👣 November/December 2020 babies! 👣

[danielasummer]

Mummas that are still waiting for their babes to make their appearance -

@EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
@kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
@phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
@Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
@Babyevictionimminent - due 30th Nov - boy - 2TM
@Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
@amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
@alphabetti - due 8th December but induction booked for 2nd December - girl - 3TM
@excitednerves - due 5th December - girl - 2TM
@lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
@danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
@Kj1010 - due 13th December - 4TM
@jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
@FTM1512 due 15th December - girl - FTM
@Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
@viixie - due 16th December - surprise - 3TM
@Charl88 - due 17th December - boy - 2TM
@loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

Congratulations to...

@Jwl45 - baby girl - Elsi - born 9th November
@peachypetite - baby girl - born 20th November

Also tagging @MummytoMatildaX @PipTed @MySafeSpace @Asianchick6693 @Jellycat2020 @Dee96 @LRHRN @roro87 @MrsSmith2020

Feel free to join :)

@MaverickDanger still waiting with you friend.

@Kpm7 the bottle my partner gives us sma formula in a mam bottle. She finds bottles harder to feed from so needs the feed breaking down so winded about 3 times throughout but it gives me a break and some much needed sleep.

I also rub nipple cream on just before I go to sleep which I finds helps after a long few hours of cluster feeding.

@alphabetti sounds good I need to order nipple cream heard it’s good to have.
Also I will get some formula so I am prepared.
Thank you xx

Had appointment at midwifes my wound is healing fine little man jaundiced has reduced and he only lost 75grams in weight had his heel prick test had a little cry but all good currently just sitting watching him sleep cant take my eyes off him I just love him so much

@MaverickDanger @Nic2908
Still in this together.
Receiving 20 texts a day!
“Is the baby here yet?”

“Try this try that”

@Kpm7 oh god I’ve had the same - I’ve either stopped replying or have said to very close friends can you stop asking me how I’m feeling!

Poor DH snapped on a work call yesterday after being asked for the fifth time in an hour - just heard him say “nah baby’s been born, I just thought I’d log on and join the work call for fun” I get that people are just doing it to be nice, but it feels really intrusive.

@NaomiB79 I'm struggling with the lack of sleep too. Sunce DH went back to work, the night feeds and looking after the baby when he won't sleep is pretty much all on me. DH has an assessment for a job interview next week and I'm really worried about the night in the run up to it, his job is under threat of redundancy so we really need it to go well and he'll need a good nights sleep.

Whilst being incredibly sleep deprived and ratty last night, I did say to DH that I feel like I need a night off from the baby 🙈 . We are going to stay with my parents next week until Boxing Day so help will be readily available but I dont think I will be able to let someone else look after him overnight even though I'm feeling seriously sleep deprived.

Congratulations @MrsSmith2020, hope you are doing well!

Glad to hear baby is here safely @Amyyy1. Sorry to hear you will have a long hospital stay but you are in the best place to be looked after, I hope you make a speedy recovery.

@Pinktruffle I feel your pain, I'd love a night off from the baby too! We are similar I pretty much do all through the night to let DP sleep as he is back at work now.

Could your husband sleep in the spare room or on the sofa the night before the assessment to make sure he gets a good sleep? I know that means more pressure on you as you would have the baby all night on your own but might be worth it?

I know what you mean about Christmas would be great if someone else had the baby overnight but if that's not possible I'm sure just being around more people through the day to hold the baby and feed him if possible or take him for a walk will help you feel more rested. You can even get a few hours sleep through the day which I'm sure will help make the nights more bearable.

We're going to stay with my Mum for two nights and that's what I'm hoping for. I don't think I could leave her with someone overnight just now because of her colic, it really wouldn't be fair to ask someone else to deal with her when she is uncontrollably crying because of it. As soon as it passes tho and she is a bit bigger I'll be taking all the grandparents up on their offers to keep her over night occasionally so I can sleep 🤣🤣

@NaomiB79 @Pinktruffle don't forget looking after a baby is a full time job and you're working each day too as well as DH, don't be afraid to let them pick up a night feed or two 🙊

@lc86 valid point I will use that as all I was thinking is when he goes back and how I will be doing everything alone whilst he enjoys a good nights sleep. Lol x

@Kpm7 exactly! We've already cooked these babies for 9 months and put our bodies through hell, it's the least they can do 🙊 x

Rosalia Giuseppina was born on 10/12/2020 at 1.31am 🌹 it was a long labour, induction, but still amazing and a few minutes later I told my husband I could do it all again. She is a dream come true x

Huge congrats @Amyyy1 @MrsSmith2020 and @danielasummer - seems there has been a flurry this week!

