Pregnant After MMC - Thread 4

[Sakura54]

New thread for anyone pregnant after MMC.

Here’s our current list of scan dates and due dates. More to be added soon!

Scan Dates
@RosieJess91 Tuesday 10th November 11:30am (20 week)
@Poppy10121 Tuesday 17th November 9am (20 week)
@Workingmama1 Friday 20th November 9am (20 week)
@Lu93 Friday 20th November 10:20 (20 week)
@Pugprincess Monday 30th November 3pm (20 week)
@bubblybon20 Monday 7th December 9am (28 week)
@lollol86 Friday 11th December 11am (20 week)
@JoJo58995 Monday 14th December

Due Dates
@bubblybon20 - 27/02/21 BOY
@Sakura54 - 28/02/21 GIRL
@DanceM1 - 04/03/21 SURPRISE
@ew1990 - 12/03/21 GIRL
@SkyBlue20 - 13/03/21 GIRL
@smileyT - 15/03/21 BOY
@Dipsy77 - 15/03/21 TWIN GIRLS
@PhotoMum4 - 18/03/21
@RosieJess91 - 31/03/21
@Poppy10121 - 04/04/21 BOY
@Workingmama1 - 09/04/21 BOY
@Lu93 - 11/04/21
@Pugprincess - 17/04/21 SURPRISE
@lollol86 - 25/04/21
@JoJo58995 - 02/05/21

That blanket is adorable! I may have to get one for my baby too, although our nursery is animal themed, sort of circus themed, but it's too cute not to purchase!

I've been taking vitamin D tablets, I found Pregnacare made me quite sick, not sure if they just didn't agree with me or my other medication. So I was having to take vitamin D and folic acid separately. Obviously don't need folic acid anymore. I was very anaemic after I had my son, and my sister's and mum suffer with bouts of it every now and then, although we've always put that down to them being vegetarian, so maybe it's another of those annoying genetic things. Either way, they're testing for a few other things as well as anaemia, to rule out everything. And if they all come back normal, then I suppose they'll have to assume it's to do with my heart and then cardiology will have to see me.
Ah well, least something is finally being done!!
@JoJo58995 if it helps, this is my second and although I felt him quite early, it wasn't until last week when I was 24 weeks that I was able to feel him every day, before that it was maybe every other day, or sometimes every 2 days. They say not to worry about a rhythm until you're 25 weeks. I'm 25 weeks today, and I can feel him wriggling when I'm walking around now. And I find he's mostly active when I'm trying to go to sleep or driving. 😊

@rosiejess sorry about the anemia but yay to no pre eclampsia - I'm anemic and have b12 defiency and it makes me feel awful at the best of times. So so tired my hair falls out and I've got really bad dark circles. This is before pregnancy.

@jojo I still get worried about movement even though I feel her all the time. I'm sure with DD at this stage I still felt kicks. There not kicks anymore, full on rolls and they are painful 🙄 like there's no room for all. All day I've felt an elbow sticking up and moving all over my belly. My little sister was watching it happen before.

Aww the nursery's sound lovely. This one will be sharing with DD once she's old enough,

I'm getting a bit worried about DD, I'm not sure whether it's jealousy but she's started hitting me loads. I've had to introduce a time out step but she's stubborn and will sit there for ages before she says sorry. I'm so worried I'm turning her world upside down and I'm starting to feel really guilty, does anyone else who already have DC feel like this?

@RosieJess91 that does help thank you, I have to just keep reminding myself that it's all normal at this syage. I may feel her more than I realise, sometimes I feel bubbles that could be her or could be gas bubbles etc but I'm just not sure. The little kicks felt different but were so lovely as I'm sure that's what they were, but I could be wrong. Hopefully things will get more regular soon.
@ew1990 I don't think the worrying ever stops does it, glad you're feeling lots of movement though!

