Minster's side car bumping along- TTC graduates part 2

[Justanothercyster]

Here we go ladies, hope to see more OGs soon 🤞🏼👶🏽🌈✨💕🥰

@Sausage1990 been thinking of you 💛xx

@lucyrp the weather has been so rubbish, nice to chill out though! We just chilled out too at the weekend, can't do much when it's raining like it has been.

I've been struggling today at work, been getting daily headaches now and my sense of smell is really making me feel sick all the time, I literally keep gagging. I thought the second trimester was meant to be better?! Any tips?

Aww @Justanothercyster I thought sickness would be gone by now. How many weeks are you? Mines hasn't been too bad it's mostly just really low appetite and constant gurgling stomach. I'm sure I've not hit peak yet though only just a couple of days off 8 week. I heard smelling something nice and fresh like lemon or orange can help. Might help if you can bring something like that for you to smell when you are smelling other bad smells? Maybe it doesn't work but it's all I can think of!

I remembered to call and cancel my infertility phone consultation and the guy on the phone was so lovely and said "ohh you're pregnant, congratulations!" So different to the receptionist on the maternity booking line who was so unfriendly. I hope some other couple can get the appointment now 🤞

@Justanothercyster yeah I'm working all next weekend too and I bet you it will be lovely sunshine !

@2020mission aww when I rang the fertility clinic to cancel my appointment the woman on the phone was so lovely, well she actually rang me to check I was still okay to go ahead on the day planned and I felt so guilty cancelling and like I was going to jinx it and she said "don't worry we'll just put a faint line through your name and if you ever need us again we'll be here"🥰🥰

Weather has been absolutely vile here most of the weekend but got some good sunshine yesterday so DH and I got out for a good walk with the doggo. Thrush pessaries are driving me mad. 3 nights left!!!!

I've handed in my mat b1 to HR now and I'm finishing on the 13th August with a week off before that. 56 days to go!!!!

@Kirky658 ohh the countdown begins! How soon before your due date is that you are finishing up? I'm hoping to work until the last minute as I have a laptop and so should be able to be at home in the final weeks 😅 3 nights of pessaries? I was only given 1 from my GP to take. Hopefully you won't need them again anytime soon.

Aww glad they were nice to you too @lucyrp yeah I could have cancelled mines sooner but was also scared to jinx it! I was so relieved to have that appointment through at the time, it feels strange to never have it.

@2020mission I am finishing 4 weeks before as long as my boss approves my holidays and starting mat leave 2 weeks before due date. To be honest I'm finishing early as a) I've already had enough of work and b) if I don't I will have to work big holiday shows etc in the summer so I don't want to have to have that to deal with. And as DH is a teacher it means we will get a couple of weeks to ourselves before our baby girl comes as well. Yeah they gave me 6 100mg pessaries 1 a night for 6 nights 😔

Sorry about the thrush @Kirky658 but yay for impending mat leave! 🥳

The only thing I have found to work against nausea @Justanothercyster is to try and prevent hunger at all costs! Snack as much as you can!

I had a fab weekend despite the rain, got to meet up with a friend I haven't seen in nearly a year and we did a pottery class! We booked it when the great pottery throw down was on TV 😂 it was so much fun though! Would thoroughly recommend for a silly day out. It came with a 2 course lunch and afternoon tea as well, so was fab! Now back to work (and Y11 assessment) with a bang 😭

I took the plunge and am now vaccinated 💪🏼 anxious but feeling good about the risk of covid in school, no doubt it'll only get worse again with the kids being able to go here there and everywhere.

@2020mission I'm 15 +2 now. It got better around 11 weeks but this past few days have been awful 🤢 that's a good idea, I'll have to have something nice smelling with me.

@lucyrp would be typical!

@Kirky658 eek! Is it feeling even more real now?

