Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Selena33]

Hello,

I just found out I’m pregnant again (very early days, 4w today). I had a mmc back in April which was diagnosed at almost 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and then I fell pregnant again but had a natural mc at 5+5.
This time I am taking progesterone pessaries and aspirin. Anyone else pregnant after a loss? I’m so scared about mmc but trying to relax as much as possible.

hello, can I join you please? I've had a total of 5 miscarriages now, and am under the care of the recurrent mc clinic at my local hospital. After bloods etc the consultant thinks that I'm hyperfertile and implant a lot of chromosomally abnormal zygotes that other bodies just would have rejected. She said my uterus was "unfussy". Where's the cry-laugh emoji?

I have a 2yo daughter but have had 2 miscarriages since her, one in Feb and one in August this year. The latest one was using cyclogen, so I do think that bean was just never going to stick. I'm waiting to test again this cycle, but I've started lactating again which I did with my last pregnancy... has anyone else had this?

@Rachae so sorry you're on such a rollercoaster at the mo. Fingers crossed for you.

I booked in for a next week at 6+6. Anyone know liklihood of seeing a heartbeat then? Worried it's going to just not reassure me at all if that's too early.

Hi guys and welcome to the new joiners! A couple more bpfs so congratulations and wish you the best ❤️

I went for a scan today at 5+6 as had a previous ectopic. Unfortunately I see it as bad news even though they didn’t want to say one way or the other. They saw a gestational sac but only measuring 4.2mm and a tiny yolk sac so really small that puts me at 4-5 weeks (more like 4) according to them. I’m very sure of when I ovulated and cycles are regular so I personally think it’s not progressing well and just been sobbing since then as this would be my 3rd mc. They will rescan in two weeks (that is such a long wait!).

Hope you are all having a good day. I feel so down I don’t think I can bear going to work in a maternity unit for 12h the next two days so may call in sick… sorry for the downer!! Xx

@TinyTickler

I booked in for a next week at 6+6. Anyone know liklihood of seeing a heartbeat then? Worried it's going to just not reassure me at all if that's too early.

It's early but it's not TOO early. I think we saw our daughter's heartbeat at around that. That said, if there wasn't a heartbeat it wouldn't mean there wasn't going to be one, so I think you need to consider whether it would set your mind at rest or make you more nervous if you went and the hb wasn't detected. Hard to say. It might be better to wait til you're into 7 weeks but tbh I'm always one for going to as many scans as possible.

@Loulou237 thanks, certainly seems like a rollercoaster yes! To be honest, I've been wondering if I now have symptoms again today but so much of it could be down to progestrone/ clexane side effects, so taking a 'who knows' approach now. It's definitely more calming :-)

@ladycarlotta thank you and it sounds like you've had such an ordeal. What does lactating mean? I've never heard of that.

@TinyTickler we saw a heartbeat at 5.4 days on my 2nd mc. But my sister who had a successful pregnancy didn't see one until 9 weeks! I think it really really varies.

@Selena33 Sending you virtual hugs, I've been here. xxx Would it help to maybe get a scan in between the 2 weeks? Appreciate that it would mean paying privately though. Gosh the scans are so hard aren't they. Hope you're looking after yourself today xx

@Rachae yes my symptoms started bang on 6+1. Until then I felt almost better than before I was pregnant! I even did a CrossFit competition at 5+6 and felt great. Since then I've not had much fun though, and that remains the last time I did exercise... except walking the dog.

@TinyTickler I had my first scan at 6+4 and saw foetal pole and little heartbeat flickering. But if there's any chance you're even a couple days less pregnant than you think then there's a chance you may not see much. I get fortnightly scans at the EPU this time around, if I had to pay for a private scan I probably would wait a little longer.

@Selena33 Sorry to hear about your scan :( two weeks is an eternity to wait for another scan!

@rachae I mean my milk's come in. In my pregnancy with my daughter it started at about 24 weeks which is much more normal but I only stopped breastfeeding her in February and it definitely dried up, but since then it seems to come back easily at the first hint of a pregnancy hormone. A mum on my old bump group had the same thing as her first symptom of pregnancy so it's not unheard of but very weird!

@Selena33 sorry to hear that it didn't go as hoped, totally understandable you can't face work x

Hi 👋 I got my bfp yesterday, after a missed period by two days. So In nhs terms 4 weeks pregnant.
We had an early miscarriage july 2018 and haven’t been able to conceive until now. Our fertility tests were clear but I was told I had a low ovarian reserve. I gave up any hope as we were told we needed ivf.
I have really sore boobs and a horrid lingering headache so far. With my last pregnancy I had zero symptoms.
I have an 11 year old daughter and I remember having terrible sore boobs with her so I’m slightly reassured but it feels like a huge hurdle to get over until 12 weeks. It’s such a horrible, anxious time. I’ve had to tell my boss I’m pregnant already as I do a really strenuous job and I don’t want to overdo it.

Congratulations to everyone and let’s hope we all get through this together.

Thank you ladies. I asked for a day off tomorrow and they are happy to give it to me xx

Hi @Selena33 I’m sorry you’re feeling so bad after your scan, it’s good you’ve got the day off tomorrow. I did hear on another ttc thread that it’s so difficult to date and measure the sac etc before later on this is why they don’t generally do early scans. So I wouldn’t be surprise if it just caught up in two weeks. I know you don’t want to get your hopes up but try not to lose hope completely. This waiting sucks and is full of so much anxiety!

