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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

September 2021 Babies - Thread 8 The final stretch....

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Bubbles1st · 29/07/2021 12:15

So here we have it, the last thread before babies start arriving.....

Can't wait to start up dating this list with arrivals and names.

Good luck Mommas, we've got this!

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Kirky658 - 15th 💖
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
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@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
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Mamabearwhere · 25/08/2021 17:44

@CherLW go with your instinct and if you feel like you need to be at the hospital then just go and don’t delay it. Good luck!

FTEngineerM · 25/08/2021 18:06

@CherLW good luck, you can go and ask them even if they say no have a paracetamol. Just say you’re not coping with the pain or something.

@crobo87 sorry to hear that, what shit timing. I hope it passes quickly for you. I’m much better now after just over a week.

unicornpower · 25/08/2021 18:13

Good luck @CherLW how exciting if this is it for you! Just try and stay calm (easier said than done I’m sure!)

bewitchingnight · 25/08/2021 18:20

Aah @CherLW how exciting! Hope you're doing ok!

@crobo87 oh no what bad luck, hope it passes quickly for you both

@SP2Bx I'm really surprised how little information you are given if you don't ask for it! I was expecting to be given all sorts of leaflets etc as a bare minimum, and it's hard to ask questions about things you don't know about (I think anyway). Although I did have a midwife appointment to talk about birth (very briefly!) - seems like such a bizarre one for some trusts not to do?!

Tokyo87 · 25/08/2021 18:22

@CherLW Wow, good luck, hope all goes well!! You’ll be fine!

@SP2Bx I totally feel your frustration on this, I had my 36 wk appointment today and we did discuss the birth plan but today was the first appointment where I’ve actually been given some useful info and come away feeling more informed. All the others have felt like they just get you in, do the checks, ask if you have any questions and if you don’t, see you later and you’re on your way! And the times I have had questions she’s signposted me to my GP 🤦🏻‍♀️
I had my first health visitor appointment a few days ago and she was brilliant, we discussed looooads, most topics of discussion initiated by her - feeding, safe sleeping, pnd, infant crying etc. She kept asking if my midwife had discussed any of this with me, and I was like nope 😕!

I would really try to see if you can get an initial appointment with your HV sooner as you may find they are much more helpful. Maybe the role of a midwife has changed, and my expectations are wrong, but yeah can definitely relate to feeling underwhelmed by it all!

Scotti84 · 25/08/2021 18:35

@CherLW that sounds pretty much like things have started, i'd go to hospital if youre feeling unsure or want the reassurance. Its ridiculous that just because youre keeping calm you shouldn't go in. Would they prefer it if you were screaming and wailing? If this is it, good luck! Youve got this x

Squibble84 · 25/08/2021 19:18

@crobo87 what rotten luck! Hopefully you only get it mildly! How are you feeling?

@CherLW sounds like baby is on its way - good luck!! Xx

crobo87 · 25/08/2021 19:20

@Squibble84 absolutely rotten if I'm honest. Felt worse as the days gone on.
I'm so cold, head is banging & everything aches 🥺🥺 xx

leftitlate37 · 25/08/2021 19:35

Good luck @CherLW!! Take care of yourself...exciting times.
@crobo87 so sorry u think its covid....really hope u won't feel 2 poorly with it. Defo NOT what u need at this stage :(

Kirky658 · 25/08/2021 19:56

Good luck @cherlw ❤️
@sp2bx my midwife also said that there was no point making a birth plan due to covid... I was so glad we did some antenatal classes as otherwise we'd have been clueless.

Haven't had a good day today. Alice has put weight on, amazing, but we've just been told they want to see more gain on Friday before they will let her home. Living in this family unit is getting me down now as we can't get away for a bit just as a couple for a bit as one of us has to be with Alice 24/7. It's breaking my heart being in here and to be honest I'm really not doing OK. I feel traumatised about what we've been through over the last 2 and a bit weeks and just feel like no one is considering my feelings, I've lived in a hospital basically for 14 days now and have had about as much as I can take 😭

deedeebythesea · 25/08/2021 23:57

Just caught up on all your messages - @CherLW good luck girl, you can go this! @crobo87 gutted for you, hope PCR comes back negative! @SP2Bx I totally share your feelings re: community midwifery. Well done you for doing your own research!

@leftitlate37 @Mamabearwhere @MrsTD88 thank you for your kind words.

So... here is what's happened today. Apologies in advance, for this is going to be an essay.

