👣 November/December 2020 babies! 👣

[danielasummer]

Mummas that are still waiting for their babes to make their appearance -

@EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
@kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
@phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
@Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
@Babyevictionimminent - due 30th Nov - boy - 2TM
@Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
@amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
@alphabetti - due 8th December but induction booked for 2nd December - girl - 3TM
@excitednerves - due 5th December - girl - 2TM
@lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
@danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
@Kj1010 - due 13th December - 4TM
@jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
@FTM1512 due 15th December - girl - FTM
@Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
@viixie - due 16th December - surprise - 3TM
@Charl88 - due 17th December - boy - 2TM
@loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

Congratulations to...

@Jwl45 - baby girl - Elsi - born 9th November
@peachypetite - baby girl - born 20th November

Also tagging @MummytoMatildaX @PipTed @MySafeSpace @Asianchick6693 @Jellycat2020 @Dee96 @LRHRN @roro87 @MrsSmith2020

Feel free to join :)

@Babyhope98

I’m currently being induced been here since Friday night it’s not gone my way that’s for sure I’m on my second gel I’ve had enough now 😭 *@MsBee13* I get why you did this it’s just exhausting and not being able to see anyone this has been the worst experience.. Congratulations! 💙

It's absolutely frustrating and both mentally and physically draining. I was in in the bay with with women coming and going. After 4 days, I was still there. I know your feeling.

I hope there will be progress for you soon. Otherwise, please don't be afraid to speak up. This is your birth! Good luck xx

@Charl88 honestly it's like there's a bloody riot going on in my womb!
I keep picturing the baby being born with long talon like nails 😂

@MrsSmith2020 @Charl88 we nicknamed our baby Edward Scissor hands cause I had this all of the time. It's a sign of effacement though so all good xx

@Babyhope98 I'm so sorry that things haven't gone to plan for you, you're so close now and you'll have your beautiful baby and all will be forgotten. Good luck xxx

That sounds just like me, I was the first one in my bay and 5 women have come and gone since you can’t help but feel frustrated as to why it’s not working as well for me. I’ve had a good cry today out of frustration. Hoping some progress will be seen tonight but I do feel like having a csection at this point. Might go through all of this and end up in one anyway! The process is quite painful and scary without anyone here to hold your hand. We shall see how tonight goes @MsBee13

Thanks all for well wishes X

@Babyhope98 I have everything crossed for you! The whole induction process is bad enough, without being in there on your own 😥.. not long now and your beautiful baby will be in your arms xx

@Babyhope98 I totally understand how you are feeling as this happened to me also - induction didn't work and I was in for three days on my own! Defo push for a section if that's what you want if things haven't progressed by the morning. It should be your choice. I know it's difficult but try and stay positive, take care of yourself and just keep focussing on the fact that very soon you will have your precious baby in your arms xx

Congratulations to everyone who has had their babies in the past few days.

I've been doing my best to catch up as my little one has been keeping me very busy. He's amazing and adorable but I am finding nights hard, he is fine all day but won't settle at night. There seems to be no pattern to it, one day he will sleep the next 3 days he won't and we seem to be doing everything the same.

Feeding is a bit of a minefield. I feel guilty at not being able to breastfeed but he is thriving on formula. I've actually had the opposite experience from midwives, I've felt like they didnt really care what I was doing and I was never offered the option of a breast pump in hospital as I think I would have liked to try. Health visitors and community midwives have been giving me conflicting advice as he is a very hungry baby. One said to feed on demand and let him have as much as he wants, and told me to up to 4oz if that's what he wants, another told me off and said I was stretching his stomach and shouldn't be feeding him that much. He is obviously hungry though and I really dont know what to do for the best.

Hi @Pinktruffle I don’t think we can expect much of a routine at this stage! With our little girl sometimes she wants more, sometimes less - we are being guided by her. Hope you have recovered well from your section.

