September 2021 Babies - Thread 8 The final stretch....

[Bubbles1st]

So here we have it, the last thread before babies start arriving.....

Can't wait to start up dating this list with arrivals and names.

Good luck Mommas, we've got this!

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Kirky658 - 15th 💖
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
@Bluespace - 18th 💙
@ErrolFinn - 19th 💖
@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
@unicornpower - 20th 💖
@Moominmiss - 20th 💙
@Sophieandtiger - 20th 💛
@bluemagicalsky - 21st 💙
@Clouless - 21st 💛
@Suma2021 - 21st 💙
@Jay3004 - 22nd 💙
@SP2Bx - 22nd 💛
@Geegee20 - 22nd 💙
@Holly91 - 22nd 💛
@Rach921 - 23rd 💙
@LittleCatDog - 23rd 💖
@SproutingSprout2021 - 24th 💛
@LittleAurora -24th 💙
@RadDarwazeh - 25th 💛
@crobo87 - 25th 💙
@d0nut - 25th 💖
@GummyBear91 - 25th 💖
@AdriannaP - 25th 💛
@MrsTD88 -27th 💖
@MrsBrett20 - 27th 💛
@marshmallowmode -27th 💙
@Kat1112025 - 27th 💙
@Mrssernalewis - 28th 💛
@ams92 - 30th 💖

Im with you all with the relationship changes, its again, fear of the unknown. On one side there's no one else i can imagine having a child with, I know he will be an amazing dad and we can do this together, but on the other side i worry about missing 'us' time. I don't know how realistic it will be, but we've said when she's a bit older and we know what we're doing we're going to try and have monthly date nights, either a day out or a meal out or maybe a night away, depending on how tired we are and how long MIL can look after her. Its such a massive life change, and one i cant plan for, but fortunately we're both of the same mind, so thats good. Now if i can just get him to work on picking up after himself so i dont have to follow him round the house... 🤦‍♀️

@Joey86 how are things? Hopefully the hospital are more helpful!

@GWhiteley It can be frustrating can’t it, a simple how’s your day been or what have you been up to makes such a difference! I understand your concerns about being fair, DP has reassured me he’ll treat all 3 boys equally and I do believe him. I think it’s just one of those things, we’ll just have to wait and see. And will try not to worry too much at this point. It will take a while to settle in to a new routine with your step daughter and new baby, but I’m sure she’ll be excited and love being a big sister once your bubba arrives

@Joey86 I totally get you with the not being taken seriously unless you’re crying… I ended up in surgery for a ruptured ectopic after 2 weeks of asking to be seen because it couldn’t have been that bad as I was functioning day to day.
I could be wrong, but when I was in early labour, they performed an s&s as part of the routine examination… but I guess you would know if they did or didn’t do it yesterday.
Like you say, being in pain with kids off for school holidays isn’t exactly a relaxing early labour situation.

@Mamabearwhere I’m also feeling a bit of guilt about the family growing… mainly as my daughter starts school in a couple of weeks and I’m emotional about that/worried about her settling etc etc.

For those worried about husbands/relationships, my biggest advice would be don’t let life become a competition of who is more tired/who has done more! It’s easy to do in the early days - both being a bit jealous. The woman of the man being able to go to work and do normal things. The man of the woman for not having to go to work and being able to rest in the day etc.
Remember, you’re a team and you have to divide and conquer. Plus, it will pass. It seems never ending in the moment… but it won’t go on forever, just tell yourself that!!!

@GWhiteley, my husband feels that this next step is going to enrich our relationship and talks about how things will be even better. We are determined to make time for each other and not to neglect our relationship & like @Scotti84, will plan date nights when we can.

