Minster's Side car bumping along - TTC Graduates Bus 1

[Sausage1990]

Hello ladies,
So I thought I'd put together a new thread for us (as you've probably seen in the main group). I thought this could be like a sub group (or side car as Haiyaa suggested) so we can chat about all things pregnancy without feeling that maybe we're overwhelming the TTC board.

I definitely don't want to leave the main bus and I know you all feel the same as we've created a amazing community of women supporting women... most people have said their ok with pregnancy chat but I know some are struggling with it and the shift in proportion of TTC vs BFPs, and we all know how hard it is to see too much pregnancy talk sometimes, especially if the journey has been long, as it has been for some. So I thought, lets be sensative to everyone's needs and have another option

I'm cautious about setting up a bus given I'm so so early but as I suggested it, I thought it best come from me I am happy to set up the threads but I dont have a great urge to be the bus driver (haha) so if anyone else wants to chip in setting up subseqeunt buses then I'd be happy yo share the responsibility!

Please tag anyone that I may have missed - I tried to go through the board to get any recent BFPs but I could have missed someone easily and theres ALOT haha.

Let's have a little update on everyone to get started...
@lucyrp
@kirky685
@hollieL567
@gem176
@justanothercyster
@DJmum83
@ttcabroad
@dob78
@happyMrsR
@haiyaa

@2020mission I felt nauseous this morning but because I had a headache, ironically I got the best nights sleep in ages & woke up with a headache & feeling exhausted so I'd love to have a nap but no joy on that front. I just feel dead 😳

Hey @2020mission I'm doing ok. Anti sickness tablets are definitely helping make it more manageable tho, I tried to go without today to see how I was feeling and gave in about 1pm because I was feeling so rotten. DH is currently making me some food which I will eat in bed, as ive been here all day. I'm having a full rest day today!

I've been struggling to drink enough so I've bought myself a 2ltr water bottle to see if it helps. I tend to drink ok from the bottle but it goes quickly and then I struggle to find time in work to refill it, and at home I'm such a sloth I struggle with the energy to go back downstairs to fill it (it's only 650ml so not very big)... So hopefully the 2lts in 1 bottle will be a huge help. Xx

Hi girls, sorry if I'm not around much we have no WiFi for the next 11 days and the signal is rubbish as in the middle of the forest🙈 it's going great, I've started nesting already haha, the house is a dream and we're just so thankful💕

@2020mission no luckily it's a new build so it's like we've moved into a hotel 😂

@Minster2012 just saw your post, how are you doing? X

@Justanothercyster thanks, I'm still in hospital, I saw the doctor at 2.30am who had a good old poke around my cervix & said there wasn't much blood & he couldn't see any reason for it, that I need to wait until after 9am this morning for a scan. I forgot to ask about my hcg in the bloods as I'd been woken so will try find out that this morning 🤞🏻starving though, haven't eaten since yesterday lunch & then was told not to eat anything in case of theatre but they say I can have breakfast now so that's hopefully good. The stabbing pains subsided to only when I move & just got bad cramping now 🤞🏻🌈

@minster2012 ohhh hun I've been thinking about you all evening, so glad you've posted this morning. I'm keeping everything crossed for you this morning. The waiting & the not knowing is really hard so if you need any distraction let us know. Happy to chat 😊🤞🏻🙏🏻🌈

Thank you @Sausage1990 I'm waiting for scan now, but my hcg bloods are encouraging at over 5400 I think 🤞🏻

Keeping everything crossed for you lovely 🙏🏻🤞🏻💕

Scan shows a sac measuring at 4/5 weeks, not 6 so hopefully get a rescan but gotta wait to see doctors to talk bout it

Just seen the doctor and she said I’ve got a blood clot next to the sac which caused the bleeding and other than the fragmin I’m on there’s nothing they can do just hope it resolves itself, & take it easy but it does put me at a higher risk of miscarriage. Another scan 10days time 🤞🏻
Come on rainbow (I keep saying come on Beau in my head a name DH didn't want for DS) 🌈🤞🏻

