Due May 2022 Thread 2

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So I've just made a new thread for us due in May 2022, our first thread is getting close to finishing so please join in here if your due in may 2022.

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Hi 👋🏻 Does anyone have an tips or recommendations for the nausea? It’s wiping me out everyday and getting worse. Should I contact my dr for something? At this point I don’t know how I will even work going forward. I never suffered like this first time round and I can safely say I am not enjoying it one bit. Feeling very down with it all and not how I want to be feeling with my pregnancy. It seems small but everyday and night is a struggle. X

@Positive21 tbh I've haven't had too many symptoms either so it definitely was reassuring to see everything as it should be on the screen. I've told my mum because we went to hers for a couple of days to look after her horses while she was away for the night with work & obviously I'm being very careful round them. Haven't told anyone else yet but planning to after our scan Monday. Are you waiting until after your scan?

@Sarah239 thank you! I'm sure you'll get some lovely pictures for yours!

@MarmaladeToastAndAMarmaladeCat @aNewYorkerInLondon thank you both 💕

@Mel1917. Ah you have my sympathies, I too am suffering with nausea. Constant waves of it all day. I haven’t got any tips other than nibbling on dry toast and sipping ice cold water. I don’t cope well with nausea or vomiting at the best of times, seem to regress back to a tearful 4yr old, but definitely struggling when it’s constant like this.

I’ve had to switch my pregnancy vits as Pregnacare was just making me worse. I’d start heaving as soon as I opened the bottle. Starting on a Seven Seas version tonight which has ginger in it.

I think I’m going to have to tell work earlier than I wanted, just so they know why my performance has nosedived recently.

@AMM86 did you decide to get seen or are you going to see how you go? Hope you're feeling a bit better x

@Etonmess20 it's definitely reassuring to know we all have very different things going on.

I have a horse and he's certainly not being more delicate around me 😂 but he's my OG baby, I've had him 19 years!

Yeah we are waiting for the early scan. I've told a friend, my work supervisor and obvs my OH at the moment. I want to shout it at anyone who will listen but also think it's fun walking around with a little grin, especially when people make comments about "it'll be your turn soon" because they know how much I want kids 😂

@Etonmess20 Currently feeling ok but will call someone or go to walk in centre tomorrow if I feel anything again. My anxious brain is not good for being pregnant!

Thanks everyone who’s reassured me!

@Mel1917

Hi 👋🏻 Does anyone have an tips or recommendations for the nausea? It’s wiping me out everyday and getting worse. Should I contact my dr for something? At this point I don’t know how I will even work going forward. I never suffered like this first time round and I can safely say I am not enjoying it one bit. Feeling very down with it all and not how I want to be feeling with my pregnancy. It seems small but everyday and night is a struggle. X

You have my sympathies I honestly feel wiped out unable to even keep water down. I am thinking to call the gp on Monday because I don't think I can carry on like this. My ds has both medical and special needs really struggling to do everything when feeling like this.

@Positive21 DP is non horsey & basically insisted I wasn't to do anything with them really other than direct him in what to do. Luckily all of them behaved (she has 4 big eventers who are quite highly strung!) she's already talking about a pony for the baby 😂
I'm not going to lie I've spent most of the afternoon looking at the videos & pictures from our scan this morning & I still can't really believe it. The lady said they're 1cm long but yet they have a visibly beating heart....my mind is blown!!

@AMM86 you'll get there, you're still getting used to it all & everything's kicking in - none of which you've experienced before. It's bound to put you on edge. Take care of yourself & try to relax, growing a little one is hard work!! X

@Etonmess20 my OH has had to accept the horse always came first 😂 but he is a good egg and helps out if I need it. Mine is retired so luckily not riding anyway but I'm sure he will be ok to handle, he's normally very good.

I don't blame you, I would do exactly the same!

Morning everyone, is anyone else feeling overly anxious? This is my second pregnancy, I can’t remember ever feeling as anxious as this last time.

