Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Selena33]

Hello,

I just found out I’m pregnant again (very early days, 4w today). I had a mmc back in April which was diagnosed at almost 12 weeks but baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks and then I fell pregnant again but had a natural mc at 5+5.
This time I am taking progesterone pessaries and aspirin. Anyone else pregnant after a loss? I’m so scared about mmc but trying to relax as much as possible.

Thank you @Selena33 and @Loulou237 💕

@Rachae congratulations to you 😊 so very tough the anxiety after loss. I've had 3 MCs too at different stages. I'm 8+3 and anxiety still hanging around and having scans at EPU every couple of weeks.
For keeping, I wouldn't say "happy" but on an even keel I suppose; I've found the Zoe Clark-Coates book "Pregnancy after loss" pretty good. Me and DH also said we'd go out for food/coffee once a week to commemorate another week, it sounds stupid but it almost feels like that signifies ticking off another week in a weird way. So we went out for breakfast this morning. Also a lot of communication and openness, it's hard for partners too as they're a bit helpless I suppose 😊

I’ve just had a miscarriage after contacting COVID. This would be my second now. I don’t know why we don’t get some help with the pain. I was admitted into the women’s unit and was left with nurses all night in terrible pain. I felt so sorry for them as they couldn’t do anything to stop my pain.

I had gas and air in the ambulance and I don’t understand why we don’t get gas and air during the miscarriage up until I passed my sac.

Anyway I hope everyone here go on to have smooth perfect pregnancy as after this I'm sitting here feeling so empty inside and just want to start trying again now but I know I can’t.

We are looking to start again next year, maybe a few months after the Christmas holidays.

Any advice in conceiving techniques that give that enable the best chance.

Hey @bez91 thank you and congratulations to you too 😘 Wow 8 weeks, that's amazing! Fingers crossed its smooth going from here for you. I totally understand the anxiety and I'm with you on eating out! Currently sat in a country cafe with my fiancé! We've booked a hotel getaway next week too and the cinema tomorrow... It's those little fun milestones to fill in the time.

@hellray im so so sorry xxx I don't know your history as in how many mcs.. it sounds like unfortunately Covid may have been the factor with this one. As someone who has had 3 mcs... My advice is to take time and heal before attempting again. Spend time with your loved ones and plan where possible some activities to look forward to.
Conception-wise.. I've found the hard way that when people say relax and have fun, it really does mean something. I obsessed over getting pregnant again after my last MC Feb 2020.. To the point of 3 rounds of IVF. The month after the last round.. We booked holidays and our wedding and looked ahead at other things in our life, and now were pregnant again! So for me, it worked to step away from the need to conceive. Xxx

Thanks @bez91 you're so right, it's so easy to overanalyse and start worrying over the smallest thing. But I don't know how anyone wouldn't with our history though. My last pregnancy was a mmc at 8+4 after I'd stopped feeling quite so awful a few days before the scan, so will just have to see. My next scan is on Thursday, moment of truth.

Hey @Selena33 I'm feeling a little bit worse again today, thanks! Not quite the level of shit I felt on Wednesday but more icky than yesterday.

Congrats @Rachae ! Hoping for a happy and healthy pregnancy for you this time!

Thanks @GinnyBee and hello! 😁

A weird and poss tmi one ladies...
Has anyone had egg white cervical mucus? I'm starting to get that instead of the watery discharge and wondering if anyone else has experienced it? (Usually only get this at ovulation) xx

Congratulations @Rachae @Loulou237 @GinnyBee

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage @hellray I had a miscarriage at the same time as I was hospitalised for another Illness. I switched between believing it cause my miscarriage and thinking it was unfortunate timing and they weren’t connected. It’s so hard because miscarriages are rarely investigated and I personally really wanted answers but nobody could give me them. Take some time for yourself and plan some things to keep you busy if you can. xx

@Rachae. I’m 5+1 and have noticed an increase in discharge (clear and egg white, watery and stretchy!) since just over 4 weeks.

Is everybody carrying on with social things as normal? I have a few things coming up including weekends away that have been tricky to plan but I’m not ready to share or get excited and they would guess straight away. The only thing I can think of is not to go and say I’m not well… They’d understand when I eventually tell but I feel bad!

Hi @Oti21 , thank you! I’m currently away at my inlaws’ and I’m normally a bit of a wino and I’m getting away with saying I’ve got a migraine for some of it and then this evening I’ve just made myself a g&t without a gin in it secretly 😂 I’ve also got a work do soon and I think im gonna do the same, just drink small amounts slowly and not say im on antibiotics or anything as people normally guess then. What do you normally drink? Xxx

Hello ladies
I’ve been at work all day long and feeling exhausted!
I am trying to be a bit less worried this time, just remind myself that today I am pregnant and that I’m so fortunate to have another chance. It may be silly given the context but being grateful works for me. While ttc this time I took the same approach, like if I wanted a drink I would have it and just allowed myself to enjoy the process.
I’m not sure exactly why but the first and second time I was terrified about mc and this time I’m more relaxed, perhaps because I know whatever happens it will just be fine (although at the same time I feel like I couldn’t cope with another loss!)

My social life is not very exciting since Covid started so it’s easy for me but I’m having dinner with my brother next week and trying to think what excuse I’m going to tell them when I say no to the wine! I kind of like the antibiotics one 👍🏼

😂 good job @Loulou237 I wish I liked tonic!!

I’m supposed to be going to Edinburgh in a couple of weeks with friends and ideas have been floated around including bottomless brunch… so I would really struggle to hide it! Saying that I started very lightly brown spotting when wiping this evening and it’s turning pink (why I’m awake at 2am). It’s not like my last miscarriage but it’s earlier on and I just have a horrible feeling after being more positive the last couple of days 😕

I don’t see any point in calling the EPU, thinking I’ll just have to wait for Friday’s scan although since Wednesday I’ve been finding it very hard to do normal things like work. I feel like the unspoken expectation is you should carry on and I really don’t know how people do it!

