Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. More to be added soon!

Scan Dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am (20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

@bubblybon20 still bad, vomited yesterday and this morning now just neasuea, had a text of pharmacy to say my prescriptions there so I'm hoping it's some anti sickness.

Work is really stressing me out, I have flexible working but they are saying they can't accomadate my days on a non clinical role so I'm going to have to change my hours. Which I just can't do, I don't know what to do about it all.

On another note 28 week growth scan tomorrow. She feels really big to me but I think she's gunna be smaller than she should because my bump feels like it hasnt grown in weeks. But tomorrow will tell more.

@bubblybon20 here's one of the news reports I can find about it

www.itv.com/news/2020-12-16/coronavirus-pregnant-women-allowed-support-partner-during-labour-after-nhs-rule-change

@ew1990 fingers crossed it is, and you can start feeling better in time for Christmas! Hope you're scan goes well, I also feel like my bump hasn't grown that much 😂

Perfect thankyou will give it a read! 😀😀 x

@bubblybon20 I hope so it's my birthday Christmas day 🙄🙄

I can't believe you've only got 9 weeks left

@ew1990 no way! That's crazy, defo hope you're feeling better then! 😀 and haha I know, but guaranteed it'll be 11 weeks in my case 😂😂

@bubblybon20 Sorry you're having reduced movements, too! This little scamp was quiet all weekend and today she's been really active - this seems to be her pattern, two days of quiet then active again. Hope yours follows suit!
I think trusts will be more likely to allow partners at births now regardless of the circumstances around the virus - I think at first it was all so unknown but now they have ways of dealing with it so it shouldn't go back to as bad as it was in the first lockdown and onwards 🤞🏼 I can't believe you only have nine weeks left, that's no time at all!!

@Pugprincess The new strain is worrying me, too - it seems to be moving quite quickly and we can't seem to be able to keep up, it is feeling like the earlier days again. Hopefully with the lessons learnt (if they've learnt any at all, I'm not convinced), the gov will be able to do what they need to to try and get it under control. Reading this new strain seems to affect children a lot, too (not that they get iller but more of them get it), which makes me especially worried about baby. I think post-Christmas I'm going to hibernate a bit - was always going to pretty much isolate from Feb anyway as don't want DH catching anything and then not being able to be at the birth but obviously have no idea when the birth will be! So much to think about. Glad WFH is within sight for you xx

@ew1990 So sorry you're still feeling awful - hope you manage to get your prescription soon. Sorry work is difficult, too. Good luck with your scan! I measured my bump at home yesterday and from what I read it's within the right range but I have no idea what I'm doing so guess I'll see on Wed at my MW appt! 🤷🏻‍♀️

@skyblue20 thank you. I know you measure from public bone to top of uteures but while your lay down and how many weeks you are is how many cm it should be with 2 weeks either side. So ours should be 28cm but can be from 26cm to 30cm. I'm gunna measure mine soon I'll let you know

I've not seen or spoke to anyone regarding pregnancy for nearly 10 weeks and I'm under consultant care so I'll see them tomorrow. But should see a midwife for my anti d injection.

Regarding the new strain, I saw something about one of the scientists who discovered it, saying that the government have made it sound much worse than it actually is. But that was a link on Twitter, so not entirely sure on how trustworthy that is!

I was measured at 23cm at my 25 weeks appointment and I was told that was normal? Some people also never have bumps (good stomach muscles) and some don't even know they're pregnant, so I don't know how reliable that is. All I know is that I feel as though I've grown overnight!!

@rosiejess yeah that's normal. I'm not going to obsess over how big baby is though Coz they told me DD was better out than in as she was weighing just under 4lb at 38 week. She was bornat 6lb 7oz which is a good average size. I worried myself sick for weeks when really there was no need to x

I reckon they get weight estimates quite wrong a lot dont they? I think aslongs they are growing they are all going to come out different anyway lol, like some are only 5 and others are 10 pounds so I don't really understand how they can judge it really. X

Yeah they do get them wrong but you get a personalised growth chart based on your height and weight, so 50th centile for me could be 5lb but for someone else that 50th centile could be 10lb.

