Minsters side car bumping along- ttc thread graduates 3

[Justanothercyster]

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@Minster2012 wish I'd gone for that one from the off but I think the one we have does until 18 months and then I'll invest in one of those for the next 18 months+
Not sure how it works where you are but will you get a monthly clinic with your obstetric consultant? I did and found it actually quite helpful. I was brave enough this time (think it's an age thing) to actually ask questions rather than just going "yes, ok" every time!
I wouldn't worry about not showing much, in my first pregnancy I didn't really show at all, just looked like I had got a bit chubbier. 3 weeks before I went on mat leave one of the girls from another department asked my friend if I was expecting or if I'd just put on a bit of weight as she didn't want to be rude 🤣🤣 that was at 34 weeks! Both babies were same size but this time I had a bump a lot earlier but guess that's the joy of all the muscles having been stretched before.

@Florence13 that was me when @lucyrp shared pics of Evelyn! I ended up only having to wait a week! How far along are you?

@bez91 I haven't actually bought any in ages but always used that link I posted below. My sister in law has family in oz so I just place my order when they are sending anything home too 🤣 it's good for everything!!

@2020mission I had loads of growth scans as Katie was just a wee toot, all they want to check is that baby is growing consistently and that they haven't either stopped growing or are losing weight. Once they confirmed she was just going to be a tiddler I didn't have to have any more other than the standard scans for being high risk/type 1 diabetic. It's nice getting to see them again 🥰

@Gem176 I’m 39 weeks ☺️ hoping I don’t have too much longer to wait!

@Florence13 how exciting! Maximum of 3 weeks and that's worst case! Do you know if it's a boy or a girl or have you kept it a surprise like @Justanothercyster?

Oh and @Justanothercyster have you been given the green light for tomorrow yet or still waiting to hear?

@Gem176 yes I've been told I'm consultant led so def get the clinic appointments with hull (where I will give birth) but not def on the extra scans, and I also have additional telephone antenatal endocrine appointments with Leeds st James where my endocrine & oncology is based. In Dec I'm also due my oncology scans too which are put off a month so though I can't have a chest ct scan I can have my neck ultrasound, and they think I can have my abdo mri but they need to check, so that's Leeds LGI & St James 😂😂🤣so I'm all over the place 😂🤣 (Leeds is 1.5 hours each way from me, hull about 45 mins each way when you've parked, 25 mins in theory as crow flies) gotta love the countryside 😄

I've just been told my SIL has just had a grow scan (due 12th Dec) as they were worried she's small bit baby is actually MASSIVE. Sges had 2 massive babies, nearly 10lb each. But She's one of the ones who goes back to size 8 straight away so that's why MIL thinks it's easy (& MIL is also size 8 but tall). This will NOT happen to me. Especially if I can't exercise. Humph. Humph humph.

@Florence13 def not long To wait now 🙏🏻🙏🏻

Ps @Gem176 DS happily demonstrating how much he loves the seat as he zzzzzzzzzz away whilst I'm sat here having pulled up at the shops 😂😂so we've had that since 2018 it's only been removed once by Halfords to check the position I would recommend it to anyone

@Gem176 yes hopefully not the three weeks haha and we are having a surprise ☺️

@Minster2012 no not long at all, and your scan is getting closer! Don’t think I’ll be popping back to a size 8 anytime soon without exercise as I feel huge 😂

@Gem176 I have to ring first thing tomorrow to find out :)

@Minster2012 I feel ya on all the travelling for appointments when you live a la countryside.... worth it though for the free range children 🤣 I complained about all the travelling until my sister in law pointed out that when she had her kids there was no bridge, just a ferry and you had to go and live in hospital accommodation from 39 weeks 😱 potentially a 3 week stay!! Suddenly it didn't seem so bad!! It's funny, all the extra appointments are reassuring and I cannot imagine having a baby and only seeing a community midwife a handful of times your whole pregnancy! I mean who would I take my pages of research to, who would I argue with about studies into effectiveness of certain medications 🙈 I was a real PITA 🤣 but I got on well with my consultant in the end! He actually emailed to say congratulations and sorry he missed me on evening rounds but didn't think anyone was crazy enough to travel 3 hours home 24 hours after a c section!
I love Xs outfit! I do think sleeping children make the best ads for products 😂

