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Pregnant after Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 6

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Hoping2020 · 02/11/2020 10:25

@MOGMOGMOG85 also adding that my little one had hiccups once or twice a day when I was pregnant and is still the same now that she’s here. If you think of it as them practising breathing, it’s far more positive than what you’ll hear from Dr.Google! Hope all goes well with your scan, I’m sure it will. The closer you get to the end, the worse the anxiety gets as you still can’t believe everything is going to work out for you and that you’ll get your baby, I can sympathise, I was the same. Try to stay positive and enjoy seeing your little one today, hope they’re not too squishy!

@DressingGown87 - lovely to get an update from you, I was wondering how things were. Huge congratulations! Flowers x

MOGMOGMOG85 · 02/11/2020 14:49

Oh my gosh my scan did not go as planned. He is big, and healthy and blood flow to all major organs good, heart fine, placenta blood flow and cord fine, but there is low fluid level apparently? I can't work out why, I haven't had any leakage!

Also the sonographer was worried that my fibroid is blocking the birth canal...

They are worried we may develop an infection or go into spontaneous labour and want me to have a caesarean tomorrow or day after.

I'm in total shock. Baby is fine, I feel fine, no signs of infection, no fluid leakage, and every other scan I was told my fibroid was fine. They did think his movements were a bit low, but I went in for monitoring and he was moving loads... anyway they say he is measuring 6lb1oz and that he would be fine to be born now... I am worried because I am 35+2 by scan dates but only 34 weeks by dates, I'm worried in case he is smaller and less developed than they think. But I guess they know what they're doing... I will have the 2 steroid injections to get his lungs ready.

I'm so scared he may be at risk. Also not looking forward to an epidural, or a caesarean, especially when I'm a higher risk of haemorrhage for caesarean. But I guess I'll have to go along with what is best and hope for the best.

I dont know how long we will be in for, and I can't log on from my phone so won't be able to post for a while, but I will be able to check my phone and see any messages you post. They want to admit me now to get me on antibiotics and preclude risk of infection. They say my membrane must have ruptured? But no wet pants, no extra discharge, no leaking?? I do go to the loo every 15m so could be happening then...

So shocked and honestly quite worried - 35 weeks seems too young to me, but he has really good chances. I'll try to focus on positives - I don't need to read my pain management book any more, I don't have to think about tearing, I seem to have avoided stretch marks!!! And if all goes well I will meet my baby boy in just days. I just hope I'm making the right choice to go along with this for him xxxx

AnxiousLady1 · 02/11/2020 14:50

@Hoping2020 I totally second that feeling of anxiety getting worse the closer you get. Have my section tomorrow and even this morning I was obsessing over movements! 🙈

AnxiousLady1 · 02/11/2020 14:54

Oh my goodness @MOGMOGMOG85!! We cross posted. That's a big shock to the system for sure. You are already doing what's right for baby. Hopefully you feel somewhat prepared for the earlier arrival - mentally of nothing else. If it helps at all someone on my NCT had their baby at 35 weeks via spontaneous labour. No reason. They just decided to come early. All was fine with mother and baby. At that stage I wouldn't worry too much about size and if there is a greater risk to keep him in there then you are doing the right thing. xx

Shefliesonherownwings · 02/11/2020 15:42

@MOGMOGMOG85 gosh what a day you’ve had. Sounds like you are in good hands though and they are keeping a close eye so I’m sure it will all be fine. My consultant told us she had DS at 35 weeks, she went into spontaneous labour and he was absolutely fine. Are they giving you steroid injections as well?

I can understand that it’s scary and nerve wracking but how exciting that you’ll be meeting him this week! I’ll be thinking of you and look forward to an update with your new arrival! X

DressingGown87 · 02/11/2020 16:39

@MOGMOGMOG85 oh gosh! What a shock and whirlwind, hope your ok? It sounds like they know what they are doing, and hopefully your baby will be safely in your arms soon.

I had an EMCS with Paige after a failed induction, and I hate needles and was high risk. Honestly it was fine, and all forgotten about now she is here. The staff where amazing at reassuring me. Recovery will be a little tougher, but you find ways around things, and get to have lots of rest and cuddles.

