Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous!

[Bouncingturtle]

Hello!

Graduated
Mumpbump - Joseph Alexander - 20 September
PurpleLostPrincess - Cerys Grace Emmeline - 2nd September (was due on 22nd)
Fettle - Toby - 19th September
ejt1764 - Mairwen - 1st October
Rubles - Isla - 27th September
ejb1976 - Joel - 7th October
Jossiejump - baby boy - (was due on 23rd Nov)

Glimmer due November 13 - no news yet

hotchoc 10 dec now 3 dec
mad4girls 4th December
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 15 January.
VictorVictoria 21st January (EDD 1st feb but C section booked for 21st Jan!)
Bluebell- EDD 24th Jan
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Gingercat12 - 7th March
AnguaVonUberwald - 18th March
Feedmenow - 18th March
Winkygirl - 19 March
Mumofmonsters - 20th March
Spugs - 24th March
Siameez - 1st April
Rainbowdays - 8th April
Positive - 12th April
DonDons - 15 April
EllieG - 19th April
ZamMummy - EDD 14th May but planning C-section previous week.
Janus - 14th May
flosspot/makecakesnotwar - 30th May
goingfor3 - 31st May
nh101 - 1st June - twins!!
KashaSarrasin - 6th July
McChesers - 9 July
Lovelylou - 13th July

Great news about scans lovelylou and goingfor3!

Just had appt with midwife and heard little heartbeat going SO loudly hurray for little strong bean

hey
had blood test at 2, find out results on monday which now seems sooo far away but v.excited!
If i am pregnant again do you suggest taking any precautions until the 12 weeks have been and gone.....? xxx

Glad everyone are having good news form their scans.

I am feeling rather upset.

After 2 weeks of trying to find out about whether my placenta was being tested for Downs I have found out today that it wasn't sent off (as I requested) to the hospital that does the genetic testing. It has now been preserved in some liquid or other, so the bereavement midwife has to wait till after New Year holiday (when someone is around) to find out if they can still do the tests now it has been preserved. If not we may need to discuss having a post mortem after all (or we may have left it too late)

Sorry about that cece, that's horrid for you. I hope they come back with something a bit more positive for you.

Helen - I don't think there's much you can do other than the usual common sense stuff. To a certain extent, if the baby is going to stick, it will, and nothing you can do can stop it going wrong if you are being healthy and taking it easy. If it does go wrong it will not be your fault, just nature being shitty. Lay off the fags/booze and take it easy as much as you can and keep everything crossed!

Sorry about that cece, that's horrid for you. I hope they come back with something a bit more positive for you.

Helen - I don't think there's much you can do other than the usual common sense stuff. To a certain extent, if the baby is going to stick, it will, and nothing you can do can stop it going wrong if you are being healthy and taking it easy. If it does go wrong it will not be your fault, just nature being shitty. Lay off the fags/booze and take it easy as much as you can and keep everything crossed!

Cece, I am very sorry to hear you are still suffering. Its never an easy process and dealing with the practicalties just intensifies the injustice of it all. Have you spoken to the bereavement midwife about a service of rememberence. We attended a service organised by the hospital and I know my dp took great comfort, which in turn enabled him to comfort me. It sounds a bit naff but strangely it was very helpful and enabled us to look upon the pregnancy as a joyful experience albeit brief.

Helen, I remember after m/c going to my gp to check another pg as I was 6 weeks late and there was no could be no other explanation. Unfortunately, whilst a blood test was undertaken, I had a cycle a week later at 7 weeks post m/c. As others have said you can test + as the hormones are still in the system. On the positive side, my friend works in a fertility clinic and they swear by milk apparently its supposed to make your lining all fluffy and good for the egg, so get guzziling!

EllieG - good news about heart beat!

Becklespeckle - Good luck hope everything goes well with birth.

Just Jules - Thanks for advice and prayer, you are my angel.

I spoke to GP again today, EPAU closed until after new year however the pains have subsided and we hope that this was a growth spurt. There has been no further bleeding, so fingers crossed everything will be ok

Thank you for your idea. We are having a funeral at the crematorium on 9th Jan so that is taken care of. I am now worried that it will be delayed if they need to take tissue samples from Hope, if they cannot use the placenta.

hello ladies it has just taken me ages to read and digest all your messages wow theres so many.

First my news, am 12+3 weeks today, I phoned EPAS again and told them I had a bleed at 10 weeks (true) that it was red with clots then brown for 2 days (true) and that I was still having brown bleeding since then (false) the woman was lovely said I should have phoned by now (told them I had and was told there were no appts and was transferred to maternity ward who told me to keep an eye on things) she said "that would be right we have only had one sonographer with it being the holidays and the scan are backed up, you should get one scan between 12 and 15 weeks! I told her I had spent Christmas not knowing if this baby is dead or alive and she managed to squeeze me in for a scan on Monday. Am nervous now but haven't had any bleeding in over 2 weeks so trying to be hopeful.

bouncingturtle - again congratulations fantastic news

justjules - what can I say great news about the scan, the days are ticking off fast now until that magic 12 weeks for you

KD73 - will keep everything crossed for you, I have been exactly where you are and it's not nice, all the memories come flooding back, I still don't know if this one has made it so I will keep hoping for the both of us x

Lcy - great to see you on here, another MC avengers veteran, will need more fingers to keep them crossed for you too x

G43 - glad the scan went well for you too

becklespeckle - best wishes for the birth, hope you get to meet your LO really soon (going overdue sucks)

cece - sorry about our news, thats awful, am thinking of you xxx

lovelylou - good news on your scan too

apologies for anyone I have missed x

I don't know how it has happened. Before we left the hosptial they asked us whether we would like a post mortem. We said that no if they could tell from the placenta whether she had Downs then we wouldn't have one. The MW said she wasn't sure if they could do that but she would find out. Because we hadn't heard anything about the paperwork required for a post mortem we assumed the placenta was being tested.