Went in at 8am, concerned about his movements. They put me on a monitor. MW can't find his heartbeat. At this point, I felt really unwell: heart rate went through the roof, pale in the face, cold sweat, nearly sick. When I finally managed to get my own nerves under control, she was able to tell between my heart rate and his. Monitored for good hour: 30 minutes of which he was asleep and the rest active with a variety of spikes and drops. Nothing I haven't seen before on a CTG. One of the MWs came in and asked if I had any concern re: his movements before. I said there was a moment last week but I was reassured on the phone and the movements came back instantly. So basically everything that happened next came on the back of that comment.

Next thing you know there is a doctor in the room telling me this is quite serious and she recommends induction, leaving me under impression that her recommendation is based on CTG and his heart rate. Offers two options: either they start induction today, or I come back tomorrow for a scan and more monitoring but chances are based on what she can see on CTG they will have to induce anyway, so why not do it now?

In that moment, I have no idea what happened to me. I just agreed with her. No questions asked. Nothing.

They put me on antenatal ward. DH allowed 16:00-22:00. It was 10am. So he went home. As I am settling in in my bay (shared room, 3 more ladies, all for induction), I realise what I have done. Agreed to a pessary and 24hr on the ward, then another pessary if necessary and another 24hr on the ward. If I don't need the second pessary, they will go straight to breaking my waters. That alone might not bring on labour. Another 24hr would pass and the only option left is the drip. My pain threshold is pretty high, but even I don't think I can do the drip without epidural.

So I am sat there thinking what the hell just happened?? How did I end up agreeing to this without anyone actually explaining the process of induction step-by-step to me? The other reason I know what's going to happen is because I have done my research and am prepared. But they don't know that...

12pm, 1pm, 2pm... Nothing is happening. At 3pm, MW comes in and puts me on a monitor. Everything is fine, no concerns raised. DH comes in at 4 and we are sort of trying to relax and laugh about it but I am increasingly starting to get anxious about my decision.

4pm-9pm nothing is happening. At 9pm, another MW comes is and tells me she is very busy and if I want to get the process started, I can go back to the Assessment Unit (where I was earlier) and they will do both CTG and pessary, as they are not as busy tonight. Okay, fine. We go back to the Unit.

And this is where it all changed. MW whom I've not met before comes in and is a little puzzled by the whole situation. Why did they decide to induce me in the first place but also keep me in hospital rather than let me go home after the pessary? I try to explain what I've been told but she says that my notes say I have been IN for reduced movements twice in the last 7 days which requires in-patient induction (which is obvs wrong). I could tell she was not in favour of the plan and instantly felt relieved. New plan was hatched. More monitoring (all fine), sweep (showed I am 1cm dilated and she managed to go what she called a "good sweep"), come back for a scan tomorrow afternoon, more monitoring and if all is well, I am back in low-risk group. No induction under 40w+12. Back to the home birth.

On the way home, I could not stop kicking myself. How on earth did I manage to get myself swayed so quickly?

PS the boy is happily kicking and I am actually recording all the moments (start and finish time) to be on a safe side

Taybz · 26/08/2021 00:00

@SP2Bx sorry to hear you're having a crappy time with the midwife. To be honest, this was my exact experience until week 34 when I had enough and started declaring what I wanted to talk about eg birth plan which we finally did in detail. I expected to be handed all the information on a plate as a first time mum but was getting nothing from my midwife unless I asked. I even wanted to change my midwife but suddenly she got more helpful but I had to steer the conversation which is not how it should be I believe. Are you going to have another appointment soon? I'd suggest you tell her exactly what you want to discuss and make sure she covers all your points. Good luck! X

deedeebythesea · 26/08/2021 00:02

@Kirky658 darling, my heart is breaking for you! You have been through so much and have stayed so strong. Wish I could give you a big hug and take away at least a fraction of your pain. How is your DP coping? Is he able to advocate for you/all of you? Is it possible for them to put a plan in place for YOUR care once Alice is out of the hospital and safely at home? xxx

Kirky658 · 26/08/2021 01:45

@deedeebythesea sounds like you've rally been through the mill too lovely! Glad another midwife actually spoke to you and turned things around, it makes all the difference
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DH is doing well, he's just tired like me. So we are trying to do me sleep from 11pm till 2am and do the feed, he sleeps 11pm till 5am and does a feed, and so on. He's been the one speaking to everyone for updates as I've just been too upset to do it x

JasVL · 26/08/2021 03:27

Just catching up on all your messages.

I've had a bit of drama this week too- in for reduced movement Sunday night and again Monday afternoon, CTG all came back okay but they wanted to do a scan to be sure.

Got a call yesterday afternoon to ask if we can go straight up to be scanned. Scan ok, baby not moving but blood flow etc was fine.

Back on the CTG for a good hour! Then the consultant came round and said as they were going to induce anyway due to growth scan from last week being off the chart - let's do it now!

I asked if I could go home to finish packing and just 'get ready', they agreed so we're going back in the morning to be induced!

