June 2021 thread 2

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Welcome all mums to be

@Bs93 wow, amazing! I've got my 12 week scan on 25th November! I also had an early scan when I was 7 weeks 5 days but turned out to be 7 weeks exactly instead, I've read that they can make up the dates though! Good luck for your 12 week scan on the 26th! How's your pregnancy symptoms treating you? Mine seem to have subsided today which I'm a little worried about but also thankful! 😩

@America5 ah wow haha you’ll have to keep me updated!! I was so worried about it but the Sonographer said not to be and the midwife also said not to worry and the LMP isn’t very accurate. But also said I might be somewhere in the middle, hoping so.
Not thrown up but feel sick all day and can’t eat much at all, sore boobs, spots, tired, horrible taste in my mouth! What about you? Last week I had 2 days of feeling much less sick (still a bit and some gagging haha) and eating much more, I was so worried, then it came back with a vengeance and I wish I’d just enjoyed the two days of feeling better haha! I think it seems so normal but it’s also normal to overthink it all

Ah maybe I didn’t have the NIPT then 😂😂😂😂😂. Nevermind!

Does anyone have any weird sensations in their bladder? I had an UTI when I was 4-5 weeks, so that seems to have cleared with AB’s but I still get the urge to wee more and also when sitting get these weird tickle / tightening sensations like when you need a wee maybe. Sorry not good at explaining! I’m 8 weeks btw

@Bs93 definitely will, you too! Yeah I wouldn't worry too much I think it's pretty normal for them to measure behind so early on anyway, they have plenty of time to catch up! Oh no, I'm sorry to hear that! I hope it subsides a little for you so you can have a few more 'normal' like days. I've been feeling really nauseous especially at night time, exhausted, very sensitive nipples & can feel cramps/tightening in my lower abdo but other than that trying to enjoy the pregnancy as much as I can without worrying myself too much - it's easier said than done though isn't it!

@AlRRRR I have a stitch type feeling sometimes when I wee? Is this the same sort of sensation you mean?

Urm, No, I had a UTI and it was burning at the end of peeing. I left it 2 weeks and then thought I'd better get some AB. It said I had a UTI.

But now, 2 weeks later, the feelings are returning and I just wondered if anyone was feeling any kind of bladder feelings, haha

@America5 hopefully we’ll both see lovely healthy babies in a couple of weeks 😊 everything was where it should be and saw the heartbeat so that was good. I always had longer cycles anyway and had just came off my pill so god knows when I ovulated, but I doubt it was a standard 28 day cycle!
I get cramping too, and some hip pains. And I also get a stitch sometimes in my side when I wee! We are pregnancy twins haha. Definitely easier said than done. I do feel like I was miserable at first because of the symptoms, but now I’ve started to find them reassuring and appreciate them haha. Never thought I’d want to feel sick 🙈
I think if all is good at our scans we will start to feel properly excited 😊

@Bs93 oh I really hope we both do 😊 yeah I had a private scan at 7 weeks 5 days but measured at 7 weeks and heard the heartbeat which reassured me so much, the amount of love I felt when I heard that heartbeat was overwhelming 🥰 Ah did you, I too had longer cycles and no idea of when I ovulated so wasn't too concerned when I was told that he/she is measuring ever so slightly behind. Oh wow, we really are pregnancy twins haha 😆 and yeah I totally agree with you there I think I've grown to appreciate them and find them reassuring too & definitely I can't wait for us to have our scans so we can be excited & enjoy our pregnancies🤰 Have you told anyone yet? 💗

Congrats to all on your scans!

