Jan/Feb 2021 fertility treatment BFP ladies

[cher1981]

Just making a new thread so we can keep chatting :)

How's everyone doing? I don't know about you but this feels like a long wait to get to 12 weeks! I've re-entered the thought process of, but am I really pregnant? I mean I know objectively I am but other than back ache and tiredness, I just feel like me. My stomach might be getting slightly more bloated but hmm! It's so weird but I am so thankful to get to this point too. 10 weeks 5 days!

@cher1981 I’m ok, it does feel a long wait to 12 weeks! I’ll be 9 weeks on Sunday. I’m nauseous every day and have vomited a few times including yesterday morning, I have no appetite, I’m also sleeping a really long time, sometimes nearly 12 hours and then still tired throughout the day. My right breast has suddenly become so sore I can’t wear a bra and I have such TMI bad gas and constipation, but the worst thing that’s driving me absolutely mad is a constant thick sticky mucous that sits at the back of my throat. I think it’s due to pregnancy rhinitis, I’ve ordered a neti pot to try today to see if that clears it. I’m so glad to be working from home, I would really struggle at work at the moment. I’m so so overjoyed to be pregnant but I’m hoping for a relief from at least some of the symptoms at around 12 weeks as I don’t feel like myself at all, I feel so gross and dull. Sorry for the rant!

I’ve got my booking appointment next week but my scan isn’t until after 13 weeks. When is yours, shouldn’t be too long now?

Should have said I don’t think symptoms or lack thereof really mean anything we just all react differently to the hormones. I know people who had no real symptoms in pregnancy and have healthy babies.

@kikisparks Blimey, I’m not surprised you’re ready for a bit of a reprieve! That sounds no fun at all and I’m sorry you’re feeling so grim. Reassuringly they are all positive signs in that baby is developing but I can imagine it’s draining. I hope you feel better soon.

I have my midwife telephone booking in appointment at 11 today and I’m hoping she’s going to book in the scan. Me and OH are actually getting married on April 5th (just us two!) so it won’t be long after that I hope 🤞🏻

@cher1981 congrats on your upcoming nuptials!

Yeah it feels like 12 weeks is taking ages to come round. I’m 11 weeks tomorrow and still have nausea, particularly in the evenings, heartburn, tiredness, sore boobs, lots of gas and have just yesterday started with some cramping and lower back pain. I really want some reprieve from the symptoms but am also in the camp of am I actually pregnant! My scan is on 7th April. Bump is starting to emerge now but I guess that’s to be expected with 2 of them in there.

How’s everyone else doing?

Hi Everyone

I'm 7 weeks today so a little behind you all, and my symptoms have kicked in a bit more, some days im ok just a bit not myself and others i feel grim and nauseous all day, i don't have any food cravings just aversions , so eating healthily or at all is becoming harder. All i want is porridge for breakfast but i cant have dairy within 4 hours of the thyroid meds at 6am, and porridge with water is like gruel.

I's also fighting with my GP as i need to have thyroid bloods every 4 weeks for my whole pregnancy and GP is being awkward, said no due to "safety reasons" via a text, i called reception who were awesome and booked me a call with another GP to have a better conversation. Safety reasons is a bit vague. I understand GP is not a fertility specialist so he might not be confident about this but my consultant is writing to him. Otherwise its a 40 mile drive to central london every 4 weeks rather than 10 mins to my surgery. I understand its tricky as I'm privately funded at my fertility clinic but they will discharge me to NHS soon and i need the thyroid meds throughout pregnancy mandated by the private clinic though, a good outcome would be the GP doing my bloods and i can send the result to my clinic to analyse and prescribe more meds. I'm not trying to save money just reduce my covid exposure risk.

Next scan at 8+4 on the 6th April, the relief of the 6+3 scan has worn off now and I'm worrying all is ok. 12 weeks seems forever away.

Also mad at my mother in law, she phoned us on the 22nd, the morning of our scan, which we were stressed about anyway (to be fair not that she knew) in a blind panic saying the GP had said my FIL has cancer. Well it turns out the GP did not say this at all, FIL has some bloods that need further investigation so has been referred, so it could be something like Crohns or a myriad of other things. My OH was ready to drive 100 miles to see her and we did loads of supportive stuff because of his cancer diagnosis and my heart rate was though the roof with stress and it wasn't a diagnosis at all, this is her all over, i am really annoyed.

Also meant to say its great to hear you are all doing well and congrats @cher1981 on the wedding, how lovely!

@cher1981 how exciting about the wedding! Hope you and your OH have a lovely day.

