September 2021 Babies - Thread 8 The final stretch....

[Bubbles1st]

So here we have it, the last thread before babies start arriving.....

Can't wait to start up dating this list with arrivals and names.

Good luck Mommas, we've got this!

@Noodles4Me - 26th Aug 💙
@Scotti84 - 30th Aug 💖

@Sceptre86 - 1st 💖
@primhutch - 1st 💖
@RaeRae84 - 1st 💙
@KHR1 - 1st 💙
@CherylLW - 3rd 💙
@GWhiteley - 3rd 💖
@deedeebythesea - 3rd 💙
@Allicit - 3rd 💙
@Poppins2016 - 4th 💛
@2021mumma - 5th 💙
@Squibble84 - 6th 💛
@leftitlate37 - 7th 💙
@SillyBry - 7th 💛
@LouiseJayne23 -7th 💖
@bewitchingnight - 8th 💖
@SK28 - 8th 💛
@Taralweaver - 8th 💖
@AdventuresAwait - 9th 💖
@mumof23188 - 9th 💙
@Bubbles1st - 10th 💙
@Catkin7 - 10th 💖
@FTEngineerM - 12th 💙
@CobleCloud - 13th 💙
@Maybebaby29 - 14th 💙
@Taybz - 14th 💙
@Bigdreamer9 - 14th 💙
@Eppy123 - 14th 💛
@Newmum110 -14th 💛
@Kirky658 - 15th 💖
@Hopefulmummie - 16th 💖
@Mamabearwhere - 17th 💙
@HollyMoore - 17th 💖
@aurora2021 - 18th 💖
@Bluespace - 18th 💙
@ErrolFinn - 19th 💖
@xsjrx - 19th 💛tbc
@unicornpower - 20th 💖
@Moominmiss - 20th 💙
@Sophieandtiger - 20th 💛
@bluemagicalsky - 21st 💙
@Clouless - 21st 💛
@Suma2021 - 21st 💙
@Jay3004 - 22nd 💙
@SP2Bx - 22nd 💛
@Geegee20 - 22nd 💙
@Holly91 - 22nd 💛
@Rach921 - 23rd 💙
@LittleCatDog - 23rd 💖
@SproutingSprout2021 - 24th 💛
@LittleAurora -24th 💙
@RadDarwazeh - 25th 💛
@crobo87 - 25th 💙
@d0nut - 25th 💖
@GummyBear91 - 25th 💖
@AdriannaP - 25th 💛
@MrsTD88 -27th 💖
@MrsBrett20 - 27th 💛
@marshmallowmode -27th 💙
@Kat1112025 - 27th 💙
@Mrssernalewis - 28th 💛
@ams92 - 30th 💖

Hi all, I've been loitering but never commented on a thread before so been hesitant to jump in.
Im due my first baby 30th Sept so 34+3 today and feeling impatient!
Apart from piling on the pounds, I've got no other symptoms to report which is quite disappointing in many ways; baby doesn't feel imminent.
Anyone else in the same boat?

@WideOpenSpaces welcome! I'm 37 + 3 and my baby still doesn't feel imminent. Realistically you could go two weeks over your due date which means you potentially have nearly 8 weeks left. This is why many people see it as a due from date and not not by.

I definitely wouldn't be focusing yet on your little ones arrival, as the ladies on this thread who have had early babies will tell you the longer they stay put the better.

If you're feeling well, enjoy the time you have left best you can :)

@AdventuresAwait thanks for checking in, I’m ok thank you, getting better anyway. I felt a lot better when the midwife said she was still coming and checking on the baby just in the house instead of at the clinic. It feels like so long ago she sent me for a growth scan because of tailing growth and I haven’t actually seen her since with everything that’s happened in between.

@Joey86 how are you this morning? Can you sleep with these contractions?

@Kirky658 that is fantastic news. So happy for you, what a big step to getting home xx

@WideOpenSpaces congratulations, yeah I can remember feeling like that then went 8 days overdue and those were the worst 8 days because I just thought baby would arrive on their due date. Didn’t happen.

Hi @WideOpenSpaces , I'm 36+1 and had various symptoms and definitely feel like Braxton Hicks / aches / tiredness have got more pronounced in the last 2 weeks. But have a feeling this baby won't be imminent at all!

I also saw my mum yesterday who decided to state with confidence whilst looking at my body and bump up and down that "I wasn't ready yet" 🤔

This is my first baby though and I've no idea what the upcoming weeks will bring.

@Kirky658 that sounds wonderful. I hope you finally get the babymoon you deserve, and that you'll be home shortly.

