Due May 2022 Thread 2

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So I've just made a new thread for us due in May 2022, our first thread is getting close to finishing so please join in here if your due in may 2022.

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@LS2020 I really want ready salted crisps at the moment, not even a ready salted fan usually! Me & DP went to Kos on our first holiday together, lovely place!!

@hewegoagain I feel similar really, my main symptom is the tiredness & I have to nap every day or else I'm foul by the afternoon 😂
I think I might need some maternity jeans soon, I really don't like things on my stomach so my normal jeans (although I can do them up) are so uncomfortable!

@Positive21 you shouldn't laugh should you but that is funny 😂 it's so bizarre some of the things that make you wretch. I was walking down the frozen aisle in Morrisons desperately trying not to look at any food 😂

@hewegoagain those stats are what keep me sane!!!

@hewegoagain Well I am craving both fruit and salt so not sure where that old wives' tale leaves me! I know it's not twins! 😅

[quote hewegoagain]@Babydreams135 Hi. Can't really help I'm afraid. I'm 36 so I can relate to the age anxiety, although I was more worried about conceiving really.

I decided not to go for early scans for exactly this reason. I imagine that the reassurance doesn't last very long.

I suffer from anxiety generally so try to be reasonable with myself and think 'csn I change this?'. Worrying about our babies in normal but in the long run, what will be will be and no amount of scans or worrying is going to change the fact that baby will be healthy, or they won't be.

I found these stats this morning that might be helpful, the risk of MC actually drops significantly at 8 weeks. I'm currently 8+6 after a MC in June so found this slight reassuring.

The overall probability of a pregnancy ending in miscarriage in the UK is:
25% at four weeks;
5% at eight weeks;
1.7% at 12 weeks;
0.5% at 16 weeks

I'm quite logic based so these number help me feel a bit more at ease 😅[/quote]
You are so right thank you so much. Those stats help a lot ♥️♥️♥️

Hello from Glasgow👋
Very nervously joining you here as I’m convinced I’ll jinx things by saying the p word out loud…
Previous MMC and a whole lot of spotting this time round so my anxiety is through the roof. Counting down the days til my early scan!

@PsychoDeMayo welcome I know exactly how you feel but decided it’s better to hear from lots of people in the same stage and interesting to see everyone’s different symptoms. I also had a MMC

@Babydreams135 I do also psych myself out with lots of bad news. I think it’s difficult to control or explain to other people who are laid back.

Appreciate all the statistics though from everyone. They are actually more positive than you automatically think

Hi ladies! I do think that the boards can sometimes make anxiety worse. At the same time, being pregnant is all I can think about.

I've found reading actual books - no internet click spiraling! - to be really helpful. A friend gave me a copy of The Positive Birth Book and it really gave me some constructive, helpful things to think about. I highly recommend it!

blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/The-Positive-Birth-Book-by-Milli-Hill/9781780664309

@aNewYorkerInLondon totally agree about books. That's all I had with DS, but 10 years ago there weren't as many forums etc as there are now. I still have 2 beautiful books which are informative with out any of the 'horror' stories you can sometimes find on these boards. I haven't got around to getting them out yet as I don't want DS to see them, we haven't told him yet.

Welcome @PsychoDeMayo so sorry about your loss. Fingers crossed for you this time 🤞💐

Hi all due 4th May but baby will be born in April should I join this thread or April

@Hmumoftw0 welcome. I'd say where ever you feel more comfortable.

Morning all, feeling a bit strange this morning. I dreamt about miscarrying last night. I also dreamt about miscarrying the night before I miscarried before. Feeling paranoid this morning 🥺

Oh @hewegoagain that sounds really stressful! Be kind to yourself today, take it easy if you can. Your baby will be just fine.

Just wanted to see what everyone thought, I’m 7+3 today by my LMP but I know I ovulate late so expect I’m more like 6+5. I’m only going to have one early reassurance scan and would like to get the most out of it as possible, ie see something that looks like a baby! When would you all recommend booking for?

@PairOfPears thank you for your kind message.

I think a lot of people say 7/8 weeks for a reassurance scan. It's not really done where I live so I can be much help I'm afraid. With DS we had a scan at 10 weeks because of some bleeding and there was very little different between that scan and the 12 week one he looked very much like a baby by that point.

@hewegoagain I’m so sorry you’ve had that nightmare. As @PairOfPears says, try to take it easy today. I realise it happened before, but it didn’t happen because you had the nightmare - it was just a very upsetting coincidence. Please try to think positive and take it day by day

@hewegoagain I was wondering about the cravings because I've had both! Loving cheese and salty crisps but also sweets (although they are sour ones!) and bakewell slices at the moment 😂

My skin has broken out but I have no sickness. Family are taking guesses already. They've got a long wait because we aren't finding out the gender 😂 OH and I keep referring to Bean as he, but his mum and my dad both think girl!

@Babydreams135 I think it's just natural. Men don't seem to worry as much, they find it a lot easier to be "I can't do anything to change the situation so why be anxious about it". I'm sure not all of them but seems like quite a few are that way inclined. Like hewegoagain said, it's out of our hands, we just have to be patient. I only had my scan on Friday so I'm ok at the moment but I'll still be a nightmare for probably two weeks before the 12 week scan.