When I've had my first one plotted tomorrow ill share a picture of my growth chart

@SkyBlue20 I'm sorry she worried you all weekend but I'm so glad to hear she was nice and wriggly again yesterday! 😊 They do like to keep us on our toes don't they! I'm sorry you and DH had an argument, at the moment with everything going on plus the additional worries about feeling so responsible for knowing what is going on inside us, I think its completely understandable that emotions will be running very high. I hope you're feeling a bit better xx

Well, just had a call back from the doctors, my blood count is fine, but my B12 has come back with a deficiency. Which is super surprising because it's about dairy products, all I've been drinking is milk, chicken is one of our main meats and my sister owns chickens, so we get loads of eggs! And I generally can't survive a day without chocolate. 😂
But all the symptoms match up, and thinking the reason I'm in so much pain and haven't been able to walk properly might be more down to nerve damage than a pregnancy thing.
Waiting for a proper call back from the doctor, but Google says I may have to have injections to get my levels back up before taking supplements.
Least I finally have an answer!

Hey 👋 I haven't been on MN in forever but thought as I've just crept into 3rd trimester (28weeks yesterday) I'd check in on how you're all doing?

How is everyone feeling about Covid? Me and OH will still be working in the office in central London (Tier 4 currently) until March 😩

I had my 1st f2f MW appt a couple of weeks ago, was nearly as short as phone ones - only about 10/15mins, is that normal?, they told me I was measuring big, 28cm at 26w so sent me tor a GTT test and now next appt isn't until Jan at 30w.

@ew1990 I measured mine standing up but it was 28cm so about right unless any drastic changes when I lie down!

@JoJo58995 Yeah I don’t think I realised how much the whole covid thing was playing on my mind as we’re not really going out much at all but I think between that, Xmas (cards, presents, sorting the house, etc etc etc), day-to-day work, sorting my mat leave cover, sorting the house ready for baby (a lot needed doing in terms of creating some storage), pregnancy, reduced movements and everything else normal life and Covid life brings, it all just got too much. I’ve not stopped in days and I’m so tired! We’ve decided that tonight I’m to finish work, lie on the couch and do nothing else despite the fact there’s loads that should be done. He’s great, DH, and looks after us so well, but I think it was just one of those days where we were both tired and cranky and everything had got to us. What I’d give just to have one night of dressing up and going out for dinner! Can’t imagine that happening pre-baby now though, with these rumours that most of the country will be tier 4 come NYE. What a very strange time to be pregnant, hey?!
How’s baby today? A bit more wriggly?

@RosieJess91 Ahh sounds like you might have an answer 🤞🏼 hope they can treat it for you and you’ll start to feel like yourself again soon!

@SmileyT Nice to see you! How’re you doing? Welcome to the third trimester! My MW appts have only been about 15mins too, I think it’s quite normal. Don’t know if maybe they get longer the further on you get as there’s not much time to actually discuss anything at them, is there?! I have another one tomorrow so will report back!
Ahh you poor thing being in the office! Hope it’s all been carefully covid-proofed? Generally, DH and I don’t go anywhere or do anything so I’m not too worried but I’m finding it is getting to me more and more knowing that the third trimester is when they tell you the be extra cautious. Went to the supermarket last night to do the Xmas food shop and although it wasn’t that busy, there were so many people without masks, shopping in groups, shouting across aisles to each other and it made me so anxious. I don’t care about me but being pregnant during it is a whole other thing, isn’t it?! How’re you feeling? Do you get public transport in to work?

Morning! Hope everybody is ok! @SkyBlue20 I was just like you with movements last week but I just happened to have my growth scan at that time and baby was breech with back to my belly so it explained it (didn't completely stop me worrying). Baby has definitely changed position in the last couple of days though as I am feeling lots of big movements again.

