First baby due September 2021

[beckyBP]

Hey ladies,

Just thought it might be a nice idea for any of us first time mums just finding out to have a thread to chat on.

I found out Monday and am now 4+4.

@Kirky658 okay thanks for replying the first day of my last period was 14th of December so makes out 6+4 days so hopfully it should be okay xx

@poppysmile a day behind me hehe mine was 23th Dec x

@poppysmile sorry I'm shattered I meant 13th Dec lol x

Thanks for the bra tips girls. I'm definitely going to get a non wired one. Haven't even worn a bra in days!

@Poppysmile we're period twins lol. Mine was also the 14th so I'm 6+4 like you. I've got my scan early next week when I've just hit 7. Is yours next week too? If so, you should be fine as I had my dates calculated by Window to the Womb.

@Taybz oh that’s good to know!! I’ll be going on Sunday so I’ll be 6+7 so excited but nervous I’ll post once Iv been keep you updated xx

Hi ladies. Just wanted to ask if anyone feels really overwhelmed? I have anxiety at the best of times but this is a whole other level. We've been ttc for 6 months, wanted a baby for years but because of my endometriosis weren't able to. I was ecstatic when I got my BFP, as was DH. He is so calm and positive and looking forward to next week's scan. Me however, I'm terrified something bad is going to show up, or worse, nothing at all. I keep worrying about my hear rate as it is really low, wasn't an issue before pregnancy, but now I'm concerned it could hurt the baby's development. The main reason I'm worrying is because my mum is currently struggling with an unknown heart condition and it makes me worry I might have it too... Sorry for the essay just needed to get these thoughts down to someone who understands... DH is fab, cuddles and reassurance, but just doesn't get why I'm worrying so much - least it feels that way x

@Kirky658 I also suffer with anxiety pre pregnancy and found that now I constantly worried about everything and very overwhelmed. I have Heath anxiety so pregnancy probably isn't great for me lol. I also have suffered with heart palpitations in the past and also episodes of SVT (fast heart rate over 160bpm) I'm worried that pregnancy is going to make that worse and worried that it's putting my heart under too much stress. I've never been to docs to have treatment for SVT as the episodes are probably 4 within a year. Hope you are feeling OK - I think maybe reach out to GP/midwife? I think that's what I'm doing to do.

@Kirky658 I think especially with health complications it’s a really anxious time.

I’m in a similar position to you- wanted a baby for a very long time but my health and fertility meant it wasn’t possible. My pregnancy was totally unexpected so I was freaking out to start (I have a 6 year old step son, there’s no room for a baby, pure shock!!) but now I want it so much it feels painful...

My conditions mean I’m at a very high risk of miscarriage/stillbirth also but I know worrying doesn’t change that? I’ll go for a scan at 7 weeks and I’ve found it helpful to try and remind myself each day that I am currently pregnant and the best thing I can do is to try and be as not anxious as possible.

Do you usually struggle with health anxiety at all? Or is it just related to baby? Your low heart rate is a sign of fitness unless it comes with not being able to be woken/passing out anywhere! It’s unlikely if your mum is just going through the process of identifying a heart condition that you have it too- and clearly it was also possible for her to carry you? take care of yourself and be kind to you

Has my 1st scan this morning and everything all good :) baby measuring 6+3 in line with ovulation dates. We were able to see baby's heartbeat ❤️ I can't believe it's good news. Praying everything goes ok

@flower95 thanks for reaching out. Interestingly they thought my mum had SVT, turns out it wasn't that. They don't really know tbh still 2 years on. My gp surgery is a waste of time so I think I'll wait for my booking appt which is 8th Feb and discuss with midwife. X

@ahoynoy your username made me smile firstly so thanks ☺️ and thanks for reaching out. Yes it's very odd mum has been fine up to now and the past 2 years she's just gone downhill it's been so worrying. I have always had a bit of health related anxiety I think due to my endometriosis diagnosis and all the stress that came with that, fighting for a diagnosis for 10 years took its toll. With the endo I too have a higher risk of miscarriage and that's worrying me a lot. When I spoke to the midwife last week she didn't know a lot about endo aside from a lot of ladies with it couldn't conceive naturally, so that's reassuring....

I think I'm also upset because I was incredibly fit before getting my BFP, now I'm puffing to walk up a hill and running has got difficult so I don't have my normal outlets either.

