👣 November/December 2020 babies! 👣

[danielasummer]

Mummas that are still waiting for their babes to make their appearance -

@EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
@kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
@phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
@Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
@Babyevictionimminent - due 30th Nov - boy - 2TM
@Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
@amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
@alphabetti - due 8th December but induction booked for 2nd December - girl - 3TM
@excitednerves - due 5th December - girl - 2TM
@lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
@danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
@Kj1010 - due 13th December - 4TM
@jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
@FTM1512 due 15th December - girl - FTM
@Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
@viixie - due 16th December - surprise - 3TM
@Charl88 - due 17th December - boy - 2TM
@loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

Congratulations to...

@Jwl45 - baby girl - Elsi - born 9th November
@peachypetite - baby girl - born 20th November

Also tagging @MummytoMatildaX @PipTed @MySafeSpace @Asianchick6693 @Jellycat2020 @Dee96 @LRHRN @roro87 @MrsSmith2020

Feel free to join :)

On a positive note I've lost 25 pounds since the birth! I must have had tons of water retention because baby was only 7lb and I've been on a diet of chocolate and bacon butties since. My feet actually look normal now

Wow @chubbyhotchoc 25lb is very impressive, my scales need new batteries so I've not been able to weigh myself yet, but I've been on the same chocolate & bacon diet as you, with a hundred cups of tea thrown in!

Has anyone got any nice gifts for the new grandparents? Other than a photo in a frame or canvas I’m a bit stumped.

@peachypetite

Has anyone got any nice gifts for the new grandparents? Other than a photo in a frame or canvas I’m a bit stumped.

If it's their first as grandparents, I bought a 'nanny's first Christmas' decoration for my mum and she loved it

We’ve bought Nana & Grandad mugs from Emma Bridgwater & then waiting till he’s born to get something a bit more personalised.

For DH’s parents, we’ve ordered one of those inkless hand and footprint kits. They are in Australia so probably won’t be able to meet him till he’s at least 6 months, so we thought they might like a little note of when he was a newborn.

@jalu47 I'm 3 weeks out from my section and feeling a lot better on the whole. I found that the hospital were a bit poo at giving me painkillers in a timely manor, I kept having to ask for them. I only had morphine once as it made me sick and switched to paracetamol and ibuprofen after the first dose of morphine. I know everyone says it, but get up and walk around as soon as you can, it does help but dont over do it. I did when I got home as I felt fine and paid for it the next day.

Getting out of bed at home in painful, get DH to help you and be careful picking baby up out of its crib, again I felt fine doing it but paid for it the next day. Just rest and get as much help as you can - walk around a little and regularly when you can. Peppermint tea is also your friend. I'm now only taking 2 paracetamol a day and they are more for period type pains (which I think is my uterus shrinking) rather than anything to do with my incision so there is light at the end of the tunnel. I am quite sleep deprived so hopefully all of this made some sense and isn't just babble. I hope you are feeling better soon.

The rod things didn't work so they have just inserted the first lot of tablets and will come back and assess me in 6 hours. Feeling really emotional and upset that my partner has had to leave. I'm on a ward with another 3 people and feel really silly that they're probably all listening to me cry

@kkr168 my baby is the same and we have been co sleeping sometimes as I just can’t stay awake anymore and would rather do this than with her in my arms. I looked up safe co sleeping online. I know it’s not ideal but I won’t sleep otherwise which can’t be good for either of us. I don’t move in my sleep and just lay her on her back and cup her. But I am still actively trying to get her in her bed x

I cried too it is so horrible we have to be alone, don’t worry you’ll be down in delivery before you know it. I had to wait 24hrs before the re examined me so yours should hopefully go quicker than mine! I watched Inbetweeners the box sets on All4 to cheer me up (don’t know if you find it funny like me) and the time went quick @Amyyy1

@jalu47 @kj1010
I am just over 4wk post

c-section. It does get easier ladies. 😊
Take your paracetamol and ibuprofen -.even if you feel you don't need to. Take it easy on the stairs .... But do get up and walk about a little. Don't over do things though. Forget the housework etc!! Keep wearing those stockings. I did for about 12 days....not pleasant or comfy mind. And if you've had klexin. Do stick at it. (I dressed injecting myself but it's only a slight pinch)
Scar wise - was naturally tender at the start but so much better now and healing well. Shower and dab gently to dry. I had shooting pains in right hand side just under it on Monday but HV said that's normal (it wasn't painful enough to warrant tablets) haven't had it since. Stitches have all dissolved Getting out of bed - first two weeks, I was rolling off and hubby would pass me the baby to feed. I would push myself back - hands and feet to headboard to get comfy. By now, I'm just getting up as normal.... Feeling it in my stomach muscles which is good as all coming back to normal. Hang in there .... To be honest, I can't believe how far I've come after surgery in 4 weeks. These last two weeks have been considerably easier than the first 2. Take care x

@alphabetti I'm in exactly the same position as you.
I've bought a cosi sleeper and sleeping bags and last night was great as she actually slept and settled without the constant grunting and whinging.

