Pregnant at 35+ (old ovaries, new lines) - Thread 2

[M4v3r1ck]

Setting up a new thread! Hopefully I can tag some of you! 😃

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@Catconfusion I am glad you are feeling more relaxed about things . All is well here, still exhausted and feeling a bit sickly but I can live with that. Looking forward to my 16/40 appointment with the MW this Friday . Hopefully she will have a listen in so I can hear heartbeat. I hate this limbo time before movement x

Well @Catconfusion I think I relaxed too soon . My eldest has tested positive for Covid . Feel so sick with worry now . I had to cancel my midwife appointment too! X

@Gummybear17 oh no that sounds horrendous. How old is your eldest? Are they able to isolate? How annoying to have had to cancel the midwife. Do you have any more scans booked? This period is so tough before 20 weeks. I hope you're ok and don't get it.

I have to say it's driving me crazy waiting for our scan next Friday. I keep having anxiety dreams that there's something wrong. In another group they were talking about pregnancy loss and some of the heartbreaking stories I heard got me worried. I know I need to relax as our chances are good but it's hard before the regular movements. I think I'm getting flutters so that's a good sign. My 16 week midwife appointment is a phone-call so we won't get to listen in. Xx

She is 9 @Catconfusion she's doing really well and has been staying in her room most of the day . She is so well thank goodness if I hadn't tested her yesterday you would never know . Just a head ache and achey legs for 2 days ! I've been having terrible dreams about catching Covid and having a miscarriage. I am high risk of COVID pre pregnancy so now I'm really high risk :-( no scans now until 20 weeks but I think once this ordeal is over I'm going to pay for one ! X

@Gummybear17 aww bless her. Thank goodness she's ok. I really hope she recovers quickly and you don't get it. It must be such a worrying time for you. Another scan sounds like a good idea for some reassurance. It's such a long wait between the 12 week scan and the 20 week one.
We've got an EPAU scan because we have a history of miscarriage. They've all been before 12 weeks thankfully but they agreed to do one last scan at 16 weeks since I don't get a face to face with the midwife. I just want to get it done now. May well get a gender scan as well. I feel far more anxious than I did with my son and just want to bond with this baby. Xx

@Catconfusion I know what you mean . All the anxiety around this pregnancy) had a MC in May ) is stopping me from bonding and enjoying the pregnancy. It just seems to be one stress after another

@Gummybear17 it's so hard after loss. I'm so sorry you went through that. It's led to me literally second guessing everything. We had two before my son and I think if that had been it I might have felt ok but we then had another three before this baby. We are 42 so I know it is more common at our age but it's still hard. I know lost after 12 weeks is really unlikely but I feel like something like that would break me as this is probably our last chance. I guess I need to stay positive and stop worrying. Xx

@Catconfusion I am 39 so not far behind but I was thinking similar, I am not sure I could do it all again ! Plus I have told the girls now so it would be devastating to lose it now ( I am 17/40 tomorrow) I just need to take this next 2 weeks one day at a time and try to stay as calm as I can ( I am not great at that though ! ) x

@Gummybear17 I think the fact you're at 17 weeks is a good sign. It would be very unlikely for something to go wrong now. Do try to relax if you can. I'm one to talk. I've been having cramps today which I'm pretty sure is stretching. It's freaked me out no end. Anyway, I've had a nice bath and it's a bit better now. Just can't wait for my scan next week.

How is your daughter today? Xx

@Catconfusion she is still sleeping but she was ok last night thank you . I am trying to cling on to my sanity but it is going to
be a long 10 days :-(

Hey ladies, apologies I've been so bad at keeping in touch! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 yay to a boy! 😍 do you think you'll go for a private scan? We might be tempted after the 28-week check in!

@Pamparam welcome lovely! How have you been keeping? Got so much 🤞🏻 for you! 😘

@VixFromThe6ix yay another boy! Are we a boy heavy thread?! 😍

@Catconfusion im glad to hear you got some great news re: results! I hope everything goes well this Friday for your scan! 😘

@Gummybear17 yay to more great news! Although so sorry to hear your daughter has covid! I hope she's doing ok and you and the rest of your family are ok! 🤞🏻

How's everyone else doing? Even though I'm still largely anxious we've started to do research into prams etc! 😃

@M4v3r1ck thanks for checking in both my girls have Covid now ( second one completely asymptotic at the moment) I am trying to hide away as much as possible which is hurting like hell but it's only 10'days in a lifetime so I need to keep perspective. Hope you are well x

@Gummybear17 sorry to hear both girls now have it. I really hope you don’t get it and you’re keeping well. Xx

Thank you @M4v3r1ck for checking in. I literally can’t wait until Friday now. This pregnancy has been far more anxious than the last mainly due to being 42 and the constant fear something will go wrong. Baby is starting to make little movements so that’s lovely to feel. I’m taking that as a good sign all is ok.

Also starting pregnancy physio on Friday morning as I’m starting to get some pelvic pain. My bump is huge already and I’m only 14 weeks so got a bump support on during the day to help. Guess a second baby pops early.

I have a really strong feeling this baby is a girl. Just everything about the pregnancy is different. My bump is much wider and higher. You can see from behind I’m pregnant and you couldn’t with my son. Also the constant sweet cravings for orange juice and satsumas. With my son it was french fries all the way. We’ll be happy with either but I’ll be surprised if it’s a boy. Xx

Thanks @Catconfusion. I am good . I have spent the day homeschooling the girls via Teams ! It's worked well really and has been nice to see their faces all day . Girls are still really well so that's good ! X

How exciting that you're feeling movements @Catconfusion!

