September 2021!

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I’ve created a thread for September 2021 babies in the birth club board. Come and join me if you get those long awaited bfps this month!

Xxxx

Hi
I've been reading this thread a couple of days, but wasn't brave enough to post.
Got our positive on boxing day.

I'm late 30s and this time last year was all set to start ttc then due to unforseen medical issue (not related) week 1 of Jan we had to hold until I had treatment. 2 surgeries later (Including covid delays and recoveries which weren't so great) and given all clear to ttc end Nov. During which time friends have announced their own news which I won't lie was quite tough.

Did not expect it to take only 1 cycle at my age!! Still getting my head around it, as the target was being able to ttc for so long, not much beyond that.
Trying to manage the excitement in case it doesn't work out, early days, strange emotions.
Anyway! Hello.

@Scaredycat101 I’ll look into those Nescafé sachets, would feel better if I know how many mgs I am having instead of guessing. Coffee is my one vice, I love a good strong cup so decaf is a complete u turn for me but I know it’s absolutely worth it.

I’m up and down all the time too. We’re both excited but can’t talk about it with anyone cos it’s so soon, have considered telling his parents but I don’t know how they will take it and I don’t want it to bring us down. My dads in the uk and my mum passed last year so it does feel a bit lonely atm especially as it’s our first and we have no idea about so much!

I guess it’s normal to switch between happy and worried though, it’s a big change and responsibility. I’m happy I have this forum to read to know it’s not just me

Welcome @Littlebuzz!

@wrensandrobins I found charting during pregnancy very unhelpful. With pregnancies that ended poorly, my chart sometimes looked fine. With my now healthy son, I was convinced I'd miscarry as my temps were so low. I stopped charting and felt better!

@Noornie I'm glad to hear someone else in the group is still breastfeeding- because I am so anxious about this aspect and how it will work / what midwives will say etc... I'm sorry if I hound you with questions!

To the people struggling with their feelings because you have fallen fast, it's normal. We have been TTC for 3 years. 2 full rounda of Ivf and a frozen embryo transfer. A chemical with our last embryo, so not exactly an easy road to get here.... Yet I still had a moment this morning where I though omg what have we done!! I think if we had managed it first month 3 years ago I have freaked the hell out!! So don't worry

@Scaredycat101

My manager is nice don’t get me wrong but I’ve only been there 6 months and I’m part of the management team so have responsibility and was bought in to develop a lot of the changes. I’m not too bothered as equally I’ve learnt this year the importance of family over work but it’s still something that I’m worried about especially as so much can change for women in jobs you hear about it a lot however they employ quite a young workforce so I think they would guess they may have a few pregnant colleagues soon
Yeah the psychic is scary my friend had a reading by her last year which was pretty accurate. I might re listen to mine and see specifically what she said. I know she said I’d get pregnant in December and I laughed thinking hows that gonna happen haha! Hear I am!

@Mseddy strange isn’t. I can imagine for you it’s such a big thing as it’s not been an easy road and sometimes when we’re presented with something we think we can’t have then it can be a shock to the system. I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels the same

Hi, I just found out I'm pregnant. Its not planned and I'm not with the dad. Any advice on what I should be feeling or thinking? I so want to be a mum but I'm scared. The father doesn't want to be involved and I'm feeling a bit lost. Want to be happy and excited but not sure I should be. :-( x

@Scared34 I'm sorry that sounds so tough! Have you got a good support system in family or friends? Is there anyone for you to talk it all through with? Being scared is so normal even when a pregnancy is anticipated and planned for.

@felicityheather haha that’s fine, hound me with questions all you like!! My midwife with my previous pregnancy in May when I said I was still breastfeeding my first was super supportive so I’m really hoping she will be again. My DD is down to 2 feeds a day but definitely not ready to give up. She’s very nearly 2 and I always wanted to get to 2 so am so happy it worked, and after that I’ll follow her lead really.

Hey! Got my bfp last Wednesday. Depending on calculator I'm due 31st Aug- 2 sep. 2nd baby - I have a son who is 2.
Bit worried as I also tested positive for the dreaded covid last week as well. I've read loads about it but I'm still worried about contracting the virus so early on. Going to try and contact midwife later today.

Good morning ! Too many individual posts to reply too.

How are we all today? I think gp surgeries reopen today, anyone referring on to midwife? I’m going to sit tight until 6 weeks and then get the ball rolling.

We still haven’t told anyone. Likely keep it between us until 12week scan although I should be offered an early one due to prev loss.

I’m also thinking about work today. So much going on at work at the mo and we have management meeting first week of jan to plan for the quarter. I won’t be saying though

@Ralala I’m going to try and book on with the midwife today - she was really lovely during my loss and said to call her as soon as I fall next time.

I also come across her in my work life (I work in children’s services so sometimes we have families that overlap and we work professionally together!) so want to give her a heads up before I next see her as I hope she’ll help fight my corner with work. At the moment I do lots of home visits in and out of peoples houses. Back in May I wasn’t allowed to do this and had to work exclusively from home so I’m not sure what the rules will be this time and hoping she can help with that.

