Pregnancy after Miscarriage - Welcome to Knicker Checkers Anonymous!

[Bouncingturtle]

Hello!

Graduated
Mumpbump - Joseph Alexander - 20 September
PurpleLostPrincess - Cerys Grace Emmeline - 2nd September (was due on 22nd)
Fettle - Toby - 19th September
ejt1764 - Mairwen - 1st October
Rubles - Isla - 27th September
ejb1976 - Joel - 7th October
Jossiejump - baby boy - (was due on 23rd Nov)

Glimmer due November 13 - no news yet

hotchoc 10 dec now 3 dec
mad4girls 4th December
Bouncingturtle - 23rd December
becklespeckle - EDD 27th December
MrsMcJnr ? 15 January.
VictorVictoria 21st January (EDD 1st feb but C section booked for 21st Jan!)
Bluebell- EDD 24th Jan
BellaBear - 6th February
Taichimum - EDD 16th Feb
HAylstones- EDD 24th Feb (my birthday!!)
Gingercat12 - 7th March
AnguaVonUberwald - 18th March
Feedmenow - 18th March
Winkygirl - 19 March
Mumofmonsters - 20th March
Spugs - 24th March
Siameez - 1st April
Rainbowdays - 8th April
Positive - 12th April
DonDons - 15 April
EllieG - 19th April
ZamMummy - EDD 14th May but planning C-section previous week.
Janus - 14th May
flosspot/makecakesnotwar - 30th May
goingfor3 - 31st May
nh101 - 1st June - twins!!
KashaSarrasin - 6th July
McChesers - 9 July
Lovelylou - 13th July

Cece, I am not surprised you are finding it hard to cope, I would imagine it sinks in a little more each day. Glad you have such a great DH and that he is looking after you so well. Hope the visit from the bereavement midwife goes well tomorrow, I am sure it is normal to find such a loss difficult. Thinking of you x

Cece, I'm glad you and your DH are getting through this together. I kind of shut my DH out after my first MC; I was so self absorbed that I didn't consider how much he was hurting as well . It was a tough time, but we got through it and talk much more openly about things since then.

It will get better, but you have to go through all the stages of grief before it does. Keep talking, to your lovely DH, and to us on here

McCheesers & TJuice, congrats on your scans! Hope its all starting to feel a little more real now!

Fran, there is always hope even when things are scary and symptoms are scarce. I am really hoping everything is okay for you, there were many days (with and without bleeding) where my symptoms were non-exsistent. Keep talking to us x

Merry, I had many many days like that where I was convinced it was all over, I was all over the place for the first 16 weeks of this pg. Talking to the ladies on here was the only thing that kept me sane so feel free to moan, fret and chat as much as you need to!

Kitty, well said you! Drives me up the wall when people assume you would like a certain sex just because you already have 1 or 2 of one - when people ask me what I am hoping for I always say a healthy baby.

Janus, thanks! Reckon Bouncing may well pop first, she seems to be getting some signs! I have been told I am likely to go over as I have done both times before and I think all the signs I have been having are wishful thinking! It is a strange thing to wish LO out when you have spent so long willing it to stay in.

TS, stop temping and step away from the thermometer! That way lies panic. MrsMc had a dip in temps in her early days and look at her now, 3rd on the due list! There are many reasons why your temp would drop, am not sure how reliable they are when you are pg.

Hi All

This note is to let you all know how much I value the support and advice on this board (even though I don't get around to posting that often). I am an avid reader. I am so sorry that a number of you are going through such a worrying time. Who are these people who say they love being pregnant and that they didn't have any worries at all... Cece, so sorry to hear you are struggling. I was exactly the same and my DH was very worried about me. I realised that the tears are not something that you can control...everything you are feeling is completely normal. I hope the midwife appointment goes well - it helped when my midwife came to visit me and my husband. It just made us realise our reactions were valid.

I have my appointment with the consultant this afternoon. (after Triploidy pregnancy miscarried in September). The letter tells me that I will be having blood and urine tests and possibly a scan (please please) followed by the appointment with the consultant. I'm hoping the urine and blood test results will be available there and then as I'm guessing these then inform how the consultant consells you about the possible need for further testing. I am 10 weeks and 3 days and I've read this is the right time for looking at PAPP-A and HCG levels to see if they might indicate a problem. Gawd, it would be awful if we had to wait for the results until after Christmas! Didn't sleep a flamin wink last night (although that is not unusual at the moment). Roll on 2.30pm and please please let there be good news.

I will check in later with an update.

Healthy and well.... Healthy and well....
p2b

Thanks for all your kind words, less blue today but more teary, hoping it's hormones

p2b, I hope today is a success and they don't make you hang around until after Christmas for the results, that would not enhance anyones Christmas spirit, Healthy and well.

Cece, I think however you feel could be described as perfectly normal, I hope the bereavement counsellor today gives you some peace of mind and wish you peace in yourself as soon as reasonably possible.

