Due June 2022 (thread four)

[PeeAche]

Well, aren't we a chatty lot?

@PeeAche

To be fair, I do think some of my colleagues are still blastocysts. 🤷🏻‍♀️

😂 made me chuckle

@Olive60 mine was in person- they took urine and blood samples at the same time. I think maybe every area does it differently.

@Olive60 welcome!!

Mine is face to face! But, it's also taking place in the village church hall, because I live in a backwater settlement somewhere between Wales and nowhere. The midwives arrive once every few weeks and everyone in the village will know my secret 😂

Does anyone else have a rock hard upper tummy? It's like I've swallowed half a bag of cement.

@Olive60

Thank you for the welcome! Seems I need to get use to all these toilet trips then!

Can I ask aswell... Everyone's booking appointments... Are you seeing someone face to face? I was told mine is just a phone call. Also feels different to my last pregnancy 11 years ago. I'm sure I'd met the MW a couple of times by now.

I had a phone call first about two weeks ago where we went through all the questions, and next week I will be meeting her for blood and urine test.

I'm a bit the opposite. I started feeling nauseous around week 5, peaking with all-day nausea weeks 7-9. I am now half-way through week 10 and gone back to feeling nauseous sporadically. Queue the panic over symptoms fading...Damned if I feel like crap, damned if I don't!

@rathernotshare I find it amazing how many giant objects seem to hide in our abdomens. My cyst was at least 8cm, and apparently I have a pile of fibroids down there too now. So rude.

I was really scared at the time, but it was all very routine in the end. Must be doubly scary during pregnancy. We're here for a hand hold when you need it.

whoops! I hadn't loaded the page properly before writing my reponse and there's like a whole new page of posts between what I just wrote and the message I thought I was responding to straight away 😅😅😅

@Unarosaes

I'm a bit the opposite. I started feeling nauseous around week 5, peaking with all-day nausea weeks 7-9. I am now half-way through week 10 and gone back to feeling nauseous sporadically. Queue the panic over symptoms fading...Damned if I feel like crap, damned if I don't!

This is me at the moment too. I’m 10 weeks and have been suffering with HG but today not feeling as bad so now I’m worrying about the lack of symptoms. It’s a rollercoaster, I never knew the first trimester would be so hard and stressful

@RoseValleyRambles bizarre isn't it! Pre-pregnancy is was in size 8 trousers. No symptoms, no spotting, nothing. Creepy little thing hiding out in there!

Hello ladies!

Had my scan this morning and all is ok! Feel like I can breathe abit now ❤️

Super cute pic, @AmICrazy36 💕 Congrats!

@AmICrazy36 what a lovely scan picture. Well done you! 😍🤗❤️

Fab news @AmICrazy36 ♥️♥️

Congrats @AmICrazy36!!

I've just been for my first swim since learning I was pregnant (I was surfing before I knew ) I would highly recommend swimming when you feel up to it, I felt so good in the water! All the aches melted away and I didn't feel sick! Felt sick as soon as I got out but still, was great!

Hi all, I’ve been lurking but felt I should say hello! I’m nearly 11 weeks and 36. This is my first pregnancy after spending my life not even imagining having kids! I had the Harmony test this week and the scan was all normal - hoping for good result on the bloods. First booking appointment next week (I’m late to get one as wasn’t sure what we’d do initially). I’ve found it really moving reading all your stories and following your journeys - what a wonderful, supportive group of women you all are. :)

@Unarosaes I had a day or 2 around week 9 when I felt better and I also freaked out! Also felt desperate to feel well then scared when I did! I was then so sick again until 11.5 weeks so it might come back!!

Welcome @Olive60! I had I phonecall with the midwife then I went in a few days later for bloods, urine, bmi, etc

Hey @rolledthedice, welcome! Sounds like it's been a bit of an emotional journey. We're glad to have you. :D

For those of you who've told your parents and in-laws, how excited are they?
I'm in a real strop today.....

DH and I got married over COVID in March, his parents live in the UK (we're Channel Islands) so I've only met them once for a week last year, but we've emailed, zoomed and texted loads. We got on so well!

We're all Christians so decided to tell them at 6 weeks so they could support us and pray (as I'd been bleeding and had a miscarriage scare, wasn't in a good place) - MIL was lovely'ish on the phone (spent 5 mins talking about us and 30 about SIL), but it's been almost 3 weeks and they haven't so much as phoned or text to ask if we're ok? Except DH got an email about a fun trip they took with SIL's kids ????
Since we spoke to them we've been on an emotional rollercoaster of two more emergency scans and weeks of bleeding.

I've always felt like they didn't really approve of me but also resigned myself to thinking it's definitely in my head, but now we both feel so hurt? Am I being over emotional due to the pregnancy or are they being shit?
xxx

Oh and when DH told them about things on the initial phone call i wasn't in on it - she text me saying congrats and a psalm so I replied with a nice long message saying how I was doing (embarrassed now as I realise she didn't ask!) and a photo of the scan - she didn't even reply to me 🙄

@beansprout that sounds pretty hurtful. Trying to find a reasonable reason for the silence, could they be trying to give you space or privacy perhaps? Are they comfortable starting personal conversations or might they be waiting for updates from you?

Still sucky not to be more proactive, but perhaps that might explain it if they're generally good people?

We're a bit reluctant to get in touch as feel very hurt, esp DH. He already feels quite rejected by them as they seem very uninterested in his life as they spend most of the phone calls they have with him talking about SIL and her brood. And we always take the first steps. I guess he thought it was his turn to have the focus whilst he needed it and they would be excited/interested in him/us. Apparently not x

FIL hasn't even got in touch to say a word (he wasn't there when DH told his mum the news)!x
Sorry group for my series of rants xx

@beansprout55 oh, that’s hard. Pregnancy, weddings, big stuff like that can bring out all our vulnerabilities. We want people to live up to our expectations, we want the fairytale, the movie version, and you wouldn’t be human if you didn’t feel disappointed when it’s a bit underwhelming or even flat out crap. It’s allowed. But there is a release in accepting people for who they are - even if that has shitty elements - rather than setting ourselves up for a fall by expecting them to behave better. There will be those who will gladly give you the love and support you need and often they’re not the obvious people who are ‘supposed’ to. Focus on them and limit your expectations of those who don’t to protect yourself in this hyper emotional time. If you expect little or nothing, what they do that’s good will be a pleasant surprise, and you can respond in kind, and the shitty stuff maybe won’t hurt as much. My in-laws are tricky to say the least and I’ve learned to think of them as badly raised children who don’t know better.

Had my 12 week scan this morning! All seems fine except little one was being very uncooperative and not getting in a good position for measurements etc. They eventually managed after about 40 mins. I didn't mind though as I got to watch the little wiggler for longer. Here is the overall scan and a picture of little one's foot! X