👣 November/December babies 2020! 👣

[danielasummer]

Can't keep track of who has had their babies! - but here is a new thread for those who have had ours and those still waiting x

@asianchick6693 Don't worry... you tried... you will try again tomorrow. I don't know what your surgery is like, but perhaps when your husband is home, could he speak to the Receptionist on your behalf, explain your anxieties and tell her that you'd speak to GP? And then gp cam ring you back
Just an idea. (To be honest, I don't know why on earth we have to tell the receptionist our aches pains and worries anyway as they always say the doctor will call you back 🙄) keep talking to.your hubby, it sound like he's a good support to you and keep writing your thoughts etc down. They will come in handy maybe down the line xx

@Jwl45 I might ask my husband to make the appointment for me. Yeah I don't really understand why either as there's only so much you can say to the receptionist. I find it hard enough having to talk about it to the doctor let alone saying to the receptionist over the phone 'postpartum depression' just feels like the hardest thing to say physically right now. My husband has been amazing. I really miss our relationship and him and how we were before baby arrived. I hope once I've started getting help that our relationship will get better too.

@Asianchick6693 so sorry to hear you're struggling. You sound like I was with my first, I couldn't leave the house with the anxiety. Maybe see if the HV can come round to you? That's how I got help initially, she saw something wasn't right and got the perinatal mental health team involved. They did all appointments at my house. My first was about 3 months old at this point, and I was at my absolute lowest at that point having struggled for so long. Meds made me feel so much worse for about two weeks, then things slowly improved. The support of the perinatal mental health team was fantastic too, they see it every day and really understand. Please get help, you don't deserve to feel this way. You've been so strong for so long, helping out there and will feel better one day soon I promise. I could never see myself having another because the PND was so bad, and I used to pity pregnant women. It took about 2 years before we were ready to try again, and we caught the PND/anxiety much sooner this time, straight on meds and talking with perinatal mental health. So many women experience this but you will look back in a few months from a new perspective. You will get yourself and your relationship (and your life) back. If there's anything you want to ask please do, I had it all including the suicidal thoughts. Take care xx

@Asianchick6693 im glad your husband is being supportive. I would get your husband to call when he can and he can explain why you need an appointment, you may have to go to the phone to give permission for him to speak though.

Being a mum is hard sometimes though. Don’t put pressure on yourself to be the best mum ever sometimes just surviving is an achievement.

What fantastic support this group has shown, thank goodness for this thread💖 @Asianchick6693 and to you for reaching out for help, it's a massive step in the right direction and you are doing it for yourself and your little girl. It's certainly not easy but you sound like you're doing a wonderful job. Just as a side note when the receptionist asks what the appointment is regarding you can always say you're not comfortable sharing that information with anyone apart from the GP, and most receptionists will respect that. I know I say it like it's easy to say, but it's just in case you go to try and phone again tomorrow, knowing you don't have to overshare when you aren't comfortable doing so can take the edge off a bit. Or if they push it you could try something very simple like 'my postpartum health', hopefully that should be enough that they wouldn't push anymore. So glad you've managed to open up to your husband too, he sounds really supportive. Sending you lots of love and strength! Xx

The support on here is amazing, @Asianchick6693 you've done the right thing in speaking up, just remember this won't be forever, it's just a small hurdle in your life & things will get better xx

My issue seems minor in comparison, I think Tommy's going through the 4 month sleep regression at 3 months! He's like a newborn again, waking every 3 hours for feeds through the night just when I'd gotten used to the 5/6 hours of unbroken sleep. His naps in the day are all over the place too, he's started only wanting to nap on me again. If I let him sleep on me he'll sleep for 1-2 hours, if I dare put him down he sleeps for 30 mins max, I'm struggling to get things done around the house. Any one else gone through it, how long did it last? Were on about day 5......

