Absolutely effing HATE being pregnant

[BertieBoo88]

There.. I said it. I'm sorry for people who long to be pregnant and don't want to sound ungrateful.
But I fucking HATE being pregnant. I'm only 14 weeks and I feel constantly on the brink of vomiting so I can't even go to Tesco without having a panic attack.. all I can do is lay in bed or on the sofa. 6 months sounds like a lifetime away. I feel like I'm on the worst rollercoaster and all I want to do is get off. How is this meant to be the most natural thing in the world!? What a joke. I think it's triggered some underlying depression and I just feel like my life has stopped. Everyone is going to work or living their lives the best they can in the circumstance and this pregnancy has put my life on pause. Seriously wondering if it's too late to do something about it to be honest.
Sorry I just needed a rant.

No judgement from me - everything you’re feeling I felt. The first trimester and all the raging hormones along with constant nausea, sickness and excess saliva makes you question how you’ll be able to carry on the journey. It’s debilitating and I wish I had some advice other than wait it out and ride the motions because better times are coming x

I can only echo what Worriesome has said.

I'm TTC but like to read the pregnancy topics because I'm half excited half terrified and like to know other people's experiences. What you're going through is my biggest fear with pregnancy, I'm awful when I feel sick and anxious. I truly hope that things change for you over the next few weeks! X

Thank you. I think it's making it worse as when I cancelled the abortion at 8 weeks I was thinking I maybe had another 4 weeks to endure.. 12 weeks have been and gone and some days I feel worse not better. My best friend has found out she pregnant too and she's so happy and also makes me think if I don't go ahead with the pregnancy it would be a constant reminder.
When did you both start to feel better by?

I just want my life and my old self back. I want to go back to work, to be bothered to do housework, to enjoy a bloody look round B&M! To be the mum my 4 year old needs. Not just be this anxious shell of myself who can barely move.

@HRHXO

I'm TTC but like to read the pregnancy topics because I'm half excited half terrified and like to know other people's experiences. What you're going through is my biggest fear with pregnancy, I'm awful when I feel sick and anxious. I truly hope that things change for you over the next few weeks! X

Thank you. I was absolutely fine with my son apart from the occasional short lived wobble so naively expected this to be the same. Apart from the whole 14 weeks so far have been huge earthquake not a little wobble! I feel sick when I'm anxious and anxious when I feel sick so it's a vicious circle x

I understand OP, I felt similar when I was pregnant, even though I really wanted to be. It’s a tough time and if you feel really sick constantly it’s so hard to live like that day in day out. I don’t think people always get it unless they’ve felt that ill themselves for weeks on end. Hang in there, it WILL get better. When your nausea goes (hopefully soon) you’ll feel like a new woman!

I felt exactly the same and I felt guilty because it seems like you’re supposed to enjoy it, but I honestly don’t see how anyone can! Have you tried speaking to your midwife at all? I was referred to the perinatal mental health team and they have been amazing.

@Hadenough21

I understand OP, I felt similar when I was pregnant, even though I really wanted to be. It’s a tough time and if you feel really sick constantly it’s so hard to live like that day in day out. I don’t think people always get it unless they’ve felt that ill themselves for weeks on end. Hang in there, it WILL get better. When your nausea goes (hopefully soon) you’ll feel like a new woman!

When did you start to feel better by? I've just scared myself stupid reading posts (mainly on here) of women who had it all the way though "I was sick until her head popped out" and I just think nah, nope, no can't do that. I honestly hate to think what that would do to my mental health... I wouldn't be able to be a mother to either child I think I would've sunk that low if it last as long as that.

I'm now 15 weeks and the excitement is starting but this is pregnancy 5 baby 4 (mmc at 12 weeks). Honestly never felt this poorly, the exhaustion the sickness the reflux it's constant 🤦🏼‍♀️. The reflux is now worse than the sickness but it's making me feel sick. Just hoping it will go but don't think it will lol

@RunnerDuck2020

I felt exactly the same and I felt guilty because it seems like you’re supposed to enjoy it, but I honestly don’t see how anyone can! Have you tried speaking to your midwife at all? I was referred to the perinatal mental health team and they have been amazing.

Enjoy it or "put up with it" "you're pregnant not ill" "it's self inflicted" "just get on with it" It doesn't help at all. If someone offered to knock me out or put me in a coma until this bloody baby is born I would happily oblige..

