👣 November/December 2020 babies! 👣

[danielasummer]

Mummas that are still waiting for their babes to make their appearance -

@EithneBlue - due 21st November - surprise
@kkr168 - due 26th November - boy - 2TM
@phe694 - due 27th November - girl - FTM
@Babyhope98 - due 28th November - girl - FTM
@Babyevictionimminent - due 30th Nov - boy - 2TM
@Awkes - due 1st December - girl - FTM
@amyyy1 - due 2nd December - girl - FTM
@alphabetti - due 8th December but induction booked for 2nd December - girl - 3TM
@excitednerves - due 5th December - girl - 2TM
@lc86 - due 6th December - boy - 3TM
@danielasummer - due 9th December - surprise - FTM
@Kj1010 - due 13th December - 4TM
@jalu47 - due 13th December - boy - FTM
@FTM1512 due 15th December - girl - FTM
@Nic2908 - due 15th December - boy - FTM
@viixie - due 16th December - surprise - 3TM
@Charl88 - due 17th December - boy - 2TM
@loobeelou - due 26th December - girl - 2TM

Congratulations to...

@Jwl45 - baby girl - Elsi - born 9th November
@peachypetite - baby girl - born 20th November

Also tagging @MummytoMatildaX @PipTed @MySafeSpace @Asianchick6693 @Jellycat2020 @Dee96 @LRHRN @roro87 @MrsSmith2020

Feel free to join :)

@MrsSmith2020 its tough!!! I've got pregnancy insomina too and I can't stop my mind running away with me at night. I cant get to sleep and when I finally do I get up for the loo and can't get back off 😩. Looking for any little signs that labour is starting!
@LRHRN hormones and tiredness are weird arent they. I havent had my baby yet but with my first I used to just cry and cry at my husband. Itll get better soon, I havent really got much more advice than that. Your doing an amazing job and its hard work no one can ever prepare you for those first few weeks. Keep going xxx

I have a baby that sleeps and sleeps and sleeps where we have to wake up for every feed (this can take up to an hour at times just to wake him) he then will sometimes feed from me but times will fuss and not latch properly resulting in extreme pain. This leads us to give him a bottle of expressed milk but this then means when he next goes onto me he'll drink for a few mins but then start to suckle which ends up hurting and if I attempt to relatch he gets annoyed and then refuses me completely. The last couple of days he's been horrendous in that he'll start rooting and feeding for around 30mins but he'll do this every hour and nothing will settle him, to say we're tired is an understatement at the mo

Does anyone have any suggestions pls?
I've been to breastfeeding clinics and they've said to persist with it as he'll learn soon enough but they ain't the ones up all night losing the will to live
Sorry for such a long post

My baby has been sleepy these past two days too, but I can’t put her down when she sleeps as she then awakes. She kept wanting to feed but then falling asleep straight away so not having enough. I spoke with my midwife today and she said I need to strip her down to her nappy so she’s fully awake and then feed her. I did this this morning and she was a lot more alert and drunk more maybe give this a try. Good for skin to skin contact too @MySafeSpace

@Babyhope98 ok I'll attempt this (stripping down to nappy) thank you. It really is tough isn't it? I feel like I'm constantly in tears with frustration and tiredness

@mysafespace @babyhope98
Whilst they get their milk, the breast is also a comforter .... Like you both... We feed .... And then the suckling (which I agree can be uncomfortable if you have soreness) . This left side of mine is so sore. I do believe we are now latched on properly buy it's not having enough time to heal. I am contemplating combi feeding .... Buy the only thing putting me off is how I love to see her little face there and know that I'm not only feeding but comforting and bonding.my husband reassures me that this bonding etc will still happen with bottle.
I won't express I don't think as really didn't get on with it last time. We will have had a month of breastfeeding on Monday. Sure I only did about a month with my other 2.
Also, they just feel so heavy and when I'm outside...gosh.... How painful!!!!

@Babyhope98 I'm glad I'm not alone. Yeah I feel the same I just love him so much but don't want him near me cause then that way if he does leave me I'm already prepared 🤦🏼‍♀️ stupid I know. I know he won't leave me.

My baby is the same she is so settled on me and likes to just hang off my boob. This is where the tough love comes in and if you know she's fed, winded and changed let her cry it out abit.
Easier said than done cause I'm struggling with that xx

@Jwl45 my husband has given him a couple of bottles of expressed milk to take the pressure off me which has been lovely however the midwife has said that's led to us having problems with latching but what are you to do if he won't feed, he's already being monitored as he lost a lot of weight at day 5

@MySafeSpace I had the same, think she actually had a touch of jaundice in the hospital which explains her lethargic efforts! It’s all well and good people saying persist but they need milk now. I’m expressing loads and the good thing is others can feed her. Sometimes she manages to latch, only seems to be in the middle of the night. For me though I’m not that bothered, the important thing is she’s getting breast milk and if that’s via a bottle oh well!