@Smilingdonkey Didn’t realise you lived in my ends. Where in E. London/Havering are you? What hospital you with? That’s true about schools. My nephew had to be off for the second time due to someone at school testing positive but then went back for the last 2 weeks. DS’ nursery finished last week so he’s off for a whole month, oh boy.

@JoJo58995 I also noticed quite a few of the ladies had extra scans! I don’t get scans despite having a small bump. I had them for my first due to GD and this time was due to risk of premature labour but the last was at 23w. It’s not needed unless something may be wrong.

@DanceM1 I also sleep on my left most of the time. It’s become easier to do. The baby has always been on the left though, even at all my scans, I think because of my partial split womb, she can’t fully go on the right. Regarding a breech, I knew DS never turned so will be surprised if this one has space to. I don’t remember ever feeling kicks high up. I even told them when I was in full blown labour but they still scanned to double check!

@ew1990 Glad it’s not just me having trouble with the movements. I have to be honest and say I don’t really like being kicked. I started feeling them really early and since 17w, they’ve been constant and strong every single time I lie/lean down and as soon as I wake up. These days I’m getting more kicks on the bladder and I feel a bit bruised inside! There is no pattern at all, just non stop. Off course I’m grateful I don’t have to worry about lack of movements though.

@RosieJess91 Your BP is good. Mine is even lower but they’ve never said anything. Did they not check it again after you started getting dizzy because sometimes that means it’s become too low? At this stage it’s normal to be breathless with faster heartbeat which is probably why they didn’t take you seriously at first, but off course you know your own body, so it’s good they are testing you.

My poor DH had been self isolating all alone at our house all this time even though he got a negative, due to being in direct contact with the guy that tested positive, but now the rules have changed he was able to come back to us at my parents’ a little bit earlier. Felt sorry for DS, not understanding where his fave person had gone for so long.

@sakura54 I'm in Newham and with Newham University Hospital. Where are you? X

Oh @RosieJEss91, Fingers crossed it is just anaemia and you can take iron tablets and feel better soon!

@DanceM1 glad to hear you don't have GD.

@JoJo58995 I don't know yet if I'll have extra scans after the 20 week one. I had about 20 with my first, as he had a small chin, and cleft palate, a couple extra with my daughter who was breech, and I think only one extra with my youngest to check growth, as I think the midwife mis-measured my bump.
I read something about not eating liquorice the other day, which I had been munching on, so got worried about that. I think if it doesn't say avoid it on the NHS website, it's probably not worth panicking over.

@Pugprincess - what a lovely scan picture! Look forward to seeing a pic of your nursery when it is done! My first, his room wasn't ready until he was about 3 months old! But since he was in with us until 6 months it didn't really matter. There wasn't even a floor in his room when he was born!

@Smilingdonkey - sorry to hear you are feeling stressed - it sounds like a lot to deal with, especially when pregnant. Big hugs!

@Poppy10121 - my forgetfulness has got worse with each child! I wear crop top type bras - much more comfy when preganant, and when breastfeeding! I love the rainbow blanket, I'm planning to crochet a blanket after Christmas (I have to finish my youngest son's stocking first), and am thinking of rainbow colours.

@ew1990 - sorry to hear DD is having trouble. It's a lot to take in, and it will be a big change for her. I've been lucky that my children have all been really excited about a new baby so far - not sure how the youngest will take it this time. I think there's always a bit of worry about bringing another child into the house - I worry that it means less time for the other children, but then it is bringing more love in too. Obviously they fight a lot, but they hug and play and help each other too.

Had my 16 week midwife appointment this morning - it was lovely as I got to hear the baby's heartbeat! I was so happy and relieved I cried! She had trouble finding it at first, but then baby moved, and we could hear it really well. I think I've been feeling some very faint movements the past couple of weeks as well.
I've been feeling a bit stressed with work - feel like a bit of a dogsbody at the moment - so glad tomorrow is my last day, and I get two whole weeks off.