Sorry to put a dampener on everything, but I'm feeling really down today. I've just gone 11 weeks, but having spent a lot of time on the TTC after miscarriage thread before getting pregnant this time, I keep remembering how many people on those threads seemed to have miscarriages around this time. I feel certain something's going to go wrong again. I wish I knew for sure. I wish I knew if I could have a baby. Aaaaaaaargh

@scrambledeggy try to relax, there's nothing you can do to change the outcome and remember the vast majority of pregnancies by this stage go well. Of course it'll seem like more people have miscarriage at this point when you've been on a mc thread but by 11 weeks the probability of MC is 2.1% so please try not to worry. Xx

I had my f2f appt today for bloods/urine she really struggled with blood and said I was dehydrated so please drink lots of water before you have yours.
Also got my scan letter through today and it's 27th November
Funny story, she said I would be consultant led because of my previous neck fracture... I've never had a neck fracture 😂 looks like 14 years ago when I fractured my collarbone they wrote neck instead 🤦🏼‍♀️ and it's been on my history since!

@SarahTTC2020 I was the same, I’m so dehydrated! The midwife tried both arms and nothing came out, she then got another midwife who tried both arms again. I had to go back a week later, I’d drank quite a bit but the midwife still struggled! On one arm she started getting some then it just dried up midway 🙈
Your scan is the day after mine 😊 but guessing you’ll be a couple of weeks ahead in your pregnancy!

@America5 I would love to fast forward time!
I’ve told my Mum because she’s in our support bubble and me and my husband are the only people she sees outside of work, and I’ve been a rubbish daughter and hardly seen her because of feeling ill. Then my husband thought it was only fair to tell his parents. We also told his Nana but only because she’s terminally ill and went into palliative care, so we didn’t want to miss the chance. My manager also knows because I feel crap and I’ve had to be taken off the rota to work in the refuge, I’m working fully at home instead! How about you?

@SarahTTC2020 Glad your appointment eventually went okay. I almost couldn't find the clinic where they took my bloods a few weeks back and ended up running in late a right state

You're probably right about my perceptions being skewed by the MC thread. I know that if I am going to have a miscarriage then there's nothing I can do about it, but I wish someone with supernatural knowledge could just tell me whether I'm capable of having a baby or not. Don't think I'll relax until the spring if I make it until then.

Ah, you all seem so positive, anyone want to lend me a brain for the next week whilst I wait for my scan? 🥺

@scrambledeggy did you have an early reassurance scan? I felt so much happier after hearing the heartbeat. I know it doesn’t mean we’re completely out of the woods but I think once you can identify a heartbeat risk of miscarriage is much lower.

You’re so close to the end of the first trimester now 💕

We’ve told our parents 😁 one side wasn’t surprised at all and the other have been texting me very entertaining baby names.

Oh I know @Bs93 forwarding time would be the best for the early stages of pregnancy and ahh that's a nice collection of people in your life to know the news it's nice to have support around you in those you trust, I'm sorry to hear about your husbands nana and I'm sure your mum understands and remembers how it feels to be pregnant especially in these early stages so I wouldn't worry! 💗 We've told both our parents and my fiancé told his employer but I'm too scared to tell mine as I'm on an apprenticeship even though I'm an 'old apprentice' at 22 😂 I'm worried it will jeopardise my job and course side of things so I'm trying to work as normal for the moment as we are working from home so it's easier for me to have not told them. I just want to prove that I can still work effectively whilst pregnant - I don't even know when the best time is to tell them 😂

@America5 I’m dying to tell my best friend, she’s got a 9 month old and knew we were trying so keeps asking! But I know she’ll get excited and I’m not ready for that, I want to be able to be excited with her if that makes sense. My Mum had the best pregnancy ever with me haha she felt very slightly sick a few morning and that’s about it 🙈 but she’s lovely and caring. Ah you’ve told similar then! How did they react?
Don’t worry, you’re very protected by employment rights as a pregnant woman! I only started my job in July and was really worried but my manager is so supportive, she’s actually been over the moon. She’s taken me off rotas, told me to have loads of breaks, told me not to worry about caseloads and prioritise myself and baby, and has said I can do my hours flexibly around how I feel! They might surprise you 😊

@Bs93 your boss sounds so lovely!! I told my best friend that we were TTC so she knew before everyone 🤣

@PinkPlantCase I had a healthy-looking scan at about 8 weeks, but that seems ages ago now.