Just to add, my nausea started to ease at around 16/17 weeks in terms of ‘some good days, some bad days’ then vanished completely at about 19/20 weeks. I felt like you, truly hated it, particularly second pregnancy as I felt I was being such a bad mum to my first. All I can say is once it went away I felt sooo much better and although the rest of the pregnancy wasn’t a walk in the park, nothing bothered me too much as I was just so happy to be nausea free! Easy labour and the most amazing little baby at the end of it, I’ve told him a million times he was worth every second. Hang in there and speak to your midwife ASAP about how bad you feel. Have you considered any medication? I’ve heard some people have acupuncture to help with pregnancy nausea - might be worth a try if there’s someone near you? Presume you’ve tried travel sickness wrist bands? They took the edge off for me so it was more manageable some days

@Skymum82

I'm now 15 weeks and the excitement is starting but this is pregnancy 5 baby 4 (mmc at 12 weeks). Honestly never felt this poorly, the exhaustion the sickness the reflux it's constant 🤦🏼‍♀️. The reflux is now worse than the sickness but it's making me feel sick. Just hoping it will go but don't think it will lol

You're only a week ahead of me then. When did you feel your nausea start to ease? I recommended omeprazole for the acid it worked well in my last pregnancy x

I started feeling better when I was prescribed cyclizine.

I hated every minute of both my pregnancies, and the thought that I'll never be pregnant again makes me very happy!

My first is 16 now. My second turned 1 in January. I thought I might enjoy pregnancy more the second time around, but I definitely didn't. I love my children though

I love my children so much, but there is nothing beautiful or wonderful about pregnancy/labour from my own experiences.

This feeling won't last forever. I do feel for you, it sounds miserable, but you will get your energy back and you will feel better.

Could you speak to your GP to see if there is any anti nausea/sickness medication you could be taking?

I had extreme nausea with DD1 for the first 15w of pregnancy. Awful! It disappeared completely after that and the rest of my pregnancy was a breeze. With DD2 though, I had a few waves of nausea early on and then nothing for the rest of my pregnancy.

It sucks now but it will get better. Congratulations on your pregnancy.

I hated it too for the most part. I was sick/nauseous all the way to the end but it definitely eased up with tablets and naturally at 7 months. Call the doctors and get some tablets!

@Hadenough21

Just to add, my nausea started to ease at around 16/17 weeks in terms of ‘some good days, some bad days’ then vanished completely at about 19/20 weeks. I felt like you, truly hated it, particularly second pregnancy as I felt I was being such a bad mum to my first. All I can say is once it went away I felt sooo much better and although the rest of the pregnancy wasn’t a walk in the park, nothing bothered me too much as I was just so happy to be nausea free! Easy labour and the most amazing little baby at the end of it, I’ve told him a million times he was worth every second. Hang in there and speak to your midwife ASAP about how bad you feel. Have you considered any medication? I’ve heard some people have acupuncture to help with pregnancy nausea - might be worth a try if there’s someone near you? Presume you’ve tried travel sickness wrist bands? They took the edge off for me so it was more manageable some days

Thank you I'm sorry you went through that but I'm glad it's not just me who's felt this way. Did you actually vomit or did you 'just' get nausea? I think it is the fact of feeling so sick all the time has triggered my anxiety and because I've not been able to do anything I've had time on my hands to think. I've got myself down about everything from ex boyfriends to jobs I wish I hadn't left! Those things barely crossed my mind before all this. I've got some tablets from the doctors and they do take the edge off but they give me headache. I've got the bands, never thought of acupuncture I might look into it when things open up again. Same here with it being second, I feel guilty for me son and my parents and partner are making me feel bad for not giving him much attention. Was your second labour a lot easier? So after about 20 weeks you felt more or less ok? x

@toolazytothinkofausername

I started feeling better when I was prescribed cyclizine.

I've been prescribed Cyclizine, did you take it on a regular basis or as and when? It's makes me feel a bit drunk and headachy x

OP, I’m feeling the same right now at only 8 weeks pregnant with DC2 I was the same with my first but it didn’t last all the way through, and I was comfortable at the end by comparison to how wretched I felt in the first three or four months, whereas some people really hate the end part. Right now though I just feel hideous, so much sympathy for you! I would honestly go through childbirth every day for several months rather than this horrendous nausea and acid.

@BeingATwatItsABingThing so you started to feel better after 15 weeks? Same as you but the other way around, with my first I just had the odd wobble here and there but nothing like how it is now this time x

And yes, the cyclizine while slightly (not totally) helpful for the sickness makes me feel like I’ve been hit over the back of the head. Thank god for WFH because I’m having at least one nap every day just to function.

I took cyclizine before every meal. For me it took away the nausea but made me sleepy.

Yup pregnancy is rough. I hear ya!!!!! Don't feel guilty for feeling and saying it either!!! X