Hi guys, just spotted this chat group and wondered if I could gatecrash?!
I'm 4 + 5 weeks after FET.
Not feeling too bad so far, but my arms really really ache. Is that normal?
First pregnancy, aged 40, so am a little terrified I have to say.

Hi @Olivia80, I’m just a couple of weeks on from you after a FET too, I’m 43 (was 42 at EC) trying to have my first.
Not had the aching arms specifically but sometimes all of me just feels really heavy. Did you have a natural or medicated FET?

Hi @Olivia80, welcome and congratulations, I'm 42 and first successful pregnancy too, so you are not alone.
My arms didnt feel heavy but i had neck ache and realised its from tensing up so much when i self inject.

@Sunbird24

Hi *@Olivia80*, I’m just a couple of weeks on from you after a FET too, I’m 43 (was 42 at EC) trying to have my first. Not had the aching arms specifically but sometimes all of me just feels really heavy. Did you have a natural or medicated FET?

@Sunbird24 had a medicated FET as after first transfer, bled before OTD was even due. So taking quite a high does of progesterone. The things we do! We vowed this was our last cycle as had two embryos in the freezer for the last 2 years. I couldn't bring myself to go through it again until now and then one embryo didn't make the thaw, so we are down to the last little fighter!

Oh fingers and toes crossed for you Olivia!

@calmcat sorry to hear about your symptoms, I don’t eat healthily at all just now I do have porridge every morning which I make with high protein soya milk to get some protein into me- could you have your porridge with oat milk or similar if you can’t do dairy in the morning?

I have a very very limited amount of things I feel able to eat just now, just hope baby is getting what they need.

Hope your GP comes round and sorts out your thyroid meds.

That’s so frustrating that your MIL did that, hope it’s good news for your FIL.

You’re in good company @Olivia80 - I turned 40 this week and this is my first pregnancy too.

@calmcat I was also going to suggest soya or almond milk. I usually have porridge every morning with almond milk but haven’t been able to face it recently. I’m with you @kikisparks in that my diet is truly awful at the moment. Although I haven’t put any weight on. The midwife reassured me and just said to eat what I can and what I fancy and not to worry about eating healthily until the second trimester.

@kikisparks and @MF1981 you are geniuses about the alternative milks. I was actually in morrisons when I read these. Would you believe it all the milks have added calcium. I've decided to set my alarm for 5.30am to take the thyroid meds do I can eat my porridge about 10am relatively safely and ill have 50% milk 59% water.

@MF1981 Happy birthday! Hope you had a nice day and got thoroughly spoilt :)

Lovely to meet you @Olivia80 - I'll be 40 in September and this is my first pregnancy too. I'm also feeling equal parts overjoyed and petrified but it's great to have people to talk to on here who 'get it'. I hope you're doing well today.

@MF1981 happy birthday, hope you had a nice day despite the symptoms and the lockdown! That’s exciting that your bump is starting to emerge.

@Olivia80 I haven’t had achey arms but I think the hormones can affect us in so many ways it’s probably normal!

Ladies I am out - 8 week scan today showed no growth since the one I had at 6+5 where I was 5 days behind, and the heartbeat’s gone. Keeping everything crossed you all have better luck x

@Sunbird24 oh I’m so very sorry what devastating news we are here if you want to talk about it more and also understand if you don’t. Take what you need by way of time off work and take care of yourself, my miscarriages were earlier and I didn’t have to have any kind of procedures other than scans and blood tests so not going to say I know how you feel but mainly what helped me was time and for a while taking things as easy as I could, I put pillows and blankets on the sofa and cried and watched light TV and ate whatever I wanted to.

I managed to get back from the clinic but y try hen just sat in the car and sobbed. There were workmen about though so couldn’t stay too long. I was off sick today anyway as I only slept 3 hrs last night, but my boss has said not to worry about rushing back to work this week. This is the second one in 4 months. I don’t know how many more attempts I can take but I still have 5 embryos. Obviously used the best ones first though

@Sunbird24 I’m so sorry this is the second one for you in such a short space of time, that must be so difficult. You don’t need to make any decisions about treatment now (unless you want to and that helps you), you can just focus on yourself and time to grieve, the decisions can come later. I think if you can it’s a good idea to take the rest of the week off and see how you feel. Is there someone in real life who can support you too?

I’m spending the weekend with my parents but I need to get a handle on my own grief before I have to face theirs

@Sunbird24 im so sorry for your loss, sending love x

Oh I’m so sorry @Sunbird24 - I literally have no words to make anything of this any better for you. Sending love and hugs x