Hi @Sandybeachtowel welcome to the thread and congratulations! Yes it’s a horrid long wait but if you get an early scan it could break it up a little bit xxx

👋🏻 and congratulations @Alison3190 @ladycarlotta @Sandybeachtowel

@Rachae such a rollercoaster, my very symptoms have been coming and going too. I’m hoping pregnancy is just messing with us! Are you waiting till 12 weeks for a scan?

@Selena33 sorry to hear your scan didn’t go as you’d hoped, definitely take time if you need it. The wait is horrible and two weeks feels like forever. xx

@GinnyBee Cross fit? Wow, you warrior! Very impressive. Yea I can't face exercise, the progestrone (and hopefully preg hormones) hits you so hard!

@ladycarlotta oh wow that is a positive sign then! If not quite early! 😁

@Sandybeachtowel Welcome and congratulations! 😊

@Oti21 totally! And fingers crossed it is messing with us! Yea I think I'll wait until at least 10 weeks, unless any spotting etc

Xxx

@Rachae I wish I had that will power, I’m being rescanned at 6 weeks and I’m wishing it was a bit later because I think it’ll panic me if there’s no heartbeat even though I know that’s totally normal at 6 weeks!

@Oti21 aww yea, its not even will power though to be honest! After 3 memories of bad scan appointments.. I'd really rather not know 🙈 and I think my body will make things happen if they're going to. Just can't deal with the uncertainty and anxiety - ironically don't feel anxious not knowing.

When is your scan? Xx

Friday, I should be exactly 6 weeks. I don’t blame you! I feel anxious knowing and not knowing 😅 There was a heart beat on one of my scans last time (although other things were already wrong and no heartbeat at an earlier scan) and then not at a later scan so I’m not even sure it will actually reassure me for very long! x

@Oti21 aww I totally understand the predicament. I saw a heartbeat too, so that's the reason I want to hold out as don't want to go through that again xx

@123babyno1 here you go xx

Hello. Lost my last pregnancy at 7 weeks. Found it traumatic. That was in April.

I'm now 4 weeks and so anxious. How will I ever cope? How do you get through each day? Seriously. How? I feel constantly on the verge of tears.

@PeeAche after 2 MC I got my BFP. I did pregnancy tests every day to compare them to make sure the line was getting darker. I booked scans in for more or less every week. I checked my knickers every time I went to loo for blood. It’s doesn’t get easier I’m afraid you just learn to live with it! When I got to about 15 weeks that’s when I finally started to feel a bit better yet I still didn’t feel safe to tell anyone. He arrived safely though and is now 5 months old. You just need to get through these hard times to get to the good

I had this happen to me 2 weeks ago, I went in for the scan and they could only see a gestational sac and yolk sac. Today I had to go to another scan I started crying before they scanned me as I was convinced it was bad news. To my surprise i saw my babies heartbeat. After two miscarriages I have been an anxious mess since my bfp I am going to try and remain as calm as I can now.
Don’t give up hope, a lot can happen in a couple of weeks xx

Same here @Lucy8721. I was 5.5 weeks pregnant and there was no HB. They told me to come back in 2 weeks to the EPU. How on earth could I survive 2 whole weeks? Anyway I kept testing with my cheapie tests and they got lighter one day so I immediately booked a scan for that day. I went and I saw my little baby’s heart beat. I sobbed my heart out as I saw him. I was convinced it was bad news.

Hi @PeeAche
It really does feel traumatic doesn't it :-(
I've had 3 now and I've been on forums for sometime... I've found that everyone's coping mechanisms are really individual and it also depends on where you are with your journey. Happy to share mine though:

1. Data helps but don't necessarily trust a NHS mc clinic:

I asked for mc investigations as early as poss. and the standard NHS tests said everything was 'fine' and it's unexplained. I pushed back to my GP and they referred me to Tommys - I'm now under Prof. Lesley Regan and they did find things! I had a hysteroscopy and had to have my womb re-shaped... plus now on Clexane, Progestrone and aspirin. Appreciate all of this won't be of comfort now... and I realllly hope this one works for you... but I guess just to know there's always hope. (Who knows if it will work for me this time too, as there's always chromasome mismatches)

1. Don't blame yourself: chromasome mismatches make up most early mc's and sadly there's nothing we can do about those. I find comfort in the 'bad luck' factor, rather than blaming me.

1. Scheduling fun things to keep busy: I have something in my diary every couple of days and a few hotel breaks across the next few weeks. If the worst happens, I'm socialising and not withdrawn... if it continues then my mind isn't totally focused on worry.

1. I've been there and back again with anxiety - and there will always be bouts. Having gone through it a few times, I realise now that it won't change an outcome and so I might as well stay calm and hope. There's also got to be something in staying calm for your body/ pregnancy... so if we are not in control of the outcome - may as well pick the best option for all. Letting go of the need for control seems to help me.

xxx

My DH won't recognise I'm pregnant until 12 weeks and it's adding to my distress. He just thinks I'm getting ahead of myself and won't engage in any conversation about it. When I showed him my test, it wasn't like the last time with hugging and smiling and kissing. He's absolutely convinced it is going to happen again.

I'm yo-yo-ing wildly from feeling excited to feeling doomed.

My pregnancy symptoms are much stronger this time. I'm clinging to some hope that this is a good sign.

I too am inspecting every bit of loo roll I use for blood. Taking daily tests. And checking my boobs for soreness... every... oh, I dunno... 4 minutes!!! Good job I'm WFH...

@PeeAche That's really unfair of your partner. Statistically you're likely to have a healthy pregnancy this time! Recurrent miscarriages happen only to a minority of women. I know that doesn't help with the worry, but worth keeping in mind :)