My immediate family know (parents and siblings), and my husband obviously. Half of me wants to tell other people as soon after an okay 12 week scan as I am really struggling emotionally, the other half of me wants to wait until 24 weeks so I know the pregnancy is "viable" and I don't let anyone down.

Work know already because of the need for COVID precautions, but I really wish I didn't have to tell them. I don't know what to do with all the good wishes I'm getting from line managers and HR when I still feel like it could go either way.

Maybe I'll go to me local socially distanced open space and SCREAM so I can let it all out (when I'm not feeling sick, that is), because I feel bad for spilling all this crap from my brain on here when you are all so mature and on top of your pregnancies. I might even take a break from this MN, because seeing people post about miscarriages all the time is making my anxiety worse. Siiiiighhhhhh

@PinkPlantCase I couldn’t have asked for her to be any nicer! It’s women only where I work and lots of Mums so I think that helps. Haha mine literally asked me last week ‘any baby news’ and I said no 🙈 I’ve been convinced I won’t be able to get pregnant and was moaning about it to her, without realising I was already pregnant at the time

@scrambledeggy this is my first ever pregnancy and I’m really anxious about it. My mother in law kept sending excited messages and I’ve ignored them all. She then started talking about her own miscarriages and that made me even more anxious! I’m just trying to get through the next two weeks until my scan. If you saw a heathy baby at 8 weeks that’s massively positive and your miscarriage chance is very very low, you’re much more likely to have a healthy baby now. Hopefully you’ll feel better after your scan, when is it? Also I understand the not letting anyone down feeling, I feel so much pressure now for things to be okay.
Definitely try to keep to positive threads - it’s easier said than done but there really is no point in worrying about it because you can’t change anything. I think being cautiously optimistic is the best way. Hope you’re okay

@scrambledeggy that is what we are all here for to support one another. I can gurantee once a day i use the search bar to look for worries/symptoms because without people being truely honest on these forums i wouldn't know the answers or what other people have been through. I myself am incredibly anxious and have been for the past week. I have my booking in appointment next week on wednesday followed by ressurance scan on the friday. I am petrified of going for the scan and it all being over; i still have very sore nipples, horrendous heartburn, tiredness and massive massive bloat but then i think what if its my body just playing tricks with me.

What im trying to say is everyone has worries and thats when you need the most support as you can gurantee there is someone else also struggling with the same worries but to afraid to speak out. Xx

Sorry for the long post

@Bs93 @SarahTTC2020 same thing here.

She got 2/3 vials and I need to get the third but by the sounds of it the one she couldn't get was the least important - blood count maybe?!

Anyone else feeling utterly exhausted and nauseous?

I'm 10 + 3 and most of my day is spent in bed, I have a 2.5 year old DS and so needing a lot of help with childcare.

@Bs93 Sorry to hear you are feeling anxious- you must have a lot on your plate with your husband's nana being unwell too. Hope you feel a little less anxious soon. My scan is next Thursday (not tomorrow), which may be heightening my own worries. I was supposed to refer myself to a maternal mental health service weeks ago, but I actually just did it, so things might be better soon.

@Bbdm1984 Please don't apologise- your kind words mean so much, they make me feel less alone. I hope your booking appointment and scan go okay, and that they go some way to putting your mind at ease.

@Jen8888 one more for the exhausted and nauseated camp 😭 Was your pregnancy with DS like this?

No @scrambledeggy it was a breeze!
I enjoyed every moment - this is like nothing I've known.

I feel so rubbish atm I forget I'm pregnant.

I don't even want to look at baby things, which is very unlike me.

I'm hoping when I see my baby next at the 12 week scan it will perk me up a little x