Any ivf pregnancies ?

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I'm only 6+2 and super paranoid about absolutely everything. Had my fet on the 28/09, it was our second fet after the first one failed, I had bleeding before I even got to the otd. My scan is this Thursday and it's fair to say I'm bricking it.

Would be nice to chat with some ladies who've done ivf, I have been keeping an eye on the June 2022 thread but sometimes I find I can't relate.

Congratulations on your boy @LemonyT! I thought my first was a girl and he turned out to be a boy. I love him so much that I was absolutely content to have another boy

Posted too soon! I'm having a girl. I cried 😂 but I would have cried if it were a boy too. I find it makes it all a lot more real.

With regards to pains, I only had a baby in 2020 and I have so many aches and crampy feelings and I did last time too. It's amazing all the rapid changes our bodies go through in pregnancy!

@Holskey congratulations! 🥳💜 Yes I think it does seem more real if you know?
I'm pleased you said that, mine are back. Just feels like pulling low down. But yes things will be changing so much, so it's likely that.

@Holskey congrats on your little girl! :’)
@paintfairy yes still going to take it with caution! My friend got told girl at her 20 week scan and then at her 36 week scan they realised they got it wrong and turned out she was having a little boy! Luckily she wasn’t the type to buy anything girly and kept it all neutral!

Yeah, it's occurred to me that thw sex might be wrong, especially with it being quite early. I'll definitely be asking at my 20 weeks scan for confirmation. I think it's safer if they say you're having a boy though because they've seen the bits. I remember seeing my son's and they were unmistakable (but that was 20 weeks).

Hey guys just checking in with some updates. I'm now 16+3 had a midwife app last week and got to hear baby's heartbeat for the first time. It was quiet scary as it took her a long time to find the heartbeat, she was already talking about referring me for a scan.

I told the midwife about all the pains I've been having and she thinks I've got SPD so I'm being referred to physiotherapy and I have to wear a support belt. Therefore, if you have any pains tell your midwife and they'll help to decide if you need intervention or not.

NIPT results also came back T21 was 1 in 14500 & T13/18 was 1 in 20,000 really happy about that.

Private scan on Sunday 16th found out we are having a girl. Both DH & I did hope for a boy but as soon as we found out it was a girl we couldn't stop smiling and we've started bouncing names off each other. I did read somewhere though 'not to trust a baby girl until they're in your arms' as they usually get them wrong.

Overall I can't believe I've made it this far, I'm feeling really blessed.

@LemonyT @Holskey congratulations on your gender scans. It does feel real & extra exciting once you know the gender.

@paintfairy Wow seeing the 12 week scan compared to my 6 week scan, it just really hits home how much growing happens!

@LemonyT I had a LLETZ procedure for pre-cancerous cervial changes in my 20s, which they warn can leave you with a shortened cervix. It got confirmed by my fertility clinic - one of the consultants when we were doing a transfer started asking about my medical history because he could see my cervix was short. I think they check it at your 12 week scan by default? they just probably don't mention it. I guess it also depends on your medical history as well, and if you have any risk factors. My sister also had a LLETZ procedure and also had a short cervix that was picked up at her 12 week scan, but didn't require any additional measures / bed rest.

Didn't realise there was another page of action! Congrats everyone on the sex scans.

I find it really interesting so many of you want to know the sex! DP and I have both said we don't want to know - with IVF everything about this journey has been so medical and planned and things, I want to try to claw back something that can be a surprise. I'm also really against all this 'boys wear blue, girls wear pick' rubbish, so wont be changing anything about preparing based on sex anyway. I can get it though in terms of making it feel more real

