June 2021 part 3!

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Thread 3 already! How’s everyone feeling?

@PurpleishDahlia I am wondering this also as a fellow back sleeper, I've read conflicting information on how far into the pregnancy it's unsafe to be doing so, I think I will also start shopping around for a pillow just to be on the safe side!

@MarshallCleo yes, some sources say from the 2nd trimester, some say from the 3rd.
It looks like a lot of us will be in a position to announce over Christmas, how are you feeling about that?
To be honest I quite like just myself and DH knowing for now, not looking forward to the fuss.

@PurpleishDahlia aw it's nice to have the secret. We told parents at 9 weeks and then other close family and friends after the scan and I'm not bothering telling anyone else until I see them

@PurpleishDahlia We told our families and a couple of close friends after our 12w scan on Tuesday, it feels really nice to be able to talk about it openly but yes, be prepared for a bit of a fuss! It has helped make it feel more real for me though. Announcing over Christmas will be lovely for everyone x

@PurpleishDahlia you must be better than me at keeping secrets 🤣 we told parents and siblings when we had our first private scan at 7 weeks. There’s no way I could’ve waited until Christmas. We’re planning on telling close family, friends and work after our 12 week scan on the 16th if all’s well. I can’t wait as it won’t be expected at all.

I told my boss, close friends and family right away. Have told a few more colleagues about it today now that I've had my scan. It's been nice! Feels a bit more real and for the first time, I think I'm enjoying it without a constant nagging worry!

There won't be a Facebook announcement or anything like that. I found them very triggering during my own period of TTC and MCs.

We told family quite quickly because they knew about our IVF. Close friends after the dating scan. I'm not telling work until after my 20 week scan, so not broadcasting it!

We haven't told anyone yet 🤐 got our 12 week scan Monday and all being well we'll tell family and very close friends then. Also going to let my manager know but not other colleagues just yet.

Do you know what? I am just plain and simple not enjoying this time at all.
I am absolutely fed up of feeling this rubbish all of the time. My other two pregnancies were nothing like this (yes I was younger but that's not the point) I feel headachy, nauseous and bloated All. The. Time.
It can't be normal surely??

@Waitingforbabypage yes!! 🤣 Ive felt worse this time. Finally feel like im turning a corner but urghhhhhhh its been horrific 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

@Waitingforbabypage I feel the same! I'm just so tired too. I don't remember feeling like this in my last pregnancy but not sure if that's because I was 10 years younger or because it was so long ago I've forgotten...

@Waitingforbabypage I'm thoroughly fed up of constipation to be honest... And from what I hear it'll only get worse

I feel the same too! Can't wait to feel better. I feel guilty about it, because I've wanted it for so long & have been through so much to get here. I know how many women would do anything to be in my position. There's so much guilt that goes with pregnancy after infertility, for all sorts of reasons.

I think if it was just one thing, then another, then another, it would be easier to handle but it's everything all at the same time. It's relentless. It's making it hard to work, hard to look after my children and partner, and look after myself! My lovely oh is super understanding, he's doubled his efforts with housework along with working a full time job, helps more with the kiddies but actually it makes me feel worse because then I'm hit with guilt.
I don't mean to sound ungrateful, I know how lucky I am to be in this position in the first place, I just feel very poorly and sorry for myself.

@SarahTTC2020 keep on popping those prunes gal, at least things move! Just reaching my 12 week and the worst of it is over, I remember telling myself 'i cannot believe my friend has two children' as she had HG and looked like a walking skeleton in both pregnancies, like anorexic. I've even managed to have a coffee (went right off at 5 weeks when I was a 6 cup a day person before pregnancy). As pps have said, it does get better, just hang in there.

@Mackie2020 me neither, although I did have an awkward moment with my immediate boss as I was moaning about a role that I have 'you know how to get out of this right? Just get pregnant!'. We have that kind of relationship so it was fine for him to say stuff like this. I think I'll tell him after xmas to which I'll be 16 weeks as he is a great support if anything goes wrong.

I'm planning to tell parents after the results to our harmony test comes back in the next couple of weeks! I sometimes wish I told work sooner though, with all the insomnia and morning sickness and then the stress of work on top, I've been hanging on by a thread the last few months so Xmas is just the break that I need.

I'm 11+2 today and my sickness shows no signs of getting better sadly. The doctor gave me tablets last week and they took the edge off for a couple of days but I'm back to throwing up again this morning. Also feel like I'm not sure how much longer I can continue like this. I am either feeling or being sick 24/7. No idea how long this is going to go on for.

I'm bleeding YET AGAIN! this is like the 6th time now! 12 weeks as of Thursday

Anyone else get pains in their back/ hips/ tummy? I think the tummy is more my stomach being unsettled and wind, it’s not cramps. But I’ve started having back pain the last couple of days, it’s not sharp or severe, more uncomfortable. I worry about everything 😬 don’t know if it’s just from sitting on the sofa working from home!

Oh no @Sitchervice i hope youre ok, do you know what is causing the bleeds (is that a stupid question?) My huge bleed at my scan is apparently 2 subchrionic haematoma. The Dr said I shouldn't bleed more but I am anxious every time my stomach gets knocked by my 16m old.

@BurningBenches no idea, the NHS won't investigate. They just don't care.

@Sitchervice that's so shit, have they seen you at all? :( I was "lucky" I had my bleed at the private clinic and she was so lovely and had me back yesterday to check.
Had it happened Monday during my NHS one, which lasted all of 20mins (including doing for a wee and doing star jumps) I don't imagine I would have got the same or invited back for reassurance.

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time xx

@BurningBenches they saw me twice at the beginning and I was told to come back if I bled again because it could be my cervix and they want to check. Which I did and I called and they said if it gets heavier come back. Oh and that there was nothing they could. So they changed their minds and ditched me. I also had a call with my regular doctor who asked me why I was so worried about misscarying and that I should stop worrying. If I had money I would have gone completely private.

@Bs93 I've been getting back pain after attempting a walk. I've not done any walking or exercise for basically 3 months, and was pretty much bed bound with the OHSS, so I think my body just can't handle it now! I'm determined to try to be more active now that I'm starting to feel better & hopefully the pain will go as I get stronger and a bit more stamina.

Perhaps make sure you have regular breaks when working from the sofa? Get up and stretch and have a bit of a wander around.

I have started spotting again this week , with mild pain. It’s sending my mind into overdrive! Had a stressful week at work which alongside has impacted my sleep.

I have my 12 week scan tomorrow which I am so nervous for, dreading bad news. I am under consultant due to blood pressure issues which have stuck with me since my last pregnancy so hoping I can get some reassurance then.
Even if good news I am very wary of telling anyone in case things go wrong. I don’t want to give anyone more bad news after this shocker of a year!

@Viper84 I had the same thing. Even past a small clot. Went to hospital last night and they just sent me home said it's just me and there's nothing they can do. (even though they could you know check if it's my cervix or not...)

My scan is Tuesday but I'm so scared!