June 2021 thread 2

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Welcome all mums to be

@Seedofpoppy they make me feel anxious too. It’s terrible! I feel like I should be enjoying myself, and be thankful that I feel mostly normal, but instead all it’s done is make me super worried! I think I’m actually more worried and anxious than I am excited and I don’t know how to fix it.

@PumpkinEverything it's totally normal to feel worried and anxious more than excited, the media and societal expectations make us feel otherwise! It's only in the last 40-50 years that women are expected to feel super excited and happy from the start because that's when family planning kicked in and it was a decision to have a baby, rather than just what happened. Go easy on yourself, you feel how you feel, excitement will come with time. I don't get excited until quite late in pregnancy or even after they're born because of all that can go wrong, others are excited from the second they pee on a stick, we're all different but all valid reactions 🙂

@Garman thanks so much ❤️ That’s nice to hear. It’s making me feel almost guilty from feeling anxious, which just makes the whole thing worse. I want to be excited, but until I know everything is okay I’m finding it hard

Hi girls,

Just had my dating scan , I had a private early scan so knew I was only 9 weeks as does my doctor but she told me to go to the dating scan on the date the hospital gave me. So I went for my scan and explained I am only 9 weeks 3 days , not 12 and the person doing the scan in the hospital seemed very annoyed about this and the fact that my doctor knew and still sent me so she was very fast and didn't really say much other than baby was wriggling around and have me a photo, I didn't get to hear the heartbeat.

She was saying it was strange my dates were out by 3 weeks as my last period was 17 August but I had a feeling I had ovulated late and it wasn't unusual for my period to be about 2 weeks late when I was on pregnacare, and she was like oh it's strange as that would be a 40 day cycle , I tried to ask does that mean something is wrong but she kinda dismissed me.

So it's not bad news or anything but the whole experience just wasn't nice, she was just so dismissive of me so I was quite upset , sorry just had to rant !

The same here ladies. I haven’t let myself get excited until I know everything is ok, I think it’s a self preservation thing - the excitement will come in time I’m sure.
I’ve started to get what I think is round ligament pain this week (11 weeks in). Getting sharp stabbing pains all over my stomach - it’s not fun. Anyone else had these, I heard it doesn’t normally start until 2nd trimester, so not sure if it’s something else.

Hi ladies may I join? Currently 9 weeks, baby number two and a totally different pregnancy this time round. Nausea and fatigue from the get go and spd has begun already, I didn't realise how difficult it can be to be pregnant with a child already! I have my scan booked for the 4th December, really hoping all going well it will lighten my mood.

Ladies morning sickness has come back for me with a vengeance! I’d been feeling much less nauseous this week and now this morning I can’t stand up without needing to hurl.I’m thankful to have not actually been sick but I did think that I’d tired a corner since being 10 weeks *not envy

@Dragonfly92 thanks so much for that positive message :) Like you, I haven't gotten an early scan done either yet. So not letting excitement get the better of me just yet. Just like you @Penny2020. Hopefully, it will come in time :)

@AnnaPosie so sorry to hear about your experience ! That doesn't sound very nice or polite way to deal with anyone... very surprised! Let the negativity go and just enjoy the journey. Here's hoping you have better experiences onwards !

@AnnaPosie It sounds like we have very similar stories! My LMP was 17th August too and my periods were really irregular so I was surprised I even got pregnant to be honest as my cycle length before was 54 days! I explained to the Midwife I definitely didn't have 28 week cycles, had an early private scan which put me back to what I thought (was 7 weeks then NHS would have thought I was 9). Explained this to the Midwife she still said to go to the scan which was Weds and the woman there asked me how far I thought I was and I said around 10 weeks and she was like oh, looked and I was 9+6! Seems like such a waste of there appointment time and I felt really guilty afterwards even though I had tried to say several times!
So I completely understand your frustrations, but at least we get to see our babies again and hopefully next time will be more positive experience x

@AnnaPosie what a horrible experience, there’s no reason she couldn’t have been friendlier about the whole thing as you were not trying to deceive anyone! I also know I ovulated late (only a week so not as big a gap as you) and similarly the midwife just ignored that and keep saying I was 11 weeks when I knew I wasn’t - they seem to ignore that we might actually know our bodies.
Hopefully when you do eventually reach 12 weeks it’ll be a nicer experience, and at least you know little bean was moving around lots which is a great sign!

My LMP would have me at 10 weeks or so today, whereas my private scan had me much earlier so I’m only 7+2 today. Im actually sort of hoping they call me for a scan when they think ill be 12 weeks, and then bring me back again when they find out I’m earlier than that for the real 12 weeks. I did tell the midwife on Monday so she has it all written down. Just patiently waiting for the letter to come through so I can decide whether to do another private as I really need the reassurance 😔

I have the opposite problem. I have really short cycles and know when I ovulated so knew my LMP wouldn’t be accurate. Private scan confirmed I’m a week ahead of LMP.

