Due December 2021! Thread 2

[Horehound]

Continue the BFP's!!

@Minster2012
@MamaMoonbeam

I feel like I’ve tried all sorts; crackers, plain biscuits, ginger biscuits, ginger ale, plain toast, plain bread, Ice lollies.

I am in touch with the gp as they prescribed me anti sickness earlier in the week.

I will try a ginger tea but I think cold things are a bit better than hot.

I have mixed emotions, just so happy that I’m finally pregnant but feeling so miserable with this atm. I shouldn’t moan because I know how lucky I am to be in this position but it’s really tough going atm

@Inthecanyon hopefully you can find an anti sickness which works better for you 🤞🏻

@Lauevans2510 I don't know if hcg can stay in your system after giving birth, if I were you and you've had a few different tests all positive then I would speak to my GP to get a blood test

@Inthecanyon
I have the same as you. I hg with my first and with my miscarriages.I have my tablets in the cupboard, but don’t want to take them this early on. I go for really tiny amounts every 30 minutes, literally just a single bite. I’m still getting sick, but I’m sure some must be staying put.

Yesterday when I told my partner I'd booked an early scan for 2 weeks Sat, he said this pregnancy thing is going fast... Um no!! 😅 We only found out 2weeks2 days ago, it feels like at least double that 🤣

@Inthecanyon I’m really struggling with sickness too! I had it with DD but was just nauseous 24/7 rarely sick and lasted until 22 weeks

But this time around I’m actually throwing up food. I’m on anti sickness too but it’s not working so speaking to GP again today for alternative. This part is just absolutely miserable and it’s debilitating - I literally can’t do anything! I am sure I ended up with depression by 12 weeks last time and I just feel so miserable already knowing it could last until the second trimester again.

It’s all worth it, it’s all worth it, it’s all worth it...

Lol @climbershell it's so different being the actual pregnant one, everything drags.

To the poster who said about trying to enjoy all the things you can before your life changes immensely, yes!! Like just leaving the house with no faff, no baggage!

I don't have any tips for the folks who are being so sick. I've never been sick yet but I do feel sick and that is bad enough so I really feel for you, that must be horrible.
I tend to feel very sick at night after dinner/laying in bed.

Occasionally I sip Tesco's carbonated flavoured water and that seems to help.

I got the info & maternity notes pack in the post Wed. Need to make decisions on what tests we want doing before my midwife appointment. Down syndrome, sickle cell etc... Is anyone doing these?

It would be heart breaking to find out there were issues but I guess better to be pre warned...

This morning I've woken up feeling terrified about how I'm going to cope.

It was such a surprise to be pregnant. I've been with my husband for nearly 13 years so it was always on the cards at some point in the future.

However, now it's sunk in I'm so worried.
My husband has depression, 3 out of 4 weeks he's just his normal self - the other week of the month he's like a ghost.
He's always wanted kids - but since we've found out he's barely reacted. I might aswell have told him we've bought a tin of paint.

We've had a difficult lockdown, as I'm sure other people have too.

I'm worried about how alone I feel now, and I've still got the rest of the year to be pregnant by myself.

I haven't told anyone I'm pregnant with it still being early, which is making me feel more alone. I don't want to tell anyone because I know people will ask how my husband feels and I don't want to lie about it.

Sorry for the long post!

@climbershell I had the tests done with my first, I'm fairly sure it's just a blood test combined with the nuchal measurement done at your 12 week scan.

I'll be having them done again with this baby.

The only thing I said no to first time and will say no to this time is an amniocentesis to test for my genetic disorder, Baby has a 1 in 3 (it was 1 in 4 with my first) chance of inheriting it, but the severity can vary. I said no because amniocentesis can cause miscarriage (a very very low risk but not one I was willing to take)

Hi guys.

6 weeks today but woke up and there's blood when I wipe. So worried and not sure what to do. Had a MC before before there was more blood but I was further along. Just waiting now hoping it goes away

Had my early scan this morning and it went perfectly! I thought 7+6 but measuring 8+1 with a strong heartbeat. I know we’re not out of the woods but after 5 years of trying, I can’t believe it ❤️

That’s amazing congratulations! I bet that’s such a relief! Now to get to that 12 week mark for extra relief! Xx

@Sair44411 sorry to hear you are feeling so alone but you have us! My husband is very chilled about everything and I suppose I expected him to be more excited when I told him. I know he is excited but when I'm excited I'm jumping around the place whereas he is much more controlled. I'm sure he is just as excited as you but might take a bit of time to process all.

@IndigoJam I'm afraid I'm no use here but I'm always terrified of seeing blood when I wipe - I think it just makes us panic! I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing though if it's not much as have seen a few posts and some people have had some bleeding but if you are worried then I'd call your GP just to get some reassurance on it all. I'm sure other posters will have some more advice here.

Hi!

