Minster's side car bumping along- TTC graduates part 2

[Justanothercyster]

Here we go ladies, hope to see more OGs soon 🤞🏼👶🏽🌈✨💕🥰

@Justanothercyster I had my whooping cough injection and listened to the heartbeat for the first time at my 16 week appointment but like the others said a lot of MW won't do it at 16 weeks as it's sometimes hard to find so early x

@samoyedfan123 good luck with the scan.
@justanothercyster same here for 16 weeks, urine checked, BP checked, listened to heartbeat, that was it!
@2020mission I read up about the whooping cough vaccine and it said from 16 to 32 weeks was best. X

Same here with both the 16 and 24 week scans. HB was fun the first time but I wanted something new to entertain me this time 😂🙈

@2020mission I agree that seems early, I was told after 20 weeks by my gp 🤨

@Clairey844 ah cool, was just wandering if it was overly important.

@SamoyedFan123 ahhh see I'm desperate to hear the HB that's the only reason I want to go! Because I've moved areas they're redoing my bloods and everything for the new community teams notes next week so I wonder if I can be cheeky and ask them to do it then.

@Kirky658 @lucyrp @Kate105 thanks ladies!

Just dropping by as I haven't been around much the last couple of weeks. We had our 12 week scan last Friday which showed a structural abnormality and high NT followed by high risk results in the combined screening. Our follow up scan this morning sadly showed we've lost the baby so I will be going in for surgery tomorrow. Wanted to wish you all the best for your pregnancies and know that we've just been very unlucky this time around. I've really appreciated how much support there is from everyone here, take care x

OMG @TickTockTee I'm so sorry to read this, that's devastating for you. I hope you and your DH are looking after each other abd thad everything goes as well as it can do tomorrow xxx

@ticktocktee oh lovely, I'm so sorry, devastated to read your news, such sad news. I hope you are DH are OK, take care of each other. Xx

So sorry @TickTockTee that is heartbreaking. I hope you're both holding onto one another for support, if you need anything we're here too xx

Oh I'm so sorry @TickTockTee look after yourself ❤️❤️❤️

Heartbroken for you @TickTockTee 💔 take care of yourself and we're all here whenever you need us.

@TickTockTee I'm gutted for you so sorry, Take care of yourself xxx

@TickTockTee oh no I'm so sorry to hear your news. Hope you and DH are looking after each other 💔xxx

@TickTockTee so sorry to read this, hope the surgery goes as well as it can today. Life is so unfair and cruel at times xxx

@TickTockTee I've been thinking of you today - I hope everything went OK and you are being well looked after now xxx

So I had my growth scan yesterday which was fine, and baby is now weighing in at eight and a half pounds - I'm not even 36 weeks until this weekend 😳 so I've now got an induction booked in for two weeks on Monday. Just to hope that my body will be ready at 38 + 1 as its a VBAC so I'm going to struggle to be allowed the full induction before they push for a c section.

At my consultant appointment since we were discussing birth plans I pointed out that my MW had told me I would need to let the delivery team know that anti c antibodies had been discovered in my 28 wk bloods. Haematology had apparently told her this wasn't an issue, they would just need to have the right blood ready in case I needed a transfusion during delivery. The consultant seemed confused by this and did some research, followed by an urgent call to haematology himself at it turns out that the MW was taking complete nonsense, and that anti c antibodies are one of the strongest risk factors for HDN. There had been a request with my 28wk blood results (back in April!) for repeat vitals to be taken every couple of weeks and sent to the welsh blood service for titering to determine whether the levels are rising or not. Rising levels would mean that my body is actively attacking my baby's red blood cells, putting him at risk of stillbirth at worst, or severe illness requiring an intrauterine blood transfusion, or NICU treatment after birth. If the levels are low and not rising everything could be absolutely fine but now we have no way of knowing what's going on because nobody bothered to raise any of this back in April. I feel really let down by the NHS tbh.

As it stands they've done emergency bloods to be sent off for testing now but that will only give us a static level of antibodies, and not the important indicator of whether they've been rising over time or not. As I don't feel proper movements I don't even have the ability to monitor how well baby is doing that way so I'm now literally terrified that he could get really poorly at any moment and i'd have no way of knowing.