10lbs+ 😲 I weighed Katie last night and she's only 9lbs2 at 9 weeks old!!! Some of us obviously just grow tiddlers and some of us grow whoppers! The rolls on bigger babies is so achingly cute though 😍

@Florence13 I wish I was patient enough to have waited for a surprise but I'm just far too impatient and knew with all the extra scans I'd probably have spied something anyway because no way was I not looking at the monitor, gotta see bub as often as possible!! Are you all organised with bags packed etc? I took nice smellies for that first shower and it was blissful after a few hours laying in a boiling hot ward! The seat in the shower was particularly handy as I was still a bit bambi on ice after the spinal 😅

Jabs today and I nearly cried myself, it's the worst but for the best reason! OH chickened out had to work so I was flying solo! The wee soul has been asleep since. Hopefully she is back to herself tomorrow in time for her first bonfire 🔥

Ugh, please skim past if you want as this is a random rant and I just need to get it off my chest.

So my mum is a reactive alcoholic, I won't go into the whole history but when I moved to the uk at 18 she had a breakdown and moved back to Poland to live with her messed up parents. Over the past 10 years our relationship took a dive as she was abusive towards me when drunk and I kept a distance between us. She has no one else because she's pushed everyone away because of her stupid behaviour, her druggie bf died, but I'm the only one who would still talk to her because basically, she'd kill herself if I didn't. But since her mum died she actually started to get a bit of help with her mental health, and since I got pregnant it's like she's making up for lost time and has even moved 40 mins away from me.
She had no job for the last 10 years but obviously ran out of divorce money, so she's now working which is great, and she's doing a lot better, but, and this is what's stressing me out, she won't leave me alone! She literally calls me everyday to talk about random crap (mostly her), but also the baby. It's too much! I've even told her we don't need to talk everyday because there's nothing left to say...

She seems to think she'll be really involved in our lives with the baby, and I guess I'm just feeling pissed off because she couldn't give a rats arse about me the last decade and suddenly now she wants to be "grandma extraordinaire". I won't ever cut her out completely but I just feel like she's smothering me now because she's guilty about the last decade, but she still to this day won't admit she ever had or has a drinking problem. It messed me up big time when I was a teenager, so when my parents broke up and I moved here it was actually a relief! I've actually started to ignore some calls because it's just too much, like today she's called me twice to tell me about her day. I know it sounds bitchy but I don't care! I'm being induced tomorrow, and she's making everything about her. She even said "give (dh) my number so he can call me whilst your in labour to give me updates because I'll be panicking otherwise". Fuck. Off.
I told her no, she'll get a text when we go in, and a text when we're home because it's a private experience and not about her...
and she keeps telling random strangers she's about to be a grandma and all the things she's looking forward to. Oh lovely, what a way to make yourself look good and not also tell them how abusive she was towards me every time she got drunk for 10 bloody years.
GAH. Sorry. Very long but I just needed to get it off my chest. Not expecting any advice or anything but I just find it overwhelming sometimes how every happy event seems to be overshadowed by her. Don't even get me started about our wedding 😑

@Justanothercyster solidarity with you on that one, read the whole thing as my dad is an alcoholic. Has been all my life and was also very verbally avid I've when drunk. He has an evil tongue. Our relationship is very rocky at times, we are currently no contact as I just can't deal with his twisted behaviour. I tend to avoid him when he's drinking to save an argument where I may say something I regret. He doesn't understand ignoring him is so that we can maintain some sort of relationship when he's sober (rarely these days). This week he called to tell me if I didn't speak to him he was going to call social services as I let DD go to Blackpool with my mum and I'm a disgrace for not putting her to school (it was the October holidays but he's that out of it he didn't realise) so I have cut all contact. I can forgive many things but threats against my children are not one of them.
My mum has been no contact with her mum for over 20 years. She was also an alcoholic and had a vicious tongue. I hope you can find a situation that you are comfortable with. Be that no contact, limited contact or a full and loving relationship. It's very hard with people who cannot admit they have a problem. Rant here all you want or pm me on Instagram, either way don't let it eat away at you in the run up to labour and delivery. Look after yourself ❤️❤️

@Gem176 yes finally got around to packing my hospital bag think I’m all sorted now. I’ve had to have extra scans due to growing an apparent tiddler as well but have looked away whenever they have been looking in that area.