Only just had my midwife booking appointment through and I’ll be 12 weeks by then. They said I’d have the scan before the 17th December but I’ll be 15 weeks then 😖 I called and they said wait and see what the midwife says at my appointment.

@Humpty11 hey, no worries I'm the same! Thank you! Congratulations to you too👶🏻🥰 aww amazing this is my first baby and I'm really excited😊!! Oh no, I've suffered with bad nausea too it'll give me breaks of 1 or 2 days but then comes straight back, will be glad when I'm out of the nausea phase, I'm sure you feel the same 😂. Yeah that can't be easy on you, I struggle to look after myself when I feel so tired & nauseous so you're doing an amazing job! I'm good thank you other than nauseous and tired all the time but that's the joys of our little blessings growing inside of us! I've got my dating scan on 25th November and I had an early scan yesterday which shown a wiggly baby with a heartbeat of 181. Have you had any scans come through yet or early scans? 💗💗

So reassuring to see other people who’s dates are out! LMP put me at 8 weeks but private scan 6 weeks 1 day (now 8 weeks 1 day). My scan is 26th November and I can’t wait, I’ve been counting down to it and wouldn’t be able to wait an extra 2 weeks! I did tell the midwife about the early scan, she wasn’t worried and didn’t tell me to move my 12 week scan either. Now I’m worried to tell them at the 12 week one in case they’re funny with me - there’s no need for that at all, some people don’t realise how anxious they can make you feel. I should be 10 weeks then so just really hoping all is okay. I know if everything looks good at 10 weeks the risks are pretty similar to at 12 weeks anyway, but there’s certain measurements they can’t get. Any excuse to see my baby as many times as possible is good by me 😊

Hi everyone and also @Firsttimeconcerns just thought I'd update you all and hopefully help those who are feeling anxious re spotting. So my lmp was the 20/09/20 putting me at 7+5 at present, approx 2 weeks ago I started spotting, mainly brown when wiping but sometimes pink. Spoke to my gp who referred me to epu. Had a transvaginal scan where they could only see the gestational sac. After the scan the spotting continued and eventually became quite heavy for approx 3 days. It was dark red blood and mainly happened when I passed urine (this is usual for me when I do have af) therefore I was not one bit hopeful. Had another scan in epu today and low and behold there was baby with heartbeat, measuring at around 7 weeks. So all in all I had bleeding and spotting for approx 10days between BFP and second transvaginal scan.

I am over the moon, so delighted and really hope this helps relieve some anxiety for some of you. Sending lots of love xx

@Aokbaby your story sounds similar to mine! I've had two scans now because of bleeding, they could only see the sac last week, going back on Monday, I'll be 8 weeks. Have you had bloods done? I've had three blood tests and numbers aren't doubling so I'm not that hopeful. Another bleed a couple of days ago, I'm just fed up of it all! 😔

Hi @jessicalouise10 no haven't had bloods done, I haven't had any bleeding for 8 days now thank god!! Keeping everything crossed it stays that way. Epu said they were happy with progress and hadn't any need to call me back in again.

Heres hoping all will be well on mon for you xx

@Aokbaby ohh must be so great to hear they don't need to see you again. I've had about 8 days total where I haven't been bleeding/ I've had normal discharge so honestly I don't really believe this is going to go any further!
I hope you have a wonderful uneventful pregnancy from here!x

@jessicalouise10 thank you so much!! Let us know how you get on on Monday, hopefully you'll be reassured xx

Hey everyone, I'm excited to start seeing all these scans soon 😊
I've felt pretty tired all day (10+2) and did have a little gagging session in the kitchen this morning but nothing compared to some of you poor ladies!
Can't wait to see the little blob again in 2 weeks and see how different it looks 😊

Hi all. Pretty rough day today! Having some intense low feelings and panic about baby num 2, (was not planned). I was fine until today and all of a sudden I’m a bag of nerves, all worried and feel dread! Is this hormones, didn’t happen with baby num 1 who was also accidental! 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🙏🏻

@Aokbaby thank you for sharing your experience. I am glad to hear things are okay for you I have stopped spotting so I am hoping it continues that way. I have a second reassurance scan booked for 9. 5 weeks in two weeks time so I am staying calm and positive until then. Thank you again

Hi, may I join you all?
I'm 10wks with DC5. Had my booking in yesterday and my scan is booked for 30th Nov.
Feeling a bit nervous as I'm 41, but I had baby DS last summer so looking at a 22m gap. The MW said they recommend due to my risk factors that I give birth at the hospital but tbh I am likely to be induced anyway so id not considered alternative really.

Hi @burningbenches wow 5 dc what are your age ranges? Have you had any early scans yet? How are you feeling? Do you have fb we have a private group on there as well

Hi @BurningBenches i am also 41 and feel the same. Are you having a nipt test?