I feel everybody's pain worrying about the new covid strain. I really hope it doesn't affect things for us in terms of the birth..I must admit I'm a bit concerned about that.i think that guidance is true @ew1990 @bubblybon20 but I've also read that some trusts aren't following it still as it is only guidance and they don't feel its safe. I really hope that's not the case where we all are!

Itll be 10 weeks until my due date on Christmas Eve! I just want baby to be here now and know that he/she is ok!!

@SmileyT How are you feeling about that? Is there no way you can wfh? I know it DH is going in the risk is probably pretty similar but still..

I'm so relieved to be out of class now with talk of the new strain spreading more quickly in children. Might see if I can wfh still for the last 2 weeks before mat leave though so I can isolate properly for a month before I'm due. Just scared of taking any risks now- I completely agree that it feels like March all over again! In a very selfish way, I hope they do bring in tough restrictions in January across the country to try and get a hold of it, but I know that is completely selfish because I'm in a position where I would cope ok with that.

Morning! Lots to catch up on!

@smileyT are ypu happy working in a office now you are in your 3rd trimester? If not between the work from home guidance and the HSE guidance you have a good case for arguing to work from home or be suspended on full pay. I put the link earlier in the chat but will try and refind it if its helpful.

@SkyBlue20 and @bubblybon20 hope movements are picking up. I've had quieter periods too but today and yesterday he's making up for it.

I feel awful today, I think it's a combination of the start of a cold, lack of sleep (we have moved my daughter into her new room and bed so she has been up in the night again - good practice for a newborn 🤣) and general pregnancy. I'm so tired, sore throat and feel sick - everything just feels fuzzy. But thankfully today is the last day of work for me. Its my husbands birthday tomorrow and we've said we'll still send my daughter to nursery so we can have some down time without a manic toddler to try to recoupe some of the lost sleep!

I have my 25 week midwife appointment today, wonder if she will measure my bump? I know its grown, I order a top a few weeks ago and it was massive in my now it hugs my bump 🤣

@smileyT here is the link
www.hse.gov.uk/coronavirus/working-safely/protect-people.htm?utm_source=govdelivery&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=coronavirus&utm_term=more-2&utm_content=digest-10-jul-20#pregnant_workers

@danceM1 I'm kind of with you on selfishly hoping they will introduce tough restrictions to try to keep it at bay, to reduce to risks to me as an individual and so it doesn't impact birthing options too much. I was glad when they kept greater Manchester in tier 3 last week, especially in the run up to Christmas, but I feel so awful for people whose jobs and business les have been impacted. Our favourite pub's landlady is now working in a card shop just to make ends meet and keep her occupied.

Never mind, doctor just phoned back, and I have anaemia and B12 deficiency! So I'm on iron tablets and B12 supplements, have to go back in 2 weeks for a blood test to see if my levels have increased. If they haven't, then more tests will be done, or I'll receive the jab. If they do go up, I'll be on them until after I've had the baby.
The pain in my right thigh could be to do with the B12 deficiency rather than the pregnancy, so I may find that it goes away and I don't need physio. So that'll be a nice surprise! My haemoglobin had dropped from being 123 in September to 98 yesterday, which apparently explains why I've been feeling so horrendous!

@Workingmama1 I was glad when we stayed in tier three, too - it would have been madness to let hospitality open just before Xmas. My dad owns a hospitality business and has been closed for months now, I'm glad he's not at work as he's vulnerable but it's not good for him financially or mentally as he's bored, though. Absolutely no idea when he'll be able to reopen either, it's so tough.
Sorry to hear you're feeling so rotten, hope you can get some rest and feel a bit better. Sounds like you have a nice day planned tomorrow ☺️ Hope the MW appt goes well - mine didn't measure my bump at 25 weeks but I think it varies from trust to trust!

