End of Jan 2022 Babies, 1st pregnancy

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Hi ladies, I just found out I'm pregnant 4 weeks 1 day just seeing if there's any other newly pregnant who are as excited, terrified, elated, and shocked as I am 😂🤰🏻💕 Due Jan 30th 2022 🤞🤞🤞

Has anyone been finding themselves getting more and more anxious? If I'm not keeping myself distracted then my mind keeps to going to all of the worst possible situations and convincing myself they're going to happen. I do already struggle with anxiety prior to becoming pregnant but it's just been totally intensified over the last couple of days and I can't stop worrying

@Kayl23 I luckily don’t suffer from anxiety normally but yes, definitely feeling it right now. It’s not massively intense but just a constant buzz in the background. Time seems to be slowing down as well. I feel like I’ve known for ages but I only took the test on Sunday!

@OttilieKnackered Are you finding that anything in particular eases it at all? I know what you mean, I found out on Saturday so it hasn't even been a week but it feels like forever ago. I agree about the constant buzz too, I don't think I've stopped thinking about it since I found it, feels a bit exhausting!

@Kayl23 yes me too...I am still not convinced I will actually have a baby at the end of this...

I am trying just to focus on the fact that as long as I keep myself healthy, there is nothing I can do at this stage to influence the outcome of the pregnancy, so worrying about it will not change anything. I know it's easier said than done, but when I am very anxious I try to think about that, and it helps.

and remember that you are not alone in this :)

@OttilieKnackered so you can confirm that time is like 3x longer these days right???

@Kayl23 Any change in how I feel sets it off a bit, plus comparing symptoms to others. I think @EsseKey is right though, nothing we can do and worrying won’t make a difference.

And yes, as high lord of pregnancy time, can confirm your pregnancy will be over two years long.

I do suffer with anxiety and currently also have PTSD.

❌⛔ TRIGGER WARNING - BABY LOSS ⛔❌
I'm probably not the best person to have in a group like this as the worst case scenario did happen to me. My anomaly scan in November 2020 with ds2 showed he had very severe spina bifida (myelomeningocele) and we lost him a few days later. I was induced but I was already having contractions and my cervix had started to dilate, we were always going to lose him. He lived for an hour and a half and passed at 11:11pm like the tiny magical wish he was. But literally less than 50 babies out of the 70k a year born had what he had. It was a 0.08% chance. This is hopefully my rainbow baby.
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Overwhelmingly, the odds are in your favour for a healthy pregnancy. They really are. If you are struggling then trying some mindfulness meditations from YouTube may be helpful.

I'm currently more concerned about an ectopic pregnancy and losing my tubes and whether to book in for the covid jab. 🤦‍♀️

@EsseKey That's exactly how I feel too! I guess you're right about keeping healthy, that's really all that we can do. I think it's hard because I work from home but I don't have much on work wise at the min, so I have too much time to sit overthinking. The last couple of days I've been convincing myself that there isn't anything in my womb anymore and when I go for my first scan it will all be over xx

@SemiFeralDalek Oh I am so sorry to hear that 😔 I can't even begin to imagine how hard that must have been.
Thank you for the reassurance though, I guess you're right that there is a much higher chance of things going well than things going wrong!

@Kayl23 I totally understand, I am supposed to be working right now (also working from home but in a relatively quiet period) but any notification of mumsnet message I am here again ahahah
I also know the fear of going for a scan and see nothing...I mean we can't see anything from outside so it is difficult to convince ourselves that there is actually something (someone?!) in our bellies.

@SemiFeralDalek
so sorry to hear your story - mine is similar although I lost the baby earlier than you (11 wk). We were told to prepare for miscarriage during the 8wk scan...I am still thankful I went for that scan because it prepared me for what was coming...it doesn't make it any less awful though!

But indeed, the odds are still on our side, healthy pregnancies are still the majority of the pregnancies so that's what has to keep our hopes up and keep thinking positive.

Regarding the COVID jab, I was called in the same day I found out I was pregnant. I started to panic a little bit, but honestly I had decided way before knowing I was pregnant that no matter what I would have gone for the jab. It is very important that we all get that, and there is no evidence to think that is going to do any harm. I know it's scary - I have medical education so I can be rational about it and everything, but still I got my emotions and anxiety up when I had to book my vaccine appointment.

@SemiFeralDalek @EsseKey So sorry to hear your stories - must have been really hard to go through. Must be really hard to keep the worry in check after going through something so difficult.
I suffer pretty bad anxiety normally. I’m telling myself one day at a time. Today there’s a person growing and that’s all I can control. However, I have also bought myself some white knickers because I’m sure I can feel AF coming and I want to keep checking. Crazy - Level Up.

