End of Jan 2022 Babies, 1st pregnancy

[spttc]

Hi ladies, I just found out I'm pregnant 4 weeks 1 day just seeing if there's any other newly pregnant who are as excited, terrified, elated, and shocked as I am 😂🤰🏻💕 Due Jan 30th 2022 🤞🤞🤞

We should definitely check back on our guesses in January/February. As others have said I’d be happy with either, health is the main thing, but I just can’t shake this feeling it’s a boy!

It’s annoying as I definitely know the name for a girl but am a bit stumped for a boy. We have a while to think though.

@Jonesy88 Yes we definitely should! I have seen quite a few of the "Due month" threads on here, that when they start a 'part 2' 'part 3' etc, the first message they list out the users in that thread, along with their EDD and predictions. Until nearer the time when that will be replaced by actual babies!!

@expectinglittlebear how exciting!

I must admit when I saw the due feb and March 2022 threads getting going it dawned on me that we’re marching on. It feels still early days but then there’s already 2 cohorts after us!

I've been absolutely terrible at keeping up to date with this thread so have just spent this morning attempting to catch up but there's loads haha!

@expectinglittlebear I did notice your comment regarding your plans for maternity leave and wondered if you had considered KIT days? That way you could possibly extend your maternity leave for an extra few weeks and just work 2 or 3 days a week within that time to top your earnings up? You're also entitled to claim child benefit once baby is here, and although it's not much this would also top up your finances whilst on maternity leave (this is if you're in the U.K. of course)

I work as an employment specialist so happy to answer any questions/offer advice regarding mat leave and rights at work during pregnancy if anyone is unsure.

I just realised I’ll be 11+2 when I finally get my booking app on sunday. It’s getting closer to the time I can tell people 😬

@sociallydistained are you telling all people after 12 weeks? Or a select few?

I'm going to tell the project managers at work because projects are already booking up for next year and I need to not have any after mid Jan! But may wait longer to tell parents/friends.

There’s some people I want to tell ASAP after scan as I can! And then I want to slowly tell friends face to face as I see them. Eventually I’ll do a fb announcement but that wouldn’t be for a while!
I want to tell my employers straight away so they know and I have told my parents and Nan already.

My manager knows that I’m expecting as does a close colleague but we still have to go through my work planning for next year even though we all know that I won’t have a maternity cover so nothing will get done. It’s a bit crap for our clients but nothing I can do about it.

I’ve already told close family members and will just let the news slip out if everything is ok at the scan.

Because I’m keeping it hush hush I keep forgetting! My symptoms have really died down now. Less nausea and just sore boobs mostly. I keep going to meet friends and it’s like this burning sensation to say something then I tell myself I can’t and sort of forget. It’s going to be so surreal to tell people and be “openly pregnant”!

I have always had a stomach but I am certain it is more than that now and I’m really conscious of it and hiding it. I look forward to feeling more relaxed about it!

@sociallydistained I totally get what you mean! Worried I'm just going to blurt it out without thinking one day.

We saw friends at the weekend who have a toddler and it came up like 'so who do you think will have a baby next'... Having to keep a straight face was very difficult!

@sociallydistained I know that feeling about trying to keep it quiet from friends. I’ve told my best friend and I’m seeing another close friend tonight and I think I might tell her. I can’t wait to stop making excuses up about why I’m not drinking.

Also my symptoms really lessened last week and it sent me into panic mood. The nausea has slowly crept back in. My first scan is a week tomorrow, I’m so nervous and so excited at the same time!

@Tangfastic91 my dp and I were out with friends walking on Sunday and luckily we were having a conversation separate to them at the time but I blurted out “maybe the baby will be into crafts” as talking about how uncrafy I am and how my Nan would love to do some arty stuff with me 🤦🏻‍♀️ We both looked at each other like 😳 but fortunately our friends were looking in a shop window unaware 😂
There was another point dp was worried I was inhaling smoke from a grill and was very over the top protective and I looked at him like play it cool!

@Alle1991 Good luck with your first scan! Hopefully it will all be reassuring. I am nervous about my symptoms going too but the nausea does still rear it’s ugly head! Just want to get to 12 week scan now!

I think tomorrow is the day of telling employers in job 2 due to us discussing my future there…. I am super bricking it. I think I’d be bricking it anyway due to not liking formal sit down meetings like that but with the added pressure of this I don’t know how it’s going to go… so worried I’m going to burst into tears either way!

@sociallydistained that was lucky haha! Good luck with your employer tomorrow, I'm sure it will be fine but let us know how you get on!

@alle1991 good luck for your scan next week. Mine is next Wednesday eeek. Honestly if it weren't for the fact I feel sick at least 5 times a day and the crazy food aversions I wouldn't know I was pregnant. None of this extreme fatigue or bloating that most people seem to have (more like insomnia actually). Very ready for the nausea to disappear!

Knowing when to tell people is tricky. I have a bit of a tough situation maybe u can all weigh in on it 😂 so as we know we are all due very end of jan/start of February. Well....my best friend is getting married abroad on 2nd March 2022 🙈 so my baby will be about 4weeks old. Max! If it's not late. I obviously wouldn't be leaving it behind! I don't even know if I could get it a passport within 4 weeks. She's in the uk. Im in Ireland so the only way would be to get the ferry as I would worry about the baby on a plane with ears etc. She doesn't know yet......