I'm 5+4 going for an early midwife appointment due to bleeding at the beginning. Anyone else had light spotting?

@climbershell I will be having all the tests done

@Sair44411 that does sound difficult. Is he seeking help? I'm not going to pussy foot around this, having a baby is hard and you need to be a team. He will need to pull his weight and you will need him as a support. Do you have good family support?

@IndigoJam
Sorry to read this, can you call your EPU and go for a scan?

[quote Cuddles21]@Sair44411 sorry to hear you are feeling so alone but you have us! My husband is very chilled about everything and I suppose I expected him to be more excited when I told him. I know he is excited but when I'm excited I'm jumping around the place whereas he is much more controlled. I'm sure he is just as excited as you but might take a bit of time to process all.

@IndigoJam I'm afraid I'm no use here but I'm always terrified of seeing blood when I wipe - I think it just makes us panic! I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing though if it's not much as have seen a few posts and some people have had some bleeding but if you are worried then I'd call your GP just to get some reassurance on it all. I'm sure other posters will have some more advice here.[/quote]
Maybe your right - I'm probably thinking the worst and it is still early. I'm hoping he comes around soon!
I'd be lost with out of this group and all of you < 3

[quote Horehound]@climbershell I will be having all the tests done

@Sair44411 that does sound difficult. Is he seeking help? I'm not going to pussy foot around this, having a baby is hard and you need to be a team. He will need to pull his weight and you will need him as a support. Do you have good family support?

@IndigoJam
Sorry to read this, can you call your EPU and go for a scan?[/quote]
No you are right, I'm going to be relying on him for so much and he'll need to step up.
He hasn't sought any help for his situation- he has an old school male view that men shouldn't feel like that and shouldn't ask for help.
I've always prompted him to get support.

I will give it a few more weeks and change my approach with him I think.

My family will be a massive help, and so will his when we tell everyone.

I'll be having all the tests. We got the NIPT done for my daughter and will do the same for this one. I'd prefer to know everything definitely.

sjhs86 congratulations! That must have been amazing to see.

IndigoJam I always bleed around 6 weeks. It's been very different bleeding each time. With my first MC it was super light spotting, with my daughter it was kind of heavier spotting and with some little clots/grainy bits then with my second MC it was heavy period like bleeding. So it could be normal the bleeding you're having. Can you ring your epu and get an early scan for reassurance? It's so worrying to have spotting/bleeding. If it helps I read a study about miscarriage and bleeding early on in pregnancy and as long as the bleeding is spotting or light bleeding then there's no increased risk of miscarriage if the bleeding isn't the start of a miscarriage (if that makes sense).

@IndigoJam Definitely give your EPU or GP a call for advice, they might decide to give you an early scan. Some bleeding can be totally normal so try not to worry too much.

@Sair44411 You need his support now more than ever. He has to help himself now before baby comes along, a new baby and all the changes that come with them could really aggravate his depression. If I was you, I would tell someone else close to you that you're pregnant just so you have some other support . It's awful to feel alone, especially at an anxious time like this. I hope things improve

@Inthecanyon and anyone else who mentioned sickness/nausea/HG, there's a great thread on here called "Hyperemesis support", it really helped me when I was pregnant with my wee boy a couple of years ago and I've seen its still going now. Lots of great advice and information. Also worth checking out Pregnancy Sickness Support. There's actually quite a few anti-sickness meds you can try but not all GPs, consultants or midwives know enough about HG to be able to support ladies unfortunately 😔 I found citrus fruit like oranges and pink or red grapefruit have me a bit of relief from the nausea last time round.

@IndigoJam I've had the same today... I'm either 5+4 or 6+2, and had some red spotting at 6am.

The doctor has referred me to the EPU, and I'm waiting for a call back from them now. The doctor thinks they'll see me today, so I'm trying to be calm until then... I'm not going to lie, I'm so scared that I feel sick, but you're not alone

No blood since, and no cramps, so I'm hoping those are good signs...

Just to update, incase it helps... I've now got EPU later. As I'm around 6 weeks, they're going to do bloods and an examination, and a urine test, and then see if my HCG levels are above 1,500... if they are, they'll do a scan. If not, they'll wait 48 hours and retest.

I have to go alone later this afternoon, and there might be up to a four-hour wait...

I'm so scared.

@TakeYourFinalPosition Good luck for this afternoon. The wait is horrendous but hopefully it will be worth it and they will be able to give you some reassuring news

I have my early scan in a few hours. I'm so flipping nervous and the day is dragging. Last pregnancy ended in MC at almost 12 weeks so I've been feeling so anxious about whether this one will stick. Even if it's good news today I know it's no guarantee, but at least I'll know if things are ok for now.

If all is well (🤞) it'll be interesting to get a better idea of my dates too. I'm 10 weeks by last period but suspect I'm only actually 8 weeks.

I'm so far behind on this chat. I'm sorry for all those anxious. Fingers crossed for you all.