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Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4

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Sakura54 · 01/11/2020 23:18

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. More to be added soon!

Scan Dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am (20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

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Starfish762 · 08/11/2020 12:53

Hi ladies, thank you all SO MUCH for the support & checking in. I CANNOT BELIEVE IT but baby is fine! Heartbeat & wriggling away 😭 Was sobbing & shaking with relief when the sonographer said, and it was so lovely to have my MW there, what angels they are ❤️ They didn’t say hematoma just that it was a bleed very low down, but she could see on the scan it was now brown, so FX it doesn’t happen again (although know it might after what some of you experienced). Very very lucky! Got to be a girl causing us this much worry already 😆

@DanceM1 sorry you’re feeling so rotten, really hope the worst of it passes soon.

@Bellabubble oh gosh Im so sorry. Even though you had a feeling it’s still heartbreaking & a shock, nothing makes it easier. I hope you have lots of support. Take it easy, really hope to see you back here soon xx

ew1990 · 08/11/2020 13:13

@starfish OMG I'm so happy for You! I knew every thing would be ok. Now try not to worry if you get any more brown blood 💗💗

bubblybon20 · 08/11/2020 13:17

Just had a bit catch up!

@Starfish762 what an absolute whirlwind for you! I'm so happy baby is okay! 💗

@Bellabubble sending lots of hugs. Hopefully see you on here again soon 💗

@DanceM1 hoping you feel better soon 😫 and if clears up for you! 💗

@Workingmama1 I totally understand, I think suffering MMC/MC really affects your emotions, I'm 24 weeks and I still feel like anything could happen now! It's so scary how much things have changed since my other boys. Because I wouldn't have even imagined feeling this worried still! But hopefully you start to feel more excited soon,💗

Hope everyone else is all well 😀 i dont really have any new updates here either! Although I keep getting these awful headaches 🤦🏻‍♀️ I haven't had them for around 5-6 weeks!
It's also really weird cause I can feel baby rolling/turning so much! Actually makes me go all goosebumpy 🤣

Pugprincess · 08/11/2020 13:20

So relieved @Starfish762 such amazing news!!! So so happy for you ❤️❤️❤️ Will they have you back again soon for anymore checks? X

I’ve just had a fright. A shoplifter legged it past me and was very close to knocking me over. I cried after and then DH didn’t react the best so that caused a row. Sorted now and going for a walk x

DanceM1 · 08/11/2020 13:23

Thanks again ladies. One thing getting me through is feeling this little baba wriggling about in there 🥰 Think im growing again as well as feeling quite achey. Not in a bad way I don't think 🙏🤞

@starfish762 Im soooooo happy for you!! I can just imagine how excited/relieved/emotional you must be feeling. Wonderful news!!

Starfish762 · 08/11/2020 13:28

@Pugprincess oh no that sounds scary! Men just don’t get it sometimes. Glad all okay now, fresh air always helps.

Thanks ladies, we just can’t believe it. Such a crazy couple of days! 🤯 No more checks they just said to take it easy. 12w scan in 2.5 weeks so hopefully the time goes quick without any more dramas 🤞🏼

Sakura54 · 08/11/2020 13:59

@Starfish762 Yes! I was waiting for your update. It sounded bad, so so glad it was nothing. Your scan is soon!

@SmileyT That’s good you got it moved. Were they planning to skip one whole appt then?

@DanceM1 That doesn’t sound good. Hope it won’t get worse. Very unfortunate to contract it when you have asthma.

No exciting update from me either. 24w today meaning it’s classed as an actual baby now! It’s horrible that if anything were to happen before this point it’d still be called a MC.

DH got kicked in the face when putting his ear to my bump which was funny.

I randomly counted and I’ve had my wee tested 6 times so far and 5 blood tests! I hate peeing in a pot lol and hate public toilets even more, so I try to do it at home before my appt, but glad to be checked so much. I think I have 3 more blood tests around 28w but hoping they can merge 2 of those. Blood pressure hasn’t been checked for a little while now but have my 25w appt soon.

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bubblybon20 · 08/11/2020 15:12

@Sakura54 I feel like I've not seen or heard from anyone in ages!
The last time I spoke to midwife on phone was 16 weeks, seeing her in person on the run to 29 weeks!
Luckily getting my anti D & scan the same week. Just feels a long wait!

Crazy as you say though that 24 is still classed as a MC!

