They cant find my baby on my scans!

[KJE3112]

So. Today i am 8w pregnant (deffinately pregnant as all blood tests confirm. But, i have now had 3 scans, all transvaginal, and they cant find my baby.

They were testing me for ectopic but said with my HCG levels its starting to look unlikely its that.

Im due for another scan at 8w5d and hoping to find someone whos had a similar situation who can give me some hope.

Im really hoping they can find a little heartbeat in there somewhere!

This all sounds very confusing and worrying. I hope you get some answers today.

@KJE3112 Thinking of you today 🤞🏻

I’ve cared for a little one who was attached to the abdominal lining outside the womb. Sadly not viable long term.

This sounds super odd! So sorry you're going through this, must be so stressful :( hope you get some answers today and someone actually manages to take the time to explain things to you. Some people really are just such shit communicators, make sure you demand they tell you exactly what they have found/not found/think it is or isn't and reasons why.

So, after sitting and waiting for 3 hours for my 11 o'clock appointment, we finally got to see someone!
He was a lot clearer at talking things through with me and explained everything to me. Apparently they could see something on my scans yesterday! Even though they told me they couldnt. I have a few cysts filled with liquid/water within my womb, that he thinks contain pregnancy cells, causing the rise in HCG because my body is recognising the cells as a pregnancy.
He told me that they have diagnosed me with a non-viable pregnancy because of these cysts and also the lack of a gestational sac or anything.
His suggestion is an 'evacuation' but i can wait if i want to, but there are risks at waiting, which he did go through.
Once i've been through the procedure he would like to send the cells off to be tested for a molar pregnancy as it is a possibility that this is what is causing the non-viable pregnancy, but he cant be sure until its tested. He wants it to be tested just in case, so that if i need follow up care, its available.
I think ive explained everything, but, yeah i think its just not my time.
Thank you everyone though, you really helped me ask all the right questions and get to the bottom of whats really happening, and youve all been really supportive!

Now, i just need to decide on my next step.

Hi. I'm really pleased you got to speak to someone who was able to explain things a little better. The news doesn't sound good but it seems there it no immediate rush to do anything.
A friend had a molar pregnancy, it can be quite serious but in her case she had it removed and had some treatment and had a healthy baby not that long after. You'd def want to rule that out but it sounds like it's not necessarily ruled in at this stage

Hope it becomes clear what to do next but the most important thing is that it's your decision and you shouldn't feel rushed.

I'm so sorry but I'm glad things are clearer and you have the information you need to make a decision. Your "care" up to today has been shocking.

Glad you got some answers! Sorry to hear the bad news but I suppose you were expecting it anyway, even if the specifics weren't clear. Take care of yourself, and make a decision when you feel ready to.

[quote KJE3112]@anotherDayofThis theyve given me nothing, wouldnt let me look at the screen either while they were scanning me, im going in tomorrow to see a supervisor, im taking my partner with me this time too so i have someone on my side. Theyve also told me they cant see anything, but its deffinately in my uterus.[/quote]
Ah this makes me so angry. My story is different to yours because eventually after 3 weeks of worrying the scan did pick the formation of an embryo up. At the time I didn't think to ask for a picture because I naively thought I'd be fine and I'd get the 12 week one. Unfortunately I miscarried a week later and when I went for my confirmation scan I asked if they'd print my previous pictures off for me. I wasn't allowed my scan pics either because apparently it didn't look like a Baby. No it didn't it looked like a line on the screen but it was important to me to have that scan pic for closure and also because it was the only Pregnancy out of 5 I've gotten far enough to have a scan. I'm sorry you haven't so far had the news you were hoping for. I'm just wondering if it's a blited ovum or possibly even a molar pregnancy with your numbers been so high which if that's what they're suspecting too that's possibly why they want you to have the surgical rather than medical route

I'm so glad you spoke to someone today who could make things clearer for you, and I'm sorry that the outcome isn't good. Best wishes for the next few weeks, however you decide to go forward.

