Pregnant after loss thread- November 2021

[Sallyjo27]

Hi all, I’m currently 4 weeks pregnant after 4 previous miscarriages. I don’t really have any symptoms other than boobs a bit sore and nipples sensitive. I’m on clexane injections, cyclogest and aspirin as all the tests they’ve run have found nothing wrong. Is anyone else due in November after loss? I thought it would be a nice idea to have a thread where we can all chat and share our journeys x

Thanks everyone, it all went well scan wise. Baby was measuring a few days ahead at 13

• 1 and was jumping about in the scan with a good heartbeat. She has taken the blood test and the results will be back in 10 days. I have my 12 weeks scan next Wednesday so by her measurements I will be 14 weeks, all being well.

@PurpleRaven777 if i had a Doppler I would be using it every minute. You are doing well just once a day.

Good luck for all the scans this week and next, such a nervous time xx

I commented on the first lot of threads but I had my 12 week scan on Tuesday! Measuring spot on and due date 9th Nov!

Good luck to everyone having scans ♥️♥️

Great news @bookwitch13 and @GSMCK !

I can't believe I'm waiting another 10 days for my scan I must be mad! But, I know it's because until I have a scan I can live in hope that all is well. I have such a dread of it being a missed miscarriage that I can't bear to be scanned. In fact, I might just hibernate for 6 months and hope a baby pops out at the end

@Tweaker I am the exact same. I only had this scan as I needed to for the harmony test or I would be blissfully living in denial. I am crossing everything for you 😘 and I would love to just disappear for 6 months also and come back when this is all over 😂

@bookwitch13 and @GSMCK Glad scans both went well. Lovely seeing those babies wiggle!

@Tweaker 10 days isn't long though!

Not sure about disappearing for 6 months but I think i could sleep for that long 😂

I had my scan today and was put back a week to 9+6
Hoping that's ok and not a bad sign or anything

All looked good and on the plus side it means I get another scan at 12 weeks :)

@ElmtreeMama as far as I can tell, this seems very common, esp when just by a few days. I guess we never really know when we ovulate and when the egg is fertilised. If the midwife didn't seem worried I wouldn't be great that you have another scan in a couple of weeks.

How is everyone? I'm 10 weeks today. Feeling sick - just ramped up actually! But lots of energy; I've been very productive today. Also my nails are awesome and my hair is nicer! I remember this from being pregnant years ago. A real bonus!

Hope you are all doing well.

Im so relieved, I had my scan today, they dated me at 10.6, strong heartbeat and everything looks fine, I'm back in for another scan in two weeks, I've spent the last few weeks in a constant state of stressed out paranoia and occasional floods of tears that I'd had a silent miscarriage due to my lack of symptoms, and stupidly I wandered over to the miscarriage section of Mumsnet which really was a terrible idea, I won't ever be doing that again!

@Tinkpod

I'm so pleased all went well for you!

It's very hard to stay calm and positive I know, but it's all we can do :)

Sorry, I've not been looking at the board much this week.

@ElmtreeMama I was told by private scan place that all measurements were +/- 5 days so I'd try not to worry about being a week different. It's all a guessing game anyway - I measured nearly a week ahead with my son and actually pretty much gave birth on my original due date!

@Tinkpod great news 😊

hello Ladies, hope you're all well. Apologies for the radio silence- I've been trying to stay away from forums as much as possible, doing meditations, having baths and reading 'pregnancy after loss' - I would really recommend it, it's a great book that convinced me to just presume all is going well. People always say mindfulness is so beneficial but it just seems too simple, doesn't it? I finally jumped into it with both feet and feeling better in myself. I hope I could encourage you to do the same- hypnobirthing with Anja on youtube has lovely meditations, they helped me so much.
On Friday I had my 12 week scan which went well, they dated me at 12 weeks 6 days so ahead of my LMP dates but fine by me ;) Baby was wriggling so much but they managed to take the nt measurement which was low, just waiting for the blood results to see if all is well.
I am feeling much more positive and relaxed, I even bought a few baby clothes in a charity show which felt amazing and we are looking at a second hand pram tomorrow, it's such a bargain I couldn't resist. I think this newly-found confidence will help the baby to grow calmly.
Happy Sunday! xxx
P.S. Apart from tiredness I had zero symptoms in my first trimester, people told me they mean nothing and I was dreaming of nausea and sore breasts. I hope this could help any women worrying about mild pregnancy symptoms...

Hi all,
Hope you’re all doing well ♥️ I’m 14 weeks tomorrow and it’s been 2 weeks since my 12 week scan... the reassurance has faded now and I’m starting to worry again sigh. I have to keep telling myself that the odds are in my favour now, just wish I didn’t know MMCs existed!