Feeling huge now a days! 😂 nearly on the 10 weeks count down crazyyyy! Really not enjoying these awful nosebleeds, and also feeling extra tearful/emotional! 😫😫

As promised, some of our maternity shoot pics (with added emojis 😂) I love them!

Now off to catch up...

@SkyBlue20 they're such nice photos! 😍

@ew1990 Sorry, I can't help with DD but that sounds really difficult. I do think it's quite common that children act up a little when a sibling is on its way but obviously I haven't been there myself. Hope she stops soon 😔

@Sakura54 Glad your DH has been able to rejoin you, must have been tough being away.

@Threnody How lovely that you got to hear the heartbeat 🥰

@bubblybon20 You look great! 10 weeks, eeeek! How exciting! It is terrifying but also so exciting how quickly time is going.

I'm on that Peanut app and keep seeing people due in March posting about packing hospital bags, am I alone in thinking that sounds really early?! I'm planning to start to buy the things I might need at some point after Xmas but probably won't pack the bag until about Feb (due mid-March), unless the MW gives me any reason to think baby might arrive early - is that me being naive as a FTM or is that normal?! Figure I have enough to organise now between Xmas, our wedding anniversary and the baby so my stuff can wait? I have, however, started my Positive Birth Company course - am not very far in and just watching vids here and there when I have a spare 10 mins but it's interesting so far!

Anyone else CONSTANTLY eating sugary snacks? I don't even think it's a craving anymore, it's just habit and it's so bad! It doesn't help that I've discovered Love Hearts as a solution to acid refulx so am mainlining them!

[quote bubblybon20]@SkyBlue20 they're such nice photos! 😍[/quote]
Thank you - am so happy with them! We got eight in total but found it really hard to choose (we had 30+ to choose from). Will definitely be getting a newborn shoot with the same photographer - she's really affordable, lovely, lives really close by and it's nice to have some decent pics of us from this time as we're both WFH so mainly in jeans/joggers and a jumper, not exactly glam 😂

@SkyBlue20 yeah it feels as though the time has flown to be honest, I'm sure with Christmas and everything it'll hopefully continue to go fast 😂

In regards to the hospital bags, I haven't even brought one, nothing really to go in one either 😂 obviously my past experience is I've been over with both my boys, so expecting the same again this time round 🤷🏻‍♀️ but I would say il start packing around 36-37 weeks! May start buying little bits I need on the weekly shops after Christmas now!
Even if you was to go into premature labour or anything, it'll be fairly easy to send someone to grab so basic essentials I guess! 😀

@bubblybon20 That's my thinking - most things are easily gettable from the supermarket should I go in to early labour and my mum would happily come drop it off. Don't get me wrong, I'm a VERY organised person, I love a list and planning and stuff but it just feels very early for a hospital bag, I still feel like I'm hardly even pregnant 🤷🏻‍♀️ 😂 Buying bits with the weekly shop is a good idea. I think I'll make a list in the new year and then start slowly buying things. One thing I do have a LOT of is maternity pads after the MMC - how miserable is that?!

@SkyBlue20 defiantly! Plus it's something to look forwards to after Christmas has passed! I do agree, it does seem really early still in my opinion too, as I am also an organised person 😂 yeah I agree, I have only really felt proper pregnant the past few days when I've had nose bleeds and heartburn 🤦🏻‍♀️ but I will defo be waiting until 36 ish weeks to organise a bag 😃 oh that is sad 😞 but you've just got to think how far you've came since having to use them last ❤️

@bubblybon20 ahh what a nice bump!

@skybkue20 I've got everything bought to put in a hospital bag but not packed it. Probably do it sometime end of January. With DD I had it packed for 35 weeks but I like to be organised lol.

Oh and I love them pictures. 😍

@Smilingdonkey No way! All this time we were going to the same hospital! I was born there even. I’m back and forth between Newham and Havering too these days lol.

@bubblybon20 Lovely bump, we are nearly 30w, unbelievable. I deffo feel more pregnant these days too.