@kkr168 Elsi had a little phase where suddenly after sleeping all night for a long while, she was waking... well not waking completely more stirring and moaning every hour... once I held her hand and touched her face (she likes this to go to sleep) she was fine. (I didn't feed as she has stopped night feeding for a while now. )
It happened a few nights.
You shouldn't be far off getting back to normal. Think ours was about that. And don't worry about getting things done... honestly. I love a clean and tidy house, but listening to others, I won't get cuddle time back...( although I'm sure I have taken it a step to)o far as I can't even be bothered to do my little job list now 🤣🤣 I do keep up with the laundry though 🤣)
Go with it, im sure you'll be back to your normal routine soon. Good luck xx

All the best with getting support @Asianchick6693, the initial speaking out is the toughest bit. I have supported people with mental health issues through work before and usually recommend writing things down and giving the GP the letter but this may be difficult if you can't get a face to face appointment but something to think about.

This group has been fantastic and whilst I don't get on here everyday, I would be sad to see the get out go so would love if we can carry it on in some guise. Due to the pandemic, I didn't get to NCT etc like I would have liked to and you guys are the only mummy friends I've made, itbwould be a shame to lose that.

@kkr168 ours is hitting the sleep regression too I think. Past couple of nights, she's woken and needed settling but last night she needed feeding. First time since she was 6 weeks old! It's a shock to the system! 😴

@Pinktruffle I agree ... everyone on here are the only new mum friends I have made also due to no baby groups whatsoever.... this is exactly what we would be doing over a coffee etc isn't it, in the non-online world so to speak! X

@Jwl45 looks like after 5 days we are over another hurdle, he only woke once for a feed last night & has just had a 2 hour nap!!
I'm so jealous of you & @Jellycat2020 not having to do any night feeds, that seems a million miles away at the moment. I assume your babies upped there daytime feeds before sleeping through the night? Tommy still only drinks 4oz maximum every 3-4 hours.

@kkr168 ah brilliant...maybe once a night will start being the norm. How many times are you up normally? well Elsi has 5 feeds- 6oz bottles a day... usually every 3 hours... but the last one before bed can sometimes be a 2 hour gap. (Depending on how the day has panned out with naps etc)
Before finishing night feeds, she would wake, have a cuddle and would go straight back to sleep.. did this a few nights...realising she wasn't waking for a feed...until she was sleeping through until around 5 or 6 ish. I would then feed (breast) as was thinking she must be hungry... but she really wasn't fussed.. so I stopped... breast feeding naturally came to an end... and she now has her last feed around 8pm... and next feed then will be around 8.30 next morning. Xx

@Jwl45 before the 5 days we've just had, the norm for him was bottle 7-8pm, then straight to bed. I would then dream feed him when I went to bed (usually 10-11pm), he would then sleep till 5-6am, feed & go straight back to sleep. I make a 4oz bottle each time but he would typically drink around 1-2oz before settling & going back to sleep, so maybe I could have settled him without feeding, I never tried.

@kkr168 oh waw. He is very good then. I didn't do the dream feeding. I'd never even heard of it! I was concerned I wasn't feeding through the night as I thought that stopped around the 8/9month Mark. So asked my HV. But she said no, as long as she's gaining weight etc it can be at any time. She said if she didn't want it, that was good as she would learn not to associate waking with feeding to get her back to sleep.
I have been giving a dummy at other times, but trying to stop that now or reduce at least.
She has found her thumb though 🤣 the noises at 7am are hilarious 🤣

You've all been such a good support I hope the thread carries on. I hope you mummies that need the support get the inout you need. All the advice on here is great.
I'm still feeding every 3 hours and though the night. Baby is 14 weeks old now and I'm knackered. He refuses bottles and dummy too. He also has trouble napping in the day unless we go for a walk in the pram. Eben on me he will only have 30 mins. Im so jealous of you mummies who's babies even go 5 hours hahaha xx

@kkr168 @Jwl45 my little girl's a porker then! 😂 She feeds every 3 hours or so and normally takes around 6-7oz a time. She gets through normally 6 feeds a day, averaging about 35oz per 24 hrs. We exclusively bottle feed though. I ended up feeding her at 4 am this morning as she just wouldn't settle back down with shushing and she took 6oz so did want it!