Hope the girls are okay @Gummybear17 - the one with symptoms any better today?

Thanks @M4v3r1ck! I'm okay, had MW appointment yesterday - same one as I had last time and she's keen on encouraging home births etc. I'm annoyed that turning 40 has meant I will need to see a consultant now and have lots of extra appointments. GTT test etc. I really can't be bothered to traipse into the hospital all the time, although the extra scans to see baby would be nice. I am half thinking to decline, although I don't want a reputation for being difficult haha.

Although mainly at the mo just keeping everything crossed as I am kind of expecting it to go wrong more than I am able to be positive. Sigh!

@Gummybear17 that’s great news. Glad all is well. Xx

@Pamparam are you considering a gone birth?

I have to say I’m 42 and so grateful for all the extra appointments. I appreciate it’s not the best time to be at the hospital but last time the scans picked up our son was really big which pushed our hand with having an elective. I’m so glad we did as he had a whopping 40cm head.

Are you having the GTT? I’ve not been offered this yet I’m 42, have a history of having a big baby etc. I only had it last time because of baby boy’s size. Luckily it was negative but I’m two years older now. In my area it’s not offered to the over 40s unless there are signs. I’ve been told I’m even less likely to get it as I didn’t develop GD in my last pregnancy. I don’t understand this as age is a factor sometimes with GD. I guess statistically it’s not significant enough to warrant it for everyone.

I’m sorry to hear you’re finding staying positive hard? Is there anything in particular causing this? We had three losses before our son and two before. I’d probably say I’m more indifferent than positive or negative. Since our nt measurement came out the higher end of normal I’ve been a big on edge, even though I’ve been reassured it’ll likely be ok. Just struggling to bond with this baby. We’re probably going to get a scan next week to find out the sex do I’m hoping that’ll help. I have a strong feeling it’s a girl but I guess we’ll see. Xx

*home birth

I am considering a home birth yes, my last one was every possible medical procedure (except CS) and I just feel it might have been very different if I had been able to stay at home in my happy place! I just feel I want to be left alone by medical professionals 😂 except for if something genuinely concerning pops up. Ie not just arbitrary age. My partner is the opposite though! He’s not actually keen on home birth but it’s my choice really.

I just feel like I can’t trust my body after 2 mmcs. It clearly can’t recognise when the foetus has stopped growing so I’m always waiting and knicker checking. Still can’t make up my mind about a private scan!

Anyway, enough pessimism. I feel rough so I’m happy 🤣

@Gummybear17 oh no I'm so sorry to hear that! I'm glad your girls are doing ok but must be so stressful for you! 😘

@Catconfusion so much 🤞🏻 for Friday! Interesting as I'm still craving OJ and orange-related items, but having a boy here! 😃 Love the feeling of movements - so reassuring! Mine are getting much stronger now! 😃 I had a lot of hip pain a few weeks ago, but actually seems to have settled/gotten ok now! Either my body has done all its adjusting and/or pelvic floor/yoga is helping?! 🤷🏻‍♀️ Hope you get some relief as it's really not pleasant! 😘

@Pamparam the worrying etc is so tough and I don't think it'll ever go away! I won't be happy until he's here and healthy in my arms, but just trying to take it day by day! How odd that they've made you consultant-led on age alone - I thought they were a bit more relaxed about that? I'd take all the extra scans though - every week if I could! 🤣 how exciting/lovely that you're thinking of a home birth! 😃 Just finished the hypnobirthing book and they're big on home births! Weirdly, I'll feel more relaxed in the hospital I imagine?! 🤣

@M4v3r1ck it’s an interesting one - I don’t have any bad feeling towards my hospital birth, I’ve read so many negative birth stories very similar to mine and women saying they have birth trauma and I absolutely don’t have that. But there’s no doubt that if I hadn’t been fretting about when to go in, going in, getting sent home, coming back, getting very tired and stressed etc, unfamiliar setting with machines beeping, it would have probably gone better. Chilling at home, just working on keeping the oxytocin high, knowing I don’t have to go in unless I want to myself, it’s very appealing!

@Pamparam I’m so sorry you had two mmcs. I had one at 10 weeks and it’s completely screwed my belief in my own body’s abilities. Even after having my son with no problems. It’s just terrifying to know a baby can just stop growing with no warning. People say it’s rare for it to happen like that but when it happens to you it doesn’t seem that unlikely. I can imagine the worry is even worse after two.

It does sound like a home birth is a good option for you if you feel the hospital environment led to complications. I really hope your midwife is supportive of this if it’s what you decide. Xx

@M4v3r1ck it’s so interesting you’re craving sweet with a boy. I was repulsed by sweet things with my son and it was all about the salt. I guess it’s not a reliable way to tell the sex. I’m aching to know now but I doubt the EPAU sonographer will tell us. Last time they gave us an under carriage view and let us guess. To be honest I wasn’t sure what I was looking at. We might book a gender scan or wait it out until 20 weeks.

I’m 15 weeks today and I can’t believe how vigorous the movements are already and how big the bump is. The pain is a little better but then I’ve been wearing a bump band. Hoping the physio can help with done exercises. It is miserable being in pain. Xx

Thinking of you today @Catconfusion x

@Gummybear17 hope your family are doing okay and not suffering too much. And hope you manage to avoid catching it!

@M4v3r1ck glad you're doing well! Yes I'll do similar I think and get a growth scan privately in a few weeks to check all is okay. I want to check the placenta health really also.

@A1b2c3d4e5f6g7 thanks so much . All is going well at the moment and I am still negative. Got my eldest coming out of isolation on Sunday but little one is Wednesday x