@GuessHowMuch everything you feel and do it absolutely normal, I mean yes a bit crazy but it's normal to be a bit "crazy" in these moments and we are all on the same page!
as you say, one day at the time!

@esseKeu I'm so sorry for your loss. Its so horrible. We had no clue until his anomaly scan, it was like being hit by a bus to be honest. I had a scan at 8 weeks and then my dating scan was almost 14 weeks and everything was perfect. So to get to 20+6 and find out he was incredibly poorly was completely out of the blue and unexpected. He was born at 21+4.

I think that's where my reluctance to have the jab just yet comes in. What went wrong with DS2 happened at about 28 days after conception. I am so frightened of having a temperature with the jab and it causing damage. I think I will, if all is progressing well and this is a sticky bean, book the jab coming out of the first trimester. Then second jab would be going into the third trimester and I'd be fully vaccinated over winter. Again, all being well. I can't deal in absolutes any more.

Ladies, symptom check. :)
Those of you who are experiencing metallic taste in your mouth (I remember someone saying it's like having change in your mouth...made me giggle) - what does it feel like? does it come and go? is it stronger when you eat/drink?
I noticed it for the first time a few minutes ago...at the beginning I thought it was just the water not tasting good (maybe need to change the filter), but now I can definitely say it tastes metallic, and the mouth feels dry...
I think it happened before but I forgot about it because it wasn't persistent, so I was wondering if this sounds like the metallic taste pregnancy symptom to you, or maybe it's something unrelated...?

I think I'm the only one not anxious! Sorry to hear so many are 😬 I'm really not anxious at all. Enjoying this time. What will be will be. Take your supplements, take care of yourself. Cross your fingers and enjoy the time 🌸💕🤰🏻

I'm feeling great, no nausea or anything. Good energy, if anything better than before as I'm so delighted with myself I have a spring in my step! Iv obviously had no caffeine when usually I'm all about it! I thought I'd be exhausted but I think I'm just so grateful that it's giving me energy! Totally gone off chocolate ( I think because I'm aware that has caffeine aswell), I'm eating really healthily and feeling 💯

Hi everyone,

I'm due early January, I'm around 8 weeks now. I'm also in the 30s club (I'm 31) and having my first! Had bad sickness the past 2 weeks. I'm finding feeling so ill is making it harder not to tell people! It's different trying to pretend to be 'normal' when in reality I have my head down the toilet in work first thing every morning

Hi all,

Can i join? I think I'm about 7 weeks. I'm really anxious because I had a MC in March, I'm thinking of booking in an early scan soon is anybody else having one? Also does anybody else's symptoms come and go? I felt like death yesterday and had to leave work early but I don't feel too bad today.

@ChinChilly sorry to hear about your MC. I hope you find a way to manage your anxiety

@EsseKey I think I will book one for just after 8 weeks, I wasn't tracking so I'm not to sure where I'm at. Sorry to hear about your MC too. I'm glad I'm not the only one who's symptoms come and go, I've had some nausea here and there and brushing my teeth at night always makes me heave 😂

I've been called for my COVID Vaccine today, I'm 29 so thought I had a few more weeks to think about it, has anyone thought about having it in the first trimester or already had it?

@ChinChilly I decided from the beginning that pregnant or not I would go for the vaccine as soon as it would be available for me...there is no reason to fear it and it is very important to get it.
Then they called me in the same day that I found out I was pregnant...and of course I got a little anxious (let's say I panicked for a moment ahaha), but then reminded myself of everything and how important it is, and I went for it without a second thought :) I had it last week (they also called me earlier than my age group, apparently they are ahead with the vaccination programme!)

@ChinChilly I had mine the start of this week. I had to answer I was pregnant on the questionnaire and read through this other form. I wasn't worried and the way I looked at it was that if we weren't trying I wouldn't have known I was pregnant at that point.

@EsseKey @mummyh2016 I think most people have gone ahead and had it, funnily enough my GP called me this afternoon about something else and I asked about being pregnant and the vaccine and she said they are not advising pregnant women have the vaccine at the moment. The advice seems to vary so much.

@ChinChilly this is very weird, the official advice (NHS and other health authorities) is to offer the vaccine to pregnant women, but informing about what evidence is out there so that every woman can take an informed decision.
Anyway everyone needs to do what they feel comfortable with :)

@EsseKey I was abit taken aback when she said not to have it, but my friend who lives in the same area but a different GP was told the same and she is much further along her pregnancy. It is definitely a personal decision

@ChinChilly my friend is 20 weeks and under a different trust and she was told not to have it as well. If I hadn't have had it now it would've meant I wouldn't have had it until Feb and didn't fancy a winter without being vaccinated.

@mummyh2016 I'm thinking exactly the same about autumn and winter without being vaccinated especially with all these new variants popping up.