@Kate105 very true, lunch really helped today.Sounds like a lovely time with your friend! My aunt took a pottery class a few years ago and now she's a professional potter 😂

@kate105 thanks lovely. Unfortunately I'm a bit predisposed to it I think as I got it so regularly with my endo, think it's oestrogen driven. And pregnancy is meant to ramp any pre existing things up, my asthma is getting a bit worse too! Pottery class sounds amazing, I took DH for one for his birthday a few years back and we had a ball! Made a little ornament each. What did you make? X

@justanothercyster glad to hear you've been able to get vaccinated lovely. Bit of security for you being at school as well. It really does feel real now.. She's kicking and wriggling a lot more now and I can feel it, it's so wonderful. 😍

Ohh which vaccine did you get @Justanothercyster? I'm still not sure about it. It would be great to just know if it's 100% safe 😅 I'd absolutely take it if not pregnant but it's the unknown. I do reckon if I don't get it I'll be worried whenever I'm anywhere busy though.

@Kirky658 I didn't think you had asthma
I just assume anyone who's a runner wouldn't. Hope it doesn't get too much worse! Must be lovely feeling the baby move although I'm sure you'll be less excited when she's kicking you while you try to sleep 😂

@2020mission I used to have it really bad then when I started running it really improved and my peak flow was fantastic! I'm always so out of breath now though it's probably just as well I aren't running now. Yes I imagine when she starts kicking me at night it will be less lovely 🤣 but the insomnia is kicking my ass already so I guess some more kicking won't hurt haha!

@Kirky658 aww lovely 🥰

@2020mission they're recommending only Pfizer or Moderna for pregnancy now, second trimester is deemed safe based on the study done in America. Over 100,000 pregnant women were given it and no safety concerns at all. It's mainly just because of school for me tbh, if I was wfh I'd have held out until after

@2020mission this reassured me a lot: www.rcog.org.uk/globalassets/documents/guidelines/2021-02-24-combined-info-sheet-and-decision-aid.pdf

Thanks @Justanothercyster - saved that for reference 👍 it looks like I wouldn't be getting it until after 12 weeks so I've got some to time to think about it

@lucyrp hi lovely. I'm doing ok, well as okay as possible.... Actually I'm not doing so good at all. Just booked out of all chats atm, finding it all a bit much. Struggling to come to terms with no baby again. Wanting to be part of the mum world, and being so ready for it but once again I'm just looking in. And I don't fit with my friends who aren't ready for babies yet... All the ones who are ready for babies are either pregnant or have kids already... I don't know where I fit anymore. I feel in my heart that I'm ready to be a mum and to have my babies in my arms but my heart is also heavy knowing it'll be a while before I can have that. I need to wait for answers and it's definitely the right choice but it's hard. I feel like my whole life is on hold.

Wow sorry. I didn't mean to be so depressing. It's just alot of feelings & I don't really know what to do with them.

Sorry I'm not reading & keeping up properly. I miss chatting to you all, it's just a bit hard right now. Hope you're all doing okay too xx

@sausage1990 you've every right to express how you feel lovely, it breaks my heart to know what you're going through. Your time WILL come, I promise you. Sending love and hugs xxx

@Sausage1990 it's so heartbreaking to read how you are feeling, like @Kirky658 said...your time WILL come! Mother nature can't be that cruel. You need to let your emotions out, thats what this group of friends is for 🤗 so off load as much as you need to xx

On a little update today, we had a scare this morning with spotting and stabbing pains, but EPU scanned me and confirmed heartbeat is flickering away and measuring at 7wks as I thought. Just relieved. Work have suggested cutting my hours back so I just do 4 days a week which I'm considering but not for another 4 weeks or so, just to help as my legs and feet are so aching and sore by 3pm and I get a really uncomfortable feeling just under my ribs so assume it will only get worse as I get to second trimester xx
Hope everyone is doing ok otherwise?

Hi! Firstly @Sausage1990 sending you lots of love, and please feel free to keep updating! I hope this inspires and doesn’t upset you;

After 3 miscarriages between 9-12weeks....had my scan today and there is a heartbeat and a mini person in there! Was so nervous beforehand felt sick, can’t tell you how relieved and shocked I am that it is all ok! X

@hopeful110 @thinkingandblinking glad you're both doing well and lovely news on the scan too @thinkingandblinking.