As a separate note - is anyone interested in a Facebook group? I joined a due in December 2018 for my first from the mumsnet boards and we all still talk all the time and it’s lovely to see how all the babies (well, toddlers now!) are developing :)

Back at work today and the nausea has decided to return too. Gotta leave the house in 45 mins and I can’t moveee.

Morning all, just another horrible night of sleep for me must have slept about 4 hours I really hope my sleep will return soon side note I’ve still in my head not accepted I’m pregnant and just expecting to lose this at some point based off my 2 previous losses, is that normal do you think? And I think I’m going to hold off telling the midwife aswell until I’m about 6 weeks also which is this Saturday

@DiamondsInThe id say that's normal. I've had six losses and mostly just sit around waiting for the loss when I get a positive. My tests are getting darker and I'm starting to feel nautious which has only happened with my one healthy (ish!) Pregnancy so I'm feeling cautiously optimistic but I'm probably just setting myself up for a disappointment.

I think the brain does the protecting so we don't feel so much pain if the worst happens. I was in labour with my son before I accepted we were having a baby! I didn't tell anyone, really other than close family and a friend or two. People would awkwardly ask when I was like 7 + months lol. Even then I was like 'I'm due in May/June if things go smoothly'

Ahh, so lovely to see so many with such happy news! Hard to keep up with all the posts! 😅
Sorry to hear about some of the worrying symptoms 😔 Wishing you all the best and hoping that anxieties start to ease as we get further along 😊

I've not really had any symptoms yet, though more acutely aware of every twinge and ache than ever!! 😂
The only thing I seem to have noticed is I'm feeling the cold a lot more than normal. My partner always says I'm an oddball because I'm always too hot, even when he's sat complaining of cold and wrapped up in several layers and 2 duvets 🙈. Maybe I'm just becoming more normal? 😂 It's nice to finally get some use out of all of my cost jumpers anyway.😂

Also trying to not get too drawn in to all the scaremongering articles online about food, drink etc. 😅

@DiamondsInThe I think that’s definitely normal. I’ve only had the one loss but already had a few wobbles, firstly I felt line progression wasn’t good enough and then with me being poorly (I got tonsillitis about 3 days after my BFP) with horrible high temps I’ve convinced myself something will go wrong. I was on a TTC/ babies after loss page though and they shared this, so am trying to live by these rules at the moment!

ah @DiamondsInThe im with you - jsut waiting for this to go wrong :( i feel like the excitement we had first time round just isnt here now which is a bit sad. sorry to hear about your losses @felicityheather - fingers crossed the nausea is a good sign!! and congrats :)

@Ralala is that a standard thing you can get earlier scans after a loss? im gonna be tearing my hair out if make it to 12 weeks.
@Rae2017 sorry to hear you tested positive for COVID :( hope u feel ok with it? and sure everything will be fine with this at such an early stage, get well soon!
hi everyone else :)

@Noornie thats great - thanks for sharing that! defo something to live by -easier said than done! Said to OH last night im going to really try hard not to stress out so much. bless him, he didnt laugh at me (cos it is laughable for me haha) and just asked how i was gonna achieve that ;)

Thank you @Noornie that’s a lovely reminder I’ve just screenshot it and will revert to it when feeling nervous.

And yes @leftitlate37 I know exactly what you mean I had my first at 25 and was so naïve to ever think anything could go wrong and was really excited the whole way through the excitement just isn’t there at all right now

Oh gosh sorry guys I feel like I’m so moany! Haha I promise I’m great fun otherwise

Glad it’s helped a few of you :) my DH looked at it too and keeps reminding me of the points when I’m having a wobble!

@DiamondsInThe I can totally relate to you with that! I was 25 when I had my first daughter too and she was my first pregnancy, everything was so easy. I had lots of scans with her as there were concerns about her growth (that she was too small) but it was never a severe worry so much as just keeping an eye (and she came 2 weeks late, at 7lb 8oz so no worries about size!) and when I fell with my second I just assumed it’d be the same. Since that loss, I’m finding it much harder to be excited for this pregnancy. Hoping once I get to that 12 week scan and fingers crossed all is well that I can enjoy it a bit more.

@leftitlate37 yes our trust offers a reassurance scan after a loss. It’s usually after 7 weeks.

@Noornie a Facebook group would be great. I’m still really close and part of my previous one. I would likely not join for a couple of weeks though until I’m passed 7 weeks

Cautiously joining this thread with an EDD of around 8th - our first month trying hence the caution!

We have a 3 year old (Aug 17) baby too.

Hi all, I think I am having a chemical, sad today. Will be confirmed with temp tomorrow or bleeding I suppose, an anxious 24 hrs for me.

If it bounces up I will stop temping, I can't take the whiplash of emotions!

Forgot to attach my chart