I would also say in terms of date nights etc, your relative freedom comes back… in the early days, I found going out for the evening/overnight more stressful as I felt guilty, my boobs were full and I worried about my parents being stuck with a whingy baby. And actually, even just having a takeaway and watching a film at home was nice to spend time together. But as they get older, they actually look forward to weekend sleepovers at nanny’s etc. And nothing feels better than taking a sneaky day off work whilst they are in nursery 🤣🤣
I think don’t pressure yourself too much in the early days to make your relationship romantic as when I’m sore, sleep deprived and leaky, I felt as sexy as a fish. And frankly, your relationship DOES change. There are pressures and it’s not all about the two of you… but keep talking to each other and you will adjust. Plus, it won’t be in that “emergency state” forever!

So happy @Kirky658 that you are getting time as a family after everything you have been through. Hope you get home soon.

It’s all becoming real for us now pre-op appt tmrw morning and then csection on Thursday.

I don’t know if I’m a minority but I can’t wait to never be pregnant again! I will not miss this one second. Feel like I’ve been ill pretty much the whole 9 months! I’ve even sorted out my maternity clothes today so they are all together so that when I don’t need them I can give them to charity

@2021mumma I am 100% with you on never feeling pregnant again. This is for sure our last baby and whilst I am ever so grateful to have been blessed enough to have babies, I cannot wait to never do this again. Like you say, I’ve felt ill for all of 2021 so far and I’m exhausted and just want to feel normal. I’ve sorted my clothes out into early maternity that I can’t wear anymore, current maternity clothes to see me through the next final weeks AND a pile of post birth clothes so when I’m home I know exactly what to wear (including tummy sucking leggings from seraphin)

Evening ladies!
Just came on for a moan 😂
Is anyone else fed up and wanting baby out asap! Am 36 weeks absolutely aching, tired , pains an aches loads of pressure pains, back ache, and cant stop peeing. Everytime baby moves I need a wee hes in my pelvis and it hurts 🙄🙄 sorry for the moan an being a downer . Anyone else with me 😑

@2021mumma same here! I have been so ill, I will not miss anything about being pregnant. I am done! I have my pre-induction Covid test tomorrow, and induction on Thursday, so we could be birth buddies!

@SillyBry midwife checked my notes, and I was right, I only had an examination in hospital. So I got to have a s&s from the mw this evening. I knew it because, aside from not feeling her do one, she hadn't said she was going to, and it wasn't in my notes, but also the hospital was crazy busy and she didn't want me to stay in really. She wasn't going to encourage me to go into active labour, it was a full moon last night, and the birthing suite was full!

@Scotti84 I didn't go to the hospital today, as we went out in the car this morning and a van changed lanes in front of DH, and he had to do an emergency stop. We were only going fairly slow, but it made my belly jolt forward and baby reacted by going crazy with huge movements. I had some pain under my bump, but since then I haven't really had any contractions and baby has been super active, more than he has been for days. So I didn't feel I needed to go in, and just waited for my midwife appointment instead.
So I've had a s&s, my cervix is still 2cm dilated, but has thinned since yesterday morning. I'm booked in for one last s&s on Wednesday.

@Kirky658 that’s great that you’re together now and that Alice is doing well!

@2021mumma whilst I’m so grateful for the pregnancies I’ve had, I also cannot wait to not ever be pregnant again! My body seems to be really worn down by pregnancy, there is no glow, only achiness and feeling grotty!

I’ve had a real wobble the last few days and done a complete 180 on my vbac plan. I’m now hoping to get an elcs booked in for around the 2/3rd September - just need to ring tomorrow to see when they can fit me in.

I’m another who can’t wait to not be pregnant 😬🤭 ill, uncomfortable and guilty that I can’t do things I used to with DS☹️. I think I’ve caught every cold/cough going this year and then now I’m at the end in the last month I found out I’m anaemic, got food poisoning and now have covid when will it end 😂.

Im really really emotional today, keep worrying how we will cope with two so young. How do you ladies do it? How do you juggle? I feel petrified about what’s to come, the unknown👀🤷🏽‍♀️.

@2021mumma I'm also with you on this!
I feel very lucky to have been pregnant 4 times (3rd baby) especially as I have PCOS.
However, I feel relived that I won't have to do this again.
I've felt pretty rubbish for most of this pregnancy and I feel like I've lost lots of time with my older 2.