Thinking of you, I hope everything goes as well as it can. I have everything crossed. Xx

Hagster · 02/11/2020 18:37

Oh my goodness @MOGMOGMOG85 wow what a shock for you! Glad baby is healthy but totally understand the nerves around what's to come. Like someone said above, someone in my antenatal class had their baby at 35 weeks and she's healthy and happy and all good. Sending you lots of love and good thoughts for the next couple of days. x

Whiffle77 · 02/11/2020 19:22

Congratulations @DressingGown87 so pleased to read your update!

Oh wow @MOGMOGMOG85 what a whirlwind day!! My best friend had both of hers at 35 weeks and they are both fine, try not to worry about that side too much as they are almost fully cooked by that stage! But just such a shock for you. Like you say, there are so many positives to think about- and you will be holding him so soon!
From what I understand about pph and c section is that there is a higher risk, but it isnt insurmountable and they are fully prepared for that risk. So try not to be too concerned, you will be in the best place - I felt quite ok about it all after talking to my consultant. Sending you lots of luck!!! Hope you manage to get some rest

AnxiousLady1 · 04/11/2020 06:02

Hey ladies!

Just a quick update to say that baby Conor arrived safely yesterday. He's super chilled so far but I know that will change. For any of you prepping for a section, mine was a very relaxed experience. We even played music from one of my favourite bands and everyone in theatre was getting into it. All super quick. Just counting down the hours until DH comes back to hospital again. Then I might get some kip and stop sitting here staring at our baby all the time 😂

DressingGown87 · 04/11/2020 08:27

@Whiffle77 thank you

@MOGMOGMOG85 hope your doing ok.

@AnxiousLady1 congratulations on baby Conor! I’m glad you had a positive section experience, I found it made the situation a lot more chilled and calmed my anxiety. Hope your DP can come soon. Enjoy the cuddles, smell, toast, and rest.

Whiffle77 · 04/11/2020 09:02

Congratulations @AnxiousLady1, very happy to hear of your safe arrival! Hope your DH can come back soon Smile

Thinking of you @MOGMOGMOG85!

Hagster · 04/11/2020 10:33

@anxiouslady1 huge congratulations! I'm so happy for you both that Conor is here and that his birth was positive. Enjoy every second (although I know that's unrealistic) xx

footprintsintheslow · 04/11/2020 19:16

@AnxiousLady1 wonderful news and lovely lovely name you've chosen. Hope you are getting rest and are being looked after.

@MOGMOGMOG85 just catching up with the thread and am desperate to know how you are! Thinking of you. X

turquoisebaby · 06/11/2020 19:51

Congratulations on all the new arrivals!!!! What a shock for you @MOGMOGMOG85 hope everything is going well! Thinking about you!

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@Rachael321 Baby boy has arrived
@SammiLou2312 Baby girl has arrived
@Hoping2020 Baby girl has arrived
@Littlegoth Baby boy has arrived
@Knotemma Baby boy has arrived (17/09/20)
@avocuddles Baby girl has arrived
@Treaclepie19 Baby girl has arrived
@SunStruck Baby boy has arrived
@TunnocksTcake Baby girl has arrived
@Hagster Baby boy has arrived
@tmc14 39wks Baby girl has arrived (08/10/20)
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@futuredreams Baby girl has arrived!

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@DressingGown87 35wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@AnxiousLady1 38wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 28wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@Whiffle77 35wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 35wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 29wks (due 10/01/21) Massive baby!
@turquoisebaby 29wks (due 24/01/21)BOY

footprintsintheslow · 08/11/2020 10:02

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@Rachael321 Baby boy has arrived
@SammiLou2312 Baby girl has arrived
@Hoping2020 Baby girl has arrived
@Littlegoth Baby boy has arrived
@Knotemma Baby boy has arrived (17/09/20)
@avocuddles Baby girl has arrived
@Treaclepie19 Baby girl has arrived
@SunStruck Baby boy has arrived
@TunnocksTcake Baby girl has arrived
@Hagster Baby boy has arrived
@tmc14 39wks Baby girl has arrived (08/10/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo Baby girl has arrived!
@Shefliesonherownwings 37wks Baby boy has arrived!
@futuredreams Baby girl has arrived!

RAINBOWS IN WAITING 🌈

@DressingGown87 35wks (due 20/10/20)⁣ GIRL
@AnxiousLady1 38wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 28wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@Whiffle77 35wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 35wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 31wks (due 10/01/21) Massive baby!
@turquoisebaby* 29wks (due 24/01/21)BOY

How is everyone doing?