I slept well last night, after having a bath. Feeling incredibly achey this morning. I have a chiropractic appointment this morning, and midwife this afternoon. I keep thinking baby isn't moving much, but then he'll kick, then he'll be quiet again for ages. I don't know if I'm just tuning everything out, as part of ignoring the discomfort I'm in. I don't know if I've had contractions through the night and just slept through them, I've had some this morning. I have fibromyalgia, so I'm so used to background pain and constant discomfort it's hard for me to now try to focus in on it and identify what's what.

@Kirky658 This is the best news! So happy for you all xx

@Joey86 Sorry to hear this is really dragging out for you, hopefully the midwife can shed some light for you this afternoon. If the contractions are regular perhaps that's why you're not noticing the movement, I've heard if your tummy is hard because of a contraction it's harder to feel them move? Hang in there! xx

That's great news @Kirky658!

Glad you are starting to feel better @FTEngineerM and that you were still able to have your appointment

@Joey86 hope things get moving a bit more for you, must be so tiring/frustrating when it's dragging out so much

Midwife has just text and cancelled my appointment for this afternoon. She said she can't do a s&s because I had one yesterday, but I didn't, it was just an examination to see how dilated I am. I actually feel like I might cry.

@Kirky658 thats brilliant news! Now you can start enjoying family time with the support of the hospital staff. Enjoy all the time together!

@Joey86 that's annoying! Was it the same midwife that did the examination yesterday? Can you give her a call and explain? Surely she should come round and check in on you if only for support at the least?

@Scotti84 it was a community midwife, I just called her and cried at her. I explained that I don't like just being left in early labour, no idea what's happening, it's hard to feel baby moving, and I'm worried baby will pass menconium if it goes on too long. I wouldn't mind if there was a plan to monitor me, or something. My whole family is on edge, it's not like I can put some music on and labour in peace, I've got my kids here asking me if the baby is coming yet!
I'm already booked to have an induction on Thursday (39w) because I'm in so much pain (pgp), but now I'm in even more discomfort and stress, and I still have to wait around.
She offered me an appointment for this evening at 5:30pm, my original one was 2pm but they filled it already 😤 I don't know if I need it now, as I've spoken to her. She's told me to go back to hospital and be monitored, check on baby, and maybe get another vaginal examination to see if anything has changed since yesterday.
It's ridiculous that noone takes you seriously unless you're crying, or writhing in pain. I don't usually cry, nor complain about pain, and so people think what I'm telling them isn't true. I've had the same in a&e before, got sent home because I "didn't look like I was in pain" when I had a ruptured ovarian cyst, yet an hour before I'd had the paramedics out, using gas and air on my sofa crying in pain., But they didn't see that bit.
Gonna time my contractions now, so I've got some information for them when I go into hospital.

Is anyone else just on an emotional rollercoaster? I now cry at the smallest thing & just feel sorry for myself in general.

Have bought everything for baby that I needed and washed the bare minimum of what's been given to us, but it's all currently in a box in my room as hubby needs to go to IKEA to get the chest of drawers but hasn't yet & as he's incredibly stressed with work, step daughter & other things I feel like this is way down on his priorities. Which I get it probably is, but with 8 days to go before being induced I thought we'd have pretty much everything ready by now but it's not & it's stressing me out. He makes me feel like it's insignificant against all the other things he's currently worrying about. It's bad enough that we'll only get potentially a couple of days together once she's born as he runs his own business & so needs to go back to work almost straight away. This isn't how I pictured it when we decided to try for a baby & sometimes feel very alone with no support from him.
Sorry to moan but there's no one else I can talk to as it upsets my mum to hear me cry on the phone when she's over 40 minutes away & can't just pop round. Feel really alone sometimes

@Suma2021 @FTEngineerM @Bubbles1st thanks all - you're right, I need to change my mindset to working from 30th Sept, no more assuming that baby will be here by then!!

@GWhiteley sorry to hear your feeling like this and that you don't share the priorities. I'm so up and down at the moment but fortunately don't have any such issues with DP.

We are still so busy and have so much to do before baby arrives next week including working until 2pm Saturday when I have an appointment for a sweep at 3pm 🙈

I'm upset I haven't got any down time to look forward really before baby comes other than Sunday and Monday assuming the sweep is unsuccessful!

You can always vent here but make sure your husband hears your concerns and try and try and help him understand your feelings. It's shame he won't have much time off :(

Sorry to hear you feel like that @GWhiteley. Sending hugs to you. I can relate to the emotional roller coaster. I've been teary recently and can feel quite overwhelmed about the upcoming changes... thinking about the change to our relationship, whether baby will be OK when born, the spinal for the c-section & how life is going to change, as well at knowing I'm going to so miss my bump, especially knowing I won't be pregnant again.
I'm excited. Very excited! But also feeling emotional.

