Minster's side car bumping along- TTC graduates part 2

[Justanothercyster]

Here we go ladies, hope to see more OGs soon 🤞🏼👶🏽🌈✨💕🥰

Lovely to see some more updates @Kirky658, she is just gorgeous and doing so well. Great job on the colostrum, I never managed with my first but hope to get some before my section in Feb.

Ladies I have made it past my 12 week scan, in fact my baby seems eager to join its big sister in the giant baby gang as I measured a full six days ahead of my dates from period/ov! Trisomy bloods all good too so a small sigh of relief from me! I didn’t realise how anxious I was until I got to the scan and when I saw it I just started crying!

I think sonographer managed to pick the absolute worst picture but have attached if anyone cares to take a guess - but will take with a pinch of salt given @2020mission news! 💙💙💙💙

@Haiyaa aww I know that 12 weeks scan and the NT screening results offer such relief from anxiety it's a lovely time. I'm refusing to guess based on nub or skull now 😅 but your little one is looking good!

I'll attach what they sent me away with from the 20 week scan yesterday for anyone who wants to nosy and see what a boy head looks like haha apparently if the skull is more round without eyebrow ridges it is meat to indicate girl and the nub is angled below 30 degrees from the spine too (parallel lines). Our first scan matched both for a girl which is why we were in shock.

@haiyaa @2020mission both amazing scan pics ❤️❤️❤️😍😍

Congratulations on the scan pics @Haiyaa @2020mission so lovely!

I am so DONE with pregnancy... Barely slept a wink last night between baby hiccups at 11:30 until past midnight, needing a wee every 5 minutes and then waking up starving at like 5am... Urgh I'm so tired and grumpy!

Beautiful scan pics 💕

Update: we're home! Thank god. I think the biggest luxury was peeing in our en suite in the middle of the night rather than a bucket 😂

@Kate105 awww how many weeks are you again? I also feel done. The swelling in my feet and ankles is relentless and massive, I definitely don't feel "glowing", just fat and hot!

I'm only 33 weeks @Justanothercyster so still a fair bit to go...! Feels like forever 😫

@Kate105 ah I'm worse at 28 weeks 😂 it drags! Not long til you meet your bubba x

Happy birthday @lucyrp 🎉🎉

@lucyrp happy birthday darling! Glad baba hasn't come on your day 🤞🏾😊

@Justanothercyster @becarefuloutthere thanks ladies 🥰 at least if anything starts to happen now it will be tomorrow they're born 🙈

@lucyrp aww happy birthday hun.

Hope you had a nice birthday @lucyrp although I imagine you are still fed up 😅 no joint birthday possibility now is good though haha!

@Florence13 thanks it was okay, I just chilled at home🥰

@2020mission yes very fed up, my friend invited me out for dinner with both our DS as her treat and I had to decline as I just wasn't emotionally available for socialising yesterday 😥 spent the morning crying in my pjs🙈 then my mum came up and we just relaxed and she cooked tea for us all

@lucyrp aww good and sorry to hear your at that point but completely understandable. On a completely random note have you tried eating Dates

Happy birthday @lucyrp but sorry you're still hanging in there! Hopefully it won't be too much longer! Xxx

@lucyrp aww bless you hun! I'm glad your mum came round and you didn't have to cook! Are you booked in for a stretch and sweep soon?

@Florence13 I haven't actually! Been doing absolutely everything else though😅 drinking about 4 cups of raspberry leaf tea, sex, walking, hot Curries, pineapple etc 🤣 just goes to show baby will come when baby wants to 🙈

@Kate105 let's hope not! I mean they want to induce me when I'm 12 days overdue so I guess at least I have that date now x

@becarefuloutthere im booked in for a sweep at 41 weeks which is next Monday and then if nothing happens I'll be induced on that weekend, would like to avoid that if possible though

@lucyrp hopefully the sweep does the trick then! 🤞🏾

@lucyrp aww sorry it wasn't much but it sounds nice that you chilled and had a nice tea. Not long hopefully 🤞🏼 what's a sweep?

On a side note, is it possible to get labour started a week early? It would be handy for baby to be born during Oct half term instead 😂

@lucyrp happy belated birthday!!!

Sorry I haven't been keeping up, I'm STILL in the ICU and starting to get very angry about it. My blood pressure was under control yesterday and it has started increasing todayahisn tao they won't release me onto the ward. I still can't see my baby whilst all this is going on as it's 'too dangerous to transport me in this state in case I get upset and I'm away from the medics'. So her daddy is trying to be there for me and her and its just breaking my heart. The midwifes just keep trying to be nice and telling me not to worry, it's only temporary, but they're not the ones missing their little girl's firsts. I want to be the person who put on her new baby grows, who cuddles her to sleep and sings to her, and the one who feeds her. I'm trying to express still and I'm told I'm doing well (get about 50ml a session) but I just feel like I'm failing her.

I have anxiety anyway and I'm really worried it's starting to spiral out of control as I can't stop crying, I just feel so helpless.

Alice is doing well we keep being told, but no one is giving us a clear picture of what she needs to achieve in order to be sent home so that's causing me mega problems worrying about that.

DH never talks about his feelings, says he is fine and coping well, but he's panicking about needing to sort stuff out for work for his paternity leave and he has now booked this for starting on 31st August and it feels like at this rate I'll still be here and so will Alice...

Sorry to go on a pity party rant but I'm just so fed up now. I was told I'd be discharged to the ward this morning now I'm being told I've got to stay here and I'm physically so well there's literally nothing wrong with me!!!!

Aww @Kirky658 I was wondering how you were doing it sounds awful being separated from her! I hope any moment now they will move you and let you go and see her. I'm glad it sounds like she's doing well though but I know it's not the same when you can't go and see her and would be far better if you were all home together.

I was watching a maternity program on channel 5 last week and a woman on it was on talking about her daughter in the neonatal unit who was born super early at about 28 weeks. She said she was told they won't release her until she reaches her actual due date. I don't know if that's the case for all NHS hospitals or was just that one in particular but there's a small chance they have that in mind? I would hope it would be entirely down to the baby's overall progress rather than fixing on a set date as I'm sure some would be absolutely fine a couple of weeks earlier if there's no issues and they are able to breathe, feed, etc.

It's a hard time but try to keep as positive as you can and know that you'll all be home together soon 💕

@Kirky658 it sounds really rough and I hope you get some clarity for your treatment soon! When my little one was in NICU my husband asked his work for an additional weeks paternity leave and it was granted as tbh we couldn’t have dealt with him returning to work! So might be worth asking.

Also we were kept in the dark on baby’s treatment and then one day this army of paediatricians arrived and told us they had just had their weekly meeting and we’re happy to discharge..it was all very random!!

Aw bless you @Kirky658 that sounds awful, it's horrible to feel like you're missing out when that instinct kicks in I can imagine. I really hope you can be all together soon, try to keep strong x

Ahhhh @Kirky658 you really are being put through the wringer! Hopefully you get some answers soon but you're doing an amazing job xxx