👣 November/December 2020 babies! 👣

[danielasummer]

Mummas that are still waiting for their babes to make their appearance -

@EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
@kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
@phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
@Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
@Babyevictionimminent - due 30th Nov - boy - 2TM
@Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
@amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
@alphabetti - due 8th December but induction booked for 2nd December - girl - 3TM
@excitednerves - due 5th December - girl - 2TM
@lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
@danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
@Kj1010 - due 13th December - 4TM
@jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
@FTM1512 due 15th December - girl - FTM
@Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
@viixie - due 16th December - surprise - 3TM
@Charl88 - due 17th December - boy - 2TM
@loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

Congratulations to...

@Jwl45 - baby girl - Elsi - born 9th November
@peachypetite - baby girl - born 20th November

Also tagging @MummytoMatildaX @PipTed @MySafeSpace @Asianchick6693 @Jellycat2020 @Dee96 @LRHRN @roro87 @MrsSmith2020

Feel free to join :)

I've been in hospital tonight for the 1st time with reduced movements, within 5 minutes of having the trace on he was kicking away, little bugger.
The midwife offered me a sweep which after the last one hurting so much I almost said no, but I agreed & I'm glad I did. It was a much better experience, no pain at all just slightly uncomfortable, hopefully its because I'm closer to labour, who knows!!

@peachypetite I'm so sorry your having a rough time with Breastfeeding.
Might it be the position you are holding baby in?

I prefer cross cradle as I get a better grip of her but I have to be quite firm. Her belly on mine and latch from the bottom of the nipple to the top.
May sound silly but has baby been checked for a tongue tie?
I'd contact your midwife tomorrow or Facebook breastfeeding support groups cause I'm assuming baby is losing weight if she's not feeding well. Have you tried expressing into a bottle or would you prefer not to?

Baby is feeding fine because she’s having formula and expressed breast milk. No way would I persevere exclusively breastfeeding as she loses more and more weight, I don’t agree with that at all. I had a video call with l leche where we tried loads of positions and nothing worked. The only way she goes anywhere near it is in the biological nurturing approach - me reclining and her making her way down. All this lining up body parts is even more stressful tbh. I am starting to feel fed up.

@LRHRN @MrsSmith2020 thanks girls for your help. She's getting more and more settled every day that passes. I think this whole week has been so hard just adjusting to this new life, looking after and being responsible for this child while you're healing as well. I just feel drained. I want to feel like I know what I'm doing. I'm finding night times the most difficult atm.

@MrsSmith2020 ooh same date have you got others and were they on time ?

@peachypetite I wasn't trying to be funny and imply you're not feeding your baby properly, I didn't read properly that you were already expressing. Read so many threads and people won't express.
I know what you mean about the body part bit being stressful just trying to share what my midwife said. It's so hard trying to hold baby in a good position and hold your boob at the same time, we need more than 2 hands.
I haven't got any other suggestions on why baby won't latch 🤔

@peachypetite @Asianchick6693 were your babies early?
I've noticed today my baby is a lot more settled and it's her actual due date. I wonder if being born abit earlier might have an impact? 🤷🏼‍♀️

@LRHRN no worries, I’m a bit fed up because everything you read says don’t give formula/bottle, just keep trying to breastfeed and I just can’t do that, my baby would literally be starving. I’m worried my milk is drying up. I’ve been pumping several times today and only produced 30ml of milk.

@LRHRN yes my baby was a week and a half early.

It's my first @viixie and I am so excited and terrified all at once

@peachypetite was baby a c section? My
Midwife said that can delay milk etc and cause babies to search elsewhere for milk.. fed is best, so if you need to top up with formula then you do that, you know what's best.. please stop being so hard on yourself, you are doing a great job and baby and you being happy is the top priority. My first two were 100% formula fed and are healthy beautiful girls xxx

@LRHRN yes she was born at 38 weeks, maybe once her due date is here she'll also fully settle. She's been doing great tbh, not a baby that cries really either. Took her 2 days to sleep in the bedside crib. At the beginning she kept wanting to sleep on me/my breast bless her. Must be so strange for them to go from a warm/comforting environment to being out in this big world.

@LRHRN I'm in a similar boat to @peachypetite and my baby was 4 days overdue. We too have had a lot of 'help' trying to get her to breastfeed but she just won't latch. It got to the point she'd lost 11% of bodyweight by her 5 day check so we spent 48 hours just purely getting milk into her by cup and thankfully she's on the up now. We are now bottle feeding, a combination of mainly expressed breast milk and some formula just to give me a break. The pressure I've had, from antenatal classes, the hospital, midwives and others that breastfeeding is everything, has been intense and really affected me mentally since we've been home. I've had a lot of guilt to deal with and actually felt quite angry about it at times. But I just keep thinking that my baby doesn't care how or what she gets fed, just that she is fed, and that's she's happy and healthy. We had another midwife check today and at 10 days old, she's now only 2.3% below her birth weight, despite such a crappy start. She's a real trooper ❤️

Hi everyone Our beautiful baby girl arrived on 27.11.20 at 03:16am, weighing 8lbs 9oz. She was 2 days early, she’s doing so well, really content and feeding well. We now finally have a name, Eliza Mollie Viola (Viola is our surname).