@hopefulmummie that's so cool!!!! Congrats glad all is well

@Kirky658 hey, yeah I am extremely overwhelmed too, I dont really know how to channel my nerves as I feel so sick all the time and im so over vomiting now, I feel like a stranger in my own body, im detached as I feel so rough and tired all the time. Im so grateful to be here and to be pregnant but im so terrified that something is going to go wrong and there won't be anything to see on the scan on Sunday. Did you say you were a runner? Its horrible isnt it being out of breath when you really shouldn't be. Do you think you are in a bit of shock and not really knowing how to process this information? Could you do any low key activities? I've been painting by numbers when I feel up to it, which isn't regularly these days. I cried again last night because I threw up my yoghurt which I really enjoyed and thought I was making progress. I hope youre okay it is so overwhelming so don't ever feel alone xxxx

@Hopefulmummie yay thats great news! You must be so relieved x

Yay @Hopefulmummie, that's fantastic! Isn't it amazing? So happy for you.

It isn't much help @Kirky658, but just wanted to send a hug. It's good that we can talk and share things on here.

Hi @kirky658 I have had moments of feeling overwhelmed but Im trying to reason with myself that symptoms seem to be so different from person to person from what I've been learning here, and can also come and go, so have been trying to put worries to the back of my mind until I get more concrete answers from my scan and tests. Easier said than done I know, especially if someone suffers with anxiety anyway or has had health issues and struggles previously. Flipping things around really helps me and I keep telling myself that for everything than makes me a higher risk; I'm 40 in the summer, and my last pregnancy was molar, that the odds are still in our favour. And even with the pre 12 week concerns, with each day that comes the risks reduce and we're a teensy bit closer.
I'm 7+ 1 and 12 weeks seems an age away so I'm trying to think in smaller chunks of time and hopefully the scan then 12 weeks will come around before I know it! Fingers crossed Look after yourself x

@unicornpower I'm glad it's not just me. I am so so so happy, don't get me wrong, but just terrified it's going to all go up in smoke. Trying to hold out for the scan next Thurs which I think will help. Yeah I ran 80-90 miles a month before my BFP, loved it. Now I've done 60 this month, still OK but a lot slower. I'm trying to walk the dog a lot more on my rest days. I'm just also fed up of lockdown as I just want a hug from my mum!

@adventuresawait thank you, and you're deffo right, it is so lovely to have the support. I'm on another ttc thread which I don't wanna leave as the ladies are so lovely but it's awkward when you're pregnant and they are still trying, don't want to be insensitive and many x

@hopefulmummie That's wonderful, really pleased for you! X

@Hopefulmummie amazing! Thank you for sharing!

Everyone please keep the scan pics coming!!

@unicornpower oh I feel so terrible for you. It really zaps the excitement out of things at the moment doesn’t it? I feel like it’s so obvious with work because I’m only logging in during the afternoon.

@Kirky658 my heart was racing every day in the lead up to my scan, it felt like it was going to jump out my chest, my breathing would go funny and I would be jumping to the worst conclusions. It was a horrible week but I do feel better since the scan and hope you will too

@jeccap @chica1990 thank you both ❤️

I'm also not sleeping too well as keep waking up to go to the loo which won't be helping as I love my sleep lol x

Is anyone feeling really down? I can't tell if it's lockdown blues or hormones or both. I should be on top of the world but just feeling really down.

Hey congrats to those who have had healthy recent scans that's great 🤞🏻 I'm 5+ 1 today going by LMP date which was 24th dec. so the scan place near me says from 6 weeks so can I book for 6 weeks from 24th Dec ie 4th feb? Does the heartbeat start from 6 weeks based on lmp date (so actually most people are about 4 weeks since ovulation)? Sorry does that make sense? I want to book a scan ASAP but don't want to waste my time if nothing will be seen and they'll send me away

Thank you everyone. So glad everything is OK at this stage as I never had a successful scan with my 2 previous pregnancies. I can just hope everything goes OK.

Does anyone here have a bicornuate uterus (heart shaped) and have had a successful pregnancy? The midwife noticed that I do even though it wasn't picked up on in previous scans.
She didn't seem too worried about it but when I was reading about it there is an increase in recurrent miscarriages or pre term birth.
Although when I read personal experiences there was a lot of women who had successful pregnancies. Don't want to have to worry about it if I don't need to

@mrandmrslobster I had few really
Miserable days- lockdown, bad weather and poor sleep all contributing.

The sun was shining earlier and I felt the warmth on my skin. Made me feel much better. We are also decorating upstairs and whilst it's to early to plan a nursery it's still exciting be painting and improving our home. I've been very slowly stripping wall paper since September!! So pleased it took me so long and I didn't decorate already so I ca. Keep it nice and simple for when the time comes :)

Is there a project you can start to keep you busy?

@Bubbles1st

Thanks for the reply. We are doing home improvements but they are massive things that I can't really help with. My partner is doing everything himself as he's very handy. Before I fell pregnant I'd help him carry things around but he doesn't like me doing any heavy lifting now. He's fantastic at these things but because he's going it alone it's a really long process and I am getting fed up living in a building site.

@eihpos82 I'm also in the "advanced maternal age" category - I'm 38, although this is my second. My DS1 is 14 next month , so feels like I'm doing it all for the first time!