@Minster2012 aww what a stressful night you've had but glad they've scanned you and confirmed what the cause was. Fingers crossed baby keeps growing, definitely put your feet up for the next few days. I do completely get not trusting a man to clean... I always have to redo cleaning my husband does as it's not thorough enough 😆

@2020mission I know right and this would be for house viewings! So needs to be spotless 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️and no sex until clot gone especially as I've managed to get a clot DESPITE being on blood thinners. So the orgasm Friday night might have actually caused the bleeding. Damn it.

@minster2012 okay so there's a plan. The positives are that you have a gestational sac in the uterus and it looks 4-5weeks. Your hcg is really good and the clot is not in the sac.
My friend has a clot, a hematoma, and she's bled alot throughout her whole 1st trimester but she's nearly 14weeks now and baby is fine so I'm keeping everything crossed for you & your little rainbow (beau is so cute BTW).
Now rest up... And if you need the hoaue to be cleaner for viewings then get a cleaner for now. You are way more important than a clean house xx

@Sausage1990 yeah the notes say adjacent haematoma 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@minster2012 sorry babe I've been off the radar a bit with the in laws visiting and have just seen your updates! I am glad you are being looked after. It does sound very scary but sounds like they have a good plan in place and are keeping an eye on you. Come on baby Beau you got this little beauty ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@Justanothercyster hope all has gone well with the house move.

@Minster2012 oh hun sorry I’ve only just had chance to get online what a scary time you have been through!! Glad that the bleed was from a clot keeping everything crossed for your little rainbow baby but sounds like everything is ok. Make sure you rest up.

@Minster2012 late catching up, sending so many hugs your way. The waiting is so hard, we can only focus on what we can control and trust that we'll get through this.

@Justanothercyster hope nesting is going well!

@Minster2012 really hoping everything goes ok and that the next scan shows everything is ok again, come on beanie Beau!

@Florence13 it's all lovely thank you, we're going back to the old house this morning to do a clean and then hopefully can just enjoy this one for the rest of the day! The dog and tort are loving the garden haha, pic below 💚

@TickTockTee ahhh it's great. But tiring haha. We've got the main things unpacked now it's just the little bits and bobs we need to sort through but going to do that slowly as these past 2 days I think I've overdone it, back is killing me!

Here's a story for you girls, my tortoise loves snuggling in amongst soft clothes etc, so I had the sheets by the washing machine ready to put in after I'd run a bath. I sorted everything and then chucked them in. Half an hour later dh came running upstairs saying "WHERE'S DOUG?" So we spent ages looking for him and we were convinced I'd accidentally chucked him in the washing machine with the sheets. Panicked and hysterical I ran around the house and eventually dh found him in the bathroom under a cabinet. I completely broke down, I mean full on snot sobbing for like 10 minutes whilst clutching the poor tort who was looking up at me like "what's going on?" 😂 not ideal!

Hope everyone's enjoying their weekend x

@Justanothercyster aww glad it’s all lovely and what a gorgeous pic!! Oh bless you, I full on snot cry at anything at the moment so would definitely of had a meltdown if that happened to me. Glad Doug was not in the washing machine.

@justanothercyster I'm glad the move went smoothly & I'm also super glad you didn't put Doug in the washing machine!!! 🙈 How stressful. I'm with @florence13 on this, I cry at everything right now lol.

So I'm currently just sitting in a really wierd headspace. I am sat here with anxiety but not the kind of anxiety that has me going crazy, just the quiet anxiety. I think it's fear tbh. I'm scared about Fridays scan. I'm so sorry that I'm probably a broken record atm but time is going very slowly... Its hard to talk about to people irl as people keep telling me to focus on the positives, and it's frustrating because I am focusing on the positives but I'm also frightened. And tbh the things people are saying are positives, which are my pregnancy symptoms, well they aren't giving me reassurance because I had those last time too. They weren't a sign.