Hope you have some rest days coming up @Selena33

@Selena33 have you ever done or are the type to do sober October? That's a handy excuse if you're the type that people would believe doing it.

@Selena33 I think the antibiotic one wears a bit thin as most antibiotics can now be taken with alcohol 🤦🏼‍♀️ maybe a migraine, driving?
@GinnyBee sober October one is good if you're the type to do it.
I've had a couple of occasions I've refused but it's not been suspicious so dinner over at my brothers middle of the afternoon so said I was driving (did mean I did have to force DH to drink)

@Oti21 hope the spotting has eased off this morning and you managed to get some sleep

Morning everyone!
@Oti21 hope things have eased and you're ok xx

Looks like I'm out, sadly. Given I've had 3 in the past, the exact same thing happens every time. My boobs were semi-hurting when I suspected BFP and then waned off. They are now smaller than ever and I've woke up feeling super energised and motivated. So I think MC is imminent. It sounds silly without the blood but legit happens this way every time. I just don't think there's much hcg left in my body at all now. (Totally understand the 'there's always hope' 'it's not over till its over' sentiments but it works for me to just accept things now and get on with life)

I'm taking a positive from this, that across my IVF cycles, I never thought I'd get pregnant naturally again. I guess it's a numbers game as I've had all the investigations and hopefully next time will be the one that sticks!

Lots of love and luck to you all in your journeys 😊 xxx

Ah wish I’d thought of sober for October at the beginning of the month!

My spotting has stopped completely and my boob pain has returned. I’m also seriously constipated which was the opposite yesterday. I just don’t know what to think, only time will tell I suppose. Has anybody gone private for bloods/investigations? I’m wondering about my progesterone levels etc but not sure I’ll be able to talk the EPU or my GP in to doing them because I haven’t had 3 miscarriages. I just wonder if I can find out what’s happening whilst I’m pregnant even if it’s unlikely to have a good ending if it could help in the future.

Sorry to hear that @rache you know yourself best and it’s definitely a positive you’ve got pregnant again naturally. Good luck on your journey too xx

Sorry to hear that @Rachae
Did you have any supporting medication this time? Progesterone pessaries, aspirin, any of that?

I'm fluctuating in my hopefulness. I had three days of very little symptoms after two weeks of being pretty useless and not capable of much. Yesterday towards the evening I felt a little bit 'bleugh' again, and then this morning after waking up suspiciously (worryingly) early I've just had a nap right after breakfast. So I don't know. Counting the days until Thursday for my scan.

Thanks @Oti21 xx
@GinnyBee thanks, yes I had a hysteroscopy and they found a uterine septum... bloods which revealed I need Clexane until 36 weeks, progestrone 800mg a day and baby aspirin. So I'm pretty confident this one is the old unlucky chromosome issue. Xx

Ah that really sucks @Rachae ! Just as you think all issues are covered :( big hugs! xx

Thanks @GinnyBee xx I've taken a digital today and it now shows 'not pregnant' so sadly it's confirmed. I guess sometimes you just know 😢 Good luck to everyone else and baby dust xxx

So sorry to hear @Rachae take care of yourself xxx

Hi all,

Thought I would jump on as I'm in the same boat. Me and my partner have been trying for two years and unfortunately experienced a MMC at 8 weeks in December 2020.

We had a BFP on Saturday morning and since then I've been so anxious! It should be such a happy time but I'm comparing it to the pregnancy in December and worrying so much! The EPU said we could have an early reassurance scan if we fell pregnant again so I think I'm going to arrange that for around 7 weeks. I'm currently 4 weeks 4 days and know the wait will kill me!

@Rachae I'm so sorry for your loss, sending lots of love ❤

Sending love @Rachae, what a shitter .

Thanks everyone ❤️

So I feel like a bit of a tit.. but it turned out to be a false negative 🙈 (Took 2 more including one this evening and both positive)

I'm still really leaning towards low hcg levels with waning symptoms... but I thought I'd update everyone as I didn't even know false negatives were possible on a digital! (Until I googled and there's loads- what a waste of money) in case it happens to anyone else. Never trust clear blue digital! Xx

Oh wow @Rachae what a confusing and upsetting couple of days. I hope you’re ok. How are you feeling now? I hope you don’t mind me asking but do you have any children? I’ve got a little girl and whenever I get worried I try and remember what my pregnancy with her was like. Normally doesn’t help as I have a terrible memory, haha. Hope you’re doing ok today, thinking of you xxx

Oh wow @Rachae how stressful! Not everyone has symptoms though so it's entirely possible everything is still fine. Can you get your hcg levels taken at the EPU or something?

Thanks @Loulou237 sadly not, just 3 mcs 😟 I'm feeling ok I guess.. Resolved that if its happening again, it must be a chromasome mismatch as I've literally got all the anti-MC armour in the world here 😂 So in that, there's really nothing I can do and stressing won't help.
@GinnyBee yea I thought of that but I think the wait between the tests will be agonising and cause even more grief... So I think I'm just going to wait it out. I've read 50% of women don't get symptoms until week 6, so if I make it that far there's always that? The line on my test was quite good yesterday too and I've always had faint ones.

How's everyone else doing? Xxx

@Rachae ah ok, I’m so sorry for your losses. I remember with my daughter’s pregnancy my symptoms would disappear and then come back a few days later as it was my body getting used to the hormones and then they would surge again. But like Ginny says it’s entirely possible you just won’t get many symptoms. It’s such a cruel waiting game isn’t it. Everything crossed for you xxx