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PeeAche · 03/12/2021 17:20

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unknownscot · 21/12/2021 08:32

The abdominal pain I had last night was awful. I assume just stretching and growing but gee it kept me up half the night!

rathernotshare · 21/12/2021 08:53

I had my cyst, ovary and tube removed yesterday and holy crap I can barely move. Baby is fine so I'll take it but ouch 😥

RoseValleyRambles · 21/12/2021 08:53

@unknownscot glad it's not just me. Had it the last few nights - seems to go the minute I'm up and moving. So frustrating when you just want to sleep!

RoseValleyRambles · 21/12/2021 08:54

@rathernotshare how are you doing? Did you go in yesterday, or were you postponed again? Hope you're doing ok either way.

rathernotshare · 21/12/2021 08:59

@RoseValleyRambles went in yesterday, was meant to be out fairly quick but my blood pressure was having a mare at 60/30! At home now but totally bedbound. Paracetamol only for preggos 😩

beansprout55 · 21/12/2021 09:28

Big hugs to you @rathernotshare xx so glad baby is OK. Rubbish to have this just before Christmas but also good you can now relax and not have to worry about it xxx

Brightsmoke · 21/12/2021 09:50

Glad to hear baby is fine @rathernotshare. 🤞🏻 for a speedy recovery for you

ALHCTPS · 21/12/2021 10:02

Pregnancy insomnia sucks. Everyone jokes about how you should get your sleep now as you won’t get any when the baby arrives etc etc, which just rubs it in. This is a very much wanted baby, but I f*ing hate being pregnant.

PeeAche · 21/12/2021 10:26

My husband's brother is back from London. He's 10 years younger than us but that still makes him mid twenties, so not a child. The night before he was due to travel back 150 miles to stay with his elderly parents and visit his pregnant SIL etc. he went out clubbing.

48 hours into his visit here and he gets pinged. Takes an LFT: positive.

DH is insistent that he and his parents will still be coming over on Christmas Day - bringing Covid with them. Because if they aren't here "it's not the Christmas he had planned for [his] kids" (my step children).

I'm 14 weeks pregnant and feeling fretful. He won't budge. My only option is to go somewhere else and stay there for weeks, until it's run its course in my house.

What would you all do?

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JAR1981 · 21/12/2021 10:40

Oh @PeeAche that is so stressful. For me - there is no way anyone with COVID, or a close contact would be coming anywhere near my house at Christmas. It’s just too big a risk. I had a huge row with my own little brother (35 so really should know better) yesterday who has refused to stay off London public transport for the next couple of days and get a lift with me and DH back to my parents for Christmas. It’s a 4 hour train journey out of London. His rationale? He likes to travel alone. FFS! So I hugely lost my temper with him called him a lot of names I shouldn’t and he’s now saying he isn’t going home for Xmas. Ffff bloody COVID!

On the plus side I had my 16 week midwife appointment yesterday and got to hear the heartbeat. So lovely as I was really nervous I might not get to.

Welcome and congratulations to the newbies. So sorry @FestiveCovid you’re having a tough time with the hospital and wishing you a speedy recovery.

RoseValleyRambles · 21/12/2021 10:41

@rathernotshare glad you're out, but that sucks. Do you have a good book/movie/audiobook to keep you going? I'm loving the British library Christmas mysteries at the moment. Festive, but also murdery so suitably gripping.

ALHCTPS · 21/12/2021 11:10

@PeeAche If his brother has tested positive, he shouldn’t be going anywhere for ten days, and neither should your parents-in-law. I’m surprised your PIL are prepared to put the rest of you at risk, no matter what your DH thinks. You shouldn’t have to go anywhere, but is there somewhere you could go for a week, at a push?

Lostintranslatio · 21/12/2021 11:11

@rathernotshare glad to hear that your baby is good! Now let everybody take care of you!

I'm back from my hospital appointment. Scan was good, saw girl and heartbeat. However it was difficult to see her as my bladder was empty after the urine sample (I drank after but I was called to the scan immediately).

PleaseSendNoodles · 21/12/2021 11:13

Sorry for everyone with insomnia - just reading about it make me feel tired! I’m struggling to fall asleep at night but that might be jetlag. Doesn’t help that after our pram chat last night I browsed different models for about 2 hours. What an idiot 🤦🏼‍♀️

Get well soon, @FestiveCovid!

Thinking of you, @rathernotshare - glad baby is doing well but still a big thing for you to go through. I hope you have good snacks on hand and manage to get comfy.

@PeeAche CLUBBING?! is he serious?! I’d be livid and definitely wouldn’t want to risk carriers bringing it into my house. I’m back in London for a couple of weeks but cancelled plans with close friends I rarely get to see - because we don’t want to mess up Christmas with our families. Gah! Covid is crap.

Matilda30 · 21/12/2021 11:25

Can't believe I missed Pram chat, I need to scroll back. We had an iCandy last time which I liked but we since gave it away

BunBun221 · 21/12/2021 11:41

Congrats @Lostintranslatio! How do you know the gender already?

InvisibleDragon · 21/12/2021 11:43

My goodness @PeeAche, that is awful. Your DH is being ridiculous.

