End of Jan 2022 Babies, 1st pregnancy

[spttc]

Hi ladies, I just found out I'm pregnant 4 weeks 1 day just seeing if there's any other newly pregnant who are as excited, terrified, elated, and shocked as I am 😂🤰🏻💕 Due Jan 30th 2022 🤞🤞🤞

@Pingupp welcome! It must have been quite a journey conceiving through ivf with donor egg, congratulations! :)

@EsseKey yes it was quite a journey for sure, emotionally and financially and we are very much in shock still! This baby is so wanted so ready to take on the aches, pains, sick etc!!
Mind you not so much the nausea.... dreading that a little bit 😬 x

@Pingupp fingers crossed for you that everything continues to go extra smooth! I know, we are all ready to take on the pains and sickness, but I guess it is always better not to have them eheheh but we don't get to choose, so we will accept whatever will come :)

@happysam congrats and welcome :)

@EsseKey thank you! 🥰

I am now in the quandary about the jab. I had 1st Astra jab. Not sure if I can have 2nd one? And if I can - when?
I suppose midwife can offer some guidance when I get to meet her.
I had to register my pregnancy on some Badger app and they come back to you once they process you. No idea when that will be 😬 when is the usual 1st contact with a midwife?
Xx

well the jab is a personal choice, but NHS is very clear now that vaccinations are offered normally to pregnant women because there is no evidence that they can cause problems in pregnancy and the risk is higher if you get covid while pregnant. They tend to offer Pfizer/Moderna to pregnant ladies, but since you had the first shot with AZ I think you will get the same for the second...but I am no expert so I am sure that the best advice will come from your healthcare provider!

First appointment with midwife is normally at 8 weeks, in my case it was on the telephone because it's just a bunch of questions on your health etc...
are you aware of any different treatment/checks you will get because of ivf? just curious :)

@EsseKey thanks for this. I shall wait for my appointment! I am.

Yes because of the ivf we have 2 early scans - one next week (6 wks to check it's viable and if they can detect heartbeat etc ) and one at 8 weeks to ensure everything is developing as it should be. So hopefully they will be ok and then they sign you off to the NHS. Not sure if we are going to go for the Harmony test as well. Need to do a bit of research into that one. X

Hey @Pingupp
I was just browsing the internet for something else, I came across this FAQ from NHS SE london website, I thought of you :)

"Q:If I get pregnant in between the first and second dose should I get the second dose as planned or wait? Is it ok to have a second dose of AstraZeneca knowing I am pregnant?
A:If you find out you are pregnant after you have had one dose of the vaccine (between doses), it is your choice to either have the second dose after the recommended interval, to wait until after the first 12 weeks of pregnancy (which are most crucial for the baby’s development) or defer until after pregnancy.

Your decision should take into account your personal exposure to and risks from COVID-19. You can discuss these risks with a doctor or your midwife.

Pfizer and Moderna vaccines are the preferred vaccines for pregnant women of any age, because of more extensive experience of their use in pregnancy. Pregnant women who commenced vaccination with AstraZeneca, however, are advised to complete with the same vaccine.

Although pregnancy increases the risk of clotting conditions, there is no evidence that pregnant women, those in the post-partum or women on the contraceptive pill are at higher risk of the specific condition of thrombosis in combination with thrombocytopaenia after the AstraZeneca vaccine. "

Good luck with the early scans, fingers crossed they are all ok!

Welcome @Pingupp & @happysam 🎊

My nausea is way less intense today. I was gagging/throwing up maybe 10 times a day. Today it's just twice so far. Funny how when something changes you think it has to be a sign of something bad 😂🙈 i know that nausea can go up and down day by day week by week though. I also think I'm just getting better at managing it. I'm drinking meal replacement shakes (slim fast ones in bottles) and it's been so helpful! Also means I'm actually getting vitamins and minerals not just dry bread/crackers. But yeh still find myself fretting....First scan next week I just can't wait to hear a heartbeat 🙈🙈🙈

I had my early scan this morning... a perfect little bean with a little flicking heartbeat @ 144bpm.

So over the moon!!!!

@EsseKey thank you for this! Very helpful x

@spttc bless you - hopefully I will have all this to come. I have ginger tea at the ready! X
@expectinglittlebear so lovely! That must have been quite emotional! X

@expectinglittlebear so jealous!! Mine is Tuesday! Are we on the same day? I'm 7weeks 4 days

@Pingupp thank you lovely, and welcome!

Yes it was emotional, so reassuring to see a little one rather than just a + on a plastic stick!

@spttc Yes I think we are, I am 7+4 today too!

The dates were bang on, measured exactly 7+4. Was so worried they would measure small, or my dates didn't match up!

@expectinglittlebear yay! I can't wait now! 🤩🤩

@expectinglittlebear so pleased to hear that your scan went well!! XX
i am a bit anxious for mine on Sunday... Fingers crossed!

@expectinglittlebear That’s great news!

It seems a few of us have early scans over the next few days. Mine is tomorrow and I’m excited and anxious all at the same time.

Hey girls. I also had my early scan today and everything is looking great, baby is measuring 7+4 and is in the right place with a nice strong heartbeat. But I still just don't feel anything, and it's really getting me down this afternoon. I was expecting to see the heartbeat and feel all emotional and start bonding with him/her but I genuinely just feel nothing, not even relief. I'm so sad because I've convinced myself there's something wrong with me and I won't want my baby despite the fact I wanted it so much and we tried for so long. I do have a tendency to completely shut down emotionally when I find something difficult, so I'm just really praying that the reason I feel like this is because I'm scared to get too happy/excited incase something still goes wrong. Just not a nice feeling, I feel like I'm a terrible mother before they're even born 😔

Honestly @Kayl23, I think all emotions around this time are completely valid and normal! Especially when there’s little in the way of “physical bonding” with the baby as you can’t feel it etc.

This is my second and I’m very blasé about it to be honest! I know how amazing the love is when they’re born but the actual pregnancy process without a real life baby you can see and feel can be very different for people so don’t beat yourself up, just take it as it comes.

Last time I really didn’t feel much emotionally until I found out her gender - for me I didn’t mind either way but being able to imagine a specific gender really helped me to imagine her and make it real.

She’s 4 now and my absolute best mate.

@Kayl23 at this early stage I think that's normal. You say you aren't bonding with it....but if you weren't pregnant tomorrow, and it was suddenly taken from you... you wouldn't feel that way....you'd be devastated. I think that's a bond. You want this baby. So I think that's really as much as you can expect of yourself at this point. I doubt I'll be emotional at my early scan. I'll be relieved and happy but then I'll head back to work and get on with my day. It's just the stage we are at. I think social media makes us think expectant mothers are floating around on a cloud nesting from day 1 but it's not the case.

Hi all

Congrats to the new people on this thread! 🎉

I had an early scan today and heard the heart beat and seeing the little baby on the screen made it feel real- especially to my partner who was almost in tears which was so lovely to see! I still feel like I’m not pregnant and just have the worlds worst hangover for a few weeks 🤣

But apparently I have my dates spot on and measuring 8 weeks, but I can not wait for this sickness to do one 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Kayl23 o think how you are feeling is perfectly normal. We can't physically feel anything yet - I just feel bloated and dizzy.
Also perhaps you are not letting yourself get carried away yet to protect yourself. I am trying to enjoy our special news but very conscious it is mega early and things for me could go wrong.
Don't be hard on yourself and enjoy the milestones as you get to them xx

@Pingupp @spttc @Clarkey86 Thanks ladies. I was actually really worried about posting that cause I felt that I'd made myself look ungrateful etc and that's really not the case, but I'm just really struggling with it at the min. I think tv/films give unrealistic expectations and that's really my only reference for seeing someone in the very early stages of pregnancy and they always seem to be completely in love! So I'm so relieved you understand and that it's normal ☺️ and I do think it's perhaps me trying to protect myself incase something bad happens. Maybe the 12 week scan will be different when it looks more like a baby and less like a prawn xx

@Fraanne lovely news. That must have been reassuring for you.
I am 5 wks today and got my 1st scan next Friday.... it's gonna be a long week ....!!

@Kayl23 absolutely!! I think weeks 1-12 is a lot of quiet hoping & crossing of fingers & nausea! I'd say when it becomes more real and we start preparing for an actual BABY as opposed to a prawn on a screen the real excitement will begin! Although honestly I think until the baby is placed in my arms I won't feel it's real 🤷🏻‍♀️😂 It's all very surreal especially when it's your first

@Kayl23 well that for a start is a wonderful news, and believe me it's not a given!
Honestly I know people that admitted not to have "the bond" even AFTER the baby was born.
Emotions and attachment are too personal to have a one size fit all approach, and there's nothing wrong with it. The social media and movies that tell us what we must feel in order to be good parents are just nonsense - you are who you are and you are going to be the best mother for you child no matter what are your emotions at this or at a later stage, full on magic and tears or more relaxed. This is it!

First pregnancy, first scan I also did not feel any particular bond tbh. Ok, at the time I got the bad news of likely miscarriage, but still seeing the little blob and heartbeat did not really resonate with me as much as I thought it would. I was actually more relieved to see that something was actually there, that there was something else other than the lines on the pregnancy test.
This time I had that very "informal" scan at 6 weeks and I felt quite different, probably because of the previous experience, or maybe just because my mind was in a different place. And it's ok! :)

@Fraanne congratulations, super good news for you too!

Oooh @EsseKey where are you? I filled in the form as soon as I got the positive test and haven’t heard a peep yet!

I have caved and booked a scan although for various reasons can’t make one until a fortnight today by which time I’ll be nearly 10 weeks anyway!