I’m now 7+4 and have this awful feeling that things just aren’t right. I’ve not had any bleeding but hurt my back (trying to pick up my almost 2 year old and a bag of cat litter at the same time 🤦‍♀️) on Friday and have had lower back pain since then.

I never normally feel like this, don’t think the lack of sleep or nausea is helping either - can’t remember it being like this last time at all.

Hey ladies,

Just catching up with everyone's post, so lovely seeing more early scan!

So many local ladies! I'm local to Dartford and booking in at Darent Valley!

I had my early scan on Friday and was a complete nervous wreck after 3 year ttc and failed IVF in May me and DH had gotten used to receiving bad news.

The scan went well but has left me completely mind blown.. scan showed two sacs one showed baby on the right place measuring at 5w6d and we could hear a heart beat, the second sac was hidden behind so they couldn't see it properly so rebooked us in for Friday. Feeling a rush of way too many emotions, has this been experienced by anyone?

@Jojo7979 I feel exactly the same. I woke up this morning and had a bit of cramping but my sickness had gone which made me really worry. It's come back a bit since but I can't shake feeling worried today. I've got an early scan next Saturday and we told a few friends this weekend so maybe I'm overthinking it. 😔

@concreterose31 fingers crossed for your next scan!

Hi ladies, I've woken up this morning and all symptoms have completely disappeared 😟 I don't know what to think but feeling really anxious about it all today. Has this happened to anyone else where one day they wake up and feel completely normal? I'm only 5 weeks but am worried about the sudden absence of symptoms

@concreterose31 I'll be booking in at Darent Valley too! What does that mean there's two sacs? Twins?

@Jojo7979 It’s my second too and I’m so anxious! With my first I took a test on the day I was due on, got a strong positive and everything proceeded as normal. This time I had loads of faint tests that took ages to get stronger, random stomach twinges that get me worrying. I’m just convinced something is going to go wrong! I really don’t remember feeling this stressed first time around at all but am I just remembering wrong?!

Thank you @Bubbasmama2017 good luck with you scan! How many weeks will you be at that point?

@acupofteamakeseverythingbetter
Aww amazing! With early pregnancy symptoms it's so complex.. I also find myself anxious when the symptoms disappear but also panicking that symptoms may finally be here for 9months!
Currently feeling lots of pulls and twinges

@concreterose31 I'll be 8 weeks+2 so I'm hoping they'll be able to hear a heart beat

Hi everyone, would it be okay to join this thread?
Got my BFP last Monday and think I should be due around 24th May. Currently 5+4. This is my first pregnancy. I had to register at a new GP due to moving house and they said to give them a call in 2 weeks time to make an appointment. I had awful nausea a few days before I got my BFP but that seems to have gone. Had cramping occasionally throughout the day for the last week lasting about 10mins at a time and feel quite tired but otherwise no other symptoms. Does this sound normal? Me and DH are debating about whether to book an early scan, just for reassurance really and I'm just so impatient!
Anyway hope you're all doing okay and would be lovely to chat x

Ladies I need some advice. My anxiety is really bad at the moment. I'm scared if something were to go wrong, and I'm excited and it's just a total overload of emotions.

I've not told family yet and normally talk to them about everything, and I've had a really awful year with anxiety since March last year because of a personal issue in which I eventually had private and NHS therapy, did some CBT courses and was on beta blockers for a short time.

I am a million times better but I am quite an over sharer (incase anyone hadn't noticed) and I feel like it makes me seem crazier than I am because I don't hold back anything, I literally say everything. I wish I didn't but it's been my way of coping.

I feel like I'm struggling most at the moment because I don't have family I can talk to. We plan on telling them after our early scan on Friday, but my OH is concerned for me and states it has gone on too long and I need to speak to the midwife but I don't see what they can do. I'm already writing positive affirmations and doing some of the things I've been taught I just feel like it's difficult and my OH doesn't really understand my anxieties at the moment. Anyone else struggling badly? Does it get better?

