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[Daffodil21]

Support thread for pregnancy after loss @HalGem99 @treesall

And anyone else...

Of course I may not have that option if he's early!!!

Well that's completely understandable. You just need to do what you feel is best for you and baby.

I haven't even thought about the birth yet and probably won't for a few more months but I know it's going to be painful and scary and I'm preparing for the worst but I keep telling myself that millions of women haven been through it and most more than once so if they can do it I'm sure I can get through it lol xx

@HalGem99 I hadn't either until the last couple of weeks. Yeah tbh it all sounds really unpleasant but got to happen somehow!!!

Just had my 20 week (21 weeks) scan. Everything she could see was fine but she couldn't do the checks on the heart due to the position of the baby so we have to go back next Sunday. Heartbeat was present and normal though which is good. Picture attached. How are you getting on? Xx

@HalGem99 brilliant news! What a relief!! They took a while to check the heart at mine too, but he did get in the right position at the end of the scan so I didn't need to go back.

I'm good thank you. I had a growth scan last weeks and all is good (legs measuring two weeks ahead 😂 but isn't a problem!)

I've also handed in my notice as work was getting too stressful, so now I can just (hopefully) enjoy the rest of the pregnancy.

How are you feeling?

@HalGem99 hope your scan goes well today x

Awww thank you but it's next Sunday! Will keep you posted.

How are you getting on? What happened with work? Xx

@HalGem99 oh sorry!!

Ok thank you, feeling mostly ok except the heartburn is a nightmare! And back pain is annoying too! How about you?

Boss asked me to reconsider my resignation, which I didn't. He's since put me on gardening leave so I don't have to deal with work anymore and my contract will end in a couple of weeks, then maternity will start shortly after (much earlier than planned but there we go!). A stress-free rest of my pregnancy is far more important x

I feel your pain, my heartburn and acid is unbearable! I have back pain too but its bearable and I'm anaemia so I'm on iron tablets from the doctor.

Are you feeling a lot of movement now? Some days I have a lot and other days I freak out that she hasn't moved much!

Your boss sounds awful. Did you have problems at work prepregnancy or only since they found out you were pregnant? I think you've made the right decision after what you've been through to get to this stage, baby is more important xx

@HalGem99 it's horrible isn't it! What do you take for it? Have you found anything that helps?

I've not been feeling much movement at all, a little over the last few days I think but nothing much 😒 hoping it picks up soon!

There was a definite change when I told him I was pregnant. I just can't be bothered with the battle and stress of it so I'm glad I'm out!!

Hi ladies, just popped in to see how you both are!

@HalGem99 you must have had your scan this weekend? x

@treesall lovely to hear from you! I'm so pleased to see you're finding lots of support on the pred thread.
I'm ok thank you. Ive finally started to feel some movement (26 weeks with anterior placenta). Nothing regular yet but I'm trying not to worry too much as I've seen him kicking away on scans but I can't feel it. When I have felt movement it's been either at the sides or bottom, so the placenta is clearly doing a good job of blocking them! I need to phone my midwife today anyway, as I've been offered the vaccine so just want to see her thoughts, so I'll mention it to her then.
How are you doing? X

@HalGem99 ah I meant to come back on Sunday and see how it went but it totally slipped my mind! Hope all went well and they could see everything they needed to this time?

Aw that must be frustrating not to be able to feel the movements @Daffodil21.

I'm fine thank you. Very confused about everything to be honest. Now at the realisation that I will have at least a 4 year age gap at the very minimum (and almost certainly much longer) which is so much longer (double!) than I wanted and feeling like I just can't go through ttc and early pregnancy again, and very scared of all the drugs etc I'm likely to have to take, but we will see. My appt is next Monday and results 3 weeks after that.

Feeling a bit stupid because we dtd a couple of weeks ago without thinking about protection (still had a positive pregnancy test so I didn't really think it was possible) and then pretty sure I ovulated a couple of days after, whoops. Thankfully I started bleeding a teeny bit last night (phew!) so not pregnant but it's not a proper period so I don't know what my body is doing. I did a test to be sure so I don't have to think about it! Evidence it's definitely negative so you don't think I'm mental! Haha!

@treesall it is, I can feel some just not in a pattern yet, which I think usually you should be able to though. I saw him kicking away on my last scan and the sonographer was shocked I couldn't feel anything, so I guess that's some reassurance.

That sounds like such a struggle. TTC after loss is such a horrible experience and that's before you throw in tests, appointments and drugs. I've read so many good things about Dr S so you are in good hands.

I know this sounds odd, but I guess it's a good thing it's finally negative so you can move forward with the tests etc. When is your first appointment?

