I'm conscious of this as I've been there and struggled and I didn't suffer as long as many others do; I have been lucky. I want to pre-empt what I'm writing because I don't want it to be interpreted wrongly.

When I studied infant development and we discussed in detail the struggles of conception and fetal development, the science and history both tell us that MCs are usually (very often) the sign that you are a healthy mother. Your body is designed to create and develop healthy babies and at the first sign that an embryo or fetus won't make it to full-term or be a healthy child/adult it expels it to prevent further development and enable you to move on to the next cycle, and hopefully a healthy baby. If you've experienced one or more of these it's best to try, if you can, to reframe the extremely sad loss into a story where this egg/embryo/fetus wasn't right/healthy, but it's paving the way for one that will be and that will save from further heatache down the line.

I would probably try and speak to someone or seek help for reducing stress, pre-occupying yourself, and optimising your ability to relax as stress is linked to low birthweights, premature births, miscarriages, neural development delays and also side effects i.e. ADHD developing in children in the womb . This is all backed by longitudinal studies, research, data etc.

The best thing to try and do is trust that your body that it knows what it's doing; it will support a healthy baby whether it be this one or the next.

NB. If anyone if offended reading this - it's clearly not my point, I don't want to oversimplify or brush over a myriad of other conception/development problems and issues that may also result in MCs/CPs, I just want to highlight the importance of reducing stress for all of us and also flag that a MC/CP doesn't mean you're doomed, or unhealthy - quite the opposite in many cases.

@mummabear18 this post has really helped me! It makes sense and does turn the situation around! Thank you!!

Hello everyone! Congratulations!
I am due in September 2022 also. I had a miss cara I've around the 6 weeks exactly a year ago.
So I'm very nervous about this pregnancy.
Hoping to book the early scan for 7 weeks. Any little twinge and I'm worrying!

[quote surprised12]@mummabear18 this post has really helped me! It makes sense and does turn the situation around! Thank you!! [/quote]
I'm so glad... it's literally my only intention

@mummabear18 thanks for your post! I was talking to a friend today and heard myself say, "look it's in there and the hormones are there, but nothing between now, and a week from now will change whether the placenta and neural whatevers grow/don't and that is really going to be the big thing for if it is viable/not". Saying it out loud made me feel better. We have done what we can, now it's just waiting to find out, and you are right, when something isn't viable, the body does usually try hard to stop whatever is happening so that the next steps can be taken. We are all basically cavemen... slightly complainy cavemen :)

On less good news my 2 year old got sent home from daycare due to a cough and they are now implementing extreme covid procedures as they have so many positive cases/people can't get tests/results easily. We cannot find a test for love nor money, and it will be days before we get results even if we do. Yay to being stuck at home with an angry 2 year old in the middle of potty training. Now would be an ideal time for wine.

@surprised12 you probably don't want to know the answers to all these questions 😂 I have read that midwives are great in hiding from us the fact we poop during labour!

@mummabear18 lovely post helping us see everything from a different point of view!

@starkid Congratulations! You're on a bigger cocktail than me - I'm just vaginal progesterone suppositories 3 X day and 4 X day estradiol pills (I only had to do progesterone injections leading up to transfer). I'm in for.my bloods to be checked this morning!

@mummabear18 Just a reminder you find out the babies sex, not it's gender, at 20 weeks. You won't know it's gender identity yet until it can tell you :)

[quote 2mumlife]@starkid Congratulations! You're on a bigger cocktail than me - I'm just vaginal progesterone suppositories 3 X day and 4 X day estradiol pills (I only had to do progesterone injections leading up to transfer). I'm in for.my bloods to be checked this morning!

@mummabear18 Just a reminder you find out the babies sex, not it's gender, at 20 weeks. You won't know it's gender identity yet until it can tell you :)[/quote]
Thanks for that distinction

My son's gender identity was quite evident pre-verbal but there's always an exception somewhere

Morning ladies, well I'm out 😞 no bleeding yet but a stark negative this morning and some painful cramping and bad back so I guess I'll start bleeding soon 😞 I'm gutted I've lost another it's only 4 weeks but it's still really upset me how daft. Back to TTC for me I guess I will never test before AF is due again it's just to painful 💔 wishing you all huge luck on your journeys 💕💕

@arianasky I am really sorry for this, it must be so hard. I hope you get a BFP soon.

@arianasky so sorry to read this. I have been thinking about you. Please look after yourself and all the best for the future. Xx

@arianasky so sorry to hear this. Thinking of you x

@arianasky so sorry praying you get you BFP very soon xx

@arianasky I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this, you're not daft at all to be upset. Look after yourself and do what you need to without guilt. Xxx

@arianasky I'm so sorry lovely. Really hope it happens for you soon.

@arianasky so sorry to hear this, look after yourself 💕❤️💓🙏

@mummabear18 thanks for your post 💗 I've written myself a letter to read if I miscarry which focuses on exactly these points

Thank you all, I'm going to stop following this thread now and I'll remove myself from the Facebook group, I'll pop in and check how you're all getting on now and then though 💕 good luck all I hope all your pregnancies are happy and healthy ❤️

So sorry to hear this Ariana, please look after yourself.

I have requested to join the FB group. 2 first names like you.

@arianasky - Not sure if you've left already or even if you'll see this but just wanted to say how sorry I am. This was me a couple of months ago so hold out hope that you'll get your chance again. Also you're not daft at all, far from it. Be kind to yourself love xxx

@mummabear18 Good point, it can be non verbal expression too :)

arianasky I've not @ you given the situation, but hope you pick this up. As others have said its not daft at all, I've been there too. Its why I swore off FRER and early testing this time around. Keeping everything crossed it happens for you soon

Positive news on our side of things - fertility clinic did my blood hcg today which is 15dp5dt / 4+6 and level came back as 5947, so things look to be going in the right direction this time. They've booked us in for viability scan on the 24th which would be 7+4 so keeping everything crossed until then

So sorry arianasky x

Hi everyone, congratulations!
I got my BFP on xmas eve, if I'm right by my LMP & ovulation I should be due 4th September, after a MC at 8 weeks in july last year which was my first pregnancy.
I've tried to stop testing, but I did a clearblue digital weeks one (I bought a pack of 2 on xmas eve) on monday when i was 5+2, it was showing 2-3 weeks when i thought it would be 3+, I bought more and its still 2-3 weeks today!
I can't shake the anxiety and overthinking about this one going the same way as last time

@rose8493x - I'm the same as you and just cannot help but test. I've got some CB digital weeks on the way in the post but tbh I don't really understand what they're meant to say and when? I know they're 2 weeks out as they go from conception not LMP so in theory:

1-2 weeks = 3-4 weeks
2-3 weeks = 4-5 weeks
3+ weeks = 5+ weeks

What I don't know is if 5+ weeks means once you've completed week 5 or once you've finished week 4 (i.e. 4 weeks +6 days) it should change?

Sorry for my rambling and sorry if it's not helpful but it would be good if anyone has any insight? I know it's not an exact science as everyone's HCG rises differently and implantation can effect your dates, as well as things like when you took the test, how much you drank and how long you held your wee for. I've always wondered when it should be showing what, but never know what to google??

I don't think you should worry yourself love (although i know that way easier said than done) but if you're not having any bleeding or cramping and you're still having positive tests then the chances are that everything is totally fine. xxx