@peachypetite How are you finding expressing? I know with my eldest it really hurt and I wasn't pumping enough milk at all. Which is why I'm apprehensive now I guess.

@Jwl45 finding it easy, I’m having to pump every 3-4 hours otherwise my boobs feel very sore but the pumping itself doesn’t hurt. I just get comfy on the sofa and let the pump do the work.

@peachypetite same here isn't it weird they encounter difficulty matching in the middle of the night? The milk is flowing better then however he is a little rascal and that's when I'm most sensitive and tetchy
I've had so many teary moments of feeling like a failure (had comments from midwife saying shouldn't introduce bottles yet) however they have to feed, I'm sure they'd have something say if I didn't feed the poor boy coz he wouldn't latch properly. Really feeling like they should allow partners into these appointments too as I get all the stick and backlash and with hormones racing it's set me off in tears so many times when really we just want to hear how good we are all doing, coz let me tell you every single one of us is smashing this even when it doesn't feel like we are xx

@mysafespace luckily I have a great health visitor who has said that I have to do what's right for me Elsi and our family life

[quote NaomiB79]@MsBee13 the tips we were given to wake them for a feed was to either gently blow on their face or strip them off so they are cool. It's so hard to wake them up when they look so content sleeping xx [/quote]
Thank you xx

[quote Jwl45]@msBee13 yes agree.,. With a bottle you know exactly how much baby is drinking. Sometimes I feel I'm totally empty.... esp when it seems she's trying her best to get to the milk and it's not coming. Breast is easy and instant though.... I haven't read up properly on making up the bottles yet.. my other daughters are 13 and 15... So it's been a while and I'm sure things have changed! I must read up on the whole sterilisation and making up feeds.... How long you can keep them etc. What I have read has been varied. Must do my homework before introducing bottle. I've bought the tommy tipee next to nature ones.
I agree @NaomiB79, waking them is so hard when they look so contented. Elsi will go 4 hrs at times...(rare... But has done a few times) . But was told I had to wake her. Bless her. She was clearly happy enough lol .[/quote]
I will have to do some homework myself too. Thank you xx

Hey girls, how is everyone getting on? Saw the HV yesterday. She agreed I have the baby blues. I've been teary and crying over pretty much everything the past couple of days. My LO had a tongue tie which made my BF journey so so hard. She had it cut Wednesday but since she has been very attached and needy with me. I've been keeping her with me all day.

Baby is nearly 14 days old, I was wondering if anyone had any issues with constipation/colic/trapped wind. My LO is grunting and squirming all night long only to have an explosive poo with a fart. The poo itself doesn't look like she is constipated just not sure why she's struggling so much to get it out in the first place. She pulls her legs up, they go tough and her belly is also tough. HV said if she's going at least once a day then she isn't constipated but she's still straining.. was told to try infacol for trapped wind but not really noticed a difference.

OH goes back to work on Monday. I'm feeling really nervous about being alone with her. Still have my moments of enjoying breastfeeding to absolutely hating it. I just feel like I'm failing as a mother. She sleeps all day and I kind of just prefer it when she is because at least I don't see her in discomfort or her being fussy or unsettled. Am I a bad mother? Midwife is coming on Sunday, I'm scared to tell her how I feel in case she thinks I'm unfit to look after her.

@Asianchick6693
Aw sorry to read that you're feeling like this. Breastfeeding... Now I'm sure we all have moments like these... Enjoy on most part and then at times dread (- me down to nipple pain on left....) So don't feel it is just you at all. We will get there 🤗🤗 my baby grunts at night too. It's because she's on her back and I read somewhere grunting is normal. She also curls up... Almost foetal position on my chest.... I think most do at this age.
I felt same when hubby went. Back to work. Was nervous..I'll be honest - and this is my third! But I'm fine. Enjoying the time I have with her - even if she sleeps most of the time! So again, please don't worry. You'll be just fine. When baby naps, you rest up... You'll feel better for it! I find this hard as think I have a million and one things to do. ... But they can wait. (Resting is important... Even if you're not sleeping just lie on sofa. I would speak to midwife .. they are there to listen. There's always this group to rant and get things of your chest - easier sometimes perhaps on something like this and you'll see, others are in some similar situations to yourself so you're not alone 🤗
You've got this! Get things of your chest. Rest and Relax. You'll be just fine. 😊