@DanceM1 I do think baby may have been back to my belly as it went really hard and around and I swear I could feel like a little hill almost that could have been her bum. It's now a lot squishier again and I'm feeling her more. I wish I could look in and see how she's lying sometimes - I get movements in the most random places, really far away from each other, at the same time and can only think she's like star fishing in there (though I know she won't have the space for that) 😂
I agree that I'd quite like stricter restrictions in Jan but I'm also in a very lucky position where that works for me. We're planning on isolating as much as possible from about 4-6 weeks before baby is due just in case, so if we lock down in Jan then I won't really see anyone from after Xmas until she's here! 😬

So glad you have answers, @RosieJess91, it must be such a relief! Hope the tablets kick in and work quickly for you and you can feel some level of normal again.

@RosieJess91 glad they’ve got to the bottom of it and hopefully you can be on the mend soon!

The Covid rates keeps rising in our area - we’re Tier 4 so can’t get out much anyway but I’m afraid even to go to the supermarket at the moment. I’m really sad not to be seeing family this Christmas and it’s hard not knowing when the restrictions will end, I’ve not seen my parents at all since I had a bump and now it’s feeling like I might not see them before the baby is here.

I’ve found it reassuring to read everyone else’s movements panics - I had one myself when the baby didn’t move between 5-11pm last night, he’s normally active after I eat something. Luckily just before I went to bed he booted me in the side so I could go to sleep happy and he woke me up at 6am having a football party 😄 it’s so stressful not to know what’s normal yet!

My turn to worry this morn not felt much movement. I THINK I've felt some light kicks but I can't be 100%. I suspect if I have it's baby facing my back or something. Going to have a bath and see how I go.

Glad you have some answers @RosieJess91 hopefully you will be well on your way to feeling like a new woman soon.

Lovely to hear from you @SmileyT and congratulations on entering the third trimester ❤️

@ew1990 thanks it would be interesting to see a chart as a ftm I have no idea about all this lol. I'm 5ft 6 in height and usually a size 12, wonder what they will estimate for me. When do they start measuring x

@Workingmama1 and @DanceM1 I'm with you both on the restrictions and this more infectious strain. I would be gutted to go school for my last 3 weeks and bloody catch it. So I'm selfishly hoping they close for a bit so it's less time with the kids for me then I can wfh. I ordered myself a fresh new visor last night so I should have that for going back to school. If we do go back I think I will ask my head of key stage if I can work with small groups out the classroom in our big hall to reduce the risk abit more. X

@Pugprincess I didn’t think we were supposed to leave baby alone? I wouldn’t. I wasn’t on my own much but when I was, I buzzed the MW who waited for me to come back. I could barely walk, let alone be wheeling baby around. They seriously need to let partners stay with us after the birth, at our most vulnerable time ever, especially during the night and especially if MWs are too rushed off their feet to help. I had a decent stay last time, but only because I wasn’t alone.

Tier 4 for me. It’s just getting worse and worse isn’t it? You would have thought things would have been better by the time we have these babies! For me, the only positive thing about the MMC was that I didn’t have to have a baby during these times or so I thought.

@SmileyT How have you been? I was wondering where you’d disappeared to because I remember you asked about Grow charts and I told you I’d show you mine lol. Your measurement sounds fine to me but it’s good to get extra tests in case.

My 31w appt is in the afternoon next week so they’ll be measuring bloat as I would have had breakfast and lunch by then, but will be interesting to see how much it’s increased by seeing as it was apparently off the charts last time at 29cm at 28w!

So for the last week, it’s as if my body is trying to remind me I’m in the third trimester. As well as the breathlessness and thumping heartbeat, I’ve got heartburn, aches here and there, poor sleep and feel tired. Apparently I can’t even go for a stroll without feeling faint, nearly puking and achy ears from the cold weather. Ridiculous.

I called a MW for advice and FFS they said to go to A&E to get my lungs/heart checked out if it continues, as my iron levels are good. Was hoping they were going to say this is all normal as it’s not that bad and I have another blood test coming up anyway. Anyone else feel the same, apart from those with anaemia? I kinda think it’s because the baby is getting too big for my tiny body and lack of bump so is squashing me and hence the kicks are feeling crazier too, but obvs I’m not going to say something that sounds stupid like that to them, even though it makes sense to me!