MOGMOGMOG85 · 08/11/2020 16:09

Hi everyone,

Sorry for the radio silence! I hope I didn't worry anyone.

I went into the hospital on Monday for monitoring and Errol appeared to be fine heartbeat-wise although I was still having reduced movements. I showed no signs of labour and they put me on antibiotics, and got me on the steroid injections (Wow do they hurt!).

I was booked in for Thursday 05/11/20 and everything went well for me - it turns out my fibroid was well below the incision-site and I only lost half a litre of blood in the end so no haemorrhage, and afterwards my observations and iron levels were great so didn't even need iron tablets.

Unfortunately my partner passed out as soon as they put a canula in me and no sign of the spinal anaesthetic! He tried to get out of the room but he collapsed on the floor and spilled his water all over his crotch, then my nurses had to tend to him and take him out! I was left with just the anaesthetist to chat to, and luckily he took it upon himself to hold my hand as I had the shakes bad from the anaesthetic. The spinal was absolutely fine - didn't hurt at all - it wasn't an epidural, not sure what it was. The worst thing about the procedure was definitely the shakes, which also stopped my blood pressure monitor working properly so it was constantly inflating and my arm was really sore! Also the canula was horrible.

I had the screen up but I had requested to have it dropped which they did when baby Errol came out - he had a good cry and breathed well for a minute but then needed help to suck some fluid from his lungs. Sadly he then had to be transferred to the higher dependency unit at the special care baby unit in the hospital. He has been in there 4 days now, and I didn't get to hold him or touch him for 7 hours after the op although my OH got to touch him as he came through the hallway to be transferred.

I'm told I'm healing well. I was in hospital until last night when sadly it all got a bit too much for me and I phoned my partner saying I was worried I had postpartum psychosis. I don't think it was (!), I think I was just so anxious after the section, and sleep deprived from the ward, plus upset from being surrounded by loads of healthy babies and suckling mums. I feel much better after a sleep and a shower and lots of cuddles with my man.

As for Errol, I tried to get to him as soon as my anaesthetic wore off but I ended up fainting in the shower and was too ill to go! I got to him at about 7 in the evening in the end, but was disheartened to see him in the incubator with tubes up his nose and canulas etc :( He is on oxygen at the highest pressure rate, and although the fluid has improved he is still getting chest retractions when he breathes. I was allowed to touch him, and he opened his eyes to look at me which was wonderful. He has been on potassium/sodium drip and antibiotics, but yesterday he began feeding which was - again - wonderful. They had him on donor milk but he has moved onto formula now. I have been hand expressing, but I'll be honest it got really hard - my breasts are sore and only the left one seems to produce much at all. I've tried 4 times today and got just over a ml in total. Will keep up the hard work every few hours, but also going to focus on resting as I have definitely pushed myself too hard trying to be a good mummy to Errol whilst worrying so much about him and not having a nice time in the hospital.

Had my first skin to skin today and he latched (or tried to latch) onto my right breast, which was great to see! He was rooting like crazy as soon as he was on my chest which was also really heartening. He cried quite a bit today which I found difficult but am reminding myself the poor bean has been through a lot and also I wouldn't blame him if he resented me a little for leaving him all alone for so long!

Will leave a couple of pics here. Many congratulations to @AnxiousLady1 on your gorgeous new arrival, and solidarity to anyone still waiting and worrying about how it will happen! xxxxx

MOGMOGMOG85 · 08/11/2020 16:13

To be clear I've been visiting baby Errol about 3 times a day, I didn't leave him alone (I re-read and that's what it sounded like!) but have been balancing up not fainting or rupturing myself at the same time!

My partner is going back to work tomorrow as he doesn't want to start paternity leave until he comes home. Its going to be hard for me as I can't drive myself to the hospital so will just have to express all day and wait until he can drive me.

Pregnant after Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 6
Pregnant after Loss and Dreaming of Rainbows - 6
AnxiousLady1 · 08/11/2020 16:34

@MOGMOGMOG85 You poor thing. How terribly worrying for you!! But glad that baby Erol is improving and he will be home with you in no time at all.

I can relate about parts of the section. I also had really bad shakes and it felt really unpleasant. I'd bad nausea and retching too so was super worried about tearing the stitches.