I don't think your mental at all! TTC in general is enough to send anyone a little mental but throw in what you've had to deal with, you're doing well!! X

@Daffodil21 I'm massively relieved it's finally properly negative, and so relieved I didn't accidentally get pregnant. I would have been so cross if I'd had to cancel my appointment! (He won't see you if pregnant). I will have my first appt and tests next Monday and then the results at the beginning of June.

Are you having any more scans?

@treesall glad it's all happening soon for you. Will you keep us posted?

I've got a midwife app next Tuesday where she'll check the heartbeat, a scan the following Monday with a consultant appointment afterwards and then a scan with consultant app every 4 weeks afterwards x

Sorry for the late reply! I've been taking omeprozole on prescription from the gp but I have it really bad! I have reflux when I'm asleep and wake up choking it's horrible!

The scan was perfect. She was waving to mummy and daddy. Pic attached. I'm feeling her move so much every day now. I can even feel her move from the outside if I put my hand there and can see my belly move but she stops every time my hubby puts his hand there lol

@treesall so good to hear from you. I've got everything crossed for you. Make sure you keep us updated with your journey.

That's a fab pic @HalGem99. So pleased for you that all is well. The reflux sounds awful though, really horrible!

I am feeling a bit low to be honest. I was so positive and ready for a fresh start...then a couple of days ago I received a letter from Charing Cross hospital oncology dept, saying I'd been referred by my doctor for follow up testing after "my molar pregnancy". It's totally floored me - I'd never even heard of one before. I called them and they said I shouldn't have been referred without consenting and having an appt with my local hospital to discuss it first. So I spoke to my local hospital but they can't tell me whether the referral is a mistake, or whether they referred genuinely but forgot to tell me about it. If it is that, then I can only assume they tested the embryo they removed nearly 6 weeks ago and that flagged up as molar, and then forgot to contact me to tell me.

Either way receiving the letter, leaflet and testing kit was pretty shocking and alarming yesterday, particularly with lots of cancer / chemo references. My local hospital have agreed to find my notes and call me tomorrow to let me know, but they said the referral is unlikely to be a mistake.

I've since read about molar pregnancy and can see it's likely to be fine, and cancer / chemo only needed in 10% of cases but argh I just feel like I've run out of energy for everything. Best case scenario however is fortnightly blood tests and no ttc for 6 months.

I hope I will still be able to have the tests tomorrow at the private clinic and that this doesn't affect anything. But I'm also thinking that it's likely to mean a long delay in ttc abs maybe I just need to give up. Sigh.X

@HalGem99 so glad everything went well - lovely scan! And lovely to be able to feel her now too. I'm finally starting to feel movements both inside and out which is nice and reassuring. DH has managed to feel sometimes too.

Had a bit of a scare this weekend. I had some gloopy discharge with a tiny bit of blood in it last night so of course I googled and managed to convince myself I was about to go into labour at 27 weeks. Was checked today and all is ok. The lady was lovely and very thorough so I definitely feel so much more relaxed now.

@treesall that's horrible!! I'm so so sorry to hear they've been so incompetent. Either way it is is a F up isn't it!! I really hope they've just messed up the paperwork and have got it wrong. Will you keep us posted? I hope tomorrow goes ok and they can still do the tests. Don't give up yet!! I've felt like that many times before and it's totally understandable to feel that way, but you are about to get some really good investigations done which may give you the answers you need x

@treesall never give up! It will happen. You are really going through it though! Hopefully you can still have the tests tomorrow. Let us know how you get on.

@daffodil21 the woory, stress and anxiety never ends does it??! So glad everything was OK xx

@treesall how did you get on? X

Hey @Daffodil21

Not too bad thank you. Did 5 million blood tests and I left having handed over £2.3k which was a bit scary but won't really find anything out until I go back for results on the 3rd.

I showed him the letter about the molar stuff and he was horrified that the local hospital (where he also does nhs work) hadn't contacted me. He said he would follow up with them directly. He was quite reassuring about it but said I do need to do their blood tests until they discharge me. I did feel better though as he said it won't necessarily take 6 months - if my hcg levels have already dropped to zero they will monitor them for a few months until they're happy they aren't rising again. The only downside was that he said I will need to have this Charing Cross referral and repeat this same process for every future pregnancy / miscarriage.

Fingers crossed for good news when I go back in a couple of weeks! x

@treesall I hope it will be worth every penny. That's good he's taken it into his own hands about the letter. One less thing for you to worry about. I'm sure 2nd feels like a long time away but I hope it comes around quickly for you. Will you let us know?

Hope you're doing ok @HalGem99 x

Thank you @Daffodil21 I've actually just got my first results back from Charing X and they are normal. So they will only check me once more and if they're still normal they will discharge me! Amazing, I am SO relieved. (And can't believe how much I've stressed over this for the last week, all for no reason!)

How are you doing @Daffodil21 ? Still feeling lots of movements now? xx