@Jellycat2020 aw love her. We're only 5 ozs per 24hrs behind you 😉

@Jellycat2020 we're way behind you, Tommy averages 20oz a day.
I tried to settle him at 4am without a feed, it didn't end well, full on melt down, he definitely needs his night-time feeds .
Out of interest what does your babies weigh now? Tommy's now 16 weeks but I've not weighed him this week, last week he weighed 13.4lb, he was 7.7lb at birth. He has been following his own line on the growth chart between 25 & 50% centile.

Morning all nice to see the conversations going my lo was up at 12 the at 5.45 this morning had bottle but only took 4 ounces little sod currently in his rocker watching me lol he isnt bad though he is on 6 ounces every 3/4 hours sometimes a little longer and has around 6 bottles a day sometimes more he is a funny little boy had a few chuckles from him in past week or so loves to babble is now showing more interest in toys actually grabs them talks to them lol he is 4 months on monday

@kkr168 she was last weighed 3 weeks ago, at 15 weeks, and was 14lb. She was born 7lb 4oz but dropped to 6lb 7oz in the first few days. She's definitely feeling heavier and her toes are at the end of her 3-6mo sleepsuits already!
@Kj1010 yes, it's lovely when they giggle - we're nearly there! She's very strong and pulls at the toys on her playmat so hard it makes the whole thing nearly collapse!

Well little man is now in 6-9 month clothes and fit him perfectly! He's only 16 weeks 🙈 and we weighed him on normal scales and he's about 18lb! He doesn't look it though so don't know where he hides it, he definitely feels it! He is sleeping 8-6 most nights 🙌🏼 feel very lucky with that as I love my sleep! Hope everyone is ok and looking forward to lockdowns easing and a bit of normality resuming xx

Think we might be getting into the sleep regression early too. L is 3 months next week & is waking up every 2.5-3 hours at night for a feed. Previously he was going 4-6 hours in a stretch.

I’m amazed that we are still breastfeeding! We’ve got a ton of milk in the freezer if I need DH to do a couple of feeds and also got about 1.5l to donate to the milk bank.

He’s jumped centiles from 50th to 75th for weight and 75th to 91st for height. He was 14lb 7 and 64cm at 11 weeks, so might need to start buying his 6 month wardrobe!

I haven't had my little one weighed since he was 10 weeks! He's 18 weeks now, he has an appointment booked to be weighed but it's almost a month away. He is happy and growing out of his clothes fast, his 3-6 babygrows are looking tight now so I think he's fine.

He generally has 6 ounces every 3 hours but I think he is ready to move on to 7 as he is drinking his bottle dry on most his feeds. He has 7 before bed which is usually about 9ish. He sleeps through till 6/7am some night but other nights he will wake up around 2ish hungry and won't be settled with a hand hold and a pat so I know he wants feeding. As @Jwl45 said, the noises in the night are hilarious. The poor is busily tryi ng to eat his own hand, sometimes I feel bad and end up making him a bottle but I've tried to stop doing that and do my best to turn over and go back to sleep. I tell myself that he will wake and cry if he's actually hungry!

Elsi will be 20 weeks on Monday. She weighed 14lb 4 1/2 a fortnight ago..weighed at the immunisations, I haven't weighed her since. She's in 3-6 month clothes... Still fits into the odd 0-3 ... dresses and babygrows although the babygrows perhaps need to go away as her toes are right at the end... and I don't want her little feet squished. I have put a new babygrow 3-6 month tonight mind and its rather large.. lol. Room to stretch though 😄
We have been out in the fresh air all day and whilst she's had a few naps today, she is shattered tonight. Sje had a bottle at about 6.15 and has had another now... a little earlier than the norm and is fast asleep 😴

Lovely to read how you're all getting on x

@kkr168 my daughter is 16weeks and was weighed by HV Tuesday and is 12lb11oz. She is on 25th centile and EBF. In the early days she would have x1 bottle of formula in the night from her daddy so I
Could have some proper sleep but since 9weeks she then refused a bottle. Since then though her sleep did improve and for past 3 weeks she will sleep either 4 hours then awake to feed and another 4 hours or from approx 11.30-6.30 so I can’t complain at all.

She is wearing 3-6mth clothes but only been wearing them for past week and half. She is the most smiley baby but had 16week vaccinations yesterday and has been very grumpy since!