@Etonmess20 I imagine that was difficult 😂

@PsychoDeMayo welcome and fingers crossed all is smooth sailing xx

@aNewYorkerInLondon books are a good call! I need to be occupied at my desk at work between calls but can't pull out a baby book just yet. People are already suspicious because I sit looking at travel system reviews 🤦🏼‍♀️😂 "just being prepared"

@hewegoagain hope you are ok after that dream.

@PairofPears we had our early scan at 8+3. Could see and hear the heartbeat, and a little bean with limb buds 🥰

@Positive21 ah that sounds lovely! I might push to 9 weeks in case they date me further behind and then hopefully I can feel quite confident. Less of a wait then until the 12 week one as well 😁

@PairofPears that's why I kept telling myself. I was getting jealous of everyone having 6/7 week scans but it's definitely less of a wait till the 12 week scan!

Hi everyone, hope you are all ok, despite the sickness, nausea, aversion to food, cramps etc etc.

I’ve had my booking appointment with the midwife this week, a phone call yesterday then a face to face for bloods today. I’m going to be under consultant care due to having an emergency c section with my first baby.

So now to wait for my 12 week scan date to be sent through and my appointment with the consultant, which will be by phone.

Has anyone else been under consultant care before, is it much different to midwife led care? Is it just some extra monitoring? Which may make up a bit for having less midwife appointments compared to first pregnancy!

Had my scan yesterday to check for ectopic. I thought I was 6+1 but realised later that my cycle is longer so actually was probably 5+6. We could see the gestational sac and the yolk and the sonographer thought she could maybe see the beginnings of something like a fetal pole. They said I was probably earlier than I thought and needed to come back a week later to be rescanned. The doctor who I saw afterwards then agreed I could have it on Friday instead, so 4 days later.

I'm not expecting good news. I feel like the doctor would have been more reassuring, instead she said they'd definitely be able to see if it was viable or not by Friday. She was quite cold about it and really rushed so we couldn't ask questions. But I feel like she was dropping a hint that it might not be viable, to prepare us.
I feel like you couldn't possibly see that much difference in 4 days, so they're probably just expecting to confirm that nothing has grown and that's why she was willing to bring it forward

Now every cramp (which I've had since the start of the pregnancy) has me thinking a mc is about to start. It's so hard just waiting for either the scan with likely bad news or for something to start happening. I'm so scared of the pain too 😢

I'm sorry to bring anyone down, but was just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this?

Hi @Hyggeandhugs I had the same thing - I had bleeding so had a scan at what I thought was 6w5 ish but I was actually measuring a week behind and no heart beat, only yolk sac visible despite transnational scan. I didn't have a huge amount of hope.

I had another scan at 8weeks by LMP and measured 7w - heartbeat found at that stage and all looked good which was a welcome shock. This is my first pregnancy so it's been a steep learning curve but just wanted to say that you should prepare yourself but don't lose all hope.

I am going to do the NIPT soon (expensive, but I want to know soon if there's something wrong that caused the bleeding) and am cautiously optimistic. Good luck with the next scan x

@Hyggeandhugs

Had my scan yesterday to check for ectopic. I thought I was 6+1 but realised later that my cycle is longer so actually was probably 5+6. We could see the gestational sac and the yolk and the sonographer thought she could maybe see the beginnings of something like a fetal pole. They said I was probably earlier than I thought and needed to come back a week later to be rescanned. The doctor who I saw afterwards then agreed I could have it on Friday instead, so 4 days later.

I'm not expecting good news. I feel like the doctor would have been more reassuring, instead she said they'd definitely be able to see if it was viable or not by Friday. She was quite cold about it and really rushed so we couldn't ask questions. But I feel like she was dropping a hint that it might not be viable, to prepare us.
I feel like you couldn't possibly see that much difference in 4 days, so they're probably just expecting to confirm that nothing has grown and that's why she was willing to bring it forward

Now every cramp (which I've had since the start of the pregnancy) has me thinking a mc is about to start. It's so hard just waiting for either the scan with likely bad news or for something to start happening. I'm so scared of the pain too 😢

I'm sorry to bring anyone down, but was just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this?

I had a scan at 4 week 6 as I was ivf and I thought I was having an ectopic so wanted to check. It only showed a gestational sac and I was worried sick. My doc didn’t seem worried. I went for another scan at 6 weeks 1 day and I saw everything including heartbeat. My doctor says things change so so quickly every single day. I was a wreck waiting for that scan and I think I have carried the anxiety with me up to now. I hope everything turns out well on Friday and your little one has grown and you can see a lot more xxx

@Babydreams135 and @JuneauBound thank you for giving me a bit of hope

Please don't everyone else stop posting all your wonderful positive stories either, I don't want to have ruined this happy thread and reading them gives me hope too!

@Hyggeandhugs - you haven't ruined anything. We're all hoping and praying for a good scan for you on Friday!

I've got my Panorama NIPT scan and blood draw tomorrow and I'm starting to get really nervous. DH isn't allowed in the clinic with me but he's coming anyway and will wait outside to help me stay calm and know he's right there should anything with the scan look wrong. I feel really lucky.

@Hyggeandhugs, maybe the doc though she was being nice by scheduling the scan sooner, so less time to wait and worry? Sometimes a bad beside manner hides good intentions.

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