September 2021!

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I’ve created a thread for September 2021 babies in the birth club board. Come and join me if you get those long awaited bfps this month!

Xxxx

Poor you @MushroomQueen, hope that passes quickly. I'm just 4 weeks and have had a bit of lightheadedness but not dizzy thankfully. The cramps have really kicked in tonight though, feels like quite strong period pain starting.

Really hope it isn't actually AF! I did have these cramps with my previous pregnancy too so hoping not.

Very late to the party but found out Sat and should be due mid-late September!

Found out on Friday using a Boots cheapie, followed up with a FRER on Saturday. Done a CB digital (attached) at 5.30 this morning using FMU. Terrified because of previous miscarriages and most recently a pregnancy of unknown location which was treated with methotrexate. This is our first month trying again and have fallen really quickly. We have been trying for baby no 2 for over 2 years. Going on LMP I am 4+5 but think I am likely around 4 because of irregular cycles due to PCOS. Due date is roughly between 22 and 27 September.

Congratulations @MrsTD88

@treesall thank you, congratulations to you too

@Scotti84

Hi *@Equimum*, I’m older, 36 but will be 37 when Bub appears. This will be my first. I’m a bit worried about the actual birthing part, I’m not sure if being a bit older makes a difference in how difficult it will be, what do you think?

@FTEngineerM hope you don’t feel sick for too long, it’s not helpful on top of everything else is it 🤦🏻‍♀️

Congratulations!!! Me too!!!! What's your due date?

Hi, sorry your feeling so poorly, I’m in the same boat, feel so rubbish had to go off sick from work today 😩 Iv been prescribed prochlorperzine you stick them inside your gums and they dissolve slowly they seem to take the edge off for a couple of hours whilst their dissolving but by no means a miracle cure more just a relief when you can’t take anymore. It’s been 9 years since I had my son and I’d completely forgotten how awful early pregnancy makes you feel 🙁 how many weeks are you? Il be 8 on Friday hoping not to many more till the sickness subsides 🤞

Morning :) has anyone had ligament pain around the stomach as early as 5 weeks? Any time I do any sort of sudden movement I get a sharp pain across my lower stomach

@sa57 thank you, congrats to you too! I’m due on sept 1st, you? x

Can't decide if I should go for an early scan or not. What do people think? I've no actual reason to be concerned (just usual anxiety) but the thought of going to my 12 week and them saying it all stopped at 6/7 weeks seems so awful. But then, there's nothing I can do anyway about any problems is there?

Hmmm, I dunno

Hey @Noodles4Me, totally know what u mean. As loads say it only gives reassurance for that moment in time.
I opted to book one at nearly 11 weeks last year, and was shocked and sad to find nothing had progressed since 6.5wk. I was then seeing epu and going to decide on treatment, but ended up miscarriage naturally at just over 11 weeks. To be honest, I was relieved I had been for a private scan as the shock of the miscarriage happening with no warning when I was preparing for 12 week scan would have been awful. I felt I at least had some time to come to terms with stuff. I've booked a scan for next week at nearly 8 weeks, I just couldn't wait til 12 weeks. I just need to know if things r OK now, I know still time for things to change but hey. I think I was fortunate in having a really good experience with private place as have heard bad stories.but for us it was gr8 they did all the sorting with EPU and took some stress away for us. Good luck whatever u decide!! And am sure everything will be fine!!

@Noodles4Me I'm planning to go for one when I'm 8 weeks, but started to doubt if it's a good thing.....I'd be able to have my DH there which is of course a big positive, but what if there's something wrong? How would you get referred back to your midwife? I have my first midwife appointment at 9 weeks and not sure if they'll think it was dumb to do, or would ignore what they say anyway....FTM jitters.....

Has anyone had a private scan with a previous pregnancy who could help advise?

So strange seeing this thread!

@mamshi I was due on 15th September last year and my dd was born on 17th.

Enjoy your journey September mummies to be! I now have a 4 month old daughter who is going through the very real 4 months sleep regression and up all hours again like a newborn! Congratulations to you all.

I'm seeing more and more advice in recent years about avoiding early scans unless medically necessary -
"Ultrasound should only be used the first 10 weeks of pregnancy if needed medically. This is because the baby is in its embryonic period and may be vulnerable." From here - www.nct.org.uk/pregnancy/tests-scans-and-antenatal-checks/what-happens-your-12-week-scan

Not intended to worry just worth considering as part of informed choice for those on the fence. But of course everyone should do their own reading and go with what feels best for them xx

[quote Scotti84]@sa57 thank you, congrats to you too! I’m due on sept 1st, you? x[/quote]
I'm due September the 2nd!!! So close! How exciting!!!! Xx

hello. We found out last Friday that we are expecting our first baby. It has been a long 4 year process of tests and two further operations last year to aid fertility. We had pretty much ruled it out however I have done a number of tests over the weekend and all positive, going by our calculations we are due 21st Sep (5wks pregs ) and we are extremely anxious about the next 6 weeks, we are trying to be excited however know that it could be a long few anxious weeks ahead of us. How to keep busy for the next few weeks?