Hi @bookwiitch13, I'm 16weeks on Wednesday and finding that the little bit of reassurance I got at 12weeks has faded and worrying more as my bump gets bigger, I also worry being stood at work for long periods of time. I see my consultant on the 27th May, I really can't wait to see him and give me the news that I want to here, I pray all the time for this rainbow bubba xx

Hi everyone, I've been quiet on this thread for a while as on Sunday I had some brown dc and thought I was having a miscarriage (that's how it started last time). Had a referral for EPU and was CONVINCED it had gone wrong - deleted all my pregnancy apps! had the scan this morning and all was well! Saw the heartbeat and legs kicking away - best moment of my life. I'm actually in shock, I had been trying to get my head around not being pregnant and planning to have some drinks this weekend ! So really amazing, miraculous day today. I've my harmony scan next week so taking in step by step. I am reassured but not assuming all will be well. Just hopeful. I'm 12 weeks this Friday. I hope everyone else is ok.

Aww @Tweaker what fantastic news!! Stay positive.

I had my harmony test 2 weeks and need a redraw so that’s filling me with dread. I had my 12 weeks scan last week and they didn’t do any of the downs test etc as I said I had the harmony but now this. Going for the redraw tonight so will take it from there in a week when/if I get the results.

Hope everyone else is ok and trying not to worry Xxx

Ohh @Tweaker thats great news!
I will also be 12 weeks this Friday

Still keeping everything crossed for us all

Thanks everyone! @GSMCK oh gosh how nerve wracking. It's one challenge after another isn't it? Why did they need to do a redraw? I hope you don't have to wait too long for results. My harmony test is next Tuesday...

Hey ladies, I've been lurking for a while and I'd like to join you all properly now. I'm 15 weeks and had 2 mc last year. I had some private investigations which discovered a thyroid problem which is now under control and I've been having CBT to help my anxiety.
I have had 2 people close to me tell me they're expecting babies in the past week and I'm devestated, feel like I've spent so long hoping nobody would tell me they're pregnant and even though everything appears to be going well for me now, it still hurts that it appears to come so easily to others. I feel like I'm going mad, just wondering if anyone else has had similar feelings?

Oh god @Knock123 completely! I have felt utterly heartbroken when people have announced pregnancies - probably more so when they are close friends. I've felt (and still do a bit) extremely bitter, and had to work hard to be grateful for what I have. I think your feelings are entirely normal and understandable. It can seem like things come so easily to others but we know there's nothing easy about it really. Also, there's no such thing as fairness or deserving in this life - it's all random. Going through the wretched pain of mc can change us and how we view the world; I'm not surprised you feel like this. It actually helps me to go on forums etc about mc as it really hit home how it happens to so, so many women. It's a process for me of accepting I have no control, it's not my fault, I have tried and am trying.

And congratulations @Knock123 15 weeks is brilliant.

@Tweaker thank you so much for taking the time to respond to me. It's such a horrible club to be a part of but it's reassuring to know that at least I'm not the only person feeling like this! I would usually be so over to moon for my friends and of course I want them to be happy, and I'd hate for them to experience what we've experienced, it just hurts when you don't have that innocent excitement yourself and then it's a horrible cycle where I feel bad for feeling bad aaarrgh!!!
Thank you, 15 weeks does feel amazing, my anxiety definitely is improving as my stomach is growing but I do feel I am still struggling with feelings of grief which is very confusing (probably a lot to do with hormones)
I am under consultant care and was private for first trimester so have been regularly seen which has really helped me. I see you're almost 12 weeks! Have you got a date for your scan?

Personally I like to think we haven't lost the innocence we're just not naive I remember when I was pregnant with my dd years ago I was still really anxious that something would go wrong - and I was younger with no traumatic experiences behind me. It's just being realistic that things can go wrong.

I had a scan yesterday which was amazing. My next one is next Tuesday and that's the harmony one.

Very difficult to hold being excited and grief at the same time. I'm having a similar issue, grieving my dad whilst being happy and scared about pregnancy. So many conflicting emotions!

Keep posting here - it's a lovely, understanding group.

Oh no I'm so sorry about your dad, that's really awful and I can understand you would have so many difficult emotions right now. I hope you have lots of people wrapping you up in love and support right now.

I'm so glad your scan was okay, it's always such a relief. When my harmony test came back normal I felt that was a huge milestone, hope it all goes great for you and you'll get to see the baby again which is amazing!
It's really nice to feel like we can all hold each others hands through this challenging time

Hope everyone is doing well 💗

I've just my dating scan this morning and was so lovely to see baby hiccupint a way!

@ElmtreeMama that's so exciting!!! Congratulations!! Such a relief to see baby wriggling about isn't it