Minster's Side car bumping along - TTC Graduates Bus 1

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Hello ladies,
So I thought I'd put together a new thread for us (as you've probably seen in the main group). I thought this could be like a sub group (or side car as Haiyaa suggested) so we can chat about all things pregnancy without feeling that maybe we're overwhelming the TTC board.

I definitely don't want to leave the main bus and I know you all feel the same as we've created a amazing community of women supporting women... most people have said their ok with pregnancy chat but I know some are struggling with it and the shift in proportion of TTC vs BFPs, and we all know how hard it is to see too much pregnancy talk sometimes, especially if the journey has been long, as it has been for some. So I thought, lets be sensative to everyone's needs and have another option

I'm cautious about setting up a bus given I'm so so early but as I suggested it, I thought it best come from me I am happy to set up the threads but I dont have a great urge to be the bus driver (haha) so if anyone else wants to chip in setting up subseqeunt buses then I'd be happy yo share the responsibility!

Please tag anyone that I may have missed - I tried to go through the board to get any recent BFPs but I could have missed someone easily and theres ALOT haha.

Let's have a little update on everyone to get started...
@lucyrp
@kirky685
@hollieL567
@gem176
@justanothercyster
@DJmum83
@ttcabroad
@dob78
@happyMrsR
@haiyaa

@Kirky658 yes definitely I just feel like that’s the milestone I need to reach to be able to relax a little bit. But considering I haven’t had a booking appointment yet I don’t think my 12 week scan has been requested.

@Florence13 I bet. I'm ok, just feeling like I really want a scan now! Not long til 12 weeks, just trying to stay patient.

The period like cramps are back this morning after not having them for a while 😭 god I can't wait until 12 weeks

@Justanothercyster I'm nearly 12 weeks and still get the odd cramps.
Try not to worry, everything stretching in there.

School holidays here and I'm on annual leave can't go anywhere or do anything again this year. So fed up xx

@Justanothercyster I'm 21 nearly 22 weeks and I still get "cramps" as such! They tend to call them round ligament pains the further you get but they still feel like period pain! Try not to worry lovely 🥰

Morning all, hope everyone is doing OK today. Is everyone else finding it absolutely freezing again? Spring didn't last very long!

I'm sorry so many of you are suffering with cramps - I must be the only woman in the world that has never had any cramps, no period cramps ever, nothing during either pregnancy, I must be very lucky.

I was back in for monitoring last night and now I'm over 26 weeks they can use the proper CTG machine instead of a handheld doppler which was so reassuring as it picks up all the baby's movements and associated changes in heat rate. There was loads of movement abs the midwives were very happy with him, it's just that I'm not feeling any of it for some reason. The think it's possibly due to the damage to my uterus caused by previous twin pregnancy and subsequent traumatic EMCS, combined with the anterior placenta. If that's so it's going to be a stressful third trimester but they've reassured me that I can go in every single day if necessary so I'm feeling a lot better 😊

@samoyedfan123 glad you are being fully looked after by the sounds of it.
@justanothercyster it will just be everything stretching as you get bigger, I've had a lot of random pains over the last week or so particularly.

Not having a great time of it atm to be honest. I'm feeling pretty low. Feeling guilty that I don't feel as excited about bub as I should be and terrified about the 20 week scan in case anything was wrong. Feel totally unprepared and so scared for looking after a baby. Been for a walk with my girlfriends today and I couldnt open up to them, they just told me not to worry. But it's not just worry I'm feeling so panicked and crying all the time. Not really sure where to turn. DH is the only other person who knows how low I feel. I'm ok but just having these really down off days.

Hey all! Cramps and constipation this end! Yesterday managed to have the runs and constipation at the same time, yummy was huge and really unsettled! The joys!

@Kirky658 I think it is a big thing and can naturally feel overwhelming, I don’t think the hormones help either! I sometimes get down in pregnancy as I just don’t feel like me, and get a bit socially isolated as don’t really feel like going out, guess Covid helps this time! Just be kind to yourself give yourself little treats, try and have one to one chats with friends who might understand! And us bunch always on call...

@thinkingandblinking I've been the same from one extreme to the other I couldn't go for 4 days the other day it was awful!

Yeah I think covid is another big factor to be honest as I just want to go out for the day with DH, have fish and chips and see the sea. I've just said to DH I feel like I'm only honest with him and you lovely lot. Been for a walk with my bestie's today and tried to open up to them, one of them has a 14 month old who she brought along and when I tried to allay my fears and anxiety she just brushed them away and said it was nothing and to look forward to the baby more. She wasn't being nasty I think she just felt because she's been through it I will manage too but I'm not that strong. The other doesn't have kids and isn't married so she was just trying to be kind and telling me not to worry. But it's hard when you have anxiety you can't help it!

