@Shefliesonherownwings wow! Congratulations, James is absolutely stunning xxx so glad everything went well for you xxx
@footprintsintheslow I'm really glad to hear you managed to enjoy the wedding. I totally know what you mean about the build up being worse than the day itself. Sounds like you handled it amazingly and had some time to reflect too. Crochet and hot choc sounds perfect.
@futuredreams sorry about your decision - it sounds really stressful to have to make a decision on the day! I have no idea what I would do in your position.. I'm in a vaguely similar position in that I have a large fibroid right next to my cervix which is also a risk of haemorrhage. I've had all the extra scans to check on it and it remains firmly on the borderline/just outside where they think it is ok for me to give birth vaginally. I've decided to trust my consultant who thinks it is safe to give birth, I'm sure they wouldn't say that if it wasn't. I expect the 2cm is plenty of space for them to be sure it's safe if that makes sense. However, depending on how nervous you are about it (after all the drama its caused during your pregnancy I don't blame you!) it might be right to choose the section if it made you feel safer? A planned section is super safe these days - think how many of our babies on this thread have arrived that way. I understand though - I am scared of section so I have hated having it hovering above my head too.. but of course it could end up being what happens to any of us on the day! It sounds like you need to get more info on the reasons behind induction being necessary... sorry you have such crappy options ahead of you! Just focus on that baby as the end product xxx
I'm on night 2 of bad insomnia now. The house situation is sooooooo stressful! We're now looking at getting a second mortgage to let this flat out whilst we move to our new house, but with 6 weeks to go until I give birth (if all goes perfectly to plan of course!!) the idea of getting this place ready to rent out, as well as the financial stress of covering any shortfall if we have gaps in renters whilst I'm on smp is a bit mind-bending, no wonder Im not sleeping! I used last night to make some serious progress with my baby list and now have most stuff covered... tonight I've been calculating renting costs and working out exactly how much we have to beg our parents to cover our arses should the poo hit the fan. Ugh I'm sure it'll all work out for the best in the end - best case scenario, even if it's stressful, is that we move to a lovely house with a graden, I can grow veg and hopefully cut our food costs in that way, and I can keep tools in the shed (nowhere to put them in our flat atm!) and go self-employed when I'm ready to return to work. The new town we're moving to we have loads of contacts for gardening work so it should be financially safer for us. My partner has training opportunities in his new job which is why we're moving. We have friends there. And worst comes to worst we are lucky and have parents who will bail us out if we are struggling, as guilty as it makes me feel to lean on them so heavily, now there is a baby involved they are more than happy and I guess it's just short term - we should be in a much better position financially after my partner has trained in a couple of years and when Errol qualifies for free childcare etc. Its the unknown that is scary - I need to focus on these positives.
Had a bit of a flip out about childbirth the other day - I think probably all the other stresses makes everything feel less manageable. Me and OH now reading a book called "birth skills with juju sunjin" and it's making me feel so much better, not only learning the skills, but him being involved and knowing he'll be there to support me.
Who knows perhaps giving birth will be the least of my worries in the coming months 