Fran, I know how you feel about the absence of symptoms, however thought we'd be wishing to throw up on a regular basis , I hope you start feeling truely awful soon and I mean that in the nicest possible way

I hope everyone else is having a fabulous pre Christmas day.

feedmenow - im waiting for slapped cheek resultas as well, hopefully get the all clear on 27th. not to worried as have spent the last 5 yrs working with children so have caught everything going. plus dd1 had it a couple of yrs ago. hope you get your results soon.

cece- i think crying lots is perfectly normal after what youve been through, after my mc i cried non stop for about 3 days then was in tears several times a day for about to weeks. then i remember getting to the end of a day and then suddenly realising i hadnt cried for a whole day. its grief and its perfectly normal but it will get better, defnitly a good idea to see counceller (i really cant spell) or bereavement mw if thats what you want to do. thinking of you hun xx

p2b - good luck for your appointmant today, hope you get to see your little bean.

kitty - doh, ive only just realised its you! we were on due in march together. congrats on your pregnancy im having my 3 rd girl and cant wait.

bouncing & beckle - good luck girls, hope you have a fab christmas and your babies are here soon.

mrsmc - im the same as feedmenow, you must have been about 10 weeks when i joined and now your nearly at the top of the list [wow]

hope everyones feeling well, and not to worried xx

just a quick one this morning to say good luck to p2b at the hospital, and I hope you get to see your baby, and to wish you well cece with the MW this morning.

Today is the 1st anniversary of due date for my second lost baby. I feel quite odd about it. This time last year I was pregnant and worried and terribly emotional about it all; this year, I have my little poppet, but there is still a pang of sorrow for what wasn't meant to be.

anyway, just a bit of a ramble from me....

helathy and well thoughts to all and good luck to BT and Beckle

cece it sounds as if the way you are feeling is very normal. I cried myself to sleep for a couple of weeks after this mc and during the day I would suddenly burst into tears. After the first one it went on for months and I had to take antidepressants though as soon as I got pregnant again after that first time alot of the pain disappeared.

Cece- thinking of you. Glad you and your DH are supporting each other and that the hospital are providing you with counselling.

Hi Daisy - you must be very excited at Xmas with your gorgeous babyboo

Minispugs & Feedmenow - fingers crossed for your slapped cheek results - hope they are ok.

P2B - good you are thinking positive, hope all goes well with the consultant today

Everyone else - Healthy and well... and pelvic floor never too early to keep those pelvic floor muscles toned, you're gonna need them

Well I thought I had an AN appointment - apparently not! My MW wrote it in my folder but not in the book! Still got an appointment for the 30th for a sweep. Urine is fine as well.

It is official I am not mad I am normal. We have had a lovely talk to the midwife and apparently all my feelings are completely normal as is the crying.

glad your visit went well cece x

cece, I'm glad you feel a little reassured by the midwife. When I think of you at the moment, I picture a little scene of me with 2 of my friends after my mc in January. They just came to my house with chocolates and sat with me all day. We had a little cry and hug, but the rest of the time we just watched films, and they let me be "normal" when I needed to and upset when I felt it. well, I now picture you in my living room with all us lot from this thread doing exactly the same. Chocolate, tea, hugs and crying and some chick flicks. xxx

I rang the hospital for my blood test results and they aren't in yet. But I have an appt there this afternoon at 2.30 (will think of you p2b!!) so will ask again then.

Had another shitty night last night - restless, bunged up, hot, nauseous, etc, etc. Only noticed dp missing out of bed once, yet this morning he claims to be ill with d&v and has taken the day off sick! I keep trying to tell him that I get nausea, constipation, diorhea, headaches, fatigue, blah, blah, blah on a DAILY basis, yet I still go to work every day! He really is a great big pansy! I dread the day when he actually really is ILL!!

Glad to announce MS arrived in full force this morning (5+5 today). YEAH!! The nausea has remained fairly constant all day, easing when I snack. Beckles my D@%# temper gadget didn't work this morning so I guess I won't be temping anymore. Good thing, right! DH is home this week so DD is happily occupied so I can rest and puke as needed. Family arrives late tomorrow night for holiday weekend gathering so I've got to pull things together in the next 36 hours. My goal this year is IMPERFECTION so the cobwebs are staying. I will scrub the toilet though...just to be thoughtful. Tis the season. Holiday cards went out this morning, late. Covered my bases there by making them Happy New Years cards instead of Merry Christmas ones...smart . Presents are wrapped and tree is all decorated. Cheating with the foods by ordering pizza and deli trays...didn't want to risk barfing in the kitchen in front of guests. We're also making the grand baby announcement to the family when they arrive. That's probably the scariest thing of all. I'll probably be off the thread for a few days. I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend and a merry Christmas.

TS - woohoo for morning sickness. Think you are being very wise with the minimalist cleaning and cooking - strong odours such as cleaning solutions and cooking smells tended to make my m/s worse!
Hope you have a great Xmas - and make sure your DP does the running around!