So sorry to hear you are still in hospital @Amyyy1 - hoping you get home soon. After Ben's arrival on Tuesday we are also still in, and not home until at least Monday or maybe Tuesday - it is so tough!

My sepsis has been a tricky resistant strain of e.coli so the antibiotics have been switched again to get me out of these raging temps. The usual treatment for this strand is 10 days of IV 😩 but they will consider me going home on oral course if I get 48hrs with no spikes. The nights have been so tough as my partner needs to leave at 8 and I'm in a bay with 6 other woman. If one baby isn't crying it's another! Averaging about 2.5hrs since Tues and it's seriously catching up with me 😴

Otherwise Ben is a complete dreamboat and rarely cries, he's a squawker! Its been tough but all totally worth it ❤️

That message below didn't tag you for some reason @MrsSmith2020 - congrats again on your baby girl, I LOVE the name!

@danielasummer congratulations my lovely! @jalu47 thag sounds awful. Can you ask if there are any private rooms so you can get some rest?

Congratulations @danielasummer

Sorry to hear your having a tough time @jalu47. Hopefully you're on the mend soon and can go home to recover properly.

Thanks @loobeelou @peachypetite

I'm nearly there thank goodness and the staff have been fantastic.. unfortunately the private rooms are £300 a night. My sister has been on at me to kick up more of a fuss. I did try quite hard on Thursday when I was at breaking point but I'm not that way inclined. I've got this far - hopefully one more night to go!

My pain is so much better now and it is only now that I am massively craving my own bed and some peace and quiet - think the hustle and bustle is quite comforting to begin with but now I just want to shut the door and it be the three of us for a while.

How many more babies still to come? Can't be many now?!

@jalu47 if you tell them you have diarrhoea often they put you in a side room. Worth a try!

Those of you formula feeding, how much are your babies taking at each feed?

@jalu47 oh wow u have been through the mill glad ur on the mend and have all crossed u will be home very soon yes there cant be to many babies to be born now as everyone dropping like flys now but to those who are still waiting hang in there I had a shit day yesterday just achy and sore and then in evening just felt very upset and emotional spent the best part into early hours crying and for no particular reason oh is basically doing everything for me and baby if I get up to feed him in night he takes over and tells me to go back to bed to sleep i no its just the hormones etc hope doesn't last for long also I had a sterilisation while having csection and as much as I dont want no more age already have 3 before this one I kinda feel a little but what if I no its ap phrase and it will pass but also think what if my partner decides he wants more again ino this isnt the case as this little one wasnt planned but truly welcomed and he as assured me no more babies ever I just think I cant give him no more and that he can and cud leave me

@chubbyhotchoc our little girl is 3 and a half weeks old and takes between 70-130ml of SMA infant milk each feed, approx every 3 hours. She normal totals 650-740ml per day which I believe is around normal when they hit a month old.

@Kj1010 I had a day like this Friday, everything made me cry, and in myself just felt totally overwhelmed.. we made sure to have a day yesterday where it was just us, no visitors, no phones etc and I felt so much better after. It's worth a try, I also spoke to my mum about how I was feeling, and had a really good cry. It's good you are being honest!

@chubbyhotchoc my little chunk is taking 4-5oz and he's only 9 days old 🤦🏼‍♀️ but he was 9lb 12oz so I figure I need to just follow what he wants xx

@lc86 I havent spoke to other half about how I'm feeling he knows summats wrong but with him dealing with the baby and the house etc I dont want to put pressure on him also if I tell him I'm about the mini regret I'm feeling at the mo he will feel terrible I cant really talk to my mum as she is just not the same person since having the brain op for the cancer I know I will be fine just need to let this process run its course x

@Kj1010 well make sure you keep coming on here and talking to us, and talk to your midwife when she comes, they are there to help. I think it's only natural how you're feeling, as much as you know you wouldn't have had any more children, you're bound to think what ifs at this point. Just remember why you made that decision and it sounds like your DH is doing an amazing job and I'm sure he would hate knowing you are beating yourself up over a decision you both made that is the right one for both of you. Just try and remember these are the baby blues days and how they go away as quickly as they come xx

@jalu47 still hanging in here, due date is Tuesday. I’m hoping he comes in the next couple of days, I am so fed up and uncomfortable.

I’m late joining this group but it is wonderfully supportive so I echo to keep talking & being honest and open.