Firstly, your brother in law clearly can't travel to see you all as he has Covid. So he needs to stay where he is because he's self isolating. "I wanted to see my brother at Christmas" is not getting medical care or a Covid test, so he should stay put.

While his parents might not be legally required to self isolate (I think they probably are but things keep changing and I've lost track!), the idea that they want to come to yours when they are highly likely to be infectious would be highly irresponsible even if you weren't pregnant.

As a comparator - my boss vetoed me doing a 30 min home visit to a client who had only had one vaccine last week. That was because of the risk from Omicron - even though there isn't any evidence to suggest the client has been in contact with anyone with Covid. Maybe that was over-cautious, but everyone where I work (NHS) is being very serious about minimising my risk of exposure because I'm pregnant. And I'm a low risk pregnancy too - I might be misrembering, but weren't you hospitalised because of HG a few weeks ago too? That would suggest being even more cautious.

I would tell your DH that there is no way his parents + brother are coming for Christmas when your BiL actually has Covid. His kids won't die just because they don't have the perfect Christmas he has planned. And sometimes shit happens (like BiL getting Covid ...) that means that plans have to change - even plans he was really looking forward to. (As an aside - if his kids get covid and have to isolate, that's going to screw up their Christmas holidays quite badly isn't it? Is that really what he wants?)

If he absolutely insists on seeing them all, I think he should go there and then stay there for his 10 days of self-isolation after exposing himself to someone with Covid. If he won't I'd leave him on his own and go to stay somewhere else.

I really feel for you. My DH doesn't have kids, but he sometimes has a similar enormous blind spot about his family. He's from Egypt and all his family are still there. Most of the biggest arguments we've had have been around me not having the kind of relationship he wants with my in-laws or me having to go to considerable lengths/expense to manage trips to see them and then feeling very anxious because there always seems to be something extra and highly stressful to do when I am already at my limit. It's really hard for him being away from his family so much and to realise that our family might never look like the typical Egyptian family - but that that's ok. Don't know if it's the same with your DH, but I think a lot of the conflict comes from my DH externalising onto me some of his own unresolved anxiety and guilt about his own relationship with his family (and his religion!). He's got better at recognising that and we're both learning to notice when we've taken very polarised positions on something where we both actually have mixed /ambivalent feelings and trying to take a step back rather than arguing. But it's a slow process.

Would it help your DH to see your perspective at all if you really empathised with how disappointed and upset he must be feeling that Covid has spoiled his plans for Christmas with his kids? And pointing out the things that are outside of his control that unfortunately caused this to happen (the new variant, his brother's positive test, his brother already being at his parents so now they all (I think!) have a legal requirement to self isolate). It sounds like he's angry and looking for someone (you) to blame / bully into making a crappy situation feel ok. If he can get to the point where he feels able to say "I really wanted to do X special thing with my kids and I'm so sad and frustrated that we can't" and to feel like you hear that and understand how he feels, perhaps he will find it easier to back down and be able to make alternative plans (that don't involve you, him and his kids all being knowingly exposed to Covid). I know it can feel really tough to swallow all your anger and listen to someone being unreasonable, but it has really helped me and my husband to get on the same page about things where we started really far apart. And he's a lot less unreasonable now!

Lostintranslatio · 21/12/2021 11:46

@BunBun221 I did the Panorama test three weeks ago!

CurryandSnuggle · 21/12/2021 11:51

@PeeAche I can’t believe that! Your DH should be prioritising the safety of his pregnant wife!

BunBun221 · 21/12/2021 12:05

Is the panorama test the test thing as the Harmony test? How much was it if you don't mind my asking?

ALHCTPS · 21/12/2021 12:08

My pelvic floor returned to normal after I gave birth last time (despite forceps delivery and a partial prolapse), so I haven’t had any problems with peeing when I laugh or cough etc. But, now that I’m pregnant again, I seem to have lost a bit of my control. Is this a hormonal thing????

unknownscot · 21/12/2021 12:20

@PeeAche
I am in actual disbelief. Regardless of you being pregnant your in laws shouldn't be coming anywhere near you if they've been in Covid with a known positive person!!

Lostintranslatio · 21/12/2021 12:53

@BunBun221 Yes, it is the same type of DNA as Harmony. I got it done privately and it was 430euros (blood test + scan). In one week I had results, all very low risk and it is a girl. I live in Ireland.

PeeAche · 21/12/2021 13:43

To clarify, BIL is currently at PIL's house. He'd already travelled back to this part of the country and then tested positive a couple of days later.

PIL's are the mega boomer types (sorry) they live in a 7 bed with 2 kitchens and a self contained granny annex. Many bedrooms have en suite. So he's able to totally self isolate within their house and could just be left there while they still enjoyed Christmas with us.

When he tested positive, it was still 7 days until Christmas so, according to government advice, they could LFT daily and if still negative on day 7 (and provided BIL is still isolating in another part of house with no contact) Christmas with them could go ahead.

But, they have resigned themselves to getting it and are just letting him roam around. And all 3 of them want to come for Christmas Day. 2 people that may have Covid and 1 person that quite literally has actual Covid.

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RoseValleyRambles · 21/12/2021 13:58

Can you book a 10 day spa break?

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