@Kirky658 I've been crying so much the last few weeks and just generally feeling down. I snapped at one of my supervisors at work on the weekend because I just generally hate people at the moment. There's no way to describe how I feel really I'm just very irritable and cry at anything

@lucyrp you hit the nail on the head there hun, that's exactly the same for me. Here's hoping it passes soon. Sodding hormones!!!! X

@Kirky658 my DS turned 6 at the weekend and I cried when he went to his dads, then I cried when I thought how grown up he was, then I cried that he wasn't going to be an only child anymore, then I cried because OH and I would never be alone, then how on earth am I going to cope because this time around will be very different to with DS. It's all very normal to be worried and crying! I just can't stop at the moment!

@lucyrp ahhhh hun! Most days I don't even know why I'm crying, the other day I cried because I forgot to bake my brownies! But most days it's just the feeling of being so overwhelmed and underprepared. X

@Kirky658 OH always asks me why I'm crying and I'm like idk 🤷🏼‍♀️😂 even I feel under prepared and I've got a 6 year old although it was very different circumstances x

@lucyrp same here, to be fair he's used to my awful mood swings pre pregnancy so at least he's slightly prepared but I think this is a whole new ball game for him haha. I just have this overwhelming fear l will do something so badly wrong and the baby will grow up to be a scurge on society lol

@kirky658 I'm so sorry to hear that your feeling really low. These worried and fears are totally normal, however if it continues do open up about how you're feeling to your midwife, as she can refer you to the perinatal metal health services which are absolutely brilliant in my experience xxx

@lucyrp I've spent the last 5 months crying at everything from the news to tv adverts - it's awful isn't it. I had a compete breakdown whilst driving the car the other week over a news story about Covid vaccines! 😂

Sorry you're feeling low @Kirky658 but as long as you keep talking about it that's better than nothing. We're here too, even if not in real life!

To lower the tone somewhat I have a constipation question... the lactulose has sorted me right out so thank you @SamoyedFan123 ! Now wondering whether I'm off the hook and can stop it or whether I just should keep taking it?! Is it safe to just keep taking it for months...? In any case, definitely making sure I always have some in the house from now on!

Exciting day for me today... I bought a pram! Got a bargain second hand from a colleague so that is officially my first big purchase! Argh! It's getting real now 😬😬😬

@kate105 I kept taking just the minimum dose once a day, i think it was 15ml IIRC. Didn't have any further issues.
Congtats on the pram purchase - I thought that was the most exciting one! What one did you get?

@samoyedfan123 @kate105 thankyou ladies, it just helps so much to know you're all here to listen. As far as I know on the lactulose it is OK to take long term I was prescribed it after surgery a couple of years ago. Perhaps just have a look at the leaflet in the box see what it says. Exciting about the pram! Our nursery jungle stickers are arriving tomorrow - meant to come last weekend, contacted the seller and hermes had lost the parcel! So the seller has kindly sent out next day delivery a whole new set x

Perfect thank you @SamoyedFan123 @Kirky658 . Thrilled to have cracked this one, couldn't bear another 5 months of that 😳

It's an oyster 3 if that means anything to you! It seems to be a decent one from what I can tell from Google... in any case it's in great nick and a good deal so hopefully it does the trick!

Bonus points for us doing the handover in the staff car park first thing on Monday morning will mean that I won't need to announce my pregnancy at work 😂

@DJmum83 @lucrp thank you, today is fine again so guessing it's just growth making me worry again! I wonder if I'll ever stop being anxious...
Ah and the weather isn't helping right now! 🥶

@Kirky658 it's completely normal to worry I think, I definitely do! And totally agree, people with kids can be difficult to connect with in real life as they struggle to empathise. And not to mention the pesky hormones. Your baby won't be a scythe on society haha! If it gets really bad though perhaps it's worth looking into your local IAPT services for someone to talk to? I found them very helpful when my anx and dep were bad. I'm sure everything will be fine but try to do things you find relaxing and mindful of you can x

@Kirky658 scurge* even 🤦🏽‍♀️

@kate105 that's a fantastic handover, what a fab colleague!
@justanothercyster thanks lovely, I will contact them if it comes to that. I feel a bit better today, I seem to have good and bad days. X

@Kirky658 I can relate We haven't told anyone yet and my husband is really busy at work so I basically sit at home alone, stressing out, with my dog. Just cried my way through a multi-day Lord of the Rings, extended edition, marathon. Waiting until I past 12 weeks so I can join some of the pregnancy groups (they are running here) and hopefully meet some people.

@Kirky658 hope your doing okay.
It's horrible when the anxiety takes over it consumes you. We are all here for you if you need to talk.
I'm struggling myself just now I have been off medication since we started trying but I really feel my mood is plunging I'm crying constantly snapping at the kids, just want to be on my own all the time.
I have emailed my midwife as I think I'm needing more help xx
I think a big part is being stuck in usually hubby would be off with me for Easter and we would be on holiday or day trips away but I have been stuck in the house all week with the kids.
Things can only get better. I hate crying and it's all I'm doing xxx