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PeeAche · 18/11/2021 17:55

Well, aren't we a chatty lot?

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PleaseSendNoodles · 19/11/2021 15:14

@Prema112 good to know swimming is feeling good for you! I’m planning on swimming every week but yet to actually start… bought a maternity costume though so I have the best intentions 🤣

@beansprout55 I’m sorry your in laws haven’t been as engaged or supportive as you’d hoped. Like others have said - maybe they’re just not good with emotions or wanted to give you space? But rude to not reply though. I know it’s hard but try not to let their reaction dull your excitement and joy x

Awwww @Pandamama88 that’s adorable! Little foot melts my heart. Congrats on having a lovely scan x

AmICrazy36 · 19/11/2021 15:37

Welcome @Rolledthedice ❤️

AmICrazy36 · 19/11/2021 15:40

@Prema112 oohhh I have been thinking about going swimming so think I will!

@beansprout55 oh lovely! Im sorry about the in-laws, that’s pretty rubbish of them to be honest! Maybe they are being distant as want to give you some space but they should have replied and made abit more of a fuss!

@Pandamama88 ahh lovely scan!

Xx

Imhereforthecake · 19/11/2021 15:54

I've been off work the last few weeks with spotting and constant nausea.
I'm due back tomorrow night - 13 hour shift (nurse). My nausea is still constant and the tiredness is another level. How will I cope?! Totally aware I'm feeling very sorry for myself right now. Anyone got any tips to get me through?

Unarosaes · 19/11/2021 15:57

Yaaaay! Another great 12 week scan Smile seeing all these lovely baby images is helping me have more positive thoughts about the future or my pregnancy. Thank you for sharing these with us!

@beansprout55 I don't think it's the hormones. It is super valid to feel disappointed when you are not getting the support and affection that you expected. As others have said, it may be that they are not very articulate at communicating emotions. My dad is extremely caring and invested in my wellbeing, but you wouldn't guess it from the way he communicates with me. It still hurts when you really could do with the emotional support.

RoseValleyRambles · 19/11/2021 16:06

@imhereforthecake You poor thing. It's so horrid. I saw a nurse yesterday who recommended bland food, and keeping active, but that's not rocket science. She also gave me drugs, even though I'm not being sick, so ask if you're feeling it's too much.

I've found eating something from my 'approved list' every hour without fail is making a big difference. Apple, yogurt, toast and peanut butter, wotsits.... Doesn't actually sound that unbalanced...

Imhereforthecake · 19/11/2021 16:12

@RoseValleyRambles I found the constant snacking like you said, definitely helps. I did ask the dr for anti sickness meds but because I'm not actually physically 'being' sick they said no.
I'm feeling like such a slob at the moment the sickness is taking over my life although feel awful for moaning because I'm so so so grateful to be pregnant.

3yearstrying · 19/11/2021 16:16

Sorry for the TMI ladies, but has anyone had increased discharge? I wear a liner every day now as its gone mad! I had BV treated in the first few weeks of pregnancy and now im worried i'll keep getting it and i dont know why :( i dont use fragranced washes or anything so my PH down there isnt off, but apparently it can just be yet another joy of pregnancy symptoms? Help!

CurryandSnuggle · 19/11/2021 17:36

@AmICrazy36 awww wow beautiful scan! Congratulations Grin

PeeAche · 19/11/2021 17:56

This thread is moving so fast at the moment. Congrats @Pandamama88 your scan is lovely. Your baby is beautiful! (Especially the foot - footballer!?)

@beansprout55 I'm sorry about your in-laws muted reaction. They may be old fashioned and unwilling to get excited until after 12 weeks?
I'm dreading telling my family too. My SIL is a bit of a funny one and she had a baby this year. I know she's going to be really offended by my pregnancy and my parents will take her "side". I'm anxious that she'll go and sit in the other room and cry, when it comes up over Christmas.
I'm not close with my parents. They aren't kind or supportive and I had an unhappy childhood. They will likely be sort of pleased in a roundabout way, but upset that I've put them in the "middle" of things by having a baby when their first grandchild is still so young. They're not able to take a nuanced view of things - black and white people and everything in the universe only exists to either please or offend them. You know?

At the risk of sounding too lame or like I'm putting too much pressure on someone that isn't born yet: we are making our own families now. I'm focusing on that, and trying to put the announcement out of my mind.

So yeah, Beansprout, you aren't alone. Not every pregnancy announcement is a joyous one. Sometimes they're just downright awkward.

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CurryandSnuggle · 19/11/2021 18:00

@beansprout55 I am sorry to read this, it may not be intentional but it does sound like they’re being a bit shit. Doesn’t make it ok but I wonder if they feel a bit like they won’t have an active role in your child’s life due you living in the Channel Islands whereas they see their other grandkids regularly…

@Pandamama88 beautiful scan ❤️ Aww we got to see our wriggler extra long yesterday, it’s so special isn’t it. They’re so cute now, like a tiny little actual baby!!

CurryandSnuggle · 19/11/2021 18:04

@PeeAche no offence but your sister sounds horrifically self-centered. Your life choices don’t centre around hers. Awful.
Are you spending your Christmas with your parents? Sorry to read you had an unhappy childhood. Mine wasn’t extremely happy either but my mum isn’t unkind. Have you considered cutting ties for your own mental well-being?

Pandamama88 · 19/11/2021 18:09

@PeeAche @CurryandSnuggle Thanks. It's so weird that they are moving around so much but you can't feel it yet.

PeeAche · 19/11/2021 18:10

Oh, @Imhereforthecake - I have HG, two step children under 10, a five bedroom house to keep clean, a 50 hour job and a husband that can't function alone... like you, I have no time for the luxury of lying down and crying about the vomiting.