All my consultant could do is request a NICU baby doctor is present for my delivery and he will likely be taken away to be tested for HDN as soon as he is born now 😭. Sorry for the long ramble, just needed to vent somewhere and get the worry off my chest a bit.

I hope everyone else is having a better day than me xxx

@samoyedfan123 oh hun that's awful, sorry that they've let you down so badly! How come you aren't feeling movements do much if you don't mind me asking? Hopefully they will be on the ball now and keeping a close eye on you. Xx

@SamoyedFan123 I'm so sorry this is totally unacceptable. They should keep a close eye on you from now. And not be long and baby will be here.
Hope your ok xxx

Thanks ladies. I'm ok, just stressed out.
@kirky658 I haven't felt proper movements at all this pregnancy - it's a combination of a fungal anterior placenta and probable internal nerve damage from my last delivery which was a horrific crash caesarean followed by a huge PPH. I had to have all sorts of internal stitches. I was having to go in every other day for CTG monitoring up until about 32 weeks because of it but since then I've at least felt something most nights so as he's got bigger it's improved a little. I rarely feel any movement during the day though.

@samoyedfan123 oh bless you lovely it sounds like you have been through the mill!!! Hope you are OK xx

@SamoyedFan123 that is just so much unnecessary stress for you! Hope they look after you better from here on and not long til you get to meet little one x

I'm just such a mess today 😖 been having periods cramps all day, like a dull ache and every now and then stronger on one side. Just thinking the worst but I'm trying to stay sane. Did anyone else have cramps around 19 weeks?
We're off to friends house for lunch now, so hopefully will distract myself. So not in the mood though 😭 just want to sit and cry

@Justanothercyster i think cramps can be pretty normal at almost any stage tbh - don't forget braxton hicks can start up at around that stage too. At around 26 weeks I had 4 days of awful strong cramping, thought it was early labour at one point but all was fine.

I am seriously beginning to lose faith in the NHS. Last night i went in for monitoring as I huang felt movements all day and I'm now completely paranoid about HDN. The trace was perfect but they spent ages trying to chase up the results of the emergency bloods I had done on Thursday. Turns out that the blood transfusion service rejected the bloods for testing because the MW had used some of the pre-printed sticky labels from my maternity notes to label the vials, rather than labeling them by hand 😳 they hadn't even bothered to call and say there was an issue - we only found out because the hospital chased. So now I have to go back to the maternity unit tonight to have another blood draw to be sent off sgain tomorrow - it's absolutely ridiculous 😭

@Justanothercyster it's probably your round ligament pains. I had it a lot in second trimester x

@Justanothercyster you'll be growing rapidly now I'm sure it's growing pains! Try to keep positive remember all the other times you've had similar cramps and all was fine. Completely understand the worry though when I first felt the pains last week I instantly panicked.

I'm actually here in a panic over something else... has anyone heard bad things about sunscreen? I've been slathering this Nivea one I had in the house on me a lot the last couple of weeks when it's been sunny as I'm aware in pregnancy you need to be extra careful in the sun but just hit an article about how the chemicals in non mineral based sunscreens are damaging to the baby 😭 anyone have any knowledge on this? This is the one I was using:

www.superdrug.com/Skin/Sun-Care/Sun-Protection-Sprays/NIVEA-SUN-Suncream-Spray-SPF-30%2C-Protect-%26-Moisture%2C-200ml/p/765545

Thanks for reassurance. It's just because it's low down (around knicker line at the front) and like a strong pressure that it's worrying me. Just so paranoid. Feels like something pushing from the inside 😖

@SamoyedFan123 what?! That's getting beyond a joke now!

@2020mission omg I never even considered sun cream being dangerous 😱

@2020mission to be honest I read up about plastics, sun cream, hair shampoo, shower gels etc all containing harmful compounds and decided to run the risk. I think if we worried about every little thing we would be buggered! Xx

@SamoyedFan123 omg that is ridiculous now. I would be putting a complaint in.
I'm the same just now midwife forgot the blood pressure machine, my ectopic heartbeat is driving me mad, still waiting on a 24 hour ecg.
It's a joke

@Justanothercyster I have cramps tonight just everything stretching I would say. I'm 21 weeks today xx