@Asianchick6693 your doing fantastic motherhood isnt easy at all we worry while they are inside and that worry intensities when they are out I cant comment on bf as I've never done it the baby blues does pass I had with my first and I think being stuck in no visitors etc due to covid doesn't help at all with our mental health at all in regards to baby and pooping if u feel baby is struggling I used to gently raise my boys legs to his chest and gently move em and the poo would just come out so quickly for him and he never seemed in pain at all after this or uncomfortable well I'm up the hospital for pre bloods covid test which I'm.not looking forward to bad gag reflex lol also just feel more anxious as the day looms and having this csection but honestly cant wait to meet him now but also been having weird nervous dreams as to what he will look like etc we had a little bad news yesterday aswell my mums tumor has grown 1cm and now they want to do a pet scan to make sure it is definitely not anywhere else as they want to do targeted radiotherapy on the lung and dont want to miss if there is any floating about else where she broke down so bad and I couldn't console her she went from being happy excited to scared again and I feel guilty for being pregnant as I think I'm sure she has the dreaded thoughts of not being around for this little one which I gwt get the fear it has just put me in a anxious guilty scared mood myself sorrt for the long post

Oh my word the sleep deprivation has really taken its toll. Two weeks in. Anyone else feeling like a zombie? I am definitely going to have to sleep more in the day when the baby is sleeping. @Asianchick6693 good advice from the ladies above, you are doing great.

Morning 👋 started having contractions at 4 this morning, coming quite regularly and lost my plug. Just trying to hang on at home as long as I can now.
Think I’m wanting to go hospital just cos then its closer to being over. So knackered already but excited to have my baby finally

@Jwl45 @Kj1010 @peachypetite thanks girls means a lot. I'm trying to take each day as it comes. I have good days and bad days. I hope I start to feel better real soon.

@Kj1010 im so sorry about your mother and sorry you've been feeling this way. Can't be easy having to worry about the new baby and your mothers health. You being pregnant is probably the positive news she needs around right now and I'm sure she's more than excited to meet the little one. I can't imagine what it's like or what your mother must be feeling but you seem like you are there for her and that's all that matters. Sometimes there's very little that you can actually do but by being there for someone makes all the difference in the world. I hope you all get through this. She is in the best of hands. X

@Awkes wow all the best lovely!! Not long now. It will all be worth it :)

@Asianchick6693 my little one has colic, not gonna lie it's been pretty tough but a few things we were told to try that might help are: infacol (it takes a wee while to build up in their system), the cycling her legs that @Kj1010 describes below, sit her up for 20 mins after a feed and keep her head raised when sleeping (put a dish towel folded up under the mattress in her Moses basket or crib) and make sure she is winded properly after a feed. You can try gripe water when she is 4 weeks to and we have changed her formula and bottles but think you said you were breastfeeding so those things maybe not relevant for you.

@Kj1010 was really sad to read your post about your Mum, she must be so scared and it's a lot for you to deal with and being pregnant, I'm sure you'll support each other through that's all you can do just be there for her and let her know she can talk to you.

@peachypetite omg the sleep deprivation! I'm 5 weeks in now and defo feel like a zombie. Feel like I have a really short temper with my DP and get frustrated when my baby won't sleep in the night because I am sooo tired! She hasn't slept for more than 4 hours at once. I dream of the day I'll have a full night's sleep again xx

@Kj1010 sorry to hear about your mum. The baby will really be a boost for her though. @EithneBlue how you doing?

Thankyou ladies it means a lot we will get through it it is just a bad blip I'm sure once he is born and my mum comes to see him it will give her the boost she needs its just so sad as this covid has restricted us all from being together taking her out etc I think she has depression aswell but i will stay positive and fight for her she ain't going anywhere

@Kj1010 sorry to read about your mum. As you say covid etc does not help with regards to being with family mental health etc. I agree with the other ladies ... She's prob very much looking forward to the baby and as you say will give her the boost she needs xx
With regards to sleep.... Or lack of .. we have been going up to bed a little later so that night time feeding feels less if you know what I mean. So downstairs feed about 12... both sides if I can... Then all depends ..... Could be 3am / 6am , or 4am/ 7am .. so usually Bout 3 hrs at a time. Sometimes 4 hrs. That's good enough for me. At about 2/3 week, I'm sure we had a growth spurt... I was up ALL night one night.... That seems to have passed and she's going down into the crib and settling. She does wiggle a lot though so don't think I sleep properly even when I am asleep lol.