Can only imagine how sleep deprived you must be in the hospital. Erol looks gorgeous and is clearly a little trooper keen to get home with his mummy xx

Knotemma · 08/11/2020 16:41

Oh @MOGMOGMOG85 Errol is beautiful. so sorry to hear you're having such a rough time. I can't imagine being on the wars surrounded by healthy babies when your little one is in special care.

Try not to put to much pressure on yourself re milk, colostrum is only in tiny amounts and because you had a c section it might take a few days for your mature milk to come in. From my own pumping experience I would say try not to look at the container you're expressing into (not the easiest with hand expression I know) and watch videos/ look at picture of Errol while you're doing it. But also remember, formula isn't poison. If you need to combination or formula feed him then that's the way to go, try to avoid putting any pressure on yourself. If also recommend finding your local La Leche League Facebook group, there's loads of help and support available there and you'll be able to speak to leaders and mummy's in similar positions to you.

Many congratulations, be kind to yourself and take care xxd

FloDaffodil · 08/11/2020 17:40

Congratulations @MOGMOGMOG85, Errol is adorable. I hope he gets out of the high dependency unit soon and you can take him home. And good luck with the expressing and feeding.

footprintsintheslow · 08/11/2020 19:15

@MOGMOGMOG85 look how thrilled we all are to hear from you! Keep resting and don't be hard on yourself.

Errol is absolutely delightful and I bet you can't wait to get him home. How far away from the hospital are you? Would getting a family member come and stay temporarily be an option so you can visit Errol in the daytimes?

DressingGown87 · 08/11/2020 21:21

@MOGMOGMOG85 aww congratulations on Baby Errol! He is absolutely adorable.

When I had my csection they said they had to reassure and deal with the men watching during the spinal than the actual woman! Hope your husband has recovered 🙈

Fingers crossed baby Errol makes a speedy recovery and is well enough to come home as soon as possible. Lots of cuddles when you can. As for your milk, don’t beAt yourself up. Your doing everything you possibly can, and right now he just needs his mummy to recover and be well enough to look after him. my milk never came in after my section, but they said it takes time so it may get easier. But I’m formula feeding Paige due to medication, and because in my circumstances I didn’t want to add pressure on to myself.

Hopefully now your home you can rest better, and get some sleep. Before you know it he will be home.

I also had the shakes during my section from the drugs and anxiety I think. I also went freezing cold and afterwards had horrible itching all over, so they had to give me something.

DressingGown87 · 08/11/2020 21:23

RAINBOW ARRIVALS 🌈
@Rachael321 Baby boy has arrived
@SammiLou2312 Baby girl has arrived
@Hoping2020 Baby girl has arrived
@Littlegoth Baby boy has arrived
@Knotemma Baby boy has arrived (17/09/20)
@avocuddles Baby girl has arrived
@Treaclepie19 Baby girl has arrived
@SunStruck Baby boy has arrived
@TunnocksTcake Baby girl has arrived
@Hagster Baby boy has arrived
@tmc14 39wks Baby girl has arrived (08/10/20)
@didslysquiddlydoo Baby girl has arrived!
@Shefliesonherownwings 37wks Baby boy has arrived!
@futuredreams Baby girl has arrived!
@dressinggown87 Baby Girl has arrived 15/10

RAINBOWS IN WAITING 🌈

@AnxiousLady1 38wks (due 07/11/20)⁣ BOY
@MrsG3 28wks (due 16/11/20) GIRL
@Whiffle77 35wks (due 02/12/20)⁣ SURPRISE
@MOGMOGMOG85 35wks (due 05/12/20) BOY
@footprintsintheslow 31wks (due 10/01/21) Massive baby!
@turquoisebaby* 29wks (due 24/01/21)BOY

Whiffle77 · 09/11/2020 08:31

Oh wow @MOGMOGMOG85 what an update!!! Congratulations on the birth of your baby boy, he is so gorgeous! Welcome to the world Erroll!

I'm sorry you have both had such a hard time, it must be so difficult 💞 you must be missing him so much. Try and get as much rest as possible while you can, I know that will be hard though. Do they know how long he is likely to be in for?

Most importantly dont put too much pressure on yourself!! You have been through the ringer, very unexpectedly and you need to take time for yourself

Hope you have a lovely time seeing him later xxx

turquoisebaby · 09/11/2020 20:20

Huge congratulations @MOGMOGMOG85 Errol is adorable!!!!