Hey girls just wanted to leave an update. Having a super proud mummy moment. Been such a hard transition into motherhood as all this breastfeeding was completely new to me. I persisted and did what I felt was best at the time which meant eventually giving in to ready made formula at night just until I was fully healed and she took to it all extremely well. She has a tongue tie which meant it was very painful for me. She has a great latch but has left me in agony with bleeding, sore and cracked nipples. Early days I could not get her to settle at night time, she would not sleep in the crib, she wanted a feed every 5-30 minutes. I was barely sleeping and felt like I was failing as a mother. (I know this is all normal but my hormones were all over the place).

Now that my milk supply has come in, she is doing so much better. Staying full for longer and for the first night since she's been born (1 week) she hasn't needed formula and has been waking up for a feed every 3 hours, feeding for 30 minutes. I just feel so proud of her idk why I'm so emotional. I know every night can be different but I started questioning my ability when I couldn't settle what is an already content baby. She rarely cries but I think it's about every baby adjusting to this new world and mum learning about them as well. I hope it only gets easier and continues to stay like this!

Hope everyone is well and for those still struggling with settling baby at night. Give it time, seems like the first few weeks are the hardest and it's all about learning baby's needs and them also learning your routine. I try to do the same things each day at the same time to try and give her a sense of time and it looks like it has helped. x

Hi everyone,congratulations to those who have recently had their babies and good luck to those still waiting.

Sounds like a few of us are finding BF hard. I wasn't able to get my son to latch despite being told position etc was good so have been pumping since my milk came in with formula top ups. It's exhausting and my supply is still not great but I figured any BM is a plus.

Is anyone else finding baby sleeps more than expected? I'm sure my first was more alert but Charlie still pretty much sleeps all day unless it's time for a feed. He's 10 days old today.

@Asianchick6693 yay! So pleased for you! 😊 My little girl is also being investigated for a tongue tie but I think I'm at the point now where I've made my peace, more or less, with not being able to breastfeed. She's just happy to get any food as she's so greedy! We had cluster feeding last night which was fun 😒
@NatalieH2220 I'm doing the same as you and expressing but finding it to painful and time consuming to continue at this rate long term so starting to wean down.... Just as my milk really comes in so now I'm big and engorged too - just feel like there's always something!
@Pinktruffle we were told you can't really overfeed them, if it's too much for their stomach, they'll spit it up.

@MummytoMatildaX

Hi everyone Our beautiful baby girl arrived on 27.11.20 at 03:16am, weighing 8lbs 9oz. She was 2 days early, she’s doing so well, really content and feeding well. We now finally have a name, Eliza Mollie Viola (Viola is our surname).

I had started having some pains around 1pm but just mild period cramps and I wasn’t sure if it was the start of something as I had a similar pains the day before which didn’t come to anything! By 2:30pm I knew i was in labour. Contractions started to get longer and more uncomfortable, and I phoned the hospital at 10pm to say I thought I’d be in within the hour. We ended up at the hospital at midnight, and the whole way there I only had 2 contractions, I honestly couldn’t believe it. It was like they had come to a complete stop. My husband parked the car and I said I would go a walk to see if they would start again, so there I am doing laps of the hospital car park at midnight! I got back to the car and said we were going home, Why go in when they had stopped?! We went home and my husband had a sleep, then I woke him at 2:20am as contractions had been regular for a while and my waters had just broken. i literally felt from that moment that the baby was coming!! She was born within half an hour of getting to the hospital. I had another water birth but was only in the pool for 7 mins! I would so recommend a water birth for anyone considering it! Good luck to you all! x

Thanks for detailing your experience

oh congratulations to @msbee13 as well :)
my laptop thought that page 6 was the last one ^^

@Asianchick6693 so glad to hear things are getting easier for you. It's so hard with the tiredness. It's so amazing when they go a stretch without waking up it just gives you chance to feel slightly human again.
I pick Nora up and I just look at her and what to cry cause she's so perfect and it's definitely amazing that these little bundles were in water only a week ago and now they are adjusting to life on the outside.

