Is anyone else due on the 22nd may 2021?

[lenny12345]

Looking for someone to chat too? I'm due on 22nd of may by the online calculators.

Just wanted to speak with someone who's just found out their expecting too?

Feeling very anxious due to previously having misscarriages

@lucymagoo I did mine on the 11th so will give it a few more days and then will try to chase mine. I'm so desperate to get the ball rolling!

@lenny12345 oh yes sounds like you are further along than you thought then. That's exciting.

Yes I've had backache as well. It's at my lower back on either side. I've had it come on randomly the last few days.

That's what I'm thinking. Today I am pregnant and enjoying it. Someone said below "you're only pregnant til you're not" so I'm just going to enjoy it. I've felt much better since I've stopped taking tests too.

I've not told anyone apart from DH. I don't want my friends and family checking how I am and worrying about. I can't wait to see the look on my mums face when I show her my 12 scan picture. She'll cry! I've had 2 mc before so she'll be so happy for me.

Midwife calling on a Sunday, that’s impressive!

I did mine last week Monday so will give them a bit more time, also anxious to get the ball rolling.
Had really awful pains this morning, but I think it’s constipation related (sorry if TMI). Proper scary though

I did mine on the 11th as well, so I'll give them a bit longer to get back to me if no response in a week I will give them a ring 😊.

@mouldygrapes tell me about it, the constipation and bloat together aren't the most comfortable things!

I've really felt the constipation and bloat today! I have ibs so am used to being constipated but that added with bloat and backaches isn't fun. But still if on the 4th we hear a heartbeat all of that will be SO worth it :D

How it everyone today? I feel a bit anxious today. My heart rate has gone down to 66bpm when it had been at 68 for the past few days. It's rises when pregnant. It's usually 62. Plus I don't seem to have as strong a sense of smell. My breasts were a bit sensitive last night but today nothing.

I've had my first bit of caffeine since stopping the day I got my bfp and it's given me jitters! Only a half-caff coffee, I used to have 3 a day and I was fine! I needed it this morning, work is stressful. How's everyone else?

@bloomety I think symptoms are very come and go at the moment well mine are anyway. If you are overly concerned it may be worth ringing your midwives? They'll be able to confirm if your blood pressure is sitting correctly or not.

@lucymagoo I have to admit I've not given up my caffeine, I've cut down to 2 coffees and the rest decaff tea or if I have no coffee I will have 3-4 cups of normal tea. I honestly couldn't cope without my tea, it's my one thing I have as I didn't drink or smoke before hand.

I had dreadful nausea this morning, felt nauseous in bed from about 5am and ended up being sick at 8ish. I struggled to get some cereal down myself and sadly it had a quick trip straight to the toilet. Feeling better this afternoon thankfully.

Hi @bloomety, sorry to hear you're feeling anxious. Interesting on the heartbeat front, have you been recording your bbp specially because of pregnancy? I am no expert but 66 still seems a lot higher than 62. Is it possible other factors could be making your bbp a little slower today? Hope it is just nothing, and you will soon feel reassured. How are you feeling this afternoon?

How interesting @lucymagoo! Sorry work is stressful.

I'm feeling fine today, boobs still bigger and sore (I get this symptom the week leading up to my period anyway) and I feel a bit tired but that might just be Monday vibes.

DH and I have decided to drive to our parents houses this Saturday to tell them the news. Will be 5 weeks 6 days, so very early, but our siblings have told the family the day or week they've found out about their pregnancies and it feels right to tell them at this point as we are very close! Anyone else considering this soon?

@CharlieD2020 oh how exciting. I have to admit I am keeping mine secret probably until the 12wk scan if not a little past that. Same as for work I'm going to keep it on the down low until about 4 months have passed.

Personally for me I feel safer after my MC to keep it quiet, but everyone is different. My sis was telling everyone she was expecting at 2weeks which I thought was risky but thankfully she didn't have any issues.

Thanks @CharlieD2020 @RustyCat. No my fitbit records my heart rate throughout the day and night. Yes hopefully its just an anomaly.

I found this website which is reassuring me. You can put your data in and it tells you your risk or miscarriage. Every day it goes down. Today I have a 78.1% chance of not miscarrying. Hooray!: datayze.com/miscarriage-reassurer

Yes same here @rustycat. I'm not telling anyone until 12 weeks. I told people early at my last 2 miscarriages and regretted it. I'm quite enjoying having my little secret from my friends and family.