@SkyBlue20 Lovely pics. You made it sound like you were massive lol. I think you look nice, not huge at all, so don’t worry about people thinking that.

I’m also a very organised person. I’m going to pack my bag (already made a little list) and get everything ready and set up at my parents’ house next month. Also have to put up a bed in the living room as I’m having a CS. Luckily, last time I packed nearly everything just before I went into labour at 36w, but this time I’m going to do it earlier just in case.

Interestingly, I had a feeling my SIL was pregnant as she’s been permanently tired, so I hinted to DBro and turns out I was right! They didn’t want to tell me as it’s early days and they had a MC not long before mine. It’s funny and kinda sad how we’re just all trying to successfully have babies. Apparently she’s going to have the same MW from booking appt through to birth plus don’t have to be alone for scans. Completely different from me even though it’s the same hospital. I don’t even have a MW. I’m guessing it’s due to her severe PND after she had my nephew but she doesn’t seem to think so.

@sakura54 how funny we are at the same hospital! I had my DD there and it was good so we decided to go for it again! I live 10 mins from two hospitals so had a choice luckily between Newham and Whipps. I also have the same 'continuity of care' midwife as your SIL - I think it's to do with where you live and if you happen to fall into that pile when the referrals come in ... I had a terrible experience with my first midwife though but she has left and my new one is amazing. I think it's a good service if you get a good midwife! They seemed to be linked in well with my GP and consultant. I know they are trying to expand the service as it didn't exist when I had my DD there two years ago. You might be able to ask to be moved onto it as there is a big sign in zone 12 telling you to ask about it if you are interested in going done that route.
Xxx

@skyblue20 those pics are lovely 😊🥰

@rosiejess92 I have just been diagnosed with anaemia too and I have been feeling dreadful with heart flutters and breathlessness - I was honestly getting quite worried! Who knew iron was so important 😬😬😳 Hopefully the tablets sort us out! Xxx

I'm going to start packing my hospital bag soon because I've been advised by the midwife with it been twins. Last time I packed it about 37 weeks but that's when I'll be having them hopefully. I also need to get a bag for DD, I feel so bad because of lockdown she hasn't been able to get to know anyone she was only 6 months when we went into lockdown. She's going to my brother and sister in law who she's hardly seen and I know it will be hard leaving her she will be so upset I will be a mess when we have to leave her x

Morning everyone! Gosh I feel like I blinked and 100 posts popped up 🤣 I'm so sorry if I miss something- I probably will!

@Sakura54 that's really interesting. I know baby wasn't breech last week because I was feeling (and seeing) tons of movement high up..this week its very different. I can feel my bladder being kicked etc but not actually seeing much movement at all. Im hoping baby turns soon as I love the feel of all the movement!

@RosieJess91 that sounds like good news for you. Sorry about the anaemia but hopefully they can get it under control.

@Smilingdonkey I completely understand why you're having such a rough time. Schools are just being treated terribly. Im only grateful that I'm primary and not secondary- i really feel for anyone working in a secondary right now.

I broke up for Christmas yesterday so I'm still in bed typing this and it feels great...especially after having to get up at 2.30am to find gaviscon. My acid reflux is a daily occurrence right now. @SkyBlue20 was it you that said about love hearts?? Is that true?? I've also been eating rubbish and yes out of habit rather than cravings. And since having covid I've barely done any exercise at all so I need to be more careful!

I cant remember who said about the face cream.. possibly @JoJo58995 ??? My friend said I shouldn't be using any face moisturiser because it'll give my baby autism. I just don't really believe in any of that. People link autism, adhd, allsorts to allsorts and I think you can worry too much. Its not like we are having crazily high doses of anything is it?? And this is coming from a worrier!

@skyBlue your pictures are lovely!! You don't look big at all!! Just beautiful.

I havent started packing a hospital bag. This Christmas we are going to get the nursery sorted out hopefully like others are saying. I think that will make things feel more real. Im gutted though... ages ago I saw wallpaper I loved but didn't want to buy anything too soon. When I was ready to buy it, it went out of stock so I signed up to be notified when it came back in. Well I only went and missed the email a week ago and now its out of stock again 🙈🙈 gutted.