My son whose 13 is also isolating and can also be lazy but I make him get up at normal time and he's not allowed his phone or iPad until school work is done. If he doesn't do it he won't get them xx

@Babyhope98

I cried too it is so horrible we have to be alone, don’t worry you’ll be down in delivery before you know it. I had to wait 24hrs before the re examined me so yours should hopefully go quicker than mine! I watched Inbetweeners the box sets on All4 to cheer me up (don’t know if you find it funny like me) and the time went quick *@Amyyy1*

I have my iPad with me so I think I might watch the inbetweeners to get my mind off everything and it'll pass the time well 🤣 ive made myself a lovely little cocoon on the ward and surrounded myself with snacks and my blankets and the baby's comforter etc and even closed the curtains so feeling a little more relaxed!

@Amyyy1 it's really difficult and lonely being in hospital. They admitted me at 10 am on the Monday and I was stuck on an empty ward until 2 am on the Tuesday morning when they finally took me down to start the induction process. Didn't sleep the whole time waiting. I think it's really weird that they start inductions off in the middle of the night.

Hi all well ended up going to see midwife my oh made it clear that we wont be going everytime they expect us to had a proper moan at them for even thinking I shud of hone there and to top it off the clinic was dirty blood on floor the room we where in quite shocked tbh well my little one is slightly jaundiced midwife sed so oh is taking him tomoz to do the checking and I'm staying home as cant bear the car ride every bump in road hurts

@chubbyhotchoc I am so impressed with everyone who has gone through this being by themselves, it's so difficult. I just heard a convo with someone else that they're planning on giving her next lot of tablet at midnight, it's like they've already prepared for no one sleeping here🧐

@Kj1010 bless you, still can't get over they expected you to go to them!!! Well done for speaking up

@Kj1010 my little one was slightly jaundice too. My best friend is a peadatric nurse and she said to feed him next to a window in his vest so he gets lots of sunlight and that should clear it up. It worked with my son and it was totally cleared up by the next time he went to the midwife (five days later).

@Pinktruffle yeah we did that as soon as we got home today but she wants to see him tomoz to check again I feel sorry for them as if oh is unhappy in any way he will do his nut and let em know . My little one so chilled cant believe it drinks bottle only on a ounce at mo then straight back to sleep only time he crys is wen he hungry or dirty nappy which seems to have a lot of dirty nappies doesn't stop pooping lol

[quote Amyyy1]@chubbyhotchoc I am so impressed with everyone who has gone through this being by themselves, it's so difficult. I just heard a convo with someone else that they're planning on giving her next lot of tablet at midnight, it's like they've already prepared for no one sleeping here🧐

@Kj1010 bless you, still can't get over they expected you to go to them!!! Well done for speaking up [/quote]
One of the midwives says to be ' it's a 24 hour service here' when I questioned it and When she collected me she said ' they're ready for you now. Just waiting for the floor to dry'. I was like 😳 sounds like an abattoir. It's so nerve wracking waiting

@Amyyy1 i had to be on my own from the beginning as my partner was allowed to carry my bags to ward enterence and then had to leave and was only allowed back once I was in established labour. I got tired and was in pain just before midwife examined me and said I was 4cm. I was knelt beside bed and just couldn’t stop crying as hated being by myself and just wanted either my partner or my mum. A lovely healthcare assistant came to check and found me and she was so kind she hugged me and agreed it was horrible that women had to be by themselves. I was lucky that my induction actually worked quickly but it still makes me upset thinking back to how I laboured alone and had my baby 02/12 22:28 and was not allowed partner/visitors until was discharged 04/11 14:00. So basically you will not be the only person feeling upset about being alone so don’t put pressure on yourself to be brave and not be upset about it but it will feel worth it when you have your precious baby.

@Amyyy1 it is awful being on your own, I was in hospital for 5 days 3 being induced and 2 after my section and my partner was allowed in for the 2 hours of the section and recovery and that was it. I cried about him not being there nearly every time I spoke to a midwife or doctor. You're doing all the right things to make it as comfortable as you can for yourself. I hope things progress quickly for you and your partner can join you soon. Stay strong, you've got this! Xx

After they inserted the second pessary I have been having very strong contractions with no break at all which they picked up on the monitor, I couldn't just breathe through them as there wasn't even a 20 second let up before the next one started yet they'd only give me paracetamol and nothing else! They were going to give me some medication that slowed them down but then staff changes happened in the evening, since they've slowed down so at least a 15 second rest. I have been shaking and being sick for hours from the pain, I don't know what I can do or who I can speak to ☹️

Would you consider an epidural to get some rest?

@MaverickDanger

Would you consider an epidural to get some rest?

I've asked for an epidural I'm that desperate and they said they don't offer them on the induction wards, I could only have one once I am transferred to a labour suite which could still be days. I don't know how true this is or isn't. I'm debating whether to call up another hospital close by and see whether I can go there instead just so I can be listened to and get some relief

@Amyyy1 hit your buzzer and ask to speak to a midwife or doctor about how you are feeling pain wise. It drove me mad the shift change then no-one would come near you for like two hours whilst they swapped and did a handover! It's not on when you are in pain. I hope you get some relief and rest soon xx

That sounds awful @amyyy1. Advocate for yourself as much as you can, you have a right to pain relief, there are options outside epidural. Keep calling for a midwife and if they refuse to give you any, say you want a note of the refusal made on your notes. If you are able to, there is no harm in speaking to another hospital. Sending you strength and support xx