@Monday55 did you get an NIPT because your NHS results weren't reassuring? I considered getting one but really should have by now to get an early enough answer. So I thought I might as well wait until my nhs results come back. But if I'm not happy then I'll do it. I'm just aware time is now ticking.......
And how useless of the midwife! Just what you need- unnecessary panic. 🙄 Glad all is OK though.
@2mumlife I had a scan at 8+1 and it looked like a frog. I had another at 10+6 and it was bonkers how it now looked like a baby in such a short space of time! And then by 12+4 it was even more real! Bizarre. So much happens early on, it really is amazing.
@LemonyT @Holskey it seems if they say it's a boy, it probably is. If they say girl then it could be anything. 🤣 I wouldn't be pink mad either. But it's quite hard to buy truly neutral clothes. Neither would I decorate anything pink or blue. But I would struggle to get my head around it if I thought I was having one thing for months and then it wasn't. 🙈

@LemonyT during my booking appointment it got recorded that I’d had a LLETZ and so I got referred to ANC for a cervical measurement scan by 20 weeks. They actually did it at my 20 week scan as they are combining appointments due to COVID in my hospital. However to accurately measure it has to be an internal scan (the sonographer just did this afterwards). They measured length and checked it was closed. Luckily mine was over the required 3cm so no further action needed. I would contact your midwife if this hasn’t come up for you yet.

@2mumlife We did weigh up whether we should let the gender be a surprise or not. But the whole pregnancy has been a surprise after a few MCs plus it was our only embryo transferred at day 3 so the odds where against us. I reckon if we find ourselves pregnant with our 2nd we would let it be a surprise to also have that experience of not knowing the sex until the 11th hour.

I'm also not keen on gender colours, would it be rude to bluntly tell people "please don't buy us anything pink"? I was never a girly girl growing up and was never into pink myself, so it kinda stems from that too.

@paintfairy I don't know if I got the abbreviations right but it's the chromosome blood test thats offered by the NHS during the 12 week scan. It's optional though. If the midwife doesn't mention it, you can ask for one.

@Monday55 I don't think its rude at all not to tell people the babies sex even if you know. My sister and her partner found out the sex of their baby in advance, but didn't tell anyone for exactly the reason they didn't want a pile of blue or pink (in her case it was a boy). I'm hoping she'll pass along her baby clothes

I think you DO need to tell people though a bit bluntly if you don't want everything pink/blue - the number of cards my sister got being all 'its a boy' rather than just congrats, you had a baby and who cares what genitalia it has, was really eye opening.

@paintfairy Yeah our reassurance scan after my bleed you can see a definite tail I found this about the NIPT thing: www.nhsinform.scot/healthy-living/screening/pregnancy/non-invasive-prenatal-testing-nipt#:~:text=NIPT%20explained,'%20syndrome%2C%20or%20Patau's%20syndrome.

the number of cards my sister got being all 'its a boy' rather than just congrats, you had a baby and who cares what genitalia it has, was really eye opening

I don't doubt they exist but I've literally never seen a "congratulations on your baby" card. All the ones I received (and all the ones I've bought) specify girl/boy.

Yep, I don't remember seeing any general "baby" cards either - it seems to be either boy/girl or general "congratulations" (but I suspect those ones are supposed to be more geared towards weddings/engagements since they often tend to have champagne flutes on them).

The colour thing is funny - I have bought mainly blue clothes ready for DS, but that is because blue is my fave colour and he will most likely have blue eyes. I actually quite like pink too, but I guess societal expectations have effected me enough that I'd be more wary of dressing him in pink - where as I'd probably happily put a girl in blue as I like it so much.

Though whatever sex baby was, I was planning on painting their room a pale blue - as I read its the most calming/restful colour and I'm hoping it might help them sleep . I'm re-painting my room blue too since they'll be in there for at least the first six months/year!

Can someone help me with something I'm now worried about ? Sure I worry about something then move on to someone else!!

I have my 12wk scan this Wednesday (13+1) know others have theirs coming up and know some have recently had them

I'm really worried about the screening - because of my age (39) is it likely it will come back high risk regardless? This has just happened to my friend it's come back 1/22 so so she has had NIPT but she's had to wait 10 days for this result - just think it's so much worry being told high risk but if it will come back high risk anyway then what do the bloods test for?