I'm glad some of you have switched to formula if breast feeding isn't right for you and baby then you do what's best. You should all be really proud that you even tried and baby got the colostrum.
My baby seems to have the hang of breastfeeding now and I'm expressing too but I can honestly say it's really challenging when you're trying to run around after other kids and school runs etc. I don't know honestly how long I'll be able to keep it up for.

@peachypetite how's little lady doing? Have you found she's latching better now?

@Pinktruffle don't feel guilty, you've had a major operation and you've tried your best ❤️ if baby is happy with formula then that's what you do.

@Babyhope98 how are you doing? xx

@Pinktruffle - my husband and I have an agreement on making decisions where we have conflicting midwife advice: if there is opposing advice then it probably doesn't matter what you do as the evidence clearly isn't set in stone (think about things that you DON'T get conflicting advice on - like safe sleep or getting movements checked in pregnancy).

41+2. STILL PREGNANT.
I went to the assessment unit this morning for bleeding. Turns out it was just a show. Oops. Got a barely consensual examination - along the lines of "I'm going to look at your cervix now" as she jammed the speculum right on up there. Noted to self to ask midwives to explain the process BEFORE they do something next time (I have a bit of an anxiety issue with internal examinations).
I do now have an induction booked for Friday night if baby has not appeared by then and have to take a Covid test on Wednesday (bleh).

Congratulations to everyone who has since had a baby join the thread and good luck to anyone about to have!!💖

Been feeling super anxious the past few days and struggling to control it. At night I get really intense contractions which just stop during the day, I think the lack of sleep is making me overthink everything and starting to wonder how well I am going to cope.

Has anyone tried using a breast pump beforehand to help bring on labour? Thinking of giving that a go today

I am waiting to go down to delivery to have my waters broken. I am a bit happier now as I can having my partner then, but they are taking their time to send me down there 🤨 hoping there has been a miracle and my cervix has dilated a bit more so it won’t be as difficult x @LRHRN

@Babyhope98 I'm so excited for you, this is amazing. Hope your partner gets there asap. X

@Amyyy1 I've been hand expressing colostrum rather than using the pump. It starts my cramps up.

I collect the milk in a milk syringe and milk collection cups and freeze it ready to take to hospital.

My midwife said not to use the pump, Hand expressing is just as effective and less of a shock 😂

@Babyhope98 That must be such a relief your OH can join you soon! Hope it all goes well for you☺️

@MrsSmith2020 I have tried hand expressing lots and so far haven't been able to get anything, I've watched so many videos, I'm not sure what I'm doing wrong!! I thought maybe a pump would get things into action but perhaps not😅

@Amyyy1 I've been using the pump a few times a day, I don't get anything out but it does cause some contractions, not that they've led anywhere for me.
4 days overdue now! I have a midwife appointment tomorrow so will probably have my 3rd sweep (again they've not helped yet) & hopefully get an induction date booked in, so I have a final date set in stone.

@Amyyy1 try a really hot long shower and stroke gently your boobs away from nipple back to armpit, during shower away from the nipple.
Apparently this stimulates everything (it did for me & started cramping etc)

Then after shower I sat and massaged the other way, toward the nipple and gently compressing my boob, around the nipple repeatedly and after about 10 mins the colostrum started and I get 1ml a time.
I do this every other day at the moment as it's time consuming

@kkr168 Fingers crossed it's third time lucky! Is that how long they usually wait until they give an induction date?? I have a sweep booked in for my 40 week appointment and wasn't sure what was happening after then if it doesn't work

@MrsSmith2020 Thank you for the advice, I will give that a go this evening!!!

Hey guys - just in case any of you are with hospitals around Greater Manchester we've been told by a midwife on our community page that the guidance for partners has been updated. I rang my hospital to double check so thought it'd be useful for anyone else who might not know in my area! To say I'm overjoyed is an overstatement and my fiancé is excited to see our little girl and take part in the consultation ☺️