No idea how I'm supposed to sleep tonight, so nervous!! Confused

leftitlate37 · 26/08/2021 04:00

Oh wow @JasVL, so sorry to hear, hope everything goes well..its so stressful with reduced movements but glad u managed to get home, try and get some sleep ...easier said than done.
@deedeebythesea what a time u have had!!! This sounds strangely familiar to our day yest...reduced.movements earlier in week so had ctg, which was fine after 30 min. Had a scan and ctg yest as they agreed he hadn't moved when was being scanned. Got told as 2nd time of reduced movements they may give it a week and induce and in meantime go in daily for monitoring etc etc. Diff doc came in...nope, all fine, just drink some lucozade and lie on side for 2h and wait for him to move. If u r busy less likely 2 notice movements...that left me feeling a bit stupid despite midwives always being like, no call us if any concerns! Can totally see how u ended up on ward without having had much of a chance 2 discuss anything etc...it can pass in such a blur esp when we wanna do what's best for our babies.so glad to hear u now have a new plan!!! And that sweep was positive.
@sp2bx sounds awful... glad u kinda just showed how u felt and got them 2 discuss stuff!! I sound like have been lucky as we got to discuss a plan at 37 weeks....granted midwife of opinion kinda go with flow...which suits me...but least they gave me opportunity. Ridiculous u get left to just knowing what you've read up on!!!!
@Kirky658 can't imagine how hard it is for u. U r doing so well! Gr8 Alice has put weight on. Is there anyone u can speak 2 there for some support? Or say to the nurses etc how u feel and want to get referred somewhere so u can chat about how u feel....there will be people there who can help u with that and the massive ordeal u r currently going thru. Thinking of u, and really hope u will all soon be able 2 go home and start family life there...with the pup too who just be missing u!!!

2021mumma · 26/08/2021 05:40

Eviction day for me today! Excited/nervous and Cannot sleep.

@crobo87 I had covid in third trimester it lasted about 4 weeks till I felt 100% I spoke to midwife and doctor - the doctor gave me an oximeter to monitor my oxygen levels- you can get them for about £8 on Amazon. They said if dropped below 95% to go straight to hospital. I was taking paracetamol as often as I could, forehead menthol rub for headaches and filling myself with vitamins and vegetable juices/smoothies. I hope you feel better soon I still haven’t got my smell/taste completely back yet.

@Kirky658 I really feel for you try and see if there is someone that you can speak to for you. You have suffered trauma and need to talk it out. Great news on Alice and everything crossed you get home for the weekend.

Hope everyone else is ok! It sounds like there might be a few babies born today 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼

AdventuresAwait · 26/08/2021 06:05

That's exciting @2021mumma! All the very best xx

Kirky658 · 26/08/2021 07:13

Good luck today @2021mumma and @jasvl xx

unicornpower · 26/08/2021 07:48

Good luck today @2021mumma and @JasVL! Sending you both good vibes and I hope you meet your babies soon Smile

@CherLW thinking of you lovely, hope all is going ok x

CobleCloud · 26/08/2021 08:25

Just had a read through to catch up. Good luck ladies to those who may get to meet your little ones today or so very soon 💛

@Kirky658 thinking of you, your partner and baby Alice it sounds so tough you are doing great so keep going!

@crobo87 hope you start to feel better soon, sending love your way too.. not what you need right now x

Suma2021 · 26/08/2021 08:31

Really sorry to read some are having a truly crappy time.
@Kirky658 Really sad reading your updates to what you're going through. I know I can't personally empathise properly having not been in a similar situation, and I hope you don't mind the suggestion as I know its very personal, but there are support groups / counsellors out there who deal with birth trauma. Your mental health is most important, always. Please reach out for more support. Flowers

@crobo87 Oh no, what a nightmare situation. Rest up and I hope it passes as soon as possible.

@SP2Bx I'm a preparer / researcher like yourself but if I wasn't, I would feel incredibly anxious with the lack of info provided to me and can completely empathise with your situation!! My appointments all sound just like yours. I've got my 36 week appointment this morning so will post how it goes.

@CherLW That's super exciting! Good luck, hope all went well overnight!
And good luck too @2021mumma and @JasVL !!

AdventuresAwait · 26/08/2021 08:36

Good luck today @JasVL! All the very best xx

Sending hugs @Kirky658 xx

@crobo87, hoping it passes quickly for you both xx

AdventuresAwait · 26/08/2021 08:38

Good morning @CherLW, how are you doing? Xx

Mamabearwhere · 26/08/2021 09:08

Nearly coming to the end of this thread ladies so have created a new one here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/4332828-September-2021-Babies-Thread-9-The-final-countdown?watched=1

@Bubbles1st please can you add your latest list of due dates to that thread xx