@Positive21 I am only 5 weeks but have told a couple of people I am close to. If anything was to go wrong, I'd much rather be able to chat to family/best mate instead of dealing with it on my own. Would it help your anxiety to tell your close family? Might be adding more stress/anxiety having to keep it to yourself x

@Positive21, you're not overreacting - this is a really big thing you're doing! I agree with @Erica1983. It's important to have people you can confide in. I told my best friend the same day as my BFP (@ 4 weeks). She's been my TTC guru, as she just had her first in January and has just been through it all. I also told my trainer so that we can plan my sessions accordingly. We told my parents at about 6 weeks along. I wanted to be able to talk to them about how I was feeling and also would want their support if things go badly. I'm 8 weeks now and have recently told my manager at work, because I'll be needing some time for appointments in the next few weeks. Everyone is sworn to secrecy and have been super supportive.

I feel that telling a few trusted support people is essential to getting through these early times. Do what feels right for you, and don't just bite your tongue and hope it gets better on its own.

@Positive21 I can empathise a lot. I had some mental health treatment for anxiety in March 2020 (worked well with lockdown!) and I’m having to pull a lot of my tips and tricks that work for me to try and keep calm.
I’m absolutely convinced because I had my scan at 6+4, I’m going to have a missed miscarriage and not even realise it. I’m trying to hold out to my next private scan at 10 weeks (8 tomorrow) but struggling.
I would echo the other comments though that the best thing that’s helped is building up that small support network around me and even though I’ve spoke to none of them about this fear today, I feel like I’ve put good energy out in the world that people are excited and care for my little one and it’s helped a lot. The other bit I’ve been using is the worry tree methodology and literally trying to put it out my mind but it’s so hard. I had a FaceTime with my family and a bath with my OH to try keep me distracted and that’s all I can recommend if you don’t want to share further ❤️ But always reach out here if you need!

It's such a worrying time isn't it, I've been consumed with anxiety today. I'm glad I've got my scan next weekend but so worried what the outcome will be. Also a couple of people we've told have made comments about having the scan saying they just waited til the 12 week one as it's not even that much longer to wait! I'm sure they think I'm being over the top with booking a private one but I couldn't wait that long to check everything is ok! Has anyone else had an odd reaction to getting a private scan?

@Positive21 I would definitely speak to your midwife about it. I had some good support with anxiety (NHS CBT) during my pregnancy last time and from what I've heard there is more focus on mental health now.

@Erica1983 @aNewYorkerInLondon @LS2020 @Bubbasmama2017

Thank you all so much for replying. I've had a much better evening, took myself for a walk after work for some me time and I'm just reminding myself it's ok to feel worry, just try not to latch onto it so it runs away with me!

I definitely know what you mean about telling people. If my anxiety was this bad earlier in the pregnancy I think I would have told someone but now it feels like it's only really four days until our early scan, I just have to keep my head down!

I did tell my supervisor at work yesterday as I was bursting to tell someone! I'm just my own worst enemy and spend too much time in my own head. I did this last year when I switched jobs, it was hard to me to settle but I know I can do it again. Just need to re-visit some coping mechanisms for definite and mention this to the midwife too just so that they are aware of what has gone on. I think I like to pretend I'm ok rather than just being upfront!

I am really excited to just feel more settled and content. I'm hoping the early scan will definitely help with that, and what will be, will be. I actually faced my fears earlier today and wrote down exactly my main fears and an answer to them. That way it's in black and white to snap me out of it and remind myself that nothing I've done will affect the outcome of this. I've done everything I can, nature will decide the rest. And hopefully I have nothing to worry about.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you all so much. I think sometimes it can feel lonely or confusing and scary but it doesn't need to. Hundreds of women go through pregnancy daily. We got this 😅

@Bubbasmama2017 I've luckily not had an adverse reaction to getting an early scan, although it has taken everything in my will power to not move it earlier even by a few days! I will be 8+3 when we have our scan Friday morning 💕