I'm not feeling negative or anything and I'm praying and hoping it's all ok with this little baby. I know my past experience doesn't define my current experience. But sitting in these emotions is hard. And tbh the more I write & think about it, its not anxiety that I'm feeling ( mean I have that too) but the overriding emotion is fear. I'm scared.

According to my dates I'm 9+4 today, and by my scan I'm 9 weeks exactly. And it's around this time last pregnancy that baby stopped growing & their heartbeat stopped. I've only got 4 days to wait but I'm waiting to find out if baby is OK. It's such huge news. And I am so preoccupied by it. I have absolutely no reason to think anything has gone wrong. I have no signs of miscarriage at all. But I think it's hard because I didn't last time either. I don't know what I'm trying to get at here or what point I'm trying to make. I just needed to share & talk. I know many of you understand and I suppose I just needed to let these feelings & thoughts have their space so my mind doesn't feel so crowded.

I am ok. Just getting through. Sending so much love to you all & hope everyones OK xxx

Aww @Sausage1990 completely understand why you're so scared. We really need this week to just fly by so that both you and @Minster2012 can get your scans and get some reassurance 💕 I keep looking at the miscarriage probability website every other day so see that my chances are dropping and it doesn't feel like a good place to be either 😑 I wish we never knew it was possible it would be so much easier to get through these first 12 weeks.

I keep getting a watering mouth and every time I eat I'm struggling to finish it. Even a small bowl of cereal. It feels like a bit of a hangover so I don't think I'm going to be escaping the morning sickness unfortunately!

@Justanothercyster aww the panic you must have had thinking you had put tort in the washing machine! So glad to hear he was just hiding in the bathroom 😂 does Doug get to roam about most of the time?

@2020mission I agree that this week needs to fly by for us both.... Although also I don't want Friday to come because I'm currently ignorent to any bad news. Omg my mind is a mess haha why do our heads make it so hard work. I was like you last time, checking the risk was dropping and getting the reassurance from that. It was helpful at the time. And I thought maybe your symptoms would catch up with you - that's what happened to me this time 🙈 how many weeks are you now?? Xx

@sausage1990 @2020mission @minster2012 thinking of all 3 of you, it is so difficult at the best of times this waitnig game but for you lovely ladies it must be 100000000x worse. You're all in my thoughts and only a message away if you need an ear ❤️😘

Meanwhile in our house gender reveal plans gone to shit as the weather is diabolical. We'd put a gazebo up on the patio but the wind nearly carried it away! So we have to hope that by this evening it will calm down a bit otherwise it will be us cutting the cake in the conservatory with everyone standing outside the back door!!!!! Lol x

@Sausage1990 I should be 6 weeks tomorrow. I'll remember to stock up on mints next time I'm at the shop! I seem to feel yuck when my stomach is empty mostly but then start eating and feel full almost immediately. Nowhere near as bad as the rest of you have had it though... yet 😅

Thanks @Kirky658. Aww the weather is terrible here too such a shame it's like this on your gender reveal but I'm sure it will be fun however you reveal it in the end even if you have to be inside with everyone watching from the garden. Who cares about a bit of rain when there's cake and good news 😋

Ladies just checked in and totally get the constant anxiety so sending out some virtual hugs (probably as good as real life ones at the mo given covid)

@Sausage1990 it’s so ok to feel fear and panic, tbh we probably all have ptsd, we’ve been through so much to get where we are and have so much to loose that no words really do it justice! Just try not to think the big picture right now, and just focus on the next task, dinnner, walk, shower etc, I’ve also gone mental buying plants but it’s all a big distraction tactic!

@Minster2012 hope your bum is on the sofa, feet up....no Googling...it is not your friend....

@Kirky658 hope reveal goes well, weather is shocking here and tbh on blood thinners it’s bloody freezing, I can’t handle it...next weekend looking like a scorcher 🙄