Damn hospitals! Apparently it takes 2 weeks to get results of blood test for slapped cheek! But I have the DAU co-ordinator and the Consultant Midwife looking into it for me!

Appt with Cons M/Wife was great - very reassuring and interesting to hear of all the changes in both facilities and policy there in last 8.5 years!

Oh boy Christmas babies!!

I'm feeling a bit more like a mum to be and less like a sham. So now I just travel to see my mom and family and ree-lax through the new year. Sure hope this cough stops..really rough and phlemy.yuck! I get up at quarter to six every morning and just cough and heave. ugh better get ready for work.

Thinking of you cece! Everything is better with a good DH and sounds like you have a really good one x

healthy (cough) and well!!!

TS- glad to hear you are progressing well. I'll be thinking of you when I have my first plate of buttermilk biscuits.

Just a quick one from me as no internet and it's a PITA trying to navigate MN from DH's phone.
No news still got pre labour symptoms so fingers crossed.
Hope everyone is ok!
Remember - Healthy and Well and Pelvic Floor!

Just popping on quickly to wish everyone a Happy Christmas!

I'll try and pop on from time to time to keep an eye on those December & january babies in case they make an early arrival!

Hope you all have wonderful peaceful Christmasses and may 2008 bring you everything you wish for!

F
xxx

ps I've put some photos of Toby's starring Jesus moment on my profile!

Aww bless! Only a few weeks old and already a star

Hi

Cece - so glad the midwife appointment went well.

I didn't manage to post yesterday because it was the christmas do and this morning I've been finishing off the christmas shopping - all done bar the food shop! The appointment with the consultant was very reasurring. We got a fantastic look at our bean which he woke up with a poke or two. We then saw it do a bit of bouncing about. The consultant said that I didn't have to have any blood tests done as regular scans would reassure us that all was well. He also pointed out that our baby is measuring 2 days more than LMP and that is a great sign. I go back in two weeks for another scan and then he said I can go back every two weeks for the next 6 weeks or so. What a lovely lovely man. I am so so emotional - can I finally believe that I may have this one for keeps? We are going to tell our families at Christmas. I think I'm going to put the scan photo in a cracker. I not yet counting my chickens but I do feel so much more optimistic. Long may this last.

Hope you're all having a good day.
p2b

Any advice on how you get through 12 weeks without going bonkers?

Hi girls, im new to this.... Saw this knicker checkers thing and thought well thats defo me!! I had a miscarriage 2 years, got to 9 weeks and started bleeding had a scan to find sack was there but nothing in it. Anyway me and my partner have been trying since to conceive and i weve finally done it. Im 6 weeks now and every second of every day im checkingmyself for blood. Im SO worried, weve wanted this for so long and im convinced i will miscarry. im trying to be positive but im frightened to death as i want it so bad. For the last week and a half ive had short (about a miniute) cramps regularly thoughout the day, ive read up and some people say its the uterus stretching. However im nor convinced the pains stop me in my tracks for a few moments as they hurt!!! Anyone got any ideas? similar experiences?xxxx

Hi girls, im new to this.... Saw this knicker checkers thing and thought well thats defo me!! I had a miscarriage 2 years, got to 9 weeks and started bleeding had a scan to find sack was there but nothing in it. Anyway me and my partner have been trying since to conceive and i weve finally done it. Im 6 weeks now and every second of every day im checkingmyself for blood. Im SO worried, weve wanted this for so long and im convinced i will miscarry. im trying to be positive but im frightened to death as i want it so bad. For the last week and a half ive had short (about a miniute) cramps regularly thoughout the day, ive read up and some people say its the uterus stretching. However im nor convinced the pains stop me in my tracks for a few moments as they hurt!!! Anyone got any ideas? similar experiences?xxxx

kezza, doesn't see like anyone is about, but I didn't want you to go unanswered. From my own personal experience, and from what I've read on here and seen with people in RL, there are no hard and fast rules. Every woman, and every pregnancy is different. My first pregnancy, no symptoms other than sore boobs till around 10 weeks and a slight aversion to fish. A healthy DS ensued. second pregnancy, felt ill as a dog from the get go, and was signed off work for over a month, with the most awful hormonal surges and I lost the baby at 11 weeks. Third pregnancy, felt in rude health with not a jot of MS (not unlike my first pregnancy) and MC'd at 6 weeks. Last pregnancy (and the product of that a lovely beautiful sparky DD) again sick as a dog till gone 20 weeks with bleeding early on and lots of cramping and generally feeling crap throughout.

I would imagine that the cramps are your ligaments softening up, and from my own personal experience this has got worse with each subsequent pregnancy (never felt a thing with DS). Try to stay positive, and keep posting on here; it got me thorugh a hugely stressful time.

and to you and kd73....keep repeating the mantra "healthy and well". It might not seem it at the moment, but whe you get to 30+ weeks, it will seem like these first weeks flew by.

Take Care xx

shite that was a bit longwinded.

Thanks Holly, i am trying to stay poistive as i dont want to jinx the pregancy by sending nagativity !!!!!Nightmare x x x