Aww I hope she is all recovered from her jabs tomorrow I feel it would break my heart too.

@Justanothercyster oh hun that sounds rough going sorry I have no wise words of wisdom but I can empathise my Mum completely disowned me a few months back. I won’t go into details long story but I have a feeling she will suddenly want to be back in my life when this baby makes an appearance.

@Florence13 she is just very sleepy and out of sorts, it was heartbreaking and she hasn't been smiley so I'm sure she's holding a grudge against me as she smiled for sil 💔

Have to say my mum and I also don't have the best relationship and she tends to take life's stresses out on me so when her sister died I bore the brunt of it and she didn't speak to me at all for over a year. Disowned. We are civil just now but I haven't spent Christmas with her since 2016. She sees nothing wrong with past behaviour and conveniently forgets what she has said and done. I've learnt to accept apologies I've never been given ❤️

@Florence13 tiddlers are awesome! I've had two and love nothing more than photographing them next to random household objects to show how small they are 😂

@Justanothercyster that's rough and I think even more of a dilemma once you have your own DC as you want to protect them from what you went through. Think of your own little family unit now and what's best for your mental health will be best for baby for sure 😊 I lost my mum when I was a child but when I had DD a whole new level of mourning came over me and it was most certainly mourning that "missing" relationship between mother and daughter and grandmother and granddaughter. I have a friend who is very similar to you and she was the same, her mum still around but was an awful mother when she was growing up. Think of number one for now in the lead up to baby arriving!

@Gem176 tiddlers 😆 I can imagine this photo shoot 😂

@Gem176 thank you lovely 💕 I'm sorry you've been through it too, but am so grateful to know you understand. It's so tough isn't it, it's like the roles are reversed. When it's good you're wondering when it's going to turn bad again, and when it's bad you just feel helpless! Boundaries are key with bub I think. It's very unfair.
Aww, I hope littlun feels better soon x

@Florence13 I'm sorry you've had to go through that :( i hope she makes a wise decision and that you can do what feels best for you both. If you want to talk, I'm here x

@bez91 thanks hun, it's a tricky one but got to hold on to the positives. Like you said, got to think of us for now x

@bez91 my favourite of each of my girls 😂😂

That sounds tough @Justanothercyster. I've always been fairly close with my mum but honestly I've found she's been a bit annoying since I got pregnant too just messaging me every day more than she would in normal times... but that's mostly just texts not calls, so it must be worse for you and that's without factoring in your history. I think you're doing really well to hold back from snapping at her to be honest so well done there! I'd continue to try and not take all the calls or don't respond too quickly to try and discourage it. While it's great she's interested and trying to be involved it's just too much to jump back into your life at such a pace when she's been absent so long and caused you pain. Always feel free to rant here, it definitely helps to get it off your chest. It might be the case that after baby is here she will ease off after the initial excitement and give you a bit more space 🤞

@Gem176 😆 love those!

@Justanothercyster aww thank you x

@Gem176 haha I love it will definitely be taking pics next to household objects of my tiddler when he or she decides to make an appearance. Also sorry to hear it sounds like your Mum gives you very similar treatment to mine.

Ahhh so I'm going in at 9am 😱

@2020mission thank you lovely. There's no worse or better with us all, it's still annoying despite the history! Boundaries are key x

@Gem176 ahhh such a tiddler 💕

Good luck @Justanothercyster x

@Justanothercyster wishing you the world of luck, come on baba 🥰

I had an unfortunate incident yesterday, we went to a water park. Obviously I couldn't go on anything so DH did all the running around after DD. There was a massive splash park for kids and DH said I'd be fine to go round it with her, I properly went arse over tit, did the splits and cut and bruised all my knee and foot 🙈 it's sore but I'm just glad I didn't land on my backside which may have been worse for baby! DH feels terrible so I haven't lifted a finger since 😆
Also, at what age/condition etc does it constitute "having a fall" opposed to "going arse over tit" because DH keeps referring to me having a fall 🤣 as if I'm a geriatric 🤔

@justanothercyster exciting times, we're with you all the way 😘

@Justanothercyster this is about you and your family not your mum, this is YOUR time and it's NOW!!! BOOOOOOOMMM Good luck!!!

And @bez91 we can keep saying you go arse over tit until we are 90 Cos I'm sure I will do it in that style!