When you feel in a position to, please consider making a formal complaint for the treatment you received, the advice to terminate with no explanation, being told there was nothing visible when there was. This was just awful.

Yea. I’ve had this

I got to 10 weeks. No scans could find the baby. The sac. I had high HCG levels. But nope. Nothing

They knew I was pregnant. I was kept in hospital. They were almost certain if miscarried.

I went and had an operation. It turns out it was in my ovary. Hence why it wasn’t seen on a scan. They tried to just take the baby and sac out

A week later I was told the operation had failed and I needed a full tube removal and ovary removal

A week later I was told that I needed a 3rd operation because I had an infection

A week later I was having a 4th operation. As someone had left something behind. But sadly they nicked my bowels and I had internal bleeding!

I nearly had to have a 5th operation a few hours later when I was told the dr did something wrong. But he will let you know!!!

However. I managed to not have the 5th operation. They were hoping for some good luck after the month of had. They hoped they’d managed to stitch up the internal bleeding and that my blood would clot. Found out years later my blood clots too much. Which is now why they can’t quite believe how well it clotted.

I wish you all the best. It’s so frightening xxx

@KJE3112 I'm so sorry OP, I really am.

Thinking of you OP. I'm sorry it's been a rollercoaster for you. Be extra kind to yourself over the next few weeks

So sorry to read your update but glad you got a clearer explanation today

So glad you got to speak to someone who sounds vaguely human rather than a robot.

I would take the 'evacuation' if I were you. That will be the least traumatic option and will put it behind you so you can try again as soon as you feel able.

I am sorry OP, but I am happy that you have had a proper explanation. 💐

@KJE3112

So, after sitting and waiting for 3 hours for my 11 o'clock appointment, we finally got to see someone! He was a lot clearer at talking things through with me and explained everything to me. Apparently they could see something on my scans yesterday! Even though they told me they couldnt. I have a few cysts filled with liquid/water within my womb, that he thinks contain pregnancy cells, causing the rise in HCG because my body is recognising the cells as a pregnancy. He told me that they have diagnosed me with a non-viable pregnancy because of these cysts and also the lack of a gestational sac or anything. His suggestion is an 'evacuation' but i can wait if i want to, but there are risks at waiting, which he did go through. Once i've been through the procedure he would like to send the cells off to be tested for a molar pregnancy as it is a possibility that this is what is causing the non-viable pregnancy, but he cant be sure until its tested. He wants it to be tested just in case, so that if i need follow up care, its available. I think ive explained everything, but, yeah i think its just not my time. Thank you everyone though, you really helped me ask all the right questions and get to the bottom of whats really happening, and youve all been really supportive!

Now, i just need to decide on my next step.

I'm so glad that you managed to get it all explained to you.

But also very sorry its not viable.

Hi guys, not sure whos left that will read this but, me and my partner both decided that the evacuation was the best way to go.
Unfortunately, during the procedure i bled out alot and ended up having to stay the night in the hospital with a 30ml balloon in my uterus. Ontop of that, theyve also found something abnormal on my cervix and i will have to go back in 6 weeks time to find out what that is, and its just a waiting game for my molar pregnancy results, although they were sent as emergency due to my situation, so hopefully wont take too long. If that comes back positive theyve said they want to do more follow up tests on me too.
Unfortunately its going to be at least a few months before were allowed to consider trying again, and im led in bed, in pain, with horrible hospital stockings on, not allowed to do anything due to the complications, and just kinda feeling sorry for myself. But, overall wanted to thank everyone for their support and sharing their experiences with me, it really has helped me through all this, so thank you.

I'm so sorry you're going through this OP.
I hope you're feeling better soon and that everything works out fine

So sorry OP. Hoping you feel better soon and get more answers. Hope it all works out for you and your family

I'm so sorry. I hope they get to the bottom of it all soon.

Sending love your way, I'm very sorry and I hope it's sorted soon and handled with sensitivity. Xxx

Oh I'm so sorry to hear your update. It's bad enough to go through this but to have complications it's even worse. I hope you have a speedy refuge and get some answers.

Sorry to read your update, get well soon!