My mum brought the Snuzpod round the other day, that my sister has given us (only used by my nephew for 2 months) and its in my bedroom now. I keep looking at it and imagining baby in there 😍

Oh in terms of prepping.. my mum is convinced there will be a lot of shortages come January and Brexit. She thinks I should be buying some nappies in now just in case. Is anybody doing anything like this? When she told me people would panic buy over covid and supermarkets would run out of things, I laughed at her. I then had to go begging for toilet roll 🤣 So I may take her advice this time..can't do any harm can it!

@Pugprincess I'm going to be out of class now after Christmas. My consultant said on Tuesday that I shouldn't be in school now- that no doctors, nurses, midwives etc who are pregnant are doing anything face to face after 28wks and that nobody should. Told my head and again, she was very supportive. HR have said I should be in but if she is happy for me to do an alternate role then I can so she is giving me my own little room and I will plan/oversee my subject/analyse data etc etc from there so thats good news I think. Will be very strange not being with the children though. They actually said on Monday "you are still with us after Christmas arent you miss?" And I said yes because I thought I was at the time. Now I feel bad so will have to go round to the outside door and speak to them on the first day back 😬 The person covering me is great though so I'm sure they'll soon get over it!

@DanceM1 I'm the same as you school finished yesterday and no lie I think I've slept about 14 hours and I'm still in bed, 😅 I slept on sofa as soon as I got home from school then came bed about 1am and been here since lol. Had some right wappy dreams in that time though. I'm glad school have sorted something for you. Mine are stressing about how they are actually going to make it work but it's tough really I've got to do it.

I can't start my nursery Sunday like I planned 😢 I've had to change my Christmas plans as my sister in law works in a care home and they were told there's positive cases and she still obvs has to go in so we can't see them now and they usually have my mum stay over Xmas eve but for first time I will be having her now as didn't want to leave her home alone. We could start it and order a blow up bed but I might aswell hold on until the 28th as husband gets a good rest then as he finishes work today and he's not had a holiday since March. So new plan is to blitz the room starting the 28th. My aim is to have it all emptied and carpet and wallpaper off and have bought materials etc for replaster and decorating etc while we're off. The rest will get done during the coming weekends. Like you say @Threnody baby will be in our room so not end of the world if its not completely finished but will do as much as poss.

@Smilingdonkey and @RosieJess91 hope the tablets make you both feel much better and quickly so you can both enjoy Christmas xx

@SkyBlue20 lovely photos you have inspired me to get some with hubby over Xmas, I will just get family to take them on my phone but I like your poses 😁 we haven't done anything like that yet. Ps love hearts were one of my cravings 😁

@bubblybon20 lovely neat bump you have 😍

Hospital bag wise I think il ask hubby to get our small travel suitcases down and I will pack one for me and one for baby. NHS site has a list of things you can pack as I wasn't confident lol. I'm going to need to buy nappies and pads and breast pads. Do you have to use hospital pads or would like a good always brand pad work? NHS site suggests disposable pants. Maybe I will get more big cotton primark ones that I don't mind throwing if they get ruined. Maybe black pants are the way forward lol. Hmmmm so much to think about x

Hospital bag - I usually take a rucksack for me as it is easier to carry (for oh obvs), and another bag for baby. I recommend massive pants - especially if you have a c-section - I just have cheapie ones from Tesco. Maternity pads, hospital will give you massive ones at the start, which are good, but again, cheapie ones from Tesco are absolutely fine. Breast pads is more personal, I found the reusable ones quite scratchy so at the start use the lansinoh ones. Speaking of which, if you're breastfeeding, get some lansinoh nipple cream in. It's amazing stuff, I can't recommend it enough.

Thanks for the tips @Threnody I have screen grabbed your msg to refer back to 👍😁