RosieJess91 · 08/11/2020 15:58

Just done a quick catch up, I'm so glad everything went okay @starfish762, what a whirlwind!

Can't remember who mentioned the badge thing, but I've been trying to get one for ages and whenever I look they're out of stock or a stupid amount on eBay...

I've been getting so many wriggle and kicks now! Exciting! Scan on Tuesday 😊

SkyBlue20 · 08/11/2020 16:06

@Starfish762 Yes!! I’m so, SO happy for you, absolutely thrilled! Must be such a relief 💕

@DanceM1 Sorry to hear you’re feeling so rough and so sorry it was your due date, too, that’s not easy. Rest up and be kind to yourself.
I’ve been feeling some sort of movement every day (and husband felt her the other night for the first time!), thanks for asking, but nothing really today. I’ve been organising the spare room (that will be the nursery) though to try and find some wardrobe space to fit in all of the stuff we seem to have acquired for baby already (lots of very lovely gifts and I’ve done some shopping), so have been really active (probably overdoing it). Have now just sat on our bed to rest a bit and to see if I can feel any movements. I know they’re not necessarily everyday at the moment so not worrying particularly but she does seem to get more active when I sit down in the evening so we’ll see 🤞🏼

@Workingmama1 I think that’s a completely normal way to be, I really do, as sad as it is. I’m trying to force myself to do stuff to prepare, even though it feels way too early, just to try and enjoy it a bit. We’ve done some clothes shopping for her and have ordered the pram and today I’ve made space in what will be her wardrobe and hung some stuff up (mainly as I had nowhere to put anything and I’m working from that room at the mo so it was driving me insane) but there’s always that part of my mind going ‘but what if she doesn’t make it to wear the clothes or sleep in the room?’ and ‘how will I cancel the pram if the pregnancy doesn’t progress?’ My husband tells me to not think like that but it’s SO hard. Am just trying to force myself to enjoy it and keep telling myself that the more weeks that go by, the more chance everything will be fine. I read a story on here yesterday about a baby that was born at 23 weeks and survived - that’s only a week away for me, which is quite reassuring (as much as I obviously wouldn’t want baby to be born at 23 weeks!) My friend’s waters also broke at about 22 weeks and her baby held on in there until about 34/36 weeks before he was born! He spent some time in the NICU but was out and perfectly healthy after about a week. So the closer we get, the better our chances are. Plus, and I don’t know if this is true, but I imagine at this stage, we’d be more likely to know if something were wrong in there - waters would break or we’d bleed or movements would stop completely, there would be SOMETHING, not like the last time for us all.
That’s just my really long way of saying it is SO normal for you to be feeling that way, just try to allow yourself a little moment of belief that all might be ok because likeliness is that it will be. Lots of love xxx

Feeling very achey very, very low down today, not like cramps, just a light dull ache. Imagine it’s growth or me overdoing it but just going to rest as best I can for the rest of the evening and wait for some reassurance kicks from baby girl. Where has this weekend gone again?! I really cannot wait for Christmas, mainly just for time off! 🙈

ew1990 · 08/11/2020 16:16

@skyblue20 glad your getting movements now! It's surreal isn't it.

@workingmama I know how you feel. 22 weeks now and it's only the last few days I've got really excited.

I last seem a doctor at my scan at 19+5 and wont see or speak to anyone now untill my 28 week appointment on 22nd December. It's such a long wait really. If it were my first I'd have an appointment at 25 weeks too xx

Lu93 · 08/11/2020 19:16

@Starfish762 aw I'm so pleased for you! Hopefully you can try to enjoy the rest of your weekend and the next 2.5 weeks will go quick. Sorry to hear you've been feeling rotten @DanceM1 it's strange we had the same due date, was also a strange day. I just kept telling myself that I'm just so grateful I'm pregnant and trying to feel positive for what we have now. I just can't believe how different this lockdown is compared to the last one. I was just so depressed the last one and bitter, and now although the worlds still upside down, at least I have a bump and something to look forward to at the end of it hopefully. 18 weeks today 🥰

Smilingdonkey · 08/11/2020 19:36

@starfish762 I'm so so happy for you xxx

Poppy10121 · 08/11/2020 20:03

@Starfish762 such great news! I hope you are having a nice relaxing evening now that you know things are all ok in there 😊

@Workingmama1 and @SkyBlue20 I totally get it, I’m also distancing myself from it still and not told colleagues etc yet, not bought anything either! As you say, the closer we get the better the chances are everything will be just fine so hopefully we can all relax a bit soon. Someone else I was talking to who’s been very anxious said in the worst case scenario, their favorite charity will have a massive haul off them. I thought that was a nice way of trying to be cautious still but not holding back on enjoying preparations a bit.