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Your age will play a factor (as chromosomal defects increase with age) but they’ll also be doing measurements on your baby and it will be a combined assessment of the two. If they combine as high risk then they’ll offer NIPT.

The blood tests check the baby’s DNA so adds another layer of insight into the risk of the 3 main syndromes. I’m the same age and combined age/measurements/NIPT (we paid private) came out very low risk at 1/10,000. On age/measurements alone we were also low or very low risk.

@Porridgeislife that's reassuring to know thank you, I was just kind of preempting the fact that I'll definitely get a call saying I'm high risk but maybe that's not the case?x it's all the other factors taking into account?x

No nothing like that. Their computer will calculate your risk during the appointment based on your age and baby’s measurements. If they want to investigate further they’ll likely let you know there and then.

@Porridgeislife oh, because my friend whos also pregnant ( she's 16wks ) so little ahead of me didn't have her 12 week until 14wks where they said it was too late for 12 wks scan and we had to return 2 weeks Later ( didn't understand that) and then she had her scan and then bloods
Waited 10 days and got the call today that's she's high risk for DS 1/122 and she said maybe it's her age so that's what's got me worried

I thought the process was we had the 12wks scan ( and bloods same day ) and then you're only contacted if it's high risk ? Is that not right ? X sorry for daft questions x

Maybe my friend didn't get that calculation on the day as she was told she was too far gone? Maybe ? X

It might be a bit different as I had a private 12 week scan with a fetal medicine consultant before my NHS scan but we were told then & there that all was very low risk and were shown the calculations on the screen.

I didn’t actually pay much attention in my NHS scan as we knew the exam answer already, but perhaps there’s a delay as they run results past a consultant first.

@Porridgeislife oh I see yeah maybe that's it then. Ah ok I'll try not to worry!! My scan is this Wednesday so not too long to wait. My friend said that the sonographer hardly spoke, couldn't understand him and burst out crying when she left so I'm hoping I don't get him!
But Ill be asking how things are looking if I get one that doesn't speak! She said he didn't reassure her at all, just panicked her that he couldn't do measurements as it was too late
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@strawberrysummer19 You have a combined test at 12 weeks. They take the fluid measurement from the back of the babies neck and combine it with a blood test. This then calculates your risk. I had mine on Friday. I know the fluid measurement was ok because its written on my notes, but the blood test obviously takes time. I was told I'll get a letter in about 2 weeks, but I think if there are huge areas of concern they will ring you before this.
The fluid can only be measured on a scan before 14 weeks. Then things change and it's no longer accurate. They can check another way but I think this needs to be later, which is likely why you friend then had to wait a couple of weeks. I'm not really sure what that process is though.
Some people choose to get a private NIPT (any time from 10 weeks) so they know quite early if there is a problem. I decided to wait and have the nhs test first. If it comes back unsatisfactory then I'll do an NIPT. However doing it this way risks a late abortion (if that would be your choice) as it adds on a few weeks with all the waiting. Everyone takes a different approach though.

@paintfairy ah I see thank you and thank you @Porridgeislife didn't even know you could get a private one - my midwife just said we get it done on the nhs now and don't need to pay like we used to but didn't realise you could get it done sooner. Ah well it's too late now as my scans tomorrow so will just have to wait and see.
My poor friend was called 10 days after her scan with the high result and now has 5-10 days to wait for the nipt results and she's already 17wks so a stressful anxious waiting game x

@Holskey @IamnotwhouthinkIam She got some that were like "congratulations on the baby" and "well done on growing a tiny human" and a "shit gots real" card But I agree, its crazy how much of having a baby is concentrated on its sex! I think I would almost purposefully dress a boy in pink as a baby sometimes - lots of research have suggested adults interact with babies differently based on what colour they are wearing, so I think its important to try to actively fight back against that. Now really thought about baby room colours but good to know blue is meant to be calming!

@strawberrysummer19 Good kluck for scan, hope everything makes sense tomorrow