I'm 5 weeks 2 days 18th Sep going off my first day of last period which was the 12th, hoping this is correct

@Lozza85
I had one last week and one in my
Previous pregnancy.

If there’s something wrong they usually write a report and you would have to go to the EPU not the midwife or you’d call your GP and tell them what was seen or said and they would refer you to the EPU.

Why would they thinks it’s dumb? It’s your right to do whatever you want or need to do For your pregnancy. Believe me they see a lot more people who are doing dangerous things whilst pregnant!

Thanks @Darklava09 for explaining the process. Did you find having the scans helped you?

I don't know why I think I'd be judged by the midwife, neurotic first timer I guess 🙈

I had a mc in July which started with spotting at 5 weeks so I guess that's making me more jumpy. I'm currently 5+3 and all seems ok so far. Just wish the time would go faster! I'm anxious to get to 6 weeks as I know they say that its an important milestone for getting to the point of having a heartbeat. Currently thinking of going for a scan at around 8 weeks.

How are you finding pregnancy again? This is your second?

@Hopefulmummie
Hi! Congratulations on your bfp!
Yes! I am currently 6+2 and really noticed it at week 5. Turning over in bed or twisting caused quite a sharp pain. It definitely felt like a muscular pain. I also had quite a lot of dull aching in my lower tummy. A bit like I was about to start my period. It all seems to have settled a little bit this week though.
I hope you're doing ok and had a good day :) x

@danigrace the article you have sent makes one very ambiguous statement. One of the main reason the Nhs don’t offer early scans is because miscarriage is so common so it is a waste of money and resources. Sad but true. After having 2 miscarriages, I will be having an early scan and know it is safe to do so. Any suggestion that I’m putting my baby at risk is heartbreaking. I know you are just trying to provide information but it might be an idea to be mindful of those who do have medical needs or who have lost multiple babies. We don’t need that added guilt and worry.

@Lozza85 yes it helped me loads as I suffered both times with horrendous pains and I panicked I was having an ectopic. Anything can happen between now and my 12 weeks but I’m comforted knowing it’s in the right place mainly.

It is my second there is a big 8 year age gap so I feel like a new mum all over again! I’m approaching the 8 week mark now which has gone quicker since I’ve gone back to work.

What I will say to you is don’t ever let a health professional make you feel stupid. They are amazing and a wealth of knowledge but Your feelings are valid and do what works for you. I remember feeling huge guilt about telling the midwife I had stopped breastfeeding and I she was so mean to me!! This time round I don’t give a crap... but maybe that’s because I’m older

@Darklava09 you speak a lot of sense! I'm going to go for the early scan just for my own piece of mind and so my DH can share it with me in case the hospital don't let him come to the 12 week scan. It must be exciting and strange having your second after 8 years! I'm sure it will all come flooding back and you'll be able to help us newbies navigate this journey!

Evening mummas

I started looking through photos from when DS was born because somehow I forgot what a newborn was like. Gosh they change so quickly. Terrible idea because I want it to be September already, how’re you all feeling this evening?

[quote MamaPheebz]@danigrace the article you have sent makes one very ambiguous statement. One of the main reason the Nhs don’t offer early scans is because miscarriage is so common so it is a waste of money and resources. Sad but true. After having 2 miscarriages, I will be having an early scan and know it is safe to do so. Any suggestion that I’m putting my baby at risk is heartbreaking. I know you are just trying to provide information but it might be an idea to be mindful of those who do have medical needs or who have lost multiple babies. We don’t need that added guilt and worry.[/quote]
@MamaPheebz sorry it seemed ambiguous - the NCT are generally considered reputable and did list their sources, a few here:

• Salvesen K, Lees C. (2009) Ultrasound is not unsound, but safety is an issue. Available at: obgyn.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/uog.6381
• RCOG. (2015) RCOG release: The use of ultrasound before 10 weeks gestation is examined in a new scientific opinion paper. Available at: www.rcog.org.uk/en/news/rcog-release-the-use-of-ultrasound-before-10-weeks-gestation-is-examined-in-a-new-scientific-opinion-paper/
• Buckley S. (2016) Ultrasound scans in pregnancy – your questions answered! Available at: sarahbuckley.com/ultrasound-scans-in-pregnancy-your-questions-answered/

It's becoming commonly accepted amongst research scientists that there is uncertainty - but like you say any medical reason clearly outweighs that and it is up to each individual to decide for themselves what is the best approach for them. Nowhere does anybody at all say "this is dangerous" and I don't add personal opinion on what I "think" somebody else should do as I don't feel that suits parenting in general, every parent and child is different. I'm lucky to have a big close knit mummy group from previous babies and there are so many huge some would say polar opposite differences but we all support each other in our personal choices and nobody gets upset about others feelings, they are never being pushed on anyone else, just open discussion with people doing what works for them, it's just a lovely place to be. I absolutely understand and support the multitude of reasons why people want early scans, but equally some are unsure what could be gained medically and whether to wait.
Like I said originally totally not intended to cause worry, I'm just a fan of balanced opinion and informed choice in all aspects of motherhood and parenting - with each individual making their own individual informed choice and doing what is right for them and supporting each other in that fully. ❤️