Boymama89 · 08/11/2020 20:14

Hope you don't mind me joining. I had a MMC in September and fell pregnant without getting a period. So haven't a clue really on dates. No mention of a scan as of yet. I'm a bag of nerves , I'm just praying all is okay with the baby. I've been doing so many tests and the line is getting darker , but I know that's not proper reassurance. Boobs are sore and dry gagging. These are my only symptoms

JoJo58995 · 08/11/2020 23:28

@Starfish762 what fantastic news! So happy for you 💕💕

Pugprincess · 09/11/2020 02:37

Urgh woken up at this silly hour lol.

@Boymama89 aw congratulations 🥳❤️ I also got pregnant again without a period. I knew when I ovulated roughly though as I was testing, do you have any ideas on ovulation date? I added two weeks onto the ovulation date as I usually ovulate mid cycle. Someone else I know isn’t getting a scan with epu due to covid so you might have to go private for an early reassurance scan. You can ask gp to refer you back to epu considering you have had a previous loss-but as I say I think some areas aren’t doing this but it’s worth an ask! If you are still testing and seeing darker lines I assume it’s early days so maybe you are roughly 4 weeks? A scan in a couple of weeks should reveal more. Hope that helps xxx

Threnody · 09/11/2020 09:48

@Starfish762 that's great news, such a relief!

@Workingmama1 I think that's a pretty normal reaction, given what we've been through. It's still early days for me, but I'm not really thinking ahead.

@Boymama89 congratulations. I did so many tests! It's worth asking for an early test - my midwife said she'd request one due to the mmc, so they're still doing them here.

I got a date for my 12 week scan, on Monday 23rd! Only two weeks away. I don't see how I'll have time for an early scan beforehand, as they haven't sent anything yet. It's at the proper hospital, rather than the local hospital I had the 12 week scan at last time, so I think I'm happier going somewhere else for it. But I'm terrified already.

MrsK21 · 09/11/2020 09:57

@Starfish762 I'm so happy reading your update! Glad everything is ok xxx

@Threnody amazing you've got your date for 12w scan! Mine is the day after yours on Tuesday 24th. I'll be exactly 12w for it. Fingers crossed for both of us xxx

Starfish762 · 09/11/2020 10:00

@Threnody @MrsK21 how strange mine is Wed 25th, so we have 3 in a row. FX for us all! My weekend shows the odds can be stacked against us & our little beans can still get through it 🤞🏼

Starfish762 · 09/11/2020 10:01

Pic from yesterday, proper little baby shape even at 10w - crazy!

Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4
RosieJess91 · 09/11/2020 10:13

@ew1990 I'm getting a 25 week appointment, even though this is my second. She said it's because I'm having my heart check up a few days before I'm 25 weeks, so she wants to have a catch up with me then to discuss anything that may come up. So I suppose it's fairly different.

Not sure why they decide you don't need as many appointments for your 2nd as you do for your 1st. Things still go wrong, you can still get infections and blood pressure problems in that time. Seems a bit silly to me. But I suppose they have their reasons.

In 25 hours, I'll be getting my jabs, flu and whooping cough and then 20 minutes later, having my scan. Because I feel it move so much, I'm more excited than nervous! Which is a relief.

Threnody · 09/11/2020 10:46

@MrsK21 @Starfish762 how lovely, fingers crossed for all of us. Mine was originally meant to be the 25th, but I have no childcare then, so they moved it.
@Starfish762 what a great pic!

MrsK21 · 09/11/2020 14:22

@Starfish762 wow what a lovely pic!

Yes fingers crossed we get through this next step ok and then we can "try" and relax a bit!

Lollol86 · 09/11/2020 16:10

@Bellabubble so sorry xx

@Workingmama1 I'm so detached from my baby it's really worrying me.
I'm 16 weeks now and hoping I can get a connection soon. It's so sad what mmc do to us mentally in the long term. I've had no excitement this pregnancy and it's horrible xx

@Starfish762 so happy for you. Strong little bean you have there xx

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