I had started having some pains around 1pm but just mild period cramps and I wasn’t sure if it was the start of something as I had a similar pains the day before which didn’t come to anything! By 2:30pm I knew i was in labour. Contractions started to get longer and more uncomfortable, and I phoned the hospital at 10pm to say I thought I’d be in within the hour. We ended up at the hospital at midnight, and the whole way there I only had 2 contractions, I honestly couldn’t believe it. It was like they had come to a complete stop. My husband parked the car and I said I would go a walk to see if they would start again, so there I am doing laps of the hospital car park at midnight! I got back to the car and said we were going home, Why go in when they had stopped?! We went home and my husband had a sleep, then I woke him at 2:20am as contractions had been regular for a while and my waters had just broken. i literally felt from that moment that the baby was coming!! She was born within half an hour of getting to the hospital. I had another water birth but was only in the pool for 7 mins! I would so recommend a water birth for anyone considering it! Good luck to you all! x

@peachypetite @Jellycat2020
You just have to do what's best for you and your baby. My first 2 were bottle fed so I'm new to breast feeding to. I've heard the same about milk being delayed due to csection and induced labours but like you say if baby is fed and you are happy to persevere trying to keep pumping then that's also your choice.
Advice is always so conflicting and I was told not to mix boob and bottle as it will confuse her, she's absolutely fine with both and a dummy.

First few weeks with a new baby is bloody hard you're both getting to know each other and figure out a bit of a routine when all you want to do is sleep...and cry.
There are loads of breastfeeding tips on Pinterest and expressing schedules which may help but unfortunately everything is all sunshine and roses I've not read anything yet that tells the reality.
I apologise to anyone if my messages have come across as a know it all or offensive but I'm really not trying to be just trying to help as best as I can with what I'm experiencing at the minute.
Don't let anyone pressure you into feeding a certain way or doing anything with your baby.
The midwife told me not to bath Nora and to leave the vernix on her for a least a week and she's now got thrush under her armpits and in her groin, the doctor last night said only listen to the advice you are happy with as she's my baby it's up to me how to care for her. She's now beautifully bath and has cream to help her skin heal. I'm now doing exactly what's right for us 2 cause at the end of the day we're all different and will do things differently but it's good that we can share tips on here to maybe help someone ❤️

@MummytoMatildaX congratulations 💕 what a beautiful name and gorgeous weight.
Enjoy your beautiful little bundle xxx

@MummytoMatildaX that's an incredible birth story. What a lovely name too. Huge congratulations to you x

@LRHRN don't apologise- we're all just doing our best with what we have.
I found your messages to be helpful xx

@MummytoMatildaX congratulations!! Beautiful name. Hope you're both well.

@LRHRN I've really appreciated your advice, our breastfeeding story is similar. At the 5 day home visit the midwife said to stop the formula because she seems to be feeding well. It doesn't change the fact that my baby is a hungry one and my breasts just can't keep up with that amount of feeding. I breastfeed all day and use one bottle of formula at night just to give my nipples a rest. I was feeling guilty about using formula and dummy as it says it will confuse her this early on but she seems fine. She still latches on perfect.

@Asianchick6693 yeah exactly you do what's best for you.
Some midwives think formula is poison I'm sure 😂
I definitely think it's a good idea giving a bottle for the last feed and that way you know baby is fed and you can get some rest.
I'm all for an easy life xxx

@LRHRN honestly, appreciate the advice, sometimes tone is hard to read on here, I think @Jellycat2020 and I both are feeling the same. I agree that there's so much mixed advice. @Asianchick6693 you sound like you're doing fantastic, I would absolutely not beat yourself up about some formula to give you a break!!

@peachypetite yes I agree. Messages can all be taken the wrong way and we're all very tired and hormonal. 💕

@Jellycat2020 that's fantastic that she's almost back to her birth weight in such a short time you are obviously doing something right 😊
I know how you feel with the guilt, mum guilt is the worse and unfortunately even with my 13yo I still get mum guilt I think it's permanent.

@LRHRN @peachypetite thanks girls, really glad to be on here tbh. I feel like no one can prepare you enough for motherhood. Just something we learn on a daily basis. I hope all the difficulties and challeges we are all facing gets easier with time. I'm sure everyone is doing a fantastic job right now anyway. We've got this!!

Just wanted to say that even though I haven't even had baby yet, I appreciate all of the advice so far on breastfeeding!

@EithneBlue thank you, I've woken up feeling a bit better about it all. Feel weirdly though like I was punished for going in so many times even though I've been urged to if there is a change in movements.

Annoyingly I've woken up today and STILL baby is being cheeky and not kicking/moving as much as normal. I just can't go in every bloody day for reduced movements. Maybe some days babies are just sleepy/not moving as much? I have no idea but just starting to get a bit fed up with being anxious about it every single day!