@Joey86 I'm sorry it's being dragged out so much. I had meconium with my first baby and it meant me and baby were monitored from that point even though I wasn't in the early stages of labour and so I would suspect that because you have contractions that they should be at least monitoring you. Good if you have induction booked for Thursday though, at least you have a time frame but keep pushing them to check on you until then.

Sorry that you’re feeling down and I can totally relate to the feeling alone sometimes. I’m currently on day 4 of not seeing DP for just over a week as he is away on a mini break with his two boys from his previous marriage. Was arranged a while ago and I wouldn’t have wanted to go anyway (want the comfort of my bed as a pose to glamping) but at 35 weeks pregnant feeling a little sorry for myself. He’s sent lots of pics/vids and glad they’re having a nice time, but this morning was the first time he asked me how I was feeling, and that’s only because I was a little off with him last night. Kind of feel like he forgets I’m actually pregnant sometimes 😕 Anyway that’s my little moan!

I agree in that you should definitely try to communicate your feelings with him, might kick his ass in to gear a little bit.

Oh @GWhiteley they really don't get it sometimes do they? Mine seems to be really hit and miss, one minute has a panic and is really proactive/helpful/gets loads done... the next isn't keeping an eye on his phone and is having a few too many beers at this late stage!!

Hopefully you can express how you're feeling and that by just having the drawers will make you feel so much better. And he'll have a moment of clarity and do the right thing! It's ok him saying he's got a lot of other stuff going on but the reality is, your baby is going to be here soon, and at that point, that should be most important thing!

Yes @GWhiteley it's hard isn't it. I feel quite emotional at the moment, I think because I feel a bit sad for how mine and DH's relationship is going to change, and then I feel a bit guilty for being sad about it not just being the two of us anymore. It's also been quite lonely working from home and admittedly I have stopped myself from meeting up with people because I'm worried about being ill so close to the end and having to give birth on my own. So I sympathise about feeling on your own.

That said my DH is preparing for the baby in a completely different way to me - I've done the washing and sorting out the chest of drawers etc and he's doing stuff like ripping out the kitchen cupboards which is not a priority for me! But I know it's his own way of getting the house ready and feeling sorted.

@bewitchingnight that's how I feel! I'm worried I won't be his number one priority anymore and I'm sad I'll have to share him. Yet I'm so excited he is going to be the daddy of my child as he is going be incredible and I can't wait for the next chapter as a family. It's making me quite clingy, so much so I've kicked the massive pregnancy pillow out of bed which has divided us for 6 months so I can snuggle for the last week 🤣

@WideOpenSpaces we have the same due date 😁 I'm having a girl. I hope, like her little brother, she makes an early appearance, he came at 38 weeks spontaneously. These last few weeks feel like they're starting to drag a bit

Hi @LauEli , congrats! That sounds perfect, I have my fingers crossed for you it all goes as smoothly as last time x

@Tokyo87 that was my hubby last week with his daughter from his previous relationship. They went to London with his sister & her 3 kids & not once did he really ask if I was ok or what had been going on, so know totally how you feel! This week doesn't feel much different as the two days we've got her he's off again with his sister etc. I don't want her to miss out on stuff, but equally I too sometimes think he forgets he's about to have another child to think of & wonder whether in the future he's going to find it hard to keep things fair between the two. She's 8 so he's had lots of time to just concentrate on her, and I think he's going to struggle without me pushing & making it seem like I only care about our baby

Ah ladies I’m feeling very much the same with the emotions, although this baby was very much planned, part of me feels sad that it no longer will be me and my little girls and I’m worried about how I’m going to divide my attention between 3. But I do remember feeling the same way when I was pregnant with my second and the minute she was born I loved them both equally and it all just fit into place.

On the husband front, mine was being quite irresponsible, working really late and having late dinners while I was at home alone with the kids so after a few stern conversations he has now stopped his late nights and is working from home most days. I told him I just don’t feel safe or comfortable being on my own at this late stage especially since my second labour was really fast (under 2 hours).

Men are just men, they’re great but they don’t have the same priorities and instincts as mum.

@bewitchingnight @Bubbles1st I think it's the other way round & my hubby is worried about all my focus being on the baby & not on us. Who knows what it's going to be like when they arrive 🤷‍♀️ I have the added complication of a step daughter that spends part of the week with us & is behaving a bit weird recently so who knows how she's going to react once the baby arrives!