Jan/Feb 2021 fertility treatment BFP ladies

[cher1981]

Just making a new thread so we can keep chatting :)

Hi @cher1981 Joining you from the Jan/Feb thread. Good to have a thread for pregnancy post-IVF. This is definitely the right place for it now

@cher1981 thanks for setting this up! Can we tag in some of the other girls so they know where to find us?

@doremifasol for example

ah just saw that you shared in our other group - hope more people join us!

Hi all! Good to have this new thread and thanks for the invite!

Hi, also joining from the other thread. I've been quiet but we've had our scan today. Didn't think I would but I cried when I saw the heartbeat. So relieved everything's looking good so far. 6+5 today

So pleased to see your faces on this thread!

@somethingfunny It's an emotional experience isn't it. I did the same! I was just so shocked the little beating blob was inside me! It's amazing, and congrats!

@Doremifasol Also congrats to you! I was so relieved to hear the scan went well x

Congrats @Doremifasol, so chuffed to read you’ve seen a heartbeat!
I called the clinic to let them know this morning, hoping a nurse will call me back tomorrow. Also emailed in to my med centre, who sent a lovely email back to say how happy they all were for me as they obviously remember the miscarriage and ambulance ride I had last time.

Hi everyone and thanks @cher1981 for making this.

@somethingfunny that’s amazing

Thanks ladies! Happy to hear about all your BFP, heart beats, cravings, mood swings etc!!!
Have to say, after I posted our good nees I had a consultant appointment who sadly said this hematoma has caused slight cervix dilation and my chances to miscarry are much higher now despite perfect heartbeat that we've just seen. I am trying to remain positive but aware that it essentially 50-50 at this point. Doctors& nurses were amazing and there were a lot of tears today first at the scan and then when I god bad news. It's just all very scary and uncertain. I need to rest a lot and that's all I can do.

Oh @Doremifasol what a horrible rollercoaster. I have everything crossed for you. Like you say, there's nothing you can do other than rest and hope for the best. Wishing you the best of luck

@Doremifasol you put your feet up and try to relax! Did they say your cervix will close itself back up again?

@Doremifasol Thinking of you and hoping you are getting plenty of rest. Everything crossed

Hi guys! I'm glad this thread is about. I joined another one called 'BFP after IVF' which was helpful, but everyone there was at giving birth stage
I'm 7weeks exactly today and will have my first scan on Saturday. I can't wait. I think it will all feel properly real to me after that. So far, no symptoms, just very, very tired most of the time. That's what I had in my first pregnancy also so hopefully it will be smooth sailing from here on!

Thanks so much ladies. Time will tell. So far so good, no bleeding at all. In my last sucessfull pregnancy with my only daughter I had the same and hematoma dissapeared by 12 weeks. I've read so much on line and it does appear fairly common early pregnancy issue.

Hello ladies - is anyone finding their symptoms come and go a bit? I was feeling really tired and nauseous up until yesterday but then fine yesterday and ok so far today. Still feeling a bit of pulling and stretching in my stomach and boobs still a little tender (although they have been worse). Just wondering how everyone else is finding things? Is it normal for symptoms to come in waves?

Hi @folklore9074 I'm the same, somedays and times feel worse than others. My main symptom is tiredness and bloating. My boobs are slightly tender on a morning and night, and my sense of smell is off the chart. Otherwise I feel pretty 'normal'! I'm relieved to say my bleeding has pretty much stopped but that's not preventing me from freaking out each time I go to the loo just incase!

As a first time pregnant person, I think the main thing is the emotional/mental adjustment. I'd honestly convinced myself I would never be in this position, so my mind is still blown.

@cher1981 yes, you're right being pregnant is a huge mental adjustment after going through IVF. Great news that your bleeding has stopped.

I did another test which came up with a super strong line so I guess I need to try and chill out until my scan at the clinic next week. Perhaps it will feel a bit more real if that goes well.

@Folklore9074 yes my symptoms seem to come and go a bit. The nausea and tiredness have been the worst for me but today the nausea feels a little easier but then again I feel more tired than I did yesterday. Glad it’s not just me. I felt really down yesterday. It’s weird because I agree with you @cher1981 that it’s a massive mental adjustment being pregnant after trying for so long. But I felt guilty for feeling down because we’re finally on the path to getting what we wanted out of this process. So why can’t I feel relief and excitement and enjoyment instead of analysing everything and feeling grumpy because I’m tired and nauseous. It’s a strange place to be that’s for sure.

Are you guys still on fertility drugs? I’m wondering if the progesterone is making me feel worse than I would usually feel?

@MF1981 I feel exactly the same. I feel really conflicted at not being over the moon still. Don't get me wrong, I'm happy and so thankful, but I feel like crap! Yes, I'm still on progesterone pessaries x 2 a day and oestrogen tablets x 4 a day. I'm hoping all going well in Monday's reassurance scan that I'll get taken off them as I don't think they're helping me either.

@cher1981 I’m on the same and they told me at my scan to stay on them until at least week 9 but to finish the course they prescribed me. But I’ve got enough to last till week 10 at least! I’m going to ask the midwife on Monday I think.

@Folklore9074 @MF1981 @cher1981 I’m still pretty early (5+4) and only started having nausea and fatigue the other day so I haven’t really had symptoms for long enough for them to come and go yet but I’m sure it’s normal. I do overanalyse them though and worry that it’s all in my head!

I’m still on medication, I’m to take it until 12 weeks, if I get that far- progynova 3x a day and cyclogest 2x a day. I actually don’t mind taking it as much any more as at least it feels like I’m doing something.

Since I stopped doing pregnancy tests it’s hard not to be worried a lot. I get what you guys are saying about being conflicted and not being over the moon. I think it’s just hard to believe that it’s happened, and also I’m holding my breath in case something goes wrong. DH will say something like “oh maybe you won’t have to go back to the office because by the time everyone has to go back you’ll be quite far along” and I always say “that’s if this works out.” I’m not superstitious at all but it’s almost like I’m afraid to jinx it. It must be playing on his mind too though as we were talking about something else today and out of the blue he said “I just want to get to the first scan and know everything is ok”.

Those of you with partners, how are they finding it? Has anyone told any other family yet or waiting til 12 weeks (or later)?

@kikisparks my partner was really anxious until we had our scan - he said it was worse waiting for the scan than the 2ww was! I think he’s alright now but I’m the one who keeps saying “unless anything goes wrong”. I think given everything we’ve all been through to get here it’s completely normal to not really know how to feel. I read an article on the fertility tribe website about it earlier actually which was really interesting.

@kikisparks also once we’d had the scan we told our parents and siblings and a handful of close friends who have been supporting us all the way through all this.

As mine was a natural FET I’ve got no drugs. In some ways that’s helping, as last time it’s likely the progesterone was all that stopped me miscarrying naturally early on, instead of at 9 weeks with a blighted ovum. This time I can tell myself that because nothing’s happened the chances are either one or both have stuck...

Thing is, we’d all probably be anxious either way! If this doesn’t pan out I’ll be wondering whether progesterone may have made a difference 🤷🏻‍♀️

Last time I told my parents on my mum’s birthday, and then discovered it was all wrong at the viability scan 11 days later. I’m not telling them unless or until I see a heartbeat this time!