Ah I hadn't thought about fitbits doing that. I've also been looking at that website @bloomety! I love seeing the risk of miscarriage dropping down by nearly a whole percentage a day at the moment :)

Sounds good on telling people from 12 weeks @RustyCat and @bloomety. Do you mind me asking bloomety why you regretted telling people about your pregnancies once you sadly had a MC. Do you think, if you hadn't of told them about your pregnancy and then had a MC, do you think you would have told those people about your baby loss anyway? Not sure if that makes sense. Basically, I'm feeling as though if I did have a MC now and hadn't yet told our parents, I'd probably want to tell them about the pregnancy and MC anyway, so that it doesn't feel as though it never happened if you see what I mean. I guess it's totally personal preference and there isn't a right or wrong way, I would just appreciate any wisdom from you as this is all so new to me and DH is very keen to tell close family soon.

@bloomety it's quite fun isn't it 🤣. I want to tell people but I am also enjoying it only being something myself and DH know about.

Last time I only toldy boss and then when I was taken to hospital for my MC my DH told my mum so that she was aware I was in hospital, this time I'm going to keep as quiet as possible for as long as I can. I know I have to tell work around 4-5 months for them to arrange my maternity leave so I'll probably do it then. I'm not in the office so thankfully I don't have to see anyone face to face for some time 🤣

@CharlieD2020 no i know exactly what you mean. The first time I told everyone super early and everything turned out fine. The second time I told everyone but lost it at 6w. I had to tell friends via whatsapp what had happened as I didn't want them messaging me asking how things were going with the pregnancy. The third time I only told my Mum, my brother and 2 close friends. When I lost it, I felt really ashamed to tell them it had happened again. My mum was so upset for me.

So this time, I don't want anyone worrying about me, asking me how I am, have I done any more tests, etc. I don't want to feel like I failed again if things don't go to plan. Plus I don't want my Mum worrying about me. I'd rather see her face when I show her the 12 week scan photo and tell her it's her grandchild!

I said the same the first 2 times I was pregnant, that I'd tell these people anyway if it didn't go to plan. If it did happen again, I still would tell close friends and family, but at least I hadn't been getting everyone's hopes up in the meantime.

I hope all this makes sense. I don't think you worry about telling people unless you've had a loss.

yes @RustyCat it is fun. Only me and DH know. I'll need to ask my Mum to have DS2 when I go for my 6 week scan though, so I'll have to make something up, and turn location tracking off, so if she tracks me she doesn't see I am at the hospital!

@CharlieD2020 I heard you had a dentist appointment that day? -wink wink- -hint hint- 😂.

That's fair @bloomety I can't imagine having to tell people after a loss. I hope that's not the case for any of us this time 🤞🏼
We are telling our parents at 8 weeks after a private scan, the odds of miscarrying are less than 5% at that point so feels safe enough for us. It's the first grandchild on both sides so we are so excited for their reactions

@RustyCat wow you've started being sick already!
@CharlieD2020 I've got a scan at 6 weeks and we are going to tell my fiancé's mum straight after. We are going to tell a few close friends and my family from about 8 weeks but saving work friends etc till 12 weeks. I obviously haven't experienced a loss but I would want those who are really close to me to know if I did which is why we've settled on a couple weeks after our early scan.
I can't wait to tell my nan but she has dementia so I've decided it would be best to wait until 12 weeks for a much lower chance of a mc incase I lose the baby and she asks later down the line
I don't know how people wait for a 12 week scan, I'm dying for the 4th October to be here already!

Does anyone else not feel pregnant? I know we’re still early but I feel normal apart from tired but I’m moving house so kinda blaming that. Making me so paranoid! X

I didn't tell anyone I was pregnant last time so I didn't have anyone to tell when I lost it.

I only told work I was going thru a miscarriage as I was in a lot of pain and got my dh to come in and cover me.

@Littlebee1990 I don’t! I felt really sad and worried today as I haven’t felt sick in a few days and I just feel tired. I just feel like I’ve made it up!

@Littlebee1990 I was thinking this earlier! I don't know what I expected to feel but not nothing 😂 I guess I've only ever pictured being heavily pregnant and it being so obvious. Feels weird that I can't tell anyone and feel no different to usual, just feels fake.

Same here. I don't really feel much yet. I keep prodding my boobs to see if they hurt yet

I think it’s pretty normal at our stage not to feel much.
In the last 2 days I’ve only really had a bit of the pinching/pulling pain and constipation related cramps.
Not feeling as tired, don’t feel sick and my boobs are only slightly tender.

I’m sure in 2-3 weeks we’ll be wishing to go back to the symptom free days 😂

Glad we’re all feeling similar ladies.. although I forgot insomnia is a huge symptom for me. I’m sleeping terribly 😩😩