I'm sort of dreading telling her as she is VERY into her wedding & im just not quite sure how to phrase it. Obviously my baby is more important than any wedding....goes without saying the baby will come first. In my situation would you bring a 4 week old baby abroad to a wedding? (small wedding....20 people)

I also feel it will take the joy out of telling her my news 💔😣

@spttc such a tough situation and sorry that you're dealing with it. Personally, I would let her know early on, as soon as you feel comfortable, that you won't make the wedding. You might not only be late, but could need a c section and travelling 2-4 weeks pp could be hellish. Better just to set the expectation early on rather than 'oh we'll try and make it'. Not an added pressure you'd want during that special bonding time with baby.

Oh @spttc that is a tricky situation! I personally wouldn’t want to take tiny baby abroad especially as you’ll just be settling into your life with a baby. It’s so early and and as you say it might even be impossible if baby is overdue?
I think it’s best to say the likelihood is small and let her get used to the idea. I’m so not into weddings so I really wouldn’t want to go. I understand it’s your best friend though and that’s really tough!

@sociallydistained I'm not really into weddings either if I'm honest! I don't think anyone is 😂 obviously I would have gone. But it is very tricky with timing.

@Tangfastic91 agreed I should tell her ASAP. If i had my way I'd tell everyone pretty late....maybe 16-18 weeks but in her case I might have to go sooner.

Do you think I can still tell her in a happy way? I feel like I don't want to be apologizing telling her I'm pregnant 😂 I had said to her I would be trying so she should be aware it's a possibility. If she was only having 1 wedding I could have not tried that month. But she's having uk wedding in March, hen party abroad in June, then Irish wedding in sept. So it's fairly spread out over a year! It would be tough to avoid. At least this way I can do the hen party and Irish wedding.

She's having another wedding! Then it's a no brainer, decline the UK one and tell her how much you are looking forward to the Irish one in Sep. If she really is your best friend she'll be a little bit sad but mostly thrilled for you and excited to meet baby.

@Tangfastic91 yeh it's all a bit extra! 😂 I think you're right tho in that I'm going to tell her I'm pregnant and be happy about it. It's only 1 of her 2 weddings! I'm the only non family guest invited to the first one though. There's only immediate family on both sides and myself. Which is an honor really. So that's why I feel so badly I can't go now 🙈🙈🙈

Hello everyone ! Hope we are all doing well. If anyone wants to join our due jan Facebook group (totally private, no one will know you have joined) just let me know. Happy to add you. Xxx

Ladies I don't know why I don't get any notification from this thread anymore? 😥 I just think that you have all suddenly gone quiet but then I see how many other messages I have missed! I like to be up to date 😁

@spttc I think that I would bring a 4wk old baby with me abroad, if everything is ok, but honestly there are so many things that can happen (even just being too tired!) that I would not give a final confirmation until the last minute, if at all possible! I am sure your friend will understand.

My friend gave birth and 1 month later she was road-tripping in Japan...just sayin' 😂

That said, since both our families live abroad, my (very flexible) plan is that we will travel and go visit them as soon as we get the passport for the baby - and it could be as soon as 4 weeks old. But we'll see!

how is everyone doing? I am ok, a bit tired and a bit of nausea in the afternoon, but so much energy in the morning! I have started to excercise in the morning just to get sure I move a little bit! I hope I can go back to "normal" excercise regime in a couple of weeks! I'm 11 wk today, so much looking forward for my 12wk scan next wednesday!

@EsseKey yeh I'm going to have to play it by ear. It's the safety & comfort of the baby that is my concern rather than my own comfort etc! Just at that age they've had no vaccinations, they're very vulnerable. You hear of people kissing babies and the baby dies as they've had a coldsore! I'm going to tell her I most likely won't make it. And then if at the time that changes I'll say it! It's just a party really! And she's having 2 of them 😅

@EsseKey where do your families live?

@spttc they live in italy! And very conveniently my family in the north, my partner's in the south! 😬 My big dream is to use a couple of months of mat leave road tripping in italy from north to south with the baby... But I know I am dreaming 😂

Btw how cool is it that your friend is having more than 1 wedding! 😍

Just catching up on all the messages from the last few days! Mine doesn't send notifications either :/

Hope everyone is feeling okay!

How are everyone's symptoms this week? I hit 11 weeks tomorrow.. 1 step closer to that scan and safer time period!

My nausea and sickness seem to be lingering around. One day it isn't too bad and only a bit of nausea, whereas another day I will have my head over the toilet the whole day and feel like I am dying. I was off work sick yesterday as I couldn't face leaving the house all day with how sick I was (and I hate calling in sick). I spoke to the midwife about it, if there is anything I could take that would help and the GP has prescribed me with Cyclizine Hydrochloride. Has anyone else had this before and has it worked? Had my first tablet this morning so fingers crossed it helps so I can feel somewhat normal