Not long to go for us all now xx

@Joey86 oh wow yes looks like we will be- do you know what you are having?

@FTEngineerM I hope you are ok I had covid just over a month ago only now finally feeling better

Glad I’m not alone in having enough! Was funny last pregnancy I knew I wanted one more and now I’m 100% sure I am done. My body is going to be my own (well after breastfeeding if all goes to plan!)

Hi there, so pleased to have found a due date club! Due 15/09/21 based in France! Would it be possible to be added?
Thank you

With first baby 🥰

@Scotti84 yea that's one of my problems, both hubby & step daughter expect me to pick up after them as that's what I've always done. My friend says I should just leave it for them to do, but it goes against my tidy nature to do so! Will have to see what happens when baby arrives as I may well be too tired.

@Tokyo87 hubby has said the same but not in so many words. I just don't know if he'll be capable & will always put his step daughter first cause he feels guilty that he & her mum split up. Like he'll over compensate for the fact our baby is with us 24/7 and she isn't. But I may be being unfair.

So totally ready not to be pregnant!! Out of the whole 38 weeks I've only had a handful where I felt ok & could eat normally. Plus I'm huge!

@2021mumma I'm having a boy. My third boy! 🤪🤪🤪

@Joey86 I’m having a boy too, my second boy. But third and last baby for sure!

@GWhiteley ive spoken to hubby about it, but I dont think its out of laziness or assuming ill do it, he just doesnt think, i think sometimes i should just leave it there or start doing the same but for my mental state i cant do it 😅 its easier just to tidy up than look at it and get annoyed. Im hoping when baby is here he will be a bit more aware, but lets see. I can understand your hubby probably has worries about his daughter feeling left out and that, but I'm sure you'll find your way together. Its a new situation for all of you, hopefully when baby is here, she will want to spend time with it too and be included, its just another one of these 'how will that work' worries that i think we all have in one sense or another. Im sure it will work out x

Hi Ladies, hope everyone is feeling okay!
36+2 for me now and I'm feeling really guilty this week as haven't been doing any exercise because I've felt completely pooped. I wondered how you're all getting on with energy levels and what exercise you're still doing?

I'm still "active" - gardening, doing washing, cleaning, going to the shops etc but that's all feeling like much more effort now. Even that stuff makes me ache and want to sit down and rest.

But alas... no "structured" exercise has been happening lately, walks, swimming or yoga or that sort of thing ☹️

Sleepiness has really ramped up. I say sleepiness because as long as I'm moving, my energy seems OK. I slept fantastically last night (only woke up once, wow!) and within an hour of having coffee and breakfast proceeded to accidentally fall asleep for another 2 hours. Then whenever I sit down I feel on the verge of my eyes closing. Drove to the shops yesterday and had to blast myself with air from the open window to keep myself alert! Eek!
I'm not a person who naps , ever - and am trying to push through because am worried it will affect my sleep at night.

Maybe sleepiness is due to my lack of exercising?
Anyway, just wondered if anyone in same boat. Xx

Hi ladies, popping back in...had my first terrible night with baby last night. He just screamed for hours

Those due an ELCS soon, my tips are only to expect the first 48 hours so be grim and painful that anything better is a bonus. I'm 5 days in now and apart from being scared to cough, it's okay.

@Noodles4Me sorry to hear you had a really bad night last night. I hope tonight is better for you. I remember our daughter having a particularly terrible night early one which turned out to be colic, Infacol didn't work for us but Dentinox Colic Drops thankfully did. It can be torture when they are screaming away and you're trying to recover from your section. How is your wound healing?

@Noodles4Me, thanks for the info. I'm having an ELCS next week so it's good to know.
Sorry to hear you had a bad night... How're you doing today?

@Noodles4Me hope you manage to get some rest today. thank you just back from my preop she said expect to be in 48 hours, I was in for 3/4 days last time but will try to get out earlier this time and take all the drugs offered.

I’m feeling super anxious and very tearful it’s all becoming very real!