I don't have many useful tips but I have some tips nonetheless.

In the day, if I must, I nibble on buttered crackers, which I add extra salt to (I think I may be having salt cravings?) but mostly I don't eat until after 8pm when I am then okay to sit still and digest. Movement makes the nausea worse.
Keep yourself cold. Warmth makes the nausea worse. Tie your hair up to help with this.
Keep showers short. Steam makes the nausea worse.
Add some essential oils to a hanky for sniffing. Outside smells make the nausea worse. (Vicks on a tissue also works) I have also added Vicks to my face mask because the fish counter in Waitrose is just not my friend.
Stick to cold food. Hot food makes the nausea worse.
Stick to gaviscon tablets - liquid gaviscon is nausea in a bottle and makes the nausea worse.
Drink from very very small glasses - like a shot glass (yes I'm serious). The thirst can be so intense that when you try to sip from a normal glass, animalistic instinct takes over and you down the pint in 2 seconds. Then you throw up. Pint glasses make the nausea worse.

You will be surprised at how much you can achieve, even though you feel like you are going to die. You will get through your 12 hour shift. I believe in you. Today I have worked 9-3, done 6 meetings, changed 4 beds, cut back a shrub, done the school runs, made dinner, made rice crispy treats, done 2 loads of laundry and finished the Christmas stockings... oh, and thrown up 3 times. I firmly believe we women have an enormous capacity to just "get on"

You go girl!

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PeeAche · 19/11/2021 18:13

Ha ha @CurryandSnuggle - I'm not offended! It's true! She's not my sister, she's the charming young lady that my brother married. 🙄

I'm not NC with my family but I am grey rock. We see each other about 3 times per year and Christmas Eve is one of those times. But they won't be here for Christmas Day. Phew. Christmas Day is me, DH, the kids, DH's parents.... and a turkey that I could probably fit inside. 😂

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HWka · 19/11/2021 18:31

@beansprout55 so sorry about your in laws! I wonder if they are a more reserved type.
@PeeAche your SIL sounds like a freak! Who would be offended at someone else having a baby?!
This story has really angered me- must be my hormones 🤣🙈 why do people get so strange over things like this!

Iamhev · 19/11/2021 18:41

@beansprout55 I had a similar experience with my sister. I don't have any family on my side other than her and we are really close. I told her as soon as I found out and although she said congratulations, she has shown very little interest to date and I started to wish I hadn't told her. She joked that she won't want anything to do with baby until it was talking as their boring until then and I dont actually think she was joking now! She has no children and they've never interested her so I'm thinking I just need to accept that it may be a big life milestone for us but to others it's not as important! I don't think she loves me any less but it did upset me as I wanted her to be as excited as me.

Announcement is a bit tainted pre 12 week scan as we had a miscarriage before so there was a bit of 'that's great but we know what happened before' which I suppose puts a downer on it a little.

The announcement thing is strange and i think the fact that miscarriage is such a taboo subject and we're all made to believe that we have to wait for 12 weeks doesn't help. My husband has a great family and we were out yesterday for his dad birthday and we contemplated telling them, even had the 7 week scan in my bag ready. Although not had the 12 week scan yet (planned for 2 December) so thought we would wait until we knew all was OK. But on the other hand if its not all OK we will still be telling them!

I cant wait for the 12 week scan so I can allow myself to start getting excited. Seeing everyone's beautiful scan pictures is wonderful and making me feel very positive 💕

unknownscot · 19/11/2021 18:43

Just marking my place here x

Iamhev · 19/11/2021 18:44

Talking about announcements, how have people told their loved ones their fantastic news. I've seen all sorts of ideas in the likes of etsy from lottery scratch cards to sperms shaped soft toys with the message 'we have a winner' on them lol x

PeeAche · 19/11/2021 18:46

In my last-post-but-one I sound like a right so-n-so.

"Ooooh. Look at me. I'm so amaaaazing". I was just on a rant really because I'm tired, and I was doing a long poo (constipation still plagued me) and I wish I had a cleaner. 😂

My SIL is another level. Baby watches YouTube aaaaaallll day long as has been doing so since I first met him at 20 days old. Meanwhile she is one of this mumfluencer things on Instagram? You know the type?

Don't get me wrong, I won't be wrapping my kid up in hemp, banning all TV and all sugar and practicing elimination communication, like. But there is a middle ground where you put your phone down and turn off the telly and interact with each other, right???

ALSO (and this really is hilarious) she's ANTI breast feeding. ANTI. Have you ever heard of such a thing??? She reckons it's like oppressive or something. Stops women from working etc. Although she's never had a job in the entire time I've known her.

I'm all for choices - and I'm positive about bottle feeding because FED is best! But ANTI!!???

Look, I just sound bitter now. I have to stop. But yah. She really gets my goat.

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PeeAche · 19/11/2021 18:48

@Iamhev we need pictures of this sperm toy, obviously...

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Iamhev · 19/11/2021 18:52

@PeeAche your SIL sounds a right character and you deserve a rant! I know a few women like her but thankfully I'm not related to any of them so can avoid at all costs x

Iamhev · 19/11/2021 18:54

@PeeAche £5.99 on Etsy. I thought they were kinda cute but husband wasn't in agreement 😀

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HWka · 19/11/2021 18:59

Loling so much at the sperm toy! I just had to tell my parents and sisters as I kept having to cancel stuff when I had all those bleeds and had to keep going for scans.
I’m not really a fan of big announcements though, especially after a miscarriage I’d rather tell people when the child is a month old hahaha.

rathernotshare · 19/11/2021 19:13

I'm really up in the air about announcing. I was keen to announce at Christmas but if I haven't had the surgery by then, I will be very soon after. Don't want to announce and then a week later take it back because it went wrong. Hmmm ☹️

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