I only chased it up because we hadn't heard for sure. Now I am glad I did. Imagine if I hadn't found till afterwards.

Luckily the bereavment mw is now on the case. I think as we were so upset (and it is all a blur) there was a misundersanding between us the mw at the hospital.

Yes I had a high risk screening for Downs so I specifically want to know about this.

When she was born she was very tangled up with the cord, aorund her arm/shoulder and neck (several times) and the midwife said this more than likely was the cause of death (obviously we will never know for sure). She said she had seen it before but it was very rare.

Cece, how absolutely awful for you and your family.

I would reiterate what Just Jules said, we also named planted a tree in memory of our first born, to us it acknowledged what had been a most important life.

How is Mr Cece doing? I hope he is able to provide you with comfort and support at this most difficult time.

White kittymas, good luck for your scan fingers crossed that everything will be ok. I am dreading having a scan, so fully understand your reservations. Be brave girl and let us know how you get on!

Question - where you sweetkitty in summer and name changed?

cece I'm so sorry that you haven't had your answers and the hospital has messed up. I hope that something can be sorted very soon. I was told that if I had a pm they couldn't then return the baby for me to bury they would cremate the baby for me which they did for the baby I mc'd in July but I did bury my first and didn't have a pm for him. I guess different hospitals have differnt rules.

Sweetkitty good luck for you scan. Fingers crossed the baby does a little wiggle for you!

GOOD LUCK becklespeckle I'm not sure how you can hold on to 41+4' (I couldn't cope) maybe a long walk is in order.

Good Luck to Mrsmc too, it is soo exciting to be at the end isn't it?

and of course Good luck to everyone in early days too, the road does grow shorter soon.

LL and I are all well, He is growing up too fast now, and is a happy baby, so i'm very smitten with him.

Happy Healthy 2008 to all mums and bubs

Hi All

Hope you all had good Christmasses?

Just checking in on babies and gather baby-turtle has arrived - congratulations!!

How is everyone else?

No news from Mrs for a while i notice, hope all ok with you?

have to go as on dial-up from France and taking for ever to read!!

Here's to a happy,healthy and baby-filled 2008 for us all.

xxx

Cece, so and for you that you are being put through more pain. Your bereavement MW sounds superb though, hope she can get it all sorted for you before Hope's funeral.

Kitty, fingers crossed for you that your scan goes well on Monday, I think scans are so scary - I was even scared about the one I had yesterday in case something was found to be wrong. After each scan and milestone things get easier though and no bleeding for 2 weeks is a good sign!

Thanks for all your good wishes for labour! Am truly uncomfortable now and very nervous about the birth, I won't feel its real until I hold my LO, healthy, safe and well.

Am considering a long walk Uki! Don't fancy going too much further over but my pelvis is getting so sore that I don't think I could manage far without being crippled for the rest of the day! Is very frustrating as I was still very mobile at this stage with the DSs. Glad that LL is thriving and you are well! Only seems 5 mins ago that you had him!

Hello all,

Hope you are all well and have had a lovely Xmas. Thanks for all your congrats, me, Dh and Daniel are doing well but am absolutely knackered!
Big congrats to Awen on the birth of her baby boy, Dh told me the news
Just wanted to tell you all best of luck with all your pgs, hope that they will be successful and to thank you for all the lovely support. I'll be rooting for you all.
Pg after m/c can be a bittersweet thing, you never ever forget the pain of your lost little ones even when cherishing the new life thriving inside you. My love and prayers go with you all.
HEALTHY AND WELL!!!!

Apologies if post sounded strange realised I posted on the wrong thread!

But for all those still waiting for the los (especially Chloe!) the wait will soon be over for you.

Love to you all and I hope to see you on the PN thread soon!

KD73 - yes I am sweetkitty (Christmas name change) and I was on the mc thread in August. I think we will do something on March 8th next year which should have been my EDD, sometimes I wish I had something to grieve at (does that make sense) I did not know the exact moment I lost my baby (maybe a good thing I don't know) but it's hard to think he just went down the toilet. Sorry if I am upsetting anyone.

Bouncingturtle - glad you are all doing well, I cannot wait to sniggle up and smell a newborns little head, one of the best smells in the world.

becklespeckle - final hurdle I know, it utterly sucks being overdue, I lasted until 41+5 with DD2 and used to wake up every morning and cry that I was still pregnant. Tried everything to get her to shift but nothing worked. In a few days tiem you will have a beautiful little baby and it will all be worth it. Sending you some labour vibes.

G43 - thanks for the well wishes am starting to get nervous about the scan now. Keep thinking my stomach has gone down I feel less sick, do I still feel pregnant? What if it's a mmc? Wish it would hurry up.

Kitty, I am delighted that we are both now expecting although I am sure everyone will agree its full of worry.

According to the websites edd for last pg was 4th March, not sure what to do. My friend is having a hen weekend at that time, but I am planning to give it a miss - not sure what to expect?

Hope the scan goes well - good luck!

Hi
Come to join the thread following one mmc in Oct 06 and another mc in May 07. (ERPC with both)
Just had a BFP so here's hoping. Would like to thank all those who have posted re mc as really helped in dark days following second mc.
Unfort, not getting my hopes up now until I see a heartbeat!

Hope all you girls are healthy and well. I will be offline now till the 2ns as I am going to my mum and dad's for New Year. Let's hope 2008 is a happy year for all of us.