I have two more nights of my thrush pessaries left I can't wait to see the back of the bloody things 🤣

I'm anxious, tired and moody, and I'm missing running like I never thought I would. Walking just isn't the same, don't get the same satisfaction out of it. I've got this thing where since I lost almost 2 stone a couple of years ago I always count calories and watch what I eat depending on what exercise I've done that day and I'm finding it so hard to turn that switch off, just try and eat healthily and when I'm hungry, but I'm hungry ALL THE TIME. I love my baby bump but I'm just not wanting to get huge as I don't think I'll cope with it.

Wah rant over ladies, sorry! ❤️

@Sausage1990 aww it's a horrible place to be being desperate for a family but not there yet. It will happen for you. I know there's nothing we can say to make things better right now you've just got to try and keep strong, focus on the test results coming and make time for yourself right now. Lots of treats and quality time with your husband! @Thinkingandblinking gives hope as it happened for her after losses. It might just be awful luck and all will be well next time 🤞

@Hopeful110 glad you got a scan and all is well. I was spotting for about 6 days from 6 weeks and it's worrying. It eventually stopped and never got more than spotting when wiping and then the next week my symptoms ramped up so I've been keeping hopeful for now. I put it down to cervix irritation.

@Kirky658 yeah I think being health conscious will make getting big at the end of pregnancy a bit harder to take. I'm already thinking about all my nice yoga poses I won't be able to do soon and a little worried I'll become inflexible 😅 all worth it though. We can get back into shape!

Hi everyone

Iv kind of falling off this as I'm just not feeling myself.
Not really sure what's up but I just feel really down, don't want to talk to anybody and just want to sleep all the time.
Hubby is getting annoyed with me, which I understand as I pushed for this pregnancy but I'm honestly so big already uncomfortable and my back and hip is so sore, I hate my job. Everything just getting me down, and there's a long way to go.
Sorry for the long rant, I'm going to speak to my midwife tomorrow.
I'm nearly 18 weeks 2 weeks till 20 week scan.
Still can't agree on a name for this wee girlie.

How's everyone else doing?

@Sausage1990 don't ever apologise let it all out to us as much as you need to. If writing it down helps even a little you keep doing that. Sending so much love to you. You will have your rainbow in your arms xx

Great news on the scan, and glad the spotting wasn't anything.

@Kirky658 have you decided on a name for your wee girl? Xx

Hope your all doing ok, sorry again for being a Downer hopefully things with my mental health will improve xxx

@djmum83 I completely understand how you're feeling. ❤️ I'm 23 weeks today. We have a name for our little one but keeping under wraps for now 😁 I am so so so sick of waking up at this time to pee and then being Roasting hot so not being able to get back to sleep...

@Sausage1990 aww lovely I know your time will come very soon. It has to, like the others have said Mother Nature can't be that cruel. She must know you're ready! I didn't really know what to do after my MMC as it was during lockdown so couldn't really throw myself into anything as nothing was open and we weren't allowed to do anything. However as soon as we were I focused myself on something else e.g my eating and health and that helped me while ttc xx

@Hopeful110 glad everything is okay after scan xx

@Thinkingandblinking was it your 12 week scan or an early private one ??

@Kirky658 I last weighed myself at around 12 weeks when I'd lost a stone due to sickness and then my scales broke and I just shoved them to the side until a week or two ago when I knew I had to brave them to see what weight I was. When I weighed I had put back on the stone I'd lost which I wasn't too concerned about as I'd gone from not eating to eating again but now I've put on another 6 pounds or so 😬 I'm trying to contain it but I am so hungry all of the time and feel terrible if I tell myself no to something I really want. Trying to stay active a little by cycling, I was going to go swimming but I cancelled my gym membership a couple of weeks ago until after baby is here xx

@DJmum83 I think I had completely the same thing around 20 weeks and it lasted for a few weeks. I just felt really down about everything and nothing in particular. OH found it hard, and I also hate my job atm and all my colleagues are talking about leaving which is difficult as they're actually all my friends so the thought of coming back off mat leave and none of them being there makes me sad. I'm 27 weeks this week and getting fed up of the waiting stage now. I just feel like all I'm doing is waiting 😅x

Yep 12 week one but actually put forward so will be 14 weeks this Friday!

I know it’s hard ladies but